Intrinsic Goodness

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I felt his chest heaving, his sobs turning into big gasps as he filled his lungs again with air, after five solid minutes of crying.

Then he giggled as a baby does, loud and without inhibitions (and makes you curl your toes, it’s just so cute), as he watched his brother wave a blanket around. Encouraged, the first piece of my heart waved the blanket even more furiously, each move making his little brother laugh even more.

In that moment, I felt happiness, tinged with a little sadness.

Because I think about how all children are intrinsically good and kind and loving, and somewhere along the way as they grow up, whether by circumstances or genetics, I don’t know, that goodness gets sucked out of some of these boys and girls.

This world is a harsh one, it’s big and it’s bad, and we need to steel ourselves to embrace it, be part of it and come out of it unscathed.

In order to do so, yes, sometimes, we have to be a bitch <or insert your favorite term here>.

However, and I truly believe this, essentially, we can still be good. We can still be kind.

But whether by circumstance or genetics, some are not. They let their goodness get sucked out. Little by little, day by day.

On the surface, they appear to be good people. They have families (like us), friends (like us), are part of a community (like us), have hobbies and interests and carry on with life (like us).

And these ‘good’ people, they let us into their lives, like we let them into ours. We become friends, we tell other people about them and say, how awesome are they!

Sometimes, we even take good friends further. We take these good people into our confidences, our arms, our innermost thoughts, our hearts.

Lulled into all this goodness, we are then systematically taken for a ride by our ‘good’ people. Yet, we still want to believe, but there is good in you, I know that!

And finally, we get hurt. By the same good people we thought were intrinsically good. They appear to be, so how can they not be?

Alas, this world is harsh, big and bad, and we just got kicked in the gut.

And so, we retreat and we stay our distance from these on-the-surface-good people, and wonder why our hearts hurt so much.

We start to question whether anyone is intrinsically good anymore. And we wonder if we even deserve such goodness.

Then the Universe shows us that yes, there are still some good eggs out there.

The ones who reach out to you when you need it most. The ones who see past the forced smiles and the tired eyes. The ones who read between the lines. The ones who hold you up, not put you down.

They offer you an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on and maybe even a glass of wine and some red velvet cupcakes.

They ask, “How are you?” and they really mean it.

They open their arms and say, come here, and you collapse in a heap, folding yourself into them, feeling their love and knowing, knowing that thank goodness, there is intrinsic goodness still.

I have some wonderful online friends who I know with every fibre of my being, that they are intrinsically good, and I thank the world for them every day. I hope you know who you are and how much I love you. 

This post is for my beautiful friend with a heart of gold and the prettiest dresses, Tracy.

Alison
I am a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother to two boys, born December 2009 and May 2012. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world's biggest sports brands, I traded in launch parties, product launches, and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Aside from this blog, I am a contributing writer at Everyday Family. My writing has also been featured on Mamalode, Families In the Loop, andThe Huffington Post.
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  • October 10, 2012 Robin

    Beautiful and sad and true. I think all we can do it love and appreciate the people who are genuine.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      I’m holding my genuine people tightly.
      Do you feel my hug?

  • October 10, 2012 angela

    I know that feeling, seeing the goodness in children and just wondering what happens and hoping I can help my kinds retain as much of it as possible.

    xo and I’m glad you have found people with goodness in their hearts :)
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      That is paramount to me now, ensuring the goodness in my children. Well, on top of everything else :)

  • October 10, 2012 Tracie

    I had a friend call me with a, “How are you REALLY?” this week.

    It was just exactly what I needed. Genuine, loving friendships are such a blessing.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      You have an amazing friend. And yes, genuine loving friendships are a blessing!

  • October 10, 2012 Ben

    Have had some great friends, but no red velvet cupcake quality friends just yet!

    Recently have been fortunate to make some great friends on & offline, although they can be few and far between to find the “real.”

    Happy your boys are more than brothers and friends too!
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Isn’t the Internet awesome, that you can make some good friends online?

  • October 10, 2012 tracy

    Oh my friend. My heart. You are so good. Do your boys know what a pure, beautiful, amazing mother they have – you know they do. You’ve really pulled me up – when honestly you did not need to.

