I turned 38.
When I was 25, 38 seemed old. It seemed far away, and almost like a hurdle to all the things I wanted to do with my life. At 25, I had plans to travel the world, meet interesting people, have experiences that would change my life perspective (such as running with bulls in Spain, or eat weird, bizarre food only found in the Amazon jungle), and ultimately, at the ripe old age of 30 (30!), settle down in my very own beach house, in an exotic country, and writing a book.
I would do yoga daily on my front porch, and drink decadent wine in the evenings. I would meet someone who would sweep me off my feet, and we would spend weekends at the opera, or deep sea diving. We would grow old together, and dote on other people’s children, because we would be too busy living our fabulous lives to have our own children.
I am 38. I traveled the world a little, I had a 10-year career in marketing and public relations that I’m very proud of, of which I was quite happy to walk away from when the time came. I did not run with the bulls in Spain, or eat anything more exotic than a century egg.
I did meet someone whom I married at 31, although he did not sweep me off my feet. It was more of a gentle nudging into a relationship that was full of hills, humps and wonderfully good times. We don’t have a beach house, we live in an apartment in a crowded urban suburb, where buildings outnumber the flora. I haven’t written a book, and probably never will.
Most importantly, I now dote on my very own children. Children I declared I’d never have when I was 25, because they would ‘cramp my style’.
I am lucky I did not get married before 31. I am lucky I had my first child at 33. I am lucky I had the dreams I did, because I would not be the wife, mother and friend I am today, if I had married the man I was with at 25. At 25, I was still finding my footing in knowing myself, and what I perceived to be my ‘world’. I hadn’t yet gained the patience, perspective or persistence I now know I need, on a daily basis.
I am 38, and exactly where I need to be, with the people I didn’t know I’d dreamed to be with.