Freedom and Control

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 When it comes to my children and their access to technology, I have three confessions.

Confession #1: My oldest son mastered the use of an iPad at about the same time as he learned to walk.

Confession #2: I have allowed my boys unlimited use of devices when we traveled.

Confession #3: This freedom of device use and technology given to my children have created many unwanted incidents and unpleasant behavior for both us as parents, and the kids (read: tantrums and timeouts and maybe some yelling).

While freedom to use devices and access to apps, games and the Internet can be good for kids (and frankly, unavoidable), we as parents need to retain control of the when and how of this access. 

It’s not just overuse, sometimes, it’s misuse. My oldest son has actually used Skype on his grandmother’s iPhone, to call her various contacts (ohmygoodness). He’s only five.

While I can’t change the past five years, I can certainly move forward with how we as a family monitor the children’s technology use. Here’s where OurPact comes in.


OurPact is an easy-­to-­use, iOS application that was created to help parents guide the mobile habits of their children, as well as teach responsibility through technology. After conducting hundreds of hours of research with child professionals and then teaming up with parents and industry experts, the OurPact team carefully constructed an essential application that keeps the functionality of family life in mind.

OurPact isn’t just a parental control tool, but family guidance like never seen before. This simple app gives parents to power to:

● Schedule Internet and App use according to your child’s daily routine, and among the weekdays or weekend.

● Set the number of hours your children spend on the Internet and within Apps.

● Block Internet and Apps at ­a ­touch.

● Allow Website and App access, whenever you feel your child “needs more time”, at ­a ­touch.

●Block all apps (eg. Facebook, SnapChat, Instagram, Twitter, etc.), as you see fit.

From OurPact

Can we all say Amen here?

I want my children to know how to use technology, wisely and responsibly. At only 5 and 3, of course they can’t do that without guidance. I can’t hover over them every minute of the day, so OurPact is a fantastic tool to help me do that.

Since using OurPact, not only do I feel more relaxed towards how and when the kids use their iPad and their grandmother’s iPhone, the boys have also learned that they need to turn off tech, and tune in to daily life. The Lego and Hot Wheels get more action, they are actually playing together, not just sitting side by side, doing their own device thing. You guys should go download it now! 

This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of OurPact.

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Tell me frankly – how often do your children use their devices? Do you know what they’re accessing? Are you worried about overuse?

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • April 20, 2015 Elaine A.

    I’m reading and commenting here as my oldest plays Phase 10 on his Dad’s tablet. 😉 My kids do not use devices that much during the week because of school, homework and other activities but this would be very useful on the weekends!

    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      Yes, it would be! Because weekends should be unplug days, for kids AND parents. 🙂

  • April 20, 2015 Nina

    Forwarding to my husband. We need this now that the kids are a bit older . . . mostly to restrict access to internet on the iPads. Thank you!!
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    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      Hope this helps! It did us, that’s for sure.

  • April 20, 2015 Robin

    Oh, I seriously need this. Thanks for the recommendation – I’ll check it out!
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    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      Hope it helps, Robin! (nice to see you here!)

  • April 21, 2015 Kerstin

    I would have needed this app years ago! I feel like I did a decent job of limiting and guiding my kids’ internet usage, and now, at 13 and 17 years old I am confident that they are doing the right thing online. OurPact sounds like a great app for all parents of younger children!
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    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      I think you absolutely did a great job!

  • April 21, 2015 Tamara

    My kids don’t do anything with technology.. yet. Ok, Ok. Des is two and knows how to spin the wheel on my Trivia Crack game. And Scarlet can get milk off the farm in Farmville.
    I swear that’s it.

    It’s coming for me!
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    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      It’s inevitable, I swear! Also, it’s okay to give them access to technology, as long as it’s on your terms.

  • April 21, 2015 Angela Youngblood

    I love the sound of Our Pact! All my kids love technology and love all the devices they can get their hands on. It is a constant struggle to maintain limits and keep an eye on what they are doing. They would all be total overusers if I let them and so many of their friends already are.
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    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      Then this sounds like a great app for your family, Angela!

  • April 24, 2015 Natalie

    We’re not there yet…but I know it’s going to be soon! We have a Kindle Fire that the oldest uses for a few games/shows every now and then.
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    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      It’s all coming for us, sooner rather than later!

  • April 24, 2015 Janice

    Sounds like a great app. Unfortunately, (or maybe fortunately? Hehe) we’re a household of android users. Is it available for android?
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    • April 24, 2015 Alison

      Yes, at the end of April!

      • April 25, 2015 Janice

        Great! Give us android users a little head’s up when the time comes so we remember to check it out when it becomes available for us. Maybe a little FB reminder? 😉
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  • April 25, 2015 AwesomelyOZ

    This looks like a great app – thankfully my son isn’t one to misuse or abuse his device privileges and I do have internet restrictions and all kinds of parental controls on it so I’m pretty content with his usage. Still, good to take into consideration on my phone since I don’t have any restrictions on it yet. Thanks for sharing Alison! Have a great one -Iva
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    • April 27, 2015 Alison

      Glad you have a system that works for you, Iva!

  • May 1, 2015 My Inner Chick

    Amen, Sister!! xxx
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