    There’s so much good in the world – so much – and you my friend. You are one of the very bestest goodest in the whole world. ;)

    Love you.
    xo
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Bestest goodest is you, my dearest friend. I can’t even tell you how much your words mean to me – right here and now and in your space, and when we talk. Really. I’m so blessed to have you in my life. Love you right back. xo

    • October 10, 2012 julie gardner

      Thank you for reminding me what I already have in my life…
      (Sometimes we get so focused on striving for that next thing. Yes, we do.)
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      • October 11, 2012 Alison

        You are good people, Julie. Naturally, you will have good people in your life. Who can resist you? xo

  • October 10, 2012 Natalie

    Yes, this is what we all hope for. Good and pure. My greatest wish for them.

    A lovely post, my friend.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Natalie.
      If nothing, I hope when they grow up, people will tell me that my boys have the goodness in them. That will make me proud.

  • October 10, 2012 Sarah

    Love the Eckhart Tolle quote. And I do believe it to be true. There’s always hope. There’s always a bit of goodness. Looking at my own children, it’s something I think about often. Each one of us started out so innocent. WHAT HAPPENED? to some of us. I mean, I know about terrible things. But everybody was somebody’s baby at some point. It is a little sad. Makes me want to love and squeeze ALL THE BABIES. Great post, Alison.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      While I was writing this, I was thinking about everyone starting as babies, and what happened to them, and it made me sad. And I hope and wish and want my children to retain their goodness, always. And thank you. xo

  • October 10, 2012 wendy

    I want to have cupcakes and wine with you! You are lovely and deserve supreme loveliness (like Tracy).
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Aw thank you Wendy! I’ll have the cupcakes and you can have the wine, since I don’t drink. Deal?

  • October 10, 2012 Marta

    Oh I so need this and is so timely for me. I’m having a hard time believing that. I’ve always believed it. In the goodness of others, of letting people in. But I don’t know. Sometimes when you see so much ugliness its hard to find the beauty again.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      I know exactly what you mean, Marta. Hence the post. I WANT so badly to believe in this. And fortunately I am lucky to know a few REALLY good people. I hope you do too.

  • October 10, 2012 Serenely

    Just following your swirly thoughts… and I just wanted to pop a quick line to say… “I know”. Thanks for just saying it out loud as it is.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Serenely.

  • October 10, 2012 Sandra

    Worse than ourselves getting hurt is watching it happen to our children. That’s why we try our darnedest to show our kids that Good still exists after Hurt, and hope with all our mights that they also find the Good Friends that we have found in life. Great post!
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Yes, I worry about the hurts that my children will face. I do. But as long as they keep their goodness, and they believe in the intrinsic goodness of others, I think they’ll be okay.

  • October 10, 2012 Jessica

    Oh my, Alison. So beautiful. So true. I couldn’t have found a way to express this. And yet you have done it. I’m amazed and humbled and examining myself. How much did I let get sucked out? And how do I shore up the banks of goodness in my own little intrinsic goodness carriers? xo
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Oh Jessica. You are good people. Your children are good people. You carry on raising them the way you are, and they will be those awesome intrinsically good people that all of us strive to be and hope to find. xo

  • October 10, 2012 Keely

    You are a lovely person and [clearly] an even lovelier friend.

    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thank you Keely. xo

  • October 10, 2012 My Inner Chick

    Beautiful.
    One of your best posts, Alison Lee. I love love love. Xxxxx
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      I love when you write my full name out, Kim. And thank you. xo

  • October 10, 2012 AnnMarie

    I think you might be in my head right now. Scary how you nailed exactly how I feel about friends that I feel let down by. I’d be a little lost without my online friends right now.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      I’m sorry your friends have been disappointing you. It’s so hard, isn’t it? Bless the Internet!

  • October 10, 2012 MamaCassie

    I bet your friend, Tracy, really appreciated hearing this from you. It is good to know that there are truly warm hearted people out there who would give you their shirt on their back if it meant that you would have a shirt on yours. I think about all of the bullying that goes on in schools and in the virtual world and I’m scared to death of how it will be the day that my daughter is in her teens and experiences her first “back stab”.
    We can only teach our children how to self heal and know that there are still good people left in this world and breed them to be one of them ;)
    Great post as always, Alison!
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Cassie. We can only do what we do as parents to protect our children – arm them with the best tools, skills and resources to navigate this world, and hope that they do good. And that is really all that we can do.

  • October 10, 2012 Lauren

    I do, I do! I still believe in the intrinsic goodness of people. But we do lost sight somewhere along the way and sometimes actions speaks a lot more than mere words, at least to me! Now I’m a lot more selective with my friends and tell myself as long as what I give is genuine, I expect no returns, hence no disappointments from expectations. That is what I hope to teach my children.

