More/ Less

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I need to …

Read more, talk less.

Yell less, laugh more.

Eat more fruit, and less chocolate.

Drink less coffee, and more water.

Do more yoga, give less excuses.

Stay up late less, and sleep more. 

Give more grace, and less judgment.

A little less cleaning won’t kill me, so have more fun doing nothing.

Smile more, frown less.

Spend less time on Facebook, and more time on writing.

Take more pictures of everything, and less of…. well, nothing. 

Wear less black, incorporate more color.

Try more new things, rely less on what’s old and comfortable. 

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Since my littlest started school this month, I’ve had five mornings to myself. Nearly 4 hours to do whatever I want. You’d think that I would have lined up allthethings I’ve been dreaming of doing, since this is the first time in nearly 4 years that I actually can. 

I’ve been to a few yoga classes. I’ve had a few mornings in a cafe by myself, just writing. I’ve met a friend for breakfast. I’ve sat down to read a book. 

And I’ve felt guilty and selfish. I know it’s irrational, I know that I need this time, I know that I need to do what fills my soul (outside of my children). Yet, that familiar guilty pang when I’m alone, enjoying a second cup of coffee, it takes away a little of the joy.

I overcompensate then, by going on a chore frenzy, just to make myself feel ‘useful’ – dinner prep, baking, cleaning, tidying, laundry. Then I feel like I haven’t used my free time well. 

It’s not a good cycle. I want to enjoy this time, guilt-free. I deserve it. For myself, for my children.

This more/ less list is designed to achieve a happy balance. Here’s to more fun, less stress!

More or less list

What do you wish you could do more or less of?

 

Alison
Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • October 14, 2013 Allie

    Oh I know these feelings well. My kids are in school 3 days a week for 3 hours. The ONLY thing I do during that time is exercise. I have just enough time to run (or bike or swim), take a shower, eat something and go pick them up. I could do *a lot* of other things, but I don’t and sometimes the guilt weighs on me. But, this too shall pass:-)!!! Live it up in the 4 hours that you have! Trust in your list…it’s a good one.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      If I used all my free mornings to exercise, I think I’ll feel less guilty, hah!

  • October 14, 2013 Kim

    Oh, my list would be so similar to yours. I was nodding along the whole way. The water, the sleep and the exercise. Why are things that we know make us feel great and healthy so easy to put off? Not at all like chocolate. *grumble*
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Right? It’s almost like we have an innate stubborn mule. πŸ™‚

  • October 14, 2013 Maureen

    You deserves those times – guilt free!
    Yes to more fun and less stress. I wish I have more time to devote online and read more (both books and blogs) and one day hopefully soon I can have coffee with you and eat cakes too πŸ˜€
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I hope you get that time too! Come to KL!

  • October 14, 2013 Shannon

    More living, less feeling guilty about it.
    I relate so much to this. My life is good, And I have wasted far too much energy feeling guilty about that.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      No more guilt – more fun and enjoyment!

  • October 14, 2013 Katie Sluiter

    We put ourselves in the most impossible situations, don’t we? During the summer, each week there is one day when the boys go to daycare. Instead of filling it with things that make me happy, I run all the errands and try to clean the house and barely give myself time for a shower. And then I am unhappy and cranky in the evenings instead of refilled and refreshed. As mothers, why do we do this to ourselves? I love that you have made it a goal to really focus on yourself. I hope you stick with it because then I will know it’s possible πŸ™‚
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      It’s almost like we *think* we have to appear to do allthethings, or someone (who? I don’t know) will judge us for not using our free time “better”.

      But we know better. We need to do the things that make us happy, because life is short.

  • October 14, 2013 Kimberly

    As soon as I see his back pack bobbing up and down the school corridor, I’m making a mad dash for home. When I get there I panic because I must. DO. EVERYTHING!
    I think that I just need to set aside time for me. I too feel guilty that I’m not doing anything “constructive” in relationship to home life…but when the boy child comes home, I’m on duty again until he falls asleep which is never sooooo…time is deserved.
    I need more Game Of Thrones and less sports on tv *looks at husband
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Yes, you DO!!! xo

  • October 14, 2013 Kir

    I think you should just be YOU. The thing is that in making a list like this, you see the places where you think you are lacking, but you’re not.
    All of us have this list somewhere, lurking, telling us that we are more this or less that. But you aren’t…everything you’re doing is good and right in that moment. Enjoy that second cup of coffee, that morning to yourself, that time to write, think or simply day(dream) and breathe.

