The Long Goodbye

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This post has been writing itself for months now. I have talked about quitting this blog for a while now, here and in private with friends, asked for opinions on what I should do, weighed the pros and cons, and have finally come to a conclusion.

As you may have discerned from the post title, I have decided to say goodbye to Writing, Wishing. The “long” part of this is that I will still own my domain and renew my hosting for another 12 months. My content will remain for now, I will still be on all the social media channels, and most importantly (to me at least), I will still be writing. Just not here. When the next renewal comes up, I will figure out what to do with nearly 700 posts (ideas, anyone?). In June, I am closing comments, including Facebook comments.

You see, this blog has served its purpose. It gave me a space to write whatever and whenever I wanted to. It led me to working and writing for many places. It gave me the balls to launch my own business. It motivated me to pursue lifelong passions for photography and writing, and best of all, it opened the door to amazing friendships I would never have made otherwise.

By leaving this blog, I am not giving up all that I’ve earned. Quite the opposite. By freeing myself from blogging with all its entrapments and obligations, I have guilt-free time to focus on them, and what matters most – my family.

I will continue to write, in private, and if I am so lucky, on other sites, and maybe even get into another book anthology.

I will continue to take photographs and finish off my year-long Through The Lens Thursday project, probably on my blog’s Facebook page.

I will continue to be at BonBon Break, looking for and sharing great content.

I will continue to work on blog book tours.

I will still be on Twitter sharing my favourite reads and chatting with friends. I will definitely be on Facebook. I am not abandoning Pinterest or Instagram ( though I will be making the latter private).

Most of all, I will still be your friend. I may not make it to your blogs to read and comment regularly, but I will try. I may not be joining in your blog hops or linkups, but I will support you. I may leave some private Facebook groups, but I will certainly still be your Facebook friend (if we are already friends there). 

It’s been a wonderful four years. I have loved blogging, but I don’t anymore, not in its current form (with all the social media obligations and whatnot). I am forever grateful that I decided on a whim to start a blog on March 29, 2011. I am thankful for all the opportunities and friendships. 

I will miss this space, but I have no regrets.

Goodbye. 

Alison
Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the worldโ€™s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Womenโ€™s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesnโ€™t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • May 17, 2015 Kim

    Even though I am glad you have no regrets and I know I will “see” you online all the time, part of me still wants to say “Don’t go!” I have loved coming to you blog for so long. I am so glad we connected through this blogging journey and I am looking forward to seeing you in many fabulous places in the future. xo
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  • May 17, 2015 Greta

    Exactly what Kim said. <3

  • With all of the avenues of social media … your smiling face will still flitter across my screen. And those precious babies – just enjoy them to the fullest, and share them often. Much love to you always, it has been a pleasure sharing your space here with you all these years xxxx
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  • May 17, 2015 Jennie Goutet

    Ooooooooh! *sniff*

    Okay then. But I’m very glad that we are IRL friends so this is not goodbye to me. Love you and your pictures and your words.
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  • May 17, 2015 Keely

    It’s funny- even though you live across the world from me, I feel like you’re moving away. ๐Ÿ˜‰ That said, this couldn’t have been an easy decision. I’ll miss you in this space, but know I’ll see you pretty much everywhere else. ๐Ÿ™‚ love you, doll.

  • May 17, 2015 Laura

    you were my blog crush. Did you know that? I saw you around. You were so friendly. I wanted to be your friend. I made it my goal to become your friend. I’m so glad that happened.

    I get this. I’m glad so you’re happy. I don’t understand it (lifetime blogger here I assume) but I know that search for freedom. I hope freedom from blog is beautiful! Xo

  • May 17, 2015 Kerstin

    Good for you! I am happy that you are able to do this without regrets – as you should. Your blog is an amazing space, but like you said: everything serves a purpose and sometimes you have to move on. It was surprisingly easy to walk away from Auer Life, so I think I know how you feel, now that you made the decision. I will definitely continue to read your words wherever they pop up. Love you!

