Writing, Wishing http://www.writingwishing.com Writer. Mother. Wish Maker. Memory Keeper. Tue, 18 Apr 2017 13:28:44 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.5 38527918 The Long Goodbye http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/the-long-goodbye/ http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/the-long-goodbye/#comments Sun, 17 May 2015 00:00:27 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=11038 This post has been writing itself for months now. I have talked about quitting this blog for a while now, here and in private with friends, asked for opinions on what I should do, weighed the pros and cons, and have finally come to a conclusion. As you may have discerned from the post title, […]

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This post has been writing itself for months now. I have talked about quitting this blog for a while now, here and in private with friends, asked for opinions on what I should do, weighed the pros and cons, and have finally come to a conclusion.

As you may have discerned from the post title, I have decided to say goodbye to Writing, Wishing. The “long” part of this is that I will still own my domain and renew my hosting for another 12 months. My content will remain for now, I will still be on all the social media channels, and most importantly (to me at least), I will still be writing. Just not here. When the next renewal comes up, I will figure out what to do with nearly 700 posts (ideas, anyone?). In June, I am closing comments, including Facebook comments.

You see, this blog has served its purpose. It gave me a space to write whatever and whenever I wanted to. It led me to working and writing for many places. It gave me the balls to launch my own business. It motivated me to pursue lifelong passions for photography and writing, and best of all, it opened the door to amazing friendships I would never have made otherwise.

By leaving this blog, I am not giving up all that I’ve earned. Quite the opposite. By freeing myself from blogging with all its entrapments and obligations, I have guilt-free time to focus on them, and what matters most – my family.

I will continue to write, in private, and if I am so lucky, on other sites, and maybe even get into another book anthology.

I will continue to take photographs and finish off my year-long Through The Lens Thursday project, probably on my blog’s Facebook page.

I will continue to be at BonBon Break, looking for and sharing great content.

I will continue to work on blog book tours.

I will still be on Twitter sharing my favourite reads and chatting with friends. I will definitely be on Facebook. I am not abandoning Pinterest or Instagram ( though I will be making the latter private).

Most of all, I will still be your friend. I may not make it to your blogs to read and comment regularly, but I will try. I may not be joining in your blog hops or linkups, but I will support you. I may leave some private Facebook groups, but I will certainly still be your Facebook friend (if we are already friends there). 

It’s been a wonderful four years. I have loved blogging, but I don’t anymore, not in its current form (with all the social media obligations and whatnot). I am forever grateful that I decided on a whim to start a blog on March 29, 2011. I am thankful for all the opportunities and friendships. 

I will miss this space, but I have no regrets.

Goodbye. 

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Through The Lens Thursday: Round http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/through-the-lens-thursday-round/ Thu, 14 May 2015 02:00:00 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=10646 Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving […]

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A photography project

Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving our skills, and hopefully, be taking some gorgeous photographs. 

A photography project

This week’s prompt is Round.

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Round eyes. Yes?

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Round(ish) face. Yes?

Actually, he’s pretty round all er, round. (See what I did there?)

Puns aside, the twins are EIGHT months old today. 

That’s two thirds of a year. They are four months from turning ONE. 

Someone hold me.

Next week’s prompt is Negative Space.

For the full list of prompts, check out my Through The Lens Thursday page. If you’d like to join Greta and I, but not necessarily blog your picture, join our Flickr group, where we upload our photos, and give comments, or helpful critique on each other’s photographs.

 

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I http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/i/ http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/i/#comments Tue, 12 May 2015 10:42:07 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=11026 I am pretty tired.I wonder when I’ll ever have a full night’s sleep again.I hear that’s going to be NEVER.I see dark circles under my eyes.I want to sleep for a full night, whatever that means.I am still functional though. I pretend at playing adult. My inner child is protesting.I feel all the feelings these days. […]

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I am pretty tired.
I wonder when I’ll ever have a full night’s sleep again.
I hear that’s going to be NEVER.

I see dark circles under my eyes.
I want to sleep for a full night, whatever that means.
I am still functional though. 

I pretend at playing adult. My inner child is protesting.
I feel all the feelings these days. It’s part of mothering.
I touch my babies’ soft, smooth cheeks, and hope that I can give them all that they need and more.
I worry that I don’t.
I cry in secret.
I am a tired, but functional, feel-all-the-feelings-adult.

I understand that the world is challenging, that it’s big and bad out there.
I say I fear it for my children.
I dream that it will be a better place when they grow up.
I try to do my part in making their world wonderful.
I hope I’m doing a decent job.
I am a mother.

This is an Old School Blogging prompt, hosted by Elaine and co-hosted by Angela. I’d love to read YOUR interpretation! Just copy the words in bold, write your post and link up!