    Also, I find that when I allow myself that time, I get more done on the other side because I’m not MAKING myself do it, I’m doing it because I want to.

    xo
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      You are ever so wise, Kir. You’re right, doing things we love (first), always allows us more time and capacity to do the rest. xo

  • October 14, 2013 Tricia

    I know that guilt. Even when I tell myself that logically it is ridiculous. I wish I could feel more calm and less frantic.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      You can, Tricia! Last year, my word was ‘Calm’. Every time I felt the opposite, I reminded myself of my word. It was an anchor, and it worked a charm.

  • October 14, 2013 Dana

    I remember feeling the way you do when my kids were in preschool. Once they both began elementary school, having that much free time threw me for a loop. But I found my rhythm. I take time to do things just for me (exercise, read, lunch with a friend) and time to do things that I have to do (housework, errands). I try to do it all while they are at school so they can get my undivided attention once they get home. I’m not always successful, but I’m working on it.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      That’s what I’m trying to do to – get allthethings out of the way so I don’t have to worry about them when the kids are home. I realized though, in doing what I think I *need* to do, I’m neglecting what I really want. Sigh. The elusive balance.

  • October 14, 2013 Kerstin

    Less complaining, more gratitude.
    Each year I’ve gained more independence with my kids growing up. Now that I work at home, I basically have the whole day to myself and even when they come home from school I don’t really have to look after them, we just spend time together. I still find things to complain about. At first I was really annoyed that I have to look after the dog during the day, but I realize that I should actually be grateful. I take him out on two long walks, which gives me a chance to clear my head and get some much needed exercise.
    You’re right, my friend – happy balance it’s where it’s at!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Your life sounds ideal, Kerstin! After giving of yourself so much to motherhood, I think time to yourself is totally well deserved.

  • October 14, 2013 Nicole

    I love your more/less list! I might have to steal this idea (again!) for myself. You know, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery! And don’t worry. I think it’s natural to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, especially in the beginning. You’ll get over it! You deserve some ‘me’ time. Yes, fruit is good, but don’t underestimate the benefits of chocolate!!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      It makes me happy that I inspire your future blog posts πŸ™‚
      Chocolate IS good for me. Just not too much!

  • October 14, 2013 Ronni

    More yoga, less sleeping. More more more writing, less time on social media (esp. tumblr) and playing games. More time going out while it’s still decent weather instead of holing up on my computer all day. And with that said, I actually AM going out today so I’d better go and get ready. πŸ™‚
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I hope you had a nice day out!

  • October 14, 2013 Natalie

    I feel the same way when the youngest is napping and the oldest is at school…I feel like I must do everything on my to-list and be useful…instead of reading a book or watching some non-essential TV. We are too hard on ourselves!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Yes, we most certainly are.

  • October 14, 2013 Robin

    I know this too. But the good news is that the feelings should pass as you get used to the time. And this list will help. πŸ™‚
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I am giving myself a couple more weeks to get used to this new schedule. Not to say I’m not enjoying it. I am – maybe too much. πŸ™‚

  • October 14, 2013 Jackie

    Never feel guilty about taking that free time to do something for you! You deserve it… all moms do. It’s much needed time to be you and slow down and do all those things you want.

    Also, never cut back on the chocolate.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Yeah, I might have to take back the chocolate one because everyone is telling me not to do it, hah!

  • October 15, 2013 My Inner Chick

    –I ALWAYS want more–more–more….
    Chocolate, wine, Kay, love, hope, blogs, words, media, social networking, peace, s*x, Breaking Bad…..
    I must focus on the LESS a bit more.
    I am so very naughty.

    Kisses for you, Alison Awesome Lee. xx
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      You are so very awesome! (and a little naughty) xoxo

  • October 15, 2013 Ashley

    Oh my, this is so very good. I feel like I need to take your list, add a few things, and hang it on the wall.