  • May 17, 2015 Janine Huldie

    Alison, you will be missed in this space, but will most definitely still follow your writing and you, to, because I do very much consider us friends.
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  • May 17, 2015 Jennifer

    We will miss your words. A lot.
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  • May 17, 2015 Tinne from T&T

    I understand the sentiment and the why, but I will miss you so very much. *sniff*

  • May 17, 2015 Angela Amman

    I will miss seeing your words here, but I understand. I will have to find you other places <3

    As for what to do with your material? Hmmm, there are so many options! Start syndicating your favorite pieces so they live elsewhere. Put everything into a Blurb book; it would be beautiful with your photos and stories combined. I don't know โ€” just a thought!
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  • May 17, 2015 My Inner Chick

    Although, I completely understand that blogging is a full-time job, as I read this I felt quite sad, as if I were losing a friend. Somebody who will be dearly missed.

    On the other hand, I’ve been contemplating the same thing, darling.

    Keep up your writing, loving, parenting, creativity, & connecting w/ the world.

    You. Are. Beautiful, Alison Lee.
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  • May 18, 2015 Christine

    I will miss reading your words here but know that I will read your beautiful writing elsewhere. Thank you for sharing this space and you with us. Blogging has been a great gift but it is changing – something I’ve been conflicted about too. When you figure out what to do with your posts, let me know! I’ve been wondering the same thing!
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  • May 18, 2015 steph

    I understand and respect your decision, but I will miss seeing your words in my feed. THANK YOU for sharing your gift with all of us…and encouraging us all along the way. Best wishes!

  • May 18, 2015 Julia

    I started my blog about 6 weeks before you did, 4 years is a long time to have been blogging and so so much has changed since then, it’s not the same at all. I can totally understand why you would leave and why you don’t love it anymore. I’m happy that it let you pursue the things you love, blogging brought me back to writing regularly and no matter what changes I’ll always be grateful for that. I’m sure you feel the same way.

    I always have an overly emotional reaction whenever someone leaves the blogosphere. Good luck Alison and keep writing and wishing ๐Ÿ™‚

  • May 18, 2015 alexandra

    My gosh, Alison. I don’t know what to say. I hope to read your writing in many places. I hope because your voice is one that always rang true, honest, vulnerably brave, and so dear to me. I will miss you in this space. And I am a thousand times glad you began to blog, because I met you, and I count on you as one of my most intimate friends. I love you.

  • May 18, 2015 Jocelyn

    I am a huge fan of your writing, not only for your ability with words but also for your ability as a thinker. This post is no exception: it sums up that you have reflected, processed, taken stock, and now you need to focus elsewhere. Good on you, Alison.
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  • May 18, 2015 Sandra

    Gah! I feel like I’ve been kicked in the gut. You have been there from the first few months of my first blog, and you’ve been there for all of my little nervous breakdowns with my other one. Although I don’t always comment, I’m always here seeing what you have to say. The blogging community is truly losing one of its brightest stars, and all I can say is I’m darn tootin’ glad I have you on Instagram so I can continue seeing your beautiful smile and your four little edible treasures. You will be greatly missed.
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  • May 18, 2015 Robin

    Proud of you for making a decision that’s right for you. My world – blogging and otherwise – is better for having you in it. xx

  • May 18, 2015 Rorybore

    Sad to see you go, but a brave decision I also believe. It is just too much now with all the social media obligation: which is why I deleted my Pinterest and pretty much have abandoned some of the others. Except my blog. Because it is supposed to be about Writing.
    It’s been a privilege to read your words!
    Thanks for so much inspiration and sharing your creative self with us. ๐Ÿ™‚
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    • May 18, 2015 Kimberly Curtis

      I love your writing and the process you use to inspire others. The Long Goodbye, was a hard choice for you I’m sure. Putting yourself first is always a hard one… You know what is best for YOU! I wish you luck with all your future endeavors! I will miss your blog, but still following on FB :-)Hugs, Kim

  • May 18, 2015 Britt

    Oh we will miss you! You are such a great blogger but I totally get your need to move on. Good luck!
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  • May 18, 2015 Elaine A.

    Don’t mind me, I’ll just be over here waiting for your next post… ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Love you, girl. You know that and that I support you in all you do (or don’t do). I’ll just miss your words here.

    xoxo

  • May 18, 2015 Tracie

    I’m sad to see you leave your blog, but I’m happy I’ll still see you around the online space. The most important thing is that you are doing what is best for you and your family. I look forward to seeing all the new, fun places your writing lands in the future. Love you! xo

  • May 18, 2015 Jack

    There’s a time for all things to end but very few people recognize and act upon it. They just fade away.

    Good luck with the next part, it has been fun.