 

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Through The Lens Thursday: Music http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/through-the-lens-thursday-music/ Thu, 07 May 2015 02:00:00 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=10645 Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving […]

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A photography project

Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving our skills, and hopefully, be taking some gorgeous photographs. 

A photography project

This week’s prompt is Music.

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What I’m reading:
Frog Music by Emma Donoghue.

What I wrote: 
I haven’t written much about the twins’ NICU experience, mostly because it’s past us, but partly because it was hard, and there are a lot of feelings about it. But I took the plunge and wrote this post, What Really Matters on The Huffington Post.

I also had my post about 10 motherhood truths syndicated at Scary Mommy. 

What I’m thinking about:
Quite a lot, mostly about my blog and writing. My hosting package is up for renewal next month, and I briefly considered not renewing it. 

Yes, I thought about quitting this blog. It’s not the first time, and it probably won’t be the last. Blogging has changed a lot in the last two years or so, and I’m not sure I fit in any blogging community anymore. Bloggers seem to want to get off their blogs, not write in it. I suppose I’m not that different, am I? I just shared two posts I wrote outside of this blog. But I like it here. I like my space. I like that I can still do Through The Lens Thursday, even if no one really reads it anyway. I like that I have a portfolio of writing I can look back on. 

So I am renewing my hosting. For now. 

Next week’s prompt is Round.

For the full list of prompts, check out my Through The Lens Thursday page. If you’d like to join Greta and I, but not necessarily blog your picture, join our Flickr group, where we upload our photos, and give comments, or helpful critique on each other’s photographs.

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What I Want for Mother’s Day . . . and Every Day http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/what-i-want-for-mothers-day-and-every-day/ http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/05/what-i-want-for-mothers-day-and-every-day/#comments Tue, 05 May 2015 03:45:08 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=11018 Yes, I do want a day off from the daily grind of mothering – the feeding, cleaning and entertaining of children. Now, I don’t mind the things I do for the children because that’s what I signed up for. I even do it with a smile some days. But a break is always welcomed. However, […]

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Yes, I do want a day off from the daily grind of mothering – the feeding, cleaning and entertaining of children. Now, I don’t mind the things I do for the children because that’s what I signed up for. I even do it with a smile some days. But a break is always welcomed.

However, I’m not wishing for that this Mother’s Day. I’ve never been big on celebrating these occasions, but I don’t begrudge those who care about it. So here are my wishes this Mother’s Day.

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I wish for all new mothers to be granted with baby coos and smiles, a helping hand, a loving hug, and a hot shower. Throw in a steaming cup of coffee and a warm meal, why not? I wish for you to know that even though these early days are challenging, some day, you will sleep again, and even if things don’t feel easier, they will be because you get better at it.

I wish for all mothers who are deep in the trenches of mothering very young children, the patience to understand that your young children will not understand Mother’s Day yet, and it’d just be another Sunday where a child may throw a tantrum, or spit up all over Mommy’s shirt. I wish for you, Mother of Young Children (just like me), that despite the hard days, you will see through the fog to and know that you are loved, needed and appreciated. 

I wish for all mothers of older children that you get pampered and have breakfast made for you. That you get to sleep in without having to ask for the extra time. That you get thoughtfully picked out gifts and good behavior that will last through the week. 

I wish for all mothers grieving a loss that this day, you find some peace in your heart, love in your home, and joy in the small things that are still there. I wish for you to be shown grace and understanding, if you choose not to dwell on this day that will be hard for you. 

I wish for all mothers that you know you are loved, and not just on Mother’s Day. 

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Through The Lens Thursday: Upside Down http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/04/through-the-lens-thursday-upside-down/ Thu, 30 Apr 2015 02:00:00 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=10644 Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving […]

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A photography project

Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving our skills, and hopefully, be taking some gorgeous photographs. 

A photography project

This week’s prompt is Upside down.

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That’s me and this photo freaks me out. 

Hah! I know, right? I stood in front of a mirror, did a back bend of some sort, threw my arms back while holding the camera, and snapped.

I had no idea how else to do upside down. 

Next week’s prompt is Music.

For the full list of prompts, check out my Through The Lens Thursday page. If you’d like to join Greta and I, but not necessarily blog your picture, join our Flickr group, where we upload our photos, and give comments, or helpful critique on each other’s photographs.

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I Hate Running http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/04/i-hate-running/ http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/04/i-hate-running/#comments Mon, 27 Apr 2015 01:00:12 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=10969 It’s weird how epiphanies happen. This particular one (“I hate running”) came about while I was in the kitchen, getting a snack or grabbing a second lunch, well, something to do with food and stuffing my face. My train of thought went something like this:  Mmm. Hungry. Food. Ugh, leftover baby belly. Ooh, gummy bears. […]

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It’s weird how epiphanies happen. This particular one (“I hate running”) came about while I was in the kitchen, getting a snack or grabbing a second lunch, well, something to do with food and stuffing my face. My train of thought went something like this: 

Mmm. Hungry. Food. Ugh, leftover baby belly. Ooh, gummy bears. Hmm. Exercise? Run? Blech. I HATE RUNNING. 

