Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving our skills, and hopefully, be taking some gorgeous photographs.
This week’s prompt is Twisted.
This week, one of my writing goals, that is to be published in On Parenting from The Washington Post, was met. I wrote about a topic that I’ve been thinking about for a few years, especially so since I started blogging in 2011 – it’s about how our online actions as parents, may (or may not) affect our children in the future. This is especially so if we write about our parenting experiences, and share stories and photographs of our children on blogs, other websites, and social media.
I knew that this topic would cause discussion and disagreement, but not vitriol. I felt like my words were twisted.
There were a couple of commenters who wrote that they thought I was merely a navel-gazing, attention-seeking hypocrite, writing about my “made-up dilemma”, and pretending to “wring my hands” over it. What’s there to wonder over, they say, just stop sharing their stories and photos. Then they went on to bash mommy bloggers (a term I refuse to assign negativity to, despite how the Internet world in general uses it).
Everyone says, “don’t read the comments”, and they are right. I have said that myself to others. I definitely did stop reading comments on my vaccination post at Scary Mommy, because good lord, that was poisonous. But I did read the comments on my article on Washington Post, because some lovely friends shared their thoughtful opinions on this topic (it is nice to know that I am not alone in how I feel).
I am hurt by the comments, because hey, I do have feelings. It also made me question whether these commenters were right.
However, my friends reminded me that my opinions are valid.
These commenters twisted my meaning and intentions, as they are well within their rights to.
As I am well within my right to continue to write my truth.
Next week’s prompt is Words.
For the full list of prompts, check out my Through The Lens Thursday page. If you’d like to join Greta and I, but not necessarily blog your picture, join our Flickr group, where we upload our photos, and give comments, or helpful critique on each other’s photographs.