    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      You’re a wise one, my friend. :)

  • October 10, 2012 Niña

    That is so beautiful Alison!
    It’s really a good feeling when some one asked you “How are you?” In their most sincere way.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Nina.

  • October 10, 2012 Kir

    Oh my beautiful, sweet, amazing and GOOD friend…what a gorgeous post about something that I feel in my heart too..that people are good, that I can feel love and trust with many people even at the sake of beng taken advantage of or looking silly.

    I let people in, I see the good before I see the bad, I will go to bat for the people I love every single time.

    And you…oh you Lady Bug , are one person whom I thank god and the universe for every single day. Your heart and your friendship are treasured pieces of my life.

    Wow…this post is exquisite! Xoxox
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      You know you’re one of my good people, right?
      Love you to pieces. You and your big kind sweet heart. xo

  • October 10, 2012 Kim

    I do believe in there there is instrinsic goodness still. We have it as children, but like you say, sometimes something happens. I choose to see the good in people until I have reason to see otherwise. After you’ve been hurt, though, there is a tendency to be more wary and less trusting with the parts of us we hold closest. I guess that is why we treasure true friends when we find them!
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Absolutely, Kim. It’s lovely and wonderful that you see the good in people first. I have friends like that, and they’re always the good eggs!

  • October 10, 2012 Mirjam

    I love it when you write from the heart Alison.
    You just swept me away with your words.
    This is an amazing post. It is poignant and beautiful at the same time, just like life can be..
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Mirjam.
      Writing from my heart is all I want to do now.
      Being true to self and all that. :)

  • October 10, 2012 maybaby

    Alison, thank you for these beautiful words for our dear friend. I truly believe that the good will always outshine the bad. Hugs!

    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      Yes! I do believe that too. Especially with friends like Tracy. Love her.

  • I don’t know about everybody being born as a good person. I – sadly- know some people who are just evil personified.
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      I just can’t wrap my head around evil babies, y’know?

  • October 10, 2012 Blond Duck

    I was just telling someone about this the other day! She’s a high school girl studying Lord of the Flies and I was saying that I think most people are naturally good, but can be weak and swayed. And some people are just good and make the rest of us feel lucky to know them!
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    • October 10, 2012 Alison

      And I am very lucky indeed. :)

  • October 10, 2012 Kim

    I sometimes have that same thought, that same gut-wrenching and twisting surge of a thought: that “they” were babies once. That those same people who hurt or destroy or who hurt AND destroy, things or people or feelings, that yes, yes they actually came out of a vagina and grasped the fingers of their mothers and giggled at peek-a-boo.
    When I think of this I feel sick, because I wonder why the good goes away. I wonder if as a mother I would see the good going away in my own child or if I would be blinded by the intensity of my own love for them.

    Thank you for this post!!!
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      I would hope that we can do our best help our children hold onto their goodness. We have to believe that we can.

  • October 10, 2012 Natalie

    So true…if only people were as good as we presume them to be this world would be a better place!
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      Indeed, Natalie!

  • October 10, 2012 Lady Jennie

    I have had those moments in life when everything seemed so bleak, and someone popped out of the woodwork in all their goodness and turned everything into a different direction, even if it was a slight change and nothing more. It was enough.
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      Goodness sort of makes the world go round, yes?

  • October 10, 2012 KalleyC

    Very beautiful and honest post. There ARE good kind people out there still, and like everything in life, we will end up getting hurt along the way and shield ourselves in “armor” to protect us from the next blow. But there is always that one person who really cares about how you are, and how you are doing that just KNOWS how to get through all that.

    I’m very thankful to have family and friends in my life who are like this. Just no cupcakes–I’m ginger snap kinda gal ;-)
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      You’re a lucky girl, then!
      What, no cupcakes?? *gasp* :)

  • October 10, 2012 Laura

    This is beautiful Alison. I too think about how good my little boys are, down to the very fibre of their being.

    I think even good people can make mistakes. I think even good people can hurt others, even if they don’t mean it. I think there are more good people hurting other good people than there are bad people maliciously hurting others.

    But I don’t mean to diminish your feelings. I don’t know the hurt behind this post. I hope though, that there will be a lot more good in your life and the lives of your boys.
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      You’re absolutely right, Laura. Which is why I wrote this, for the people who are behind the hurt, for them to know that there are good people out there who care about them. To give them hope that there is still good.