This really shouldn’t have come as a surprise (but it did). Back when I was a kid, I used to loathe Physical Ed (PE) classes. I especially hated the part when we had to run around the track, which I thought was pointless. 

As life and luck would have it, I joined Nike in 2006. Joining a sports company, one is sort of expected to do some kind of sport, or exercise. I picked yoga, and I liked it. I paraded my Nike yoga mat around a lot. I even went to a couple of yoga retreats with my sister. 

The job came with a perk – free gym membership at the fitness centre three floors down from my office. I had some fancy free/ discounted Nike gear, a gym right where I work which I didn’t have to pay for – and it still took me over a year to step foot in it. 

Soon, I began running on the treadmill. A lot. I had my iPod, my fancy new Nike+ tracking my pace and distance, cool shoes and nowhere else to go. I started running 5ks, then picking the pace up to 8k (that’s 5 miles) on a regular basis. It got easier to run without feeling like I was going to die. The stitch in my side went away. Once I got past the first 2km, I’d hit my pace and glide through the next few kilometres. 

I was bored stiff. 

Still, I pounded that treadmill. I never ran outside because weather in Kuala Lumpur is hot and humid, roads are not runner-friendly, and frankly, if there’s an air conditioned gym right where I work, I’m going to go the lazy route. 

I stopped running when I quit my job, then got pregnant. Five years and four children later, I still haven’t gone back to running. I did a couple of treadmill runs in between pregnancies, and made excuses not to go back. 

I thought I just didn’t like exercise and sweating. But I knew that to be untrue because I still love yoga. (Okay, I haven’t been back to a regular practice yet, but I have twins! Just so you know, I will milk that fact for as long as I can). 

So, the epiphany. Which if you’ve followed the story so far, will lead you to figure out that I’ve always hated running. I never ran more than 8k, I never ran outside (the few times I did, I hated it), I never signed up for races, and I’ve not been in a hurry to lace up my shoes. I have always hated running, but I’ve never admitted it to myself, or anyone. 

I hate running because I suck at it. I hate how I feel while I’m running, and I hate how I don’t feel how I think I should, when I finish a run. When I read about how runners feel when they’re running, I think, eh, I don’t feel that same way. When people talk about how much they love it and why, I absolutely cannot relate.

I hate it because I always want it to end, barely before I even start. I hate that painful feeling in my chest when I can’t suck in enough air to breathe. I hate that I want to stop running, two minutes in. I hate that I can’t really stop because when you run outside, you have to turn back anyway to get to where you came, and you still have to run. (Okay, I guess you could walk back.)

I know I hate running, because I feel completely different about yoga. I love yoga. I love the idea of yoga. I love the practice. I love all the asanas (poses). Except the chair pose. I hate the chair pose. I love the feeling of moving with strength and deliberation. I love that I’m pretty good at it. I love how I feel afterwards, even though I’m disgustingly wringing sweat out of my hair. Yoga made me cry a few times, because ohmygoodness, all the feels. (To be fair, running has made me cry too, but out of pain and frustration). 

I’m sorry, runners. I just can’t get into running. I tried. I even talked about running a marathon before I turn 40 (which is in 16 months time).

Well, that’s not going to happen. 

I’m not a runner. I never will be. And I’m okay with it. 

Runner friends, don’t hate me. Also, don’t try to convince me otherwise. I love you, running people (you know who you are).

Are you a runner? Why?

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Through The Lens Thursday: Caffeine http://www.writingwishing.com/2015/04/through-the-lens-thursday-caffeine/ Thu, 23 Apr 2015 02:00:00 +0000 http://www.writingwishing.com/?p=10643 Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving […]

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A photography project

Through The Lens Thursday is a one-year photography project (now in its second year), where every week, my project partner, Greta of GFunkified and I, will post a picture (or pictures) we have taken based on a prompt. Our hope is that together, we can teach and learn from each other, stay accountable to our goal of improving our skills, and hopefully, be taking some gorgeous photographs. 

A photography project

This week’s prompt is Caffeine.

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Coffee pods – my life saver. My sweet black nectar.

 Next week’s prompt is Upside Down.

For the full list of prompts, check out my Through The Lens Thursday page. If you’d like to join Greta and I, but not necessarily blog your picture, join our Flickr group, where we upload our photos, and give comments, or helpful critique on each other’s photographs.

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