    Let me tell you, I would love that time to myself. With my little one just about to turn a year, I don’t have it yet. And I feel guilty just for wanting it! So I completely understand where you’re coming from. However, I know that when I put my daughter in at 2 1/2 and I had 2 mornings a week completely to myself? It was amazing. I worked, I wrote, I breathed… and I was a better mom for it. I know the guilt is hard to escape but try to enjoy!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I’m doing my best to enjoy it, and let the guilt abate somewhat. Pretty sure I’ll be okay with all this free time in a couple of weeks. πŸ™‚

  • October 15, 2013 tracy

    Is there another color besides black? I think not!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      YELLOW! My new favorite color. xo

  • October 15, 2013 Jennifer

    I think it will just take a little time to get in the swing of it. Once it settles in that this really is your time and that that’s okay, then the guilty and selfish feelings will fade.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I hope so because I really want to embrace and love these free hours. πŸ™‚

  • October 15, 2013 Kristen

    Yes, I need to do more (and less) of those things as well. Except the less chocolate part. I don’t think I can give up on chocolate. How about chocolate covered fruit? Does that count?
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Yes, that does! #genius

  • October 15, 2013 Leigh Ann

    I’ve had so many of these same feelings since the girls started kinder and Zoe is in preschool 3 mornings a week. If I don’t have deadlines, I can clean, write, do something productive, and sometimes I do but sometimes I also read a book or catch up on blogs, go browse a store I’ve been meaning to check out, or (gasp!) take a nap. An then I feel guilty because working moms don’t have that luxury.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I still can’t take a nap – because allthethings!

  • October 15, 2013 Keely

    I like the “sleep” thing. And I’m super striving to say yes to my kids more (without yelling) and yes to the stuff that FOR REAL won’t matter down the road less.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I like the sleep thing too. I’m happy to report I’m getting at least 6 hours straight, no interruptions for the past two weeks and I can FEEL the difference.

  • October 15, 2013 Tamara

    I only have one kid in school but I think a lot about when my son starts preschool in two years, and my daughter will be in 1st grade. (yikes to that) I am afraid that by then, I will not have figured out how to fill hours upon end with money-making, back-breaking work.
    And I probably will be on FB and blogs a lot, as always.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I’m actually scared of seeking out and getting backbreaking work. I want to do more, but I want it easy just the same. I want to still be able to read blogs, go on Facebook, and write for fun. Ah well!

  • October 15, 2013 Stacey

    I think this is just beautiful and what life is about, finding that balance. I do the same thing, feeling guilty for doing “nothing”. Sometimes it is good to do nothing.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      YES! I do think doing nothing can be good for the soul. Absolutely.

  • October 15, 2013 Nina

    My list is your list! And I love this idea for a post!!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Nina!

  • October 15, 2013 Ilene

    You totally deserve that time. We all do. It’s hard to claim it as ours sometimes and I get this. I’m trying to learn to savor those moment too.

    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      It is hard, isn’t it? It’s like we’re hard wired to feel guilt. πŸ™‚

  • October 15, 2013 Leslie

    Don’t let the parent guilt creep in. You’re not just a mom, you’re also a small business owner. With the kids around, there’s no way you’ll be able to get it all done. Just enjoy that extra coffee!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Wise words, Leslie, and I will!

  • October 15, 2013 Elaine A.

    I read this and I think about the time I have every week while all of my kids are at school. Many times I feel like I do not accomplish enough while they are not home but sometimes I think that is okay. The down time is good too. And yes, I need to yell less too. I am not sure I can agree with you on the fruit/chocolate thing though… πŸ˜‰

    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      The down time is definitely a sanity saver. Okay, I admit, the chocolate thing was a little hasty πŸ™‚

  • October 15, 2013 Shana Norris

    Alison, I am so so with you on the more sleeping and more reading. I love my black clothing, too. Amping up color in my wardrobe would mean more grey and beige for me πŸ™‚
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Grey is the next color that’s prevalent in my wardrobe – no surprise there! πŸ™‚

  • October 15, 2013 Leah

    I was nodding my head with everything. I need to worry less about the future and enjoy the present more.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Amen to that!

  • October 15, 2013 Lady Jennie

    I don’t know why, but your blog is showing up weird for me today – no graphics at all except your photo.

    I need to exercise more and eat less. HA! So easy to say, so hard to do. πŸ™‚

    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I think you’re off to a great start, Jennie!