  • October 11, 2012 Elaine A.

    You and the wonderful woman you wrote this for are both GOOD people. I hope someday we can all hug at the same time.

    xoxo
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      Oh ME TOO!!

  • October 11, 2012 Mama Pants

    Oh boy. I know this kind of wonder. It’s so hard to allow ourselves to open up and let people in when we’ve been hurt. But I find it’s what makes us human and able to love big. The opening of the heart despite its scars. Hope you are well, Alison.
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      Great perspective. I am well, but a few friends were not. Hence this message/ post of love is for them. :)

  • October 11, 2012 Maureen

    Alison, this post got me all choked up.
    I’ve had my shares of being hurt by the people I thought were good just like everybody else had experienced. But you are right, there are still some really good people out there. I am lucky to have found these good people near and far. Some I may never meet in person but their good kind hearts stays with me forever.
    Beautifully written post, Alison!
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      We truly are blessed when we have good people in our lives. And thank you. xo

  • October 11, 2012 Leslie

    We’ve all had those so-called-friends who just ended up wanted to use you for something else. This post brings back a lot of those memories. But then take a look at the most important people in your life and you’ll see lots of goodness all around you!
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      I have counted my good people and I’m glad. The hurt behind this post is not mine. This is a love letter to a friend to remind them that goodness still exists. :)

  • October 12, 2012 Tammi

    It is hard when people you trusted in let you down,that pain and let down festers down on your spirit. This entry is beautifully written and hit close to home with some of the struggles I myself have been facing. I think this is a great reminder just because their are some people who are unkind does not mean everyone out there is that way and that there are good people still out there.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      You’re absolutely right. We mustn’t let the non-good mar the good.

  • October 12, 2012 Stasha

    I know exactly what you mean. And the bloggy friends I met have all turned out to be as lovely as they seemed online. Perhaps when writing we bare our true self and not hide behind a facade?
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      I think some are as true as their words. But not all, sadly.
      (you’re one of those I count as good people!)

  • October 12, 2012 Ruth

    This post says something that’s been heavy on my heart and mind lately. And you’ve wrote about it so beautifully (like you do all the time). I just hope to be able to believe again in the goodness of others.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      I hope you will too. xo

  • October 12, 2012 karen

    beautiful post, I want him to continue to be a good person too. He is kind, loving and sees the good in all. He insists on helping others and knows when something is NOT right. I hope he always holds on to that, I hope he becomes that wonderful man.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Your boy sounds awesome! With your guidance, I know he’ll grow up to be a good man.

  • October 12, 2012 thedoseofreality

    This is a beautiful post and having had the opportunity to meet Tracy (in one of her fabulous dresses no less) I can certainly see why she is deserving of these words! :) I think there is nothing more satisfying that a friend who truly has your back…and I am always sad when someone you thought to be that person lets you down.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      I’m jealous you’ve met Tracy!!
      Having someone have your back – that’s a blessing.

  • October 12, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Did someone wrong you, Alison? Are you OK?
    I do believe there are good and kind people around us, but sometimes there are those meanies that need to be ninja-kicked…let me know if you need someone to do that for you ;)

    Hope you’re OK.
    xo
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Oh Jen, you’re so sweet! If ever I need help with ninja-kicking, I’ll be sure to call on you!
      I’m OK, it’s just that a couple of my friends are not. Hence this post. :)

  • October 12, 2012 Jessica

    I’m glad that there are still some good people out there. Sometimes I really wonder.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      I do too. Then I meet/ come across a really good person and my faith is restored. Temporarily. :)

  • October 12, 2012 Christine

    oh Alison, this is beyond beautiful, both its sentiment and they way you woven this together. It might be one of my favorites of yours. Both parts of this story has been on my mind lately – how to preserve the goodness in our kids and friendship. i don’t know how I would survive without the genuine friendship of some of the people in my life. That intrinsic goodness is a pretty amazing thing (as are Tracy’s dresses).
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, for your kind words and ever-loving support of my writing. :)
      I can’t do anything about other people’s goodness or lack thereof, I can only try and make sure I raise my boys right. At least then, I know that there are two people out there whose goodness remains.

  • October 12, 2012 adrienne

    So beautiful, Alison. There are still some good eggs. I try to focus on that. I wish I could shelf my boys from everything this world has to offer. It’s so polluted. But, we can’t. We just have to show them they way the best we can, with God’s help.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Yes, all we can do is show them the way, and hope they take the right path.