  • May 18, 2015 janice

    I will miss this blog dearly but you do you. Good luck with everything!
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  • May 19, 2015 Rudri Bhatt Patel

    Best wishes, Alison! Much luck on your new adventures. xo
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  • May 19, 2015 Nina

    Here’s what I think . . . I bet you end up starting a trend and like many other times in the blogging world, you are just a few steps ahead of it. I think it’s great that you are, like Jack said in other words, proactively taking your interests and desires to the next stage of your career, all of which you are already doing but can now just do MORE of. And I plan to be seeing on you on social media, etc, because you are just NOT going to get rid of me that easily. ๐Ÿ™‚
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  • May 20, 2015 Ilene

    I am so happy you blogged and that I got to know you in this space. You are such a special lady, so generous with your time and your words. I never wrote a goodbye post, although I did leave blogging more than a year ago to free up my time to focus on my business. No regrets. All of those words that I wrote mattered to me just as your words mattered to me and the friends I’ve made in this space? Priceless. I look forward to your photos of the kids and to see all the good things that come to you. xo

  • May 20, 2015 Andrea

    Everyone has said all the things. I look forward to seeing your words in many other places and though I did not make my way here as often as I would have liked, I truly love your voice.

  • May 20, 2015 Jessica

    You have been one of the most dedicated and giving bloggers I have ever come across and I’m happy for you that you’ve made the decision that will make you happiest. I hope to see your writing in many places and have no doubt you’ll find yourself in another anthology. See you on social media!
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  • May 21, 2015 Linda Roy

    I’m going to miss you here in this space I’ve enjoyed visiting so much, but I’m so glad you’ll still be writing and sharing your photography elsewhere. I look forward to that! xo
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  • It feels weird to say goodbye to this blog because it was one of the first ones I followed. Remember your Yeah Write Me virtual baby shower? See you on social media. Ellen

  • May 21, 2015 Allie

    For whatever reason, I’m just seeing this now. I’m sad for myself but happy for you. Knowing we are real, true friends and sisters by being twin moms, I’m comforted. I’m sure it took some great courage to make this decision, good for you!
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  • May 22, 2015 Stasha

    We started blogging at the same time and through all this you have been one of my dearest bloggy friends. It is amazing to read your post as I contemplate publishing a similar one I have had in my drafts for some time now. I adore you and I am so glad I have means to stay in touch with you. And I am so very very happy that you are happy. You have a good life. That’s more then we can ever dream of xo

  • May 22, 2015 Janice

    I’m glad you’ve found your happy place – even if it’s outside of this space. I will certainly miss your thoughtful posts (and funny ones too). But I thank you for not fully leaving a huge hole in our life by keeping your social media accounts! I think we definitely cannot live without seeing pics of you and your beautiful children and finding out how wonderfully they are growing! Good luck on your endeavors, outside of this blog. See you in other places then! (((HUGS)))
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  • May 22, 2015 Lisa

    Aw, this makes me so sad! However, I completely understand and have considered the same thing more than a few times lately. I don’t even remember how I found your blog to begin with, but I do remember that it was you who encouraged me to submit a piece that was hard for me to wrote to Mamalode. It was accepted and the first time I ever got paid for something I wrote. I will always be grateful to you for that encouragement. You are a beautiful person, a wonderful mama, and a fabulous writer. I will miss your words, but I wish you all the best in whatever the future hold for you!

  • May 23, 2015 AwesomelyOZ

    Oh lord, I hope I’ll still see you online! It is hard to say goodbye but when it is time, it is time. Only you can make that choice and with everything going on in your life, they require time and devotion. Wishing you the best of luck momma and good luck with all your future endeavors! ๐Ÿ™‚ See you in the blogsphere. Take Care Alison! -Iva
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  • May 25, 2015 Susi

    Alison, I can understand where you are coming from and why you are saying good-bye and in a way, I envy you your courage. I’ve thought about this often in the past 2 years but I’m just not quite ready to pull the trigger. I am grateful to have found your blog when I did and enjoyed reading many of your posts and will continue to enjoy seeing your updates on Facebook and Instagram. xoxo
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  • May 27, 2015 Natalie

    I’m just getting to reading this and so understand this as my space has changed and led to other things. I feel honored to have met you at the beginning of this journey and glad that we will still continue be friends through other spaces. Love you my friend!

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