Lost Gems

posted in: Life, Memories, NaBloPoMo 28 comments

I remember the dark green jade bracelet around my right wrist – heavy, cumbersome on my 10 year old wrist. I remember tripping,  falling, and my bracelet hitting the ground, a loud thud, and it breaks into three pieces. I remember relief. 

There was that gold charm bracelet my mother bought me. I was 13, or 14. At an age where jewelry was welcomed, not cumbersome. I loved it. It was whimsical, the charms moving with me. I wore it all the time. I lost it. Of course. After a week. I never told my mother. I don’t think she noticed me enough to realise the missing bracelet. 

My wedding band is gone. Gone forever. I don’t know when exactly it disappeared. I only remember the last time I wore it – heavily pregnant with my second child, early 2012. Dinner at an Italian restaurant with my husband, my sister and her husband. No recollection of it after – did I take it off my swollen finger when I washed my hands? (Why did I insist on wearing it when it was already too tight?) It was not in the ring box when I looked next. Probably in 2013. Looked everywhere. It is gone. I feel surprisingly unattached to it. My plain, platinum band. My husband and I now match – neither of us wear a wedding band. No tangible ‘evidence’ as to our married status. 

Don’t trust me with your gems.

This is a stream-of-consciousness post, where I free write for 5 minutes, no editing or censoring, during or after. 


Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • November 9, 2014 Janine Huldie

    Aww, trust me Alison, I would lose my head if it weren’t screwed on and you are so not alone with losing stuff by far! πŸ˜‰
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      Haha, me too! (about losing my head)

  • November 10, 2014 Robbie

    After years of dropping hints for a charm bracelet and directly asking for one I finally bought my own in my late 20s. I still wear it. It tells my story. <3
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      That’s what I love about charm bracelets!

  • November 10, 2014 Angela

    They’re just things πŸ™‚ Now if you were losing kids all over the place… πŸ˜‰
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      You know, I’m always checking when we’re out and about πŸ™‚

  • November 10, 2014 Kerstin

    I like jewelry – too look at, never to wear. I only wear my plain, stainless steel wedding band (my husband has the same one, it’s a plumber thing πŸ˜‰ ). Sorry you lost yours, but it’s just a thing… and it’s nice to match with your husband now πŸ˜‰
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      You’re right, it’s just a thing. Which is why I wasn’t even upset by it. πŸ™‚

  • November 10, 2014 J.Lee

    I don’t feel for jewelry, either. I dislike the coolness of jewelry- gems or metal, sharp and cold to touch. How expensive and fragile. How I have to compensate for it’s movement against mine. How it’s one more thing I have to think about matching or complimenting my outfit. And then losing it.

    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      Those are good reasons for disliking jewelry πŸ™‚

  • November 10, 2014 Greta

    You didn’t look for your wedding ring until the next year?! Remind me never to ask you to hold mine. πŸ˜‰
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      Hah! Yeah, I stopped wearing it because of the pregnancy, then the baby etc, and I hardly went out (which is the only time I felt warranted some jewelry), so by the time I thought of wearing it, it was the next year!

  • November 10, 2014 alexandra

    I love a diamond pendant from my mother. It still makes me sad, I don’t want to think about it, but I do.

    I know I paid nothing for it, but I imagine someone else with it, and it makes me feel that they have some of her now, when I should be the one.

    (I like your SOC)

    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      Oh, that’s not good. I’m sorry. πŸ™
      (thank you)

  • November 10, 2014 Bev

    I like the stream of consciousness writing, I have thought about doing it for NaBloPoMo. I have lost important pieces of jewelry, but they have always managed to (thankfully) show up eventually. Maybe one day your ring will show up!
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      I highly doubt I’ll ever find my ring. Sigh.

  • November 10, 2014 Vanessa D.

    I’m pretty tough on jewellery. My mom has bought me countless things over the years, so far the only things that have lasted is my Pandora bracelet, but even that has a kink in it from when my dog was a puppy.
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      What DO you do while wearing them? πŸ™‚

  • November 10, 2014 janice

    I am the EXACT same way. Have lost every single piece of jewelry that I’ve ever worn, which is why I joke that I need to get a tattoo of my wedding ring or I’d probably lose that too.
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      That’s not a bad idea!

  • November 10, 2014 Rebecca

    I have lost way too many things but I don’t remember them until much later. I just realized I lost an arrowhead earring…about three years ago. I found a box of my art supplies I haven’t opened since we moved years ago and there was only 1 earring in there. I was actually a little bummed but after so long, I had no right to be lol
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      I figure if one doesn’t miss it after a while, when you do lose it, it’s actually no big deal!

  • November 10, 2014 Rorybore

    i am not a big baubles and trinkets fan. I just don’t like wearing jewellery on an every day basis – except my jade necklace. i’ve been wearing the same ear-rings for years. and I am surprised I have not lost my wedding/engagement rings. I like how pretty it all is – but then I never am comfortable wearing it

    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      I have never worn jewelry daily. Not even my wedding band. I only put them on when I go out. And sometimes, not