Kindness Wins

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“Good job, you!” said my friend, when she saw my 6.5 month old twins, chubby and cheerful. Yes, they have come a long way from the teeny preemies they were. 

I am deeply entrenched in the early years of motherhood, where doing a good job means fattening up babies, managing 3 year olds with a smile (Terrible Twos is a myth,  because 2 was a walk in the park), and dealing rationally with the emotions of a 5 year old, neither too young, yet not quite old enough. I am a few years from having a tween and confronting issues of school work, friendship dramas and social media angst. 

That last one is real, and can be a minefield of OMG-how-do-I-deal-with-all-the-issues-of-social-media-for-kids. (Personally, I think some adults are still grappling with it.)

Luckily for us and our children, my dear friend, Galit Breen has written a handy guide, Kindness WinsIt’s a practical, easy-to-read-and-refer-to book outlining 10 ways we can teach our children (and ourselves) how to be decent online, and always be kind. 

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I am a big believer of being kind, and with online life as real as offline, knowing how to conduct ourselves is essential. And more so for children just entering that world, where likes are a social currency one can hand out generously, or withhold with hurtful consequences; where typing a mean comment is as easy as 1-2-3; and where the word “troll” doesn’t mean an ugly, green monster who lives beneath a bridge – it means a person who acts ugly online, with no care as to how their actions (or inactions, as Galit will point out in the book) mean to the real people behind the screens. 

Galit wisely and gently reminds us throughout her book, that we as parents, need to model kindness, and to not shy away from the difficult discussions of what is right or wrong when it comes to social media. Covering everything from what to post (or not), to how to act when others are mean (step in!), Galit guides us through the steps we can take to show kindness. 


Teaching our children to navigate social media is such a new thing for all of us. I highly recommend you pick up Galit”s book to help you with it. 

You can buy Kindness Wins on Amazon, and learn more about the remarkable journey she took to writing this book (it started with being body shamed) on her website

Kindness Wins launches on April 7. I received an advanced copy for review purposes, and no compensation, except in love and kindness from Galit.

Do you have children just entering social media? How are you teaching them to navigate it? 

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • April 6, 2015 Allie

    Luckily I’m not there yet but, with two 6 year-olds it’s just around the corner!!! I like this idea of just keeping it as simple as “be kind.” The phrase “Do you want to be right or be kind?” has always stuck with me because it’s oh-so-hard sometimes but kindness is always the way to go.
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      That is a GREAT question, and I like to think I do apply it as much as possible. Kindness is definitely the way to go.

  • April 6, 2015 Galit Breen

    Ohmygoodness you, thank you so much for this! I’m so excited to share your space! This right here that you wrote says it all: “I’m a big believer of being kind.” YES. We just have to show our kids–and as you gently mentioned, each other–how! Thank you for this! It, you, your friendship mean the world to me! xo
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      You are so very welcome, my friend! The honor is mine. So proud of you!

  • April 6, 2015 Kerstin

    Yes, kindness and respect win. Always. I’m a big believer in that, and I’m so thrilled for Galit and her book. Can’t wait to read it!
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      You are the epitome of kindness, Kerstin!

  • April 6, 2015 Emily

    I am so glad Galit wrote this book! What an issue to have to face as parents. I think that thanks to efforts like hers, the internet will be a better place for all of us! I am going to send this book to my Mom (a librarian) for Mother’s Day. Thank you so much for the idea, Alison, and great job, you on the parenting you’re doing of all those cuties. Love your IG updates.
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      I love that you’re sending this to your Mom and her library! Thank you for spreading the message.

  • April 6, 2015 Kerry

    Can’t wait to read this book. With a 10-year-old son, we are quickly approaching these years of navigating this space. I can use all of the tips and guidance I can get.
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      It’s the perfect time to have this conversation with your 10 year old, I do hope the book helps!

  • April 7, 2015 Elaine A.

    I don’t want to think about this but of course I know I have to! And so, yes, this book is perfect for anyone who had kids (or anyone for that matter) online and it’s a bonus that it comes from one of THE kindest people I know!!

    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      Galit is absolutely meant to write this book!

  • April 7, 2015 Allie

    I can’t wait to read this book. It sounds like a winner. Although, I’m still not sure I’m going to let the kids on social media…ygh, I can’t handle it.

    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      I know I don’t want to think about social media for my kids either. Sigh.

  • April 7, 2015 Tamara

    Yeesh, there are some tough times coming and going, aren’t there? And many sweet ones.
    If kindness is the one thing Scarlet takes out of our parenting, then we win. Today I saw a young girl rush towards Scarlet and a few friends who were playing hide and seek, and the girl wanted to join them.
    I interrupted an important conversation I was in the middle of, to hear how Scarlet would react. Luckily she was warm and receptive and they all played happily together.
    It’s different online.. very. Scary.
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      She certainly sounds like she’s on track! Yay you and her!

  • April 8, 2015 Christine

    I’m so glad that Galit wrote this because it’s definitely something that freaks me out a little about what to do and how to handle it with my kids. Can’t wait to read it.
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      It’s such a useful guide! Even for us as adults.

  • April 10, 2015 Rebecca

    I love the concept of this book because I think Kindness Wins for everyone! This is great, and I remember on your vaccination post there were a ton of bad behavior and nasty things said and I was surprised. Just because it’s online, doesn’t mean it’s not hurtful
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      Yes, exactly. People tend to forget that there are real people and emotions behind the screens.

  • April 10, 2015 Natalie

    Kindness is such a great way to live life!
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    • April 23, 2015 Alison

      It is the best way!

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