  • October 12, 2012 Kimberly

    This is what scares me about our world. And even more so with our children. I don’t want them to have to go through these struggles either. It’s heartbreaking.

    But you? Amazingly wonderful person. And we are so lucky to have you as a friend. xo
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thank you my friend. I feel the same way about you. xo

  • October 13, 2012 Mothering From Scratch

    {Melinda} Putting ourselves out there is always a risk … and we all hate getting burned. But when we isolate ourselves, we miss out on all those wonderful, loving relationships you’re talking about. Life is messy. I’m so glad for the “gems” God puts in my path. They are worth all the risk. :)
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      We absolutely shouldn’t isolate ourselves. We can only hope that the good gems make it worth our while.

  • October 13, 2012 Katie

    This is the most beautiful post ever. I am so glad that in the mess that is my google reader, I did not just hit “mark all as read” and came over anyway.

    This is it. Exactly.

    Just when you need it most, someone’s kindness comes out and you almost collapse into it because it is so needed. You so needed someone sincere without wanting to give advice or get something from you. Just someone who was for REAL thinking about your well-being and just wanted to let you know.

    Sigh.

    Goodness is out there. And it is the #1 reason I am so thankful for this crazy world of social media.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Katie, for reading and sharing this. For relating, and understanding.

      I hope you have your good people around you, close IRL and online. Because you deserve them, so much.

  • October 15, 2012 Susi

    It is a big, bad world out there and we need to prepare ourselves and the next generation for it. But no matter how big and bad I do believe in the good in most people and will always give the benefit of the doubt. Call me naive but I’d rather go through life with a smile on my face and making others happy. Your friend is very lucky to have you write such beautiful words for her! :)
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    • October 15, 2012 Alison

      I’m lucky to have HER. :)

  • October 16, 2012 Alma

    Just want to tell you thanks for this. It always seems like your post and the feeling behind them come at the perfect time in my life.
    I have to say I might have been the first to jump and read this post but the last to comment. I needed to savor and let this marinate for a bit. I gave you a little mention in my post still in process.
    Thank goodness for your voice.
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    • October 16, 2012 Alison

      Alma, you encourage me to be a better writer all the time. By your support, your writing, your pictures. Thank you for your kind words and the mention – I look forward to your post!

  • October 20, 2012 Alexa

    This post literally made me cry. I’ve been thinking alot about this lately. My five year old is a very sensitive kid, who just wants things to be HIS way. As I was watching/listening to him play in the back yard the other day, I couldn’t help but be saddened listening to the other boys make fun of him as he started whining. I hate the thought of him being the kid that others pick on… because he is such a sweet boy, and I’m afraid that other peoples’ mean spiritidness will steal that. I think you have just inspired my next post! :-)
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    • October 20, 2012 Alison

      I’m so sorry to hear that, Alexa. He has you, his mother, to keep him on the straight and narrow, to shore up his intrinsic goodness. He’ll be okay, keep faith!

  • October 20, 2012 Tonya

    This is a very thought provoking post.

    There really aren’t enough GENUINE people in the world, are there?

    I always TRY to see the best in people because I do believe that people at the core are good. Sometimes I succeed.

    And whenever I ask how someone is I ALWAYS really want to know and yet, when asked, I’ll lie and say, “fine” when I’m anything but.
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    • October 20, 2012 Alison

      It is hard isn’t it? The best WE can do is to ensure that WE are good, and that our children are good. And hope that the people we give our friendship and love to, are good too. And that is all we can hope for.

  • October 23, 2012 Galit Breen

    Oh yes, the good. I definitely (definite;y) believe in the Good. xo
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    • October 23, 2012 Alison

      You ARE the Good. xo

  • October 27, 2012 Eli

    It’s true that the world does take away a few layers of that intrinsic goodness as we get more and more into the world. But that good at our core – the stuff that kids seem to be made of – that isn’t so easily stripped.

    Our challenge as parents is to hope that core isn’t eroded too much, but also that there’s a tough barrier inside it, too, so that as our kids retain their goodness in the world, they acquire the ability to protect themselves and proceed with just enough caution to not get steamrolled, but just enough trust that they don’t miss out on the good things that come from other good people.

    Excellent post!
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    • October 28, 2012 Alison

      Yes, what you said. That’s the tough part with parenting, isn’t it? Getting it *just* right.
      And thank you!

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