  • October 15, 2013 sarah reinhart

    πŸ™‚ I love that list up there. I could probably do all those things you mentioned too. Have to say though, I no longer feel guilt about having time away. I just do it. Took me awhile to get to that point, but it’s really nice. Enjoy those mornings. I know you are.

    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I am! More and more. Guilt is less and less. Thank goodness.

  • October 15, 2013 Eli

    More volunteer work, less knife-fighting.

    More praying, less computer hacking.

    More philanthropy, less money laundering.

    OK, that’s not really my list … but wouldn’t my blog be cool if it was?

    I think you should make a rule that you can’t do anything off your utility list until you’ve done something off your guilty list. Or, reward yourself for the utility stuff by doing some of the guilty stuff.

    This is easy for me to say, as a guy, who is immune to mom guilt to a high degree.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Hah! Yes, wouldn’t anyone’s blog be far cooler if we have to cut down on the fighting/ hacking/ $ laundering?
      I like that rule – no must-do until I do a nice-to-do. Good one, Eli.

  • October 15, 2013 Jen

    You have to have those moments to recharge, and not feel guilty doing it. If you don’t recharge you mind, body, and soul, you are going to crash. Don’t feel guilty and make yourself busier than before! If you are having a tough time with it, write a list of things you want to accomplish every day. Just make sure to put the second cup of coffee on the list, and do it! πŸ™‚
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      When I was working, the first thing I do (after I get a cup of coffee) is write a to-do list. I need to get back to doing that. xo

  • October 15, 2013 Jin Ai

    I need to do some of those things more and less too. Everyone needs a break, every day. You’re doing one of the biggest jobs in the world and you deserve it!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I know! I just need to remember it. πŸ™‚

  • October 16, 2013 Poppy

    I feel guilty right now for sitting on the couch reading blogs. It’s the curse of motherhood.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Hah! And with one hand scratching your crotch too. Tsk tsk. πŸ™‚

  • October 16, 2013 Natalie

    Yes, yes, yes!!! I totally agree. I just had this conversation with myself last night while I was up way too late watching TV and drinking wine. The time for change is now.

    I’m also printing out your pretty little graphic to hang on the refrigerator πŸ™‚
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Aw, thanks Natalie. πŸ™‚

  • October 16, 2013 KalleyC

    I understand this feeling well. When you had some time to yourself and you just feel guilty about it. I’ve done this every time my hubby takes the kids to give me some free time, it’s like I don’t know what to do with myself. When he does this, I need to have a plan. Most days though, I just want to sit and just enjoy being “free” without being pulled in more than one direction.

    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I do enjoy being free without feeling the pull of little children and responsibilities. In fact, I am sitting in a cafe alone, replying to blog comments, and writing. It’s awesome.

  • October 16, 2013 Shefali

    Yup this is so me! Once a week I now have a sitter come in, so I can be myself- get some sanity in my life and you would not believe how guilty I feel by the end of those 4 hours! It’s ridiculous. Love this list. Was nodding all the way through πŸ™‚
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      No more guilt, Shefali! Embrace the 4 hours.

  • October 16, 2013 Julia

    My son is in school two days a week for about 2.5 hours a day . I feel guilty when I take time for myself and I feel like I wasted my time when I don’t. It’s so hard to find a balance and just enjoy it.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      It is. But I hope you try, just as I am. xo

  • The same actually. Although since I my chocoate intake consists of one piece a day I refuse to lower that. Please note that I’m not counting the occasional lick of Nutella here.
    Since I started working part time recently I’m having one morning to myself for a week. I told myself sternly that this was for blogging and writing purposes. Haha! Who was I kidding, I use it mainly to run errands and clean the house. Because yep, indeed, I feel a bit guilty about those ‘stolen bloggy moments’.

    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      There’s still time to turn things around!! Blog! Blog a lot!

  • October 16, 2013 vanita

    The days I don’t yell, the kids ask if I’m feeling well.
    sad but true.
    i love this post. totally brought things into perspective for me.
    there’s really so much i need to do less/more of.
    hmmm time to write my own list.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I want to read your list!

  • October 16, 2013 Adrienne

    I need to smile more. I actually feel my face frowning and wonder how that affects those around me. Great list!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Adrienne! I read somewhere that said, even a fake smile can turn into a genuine one. And it will turn your day around.

  • October 16, 2013 Bev

    I too need to exercise more and make less excuses. I’m terrible about relaxing and making time for myself, which I really should do before the baby comes. I think I am counting on her arriving at around her due date and having about a week to do the fun, relaxing things. I agree, it’s hard not to feel guilty for relaxing, which is silly because we all need down time that is purely for ourselves! I hope you get to do more things that feed your soul!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Well, life will be different when the baby arrives, so I’m a big advocate of doing allthethings you can physically do, before she does! But it’s also mental. Just taking quiet moments to yourself now, will do wonders.

  • October 16, 2013 Tracie

    This list is exactly all of the things I need more and less of in my life. Maybe we need a support group of sorts. To be able to announce something like, “I spent an extra long time eating breakfast this morning, and I left the dishes in the sink until after I write,” and be cheered on by other moms who are looking to nurture their needs without feeling guilty.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I like that support group idea!

  • October 17, 2013 Amanda Jillian

    Definitely a good list now stick to it!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Yes, Mom. πŸ™‚

  • October 17, 2013 PNG

    I need to sleep more, and to do that, breast feed less πŸ™‚
    And after sleeping more, I’d manage to do more all those things I’d love to do (like drawing, reading and meeting friends), and less just “surviving” with a full time job and mothering two little kids.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I’ve been sleeping apart from my little one at night now. And I’ve been getting 6-7 hours straight (and so has he, he even slept through the night a few times!) – it makes such a huge difference. We’ve cut down from nursing like 6 times a day, to 3. Relief. I hope you get what you need more of!

  • October 17, 2013 Runnermom-jen

    I had to laugh at the eat more fruit and less chocolate…I think you can have both πŸ˜‰
    I hope you can learn to not feel guilty about your child-free mornings, you DO need them and deserve them!!
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      I guess I can. As long as I don’t get carried away with the chocolate. πŸ™‚

  • October 17, 2013 Jessica

    Wait. What if you dipped your fruit in chocolate and then ate it. Then you would be eating more fruit and not have to decrease your chocolate intake. πŸ˜‰
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Hah! Yes, that totally is a win-win situation.

  • October 18, 2013 Charlotte

    “Give more grace, and less judgment.” < I love that. And need to work on that myself.

    I understand. Sometimes the fun of having alone time is taken away by feelings of guilt and it's hard to stop them from coming. But you know? Those moments when you savor that cup of coffee and get in some quality YOU time are so essential to your personal sanity and well-being. Learning and appreciating that time to yourself are just as essential as morning yoga and meditation.

    XOXO (and I hope you get there–because you SO deserve those alone times!)
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Wise as always, my friend. Missed you! xoxo

  • October 19, 2013 Ashlee

    I’m with you on pretty much all of these but the last one is definitely up there for me. I always rely on what’s comfortable.
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    • October 20, 2013 Alison

      Time to break out of the comfort zone. πŸ™‚

  • October 21, 2013 Lynda

    Hi Alison {with one L}…can’t we all relate to this one? I have actually found myself counting the hours on a Sunday morning when the kids wake the next day and head off to school. My head already starts to think about “me time”. Is that bad? Does that make me a bad mom? We love being moms and we do anything and pretty much everything for our kids. I wish I could turn my head of on Sundays to not think about my next blogging post or my dinner plans for Monday or the prepping for lunches that next week. I squeeze in my morning boot camp classes and then the “frantic” chores {love that} and wanting quiet time to write. If I don’t get any of that done, then I feel horrible.

    • October 21, 2013 Alison

      You’re not a bad mom, Lynda! You’re just human. I get what you’re saying. It’s normal. Don’t feel bad. Do what makes you feel complete. A happy mama means happy family!

  • October 22, 2013 Andrea

    Feel less guilty. That’s the one that I have to focus on.
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    • October 22, 2013 Alison

      You and me both.

  • October 22, 2013 Christine

    I know exactly what you mean. I have all these plans for when the kids are at school and all this stuff that I want to do but I only get to 1-2 things, if I’m lucky. My more/less list looks very similar to yours, especially the ones around the laughing and smiling more. I’m starting to. I think that yoga helps πŸ™‚
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    • October 22, 2013 Alison

      Yoga is a lifesaver! πŸ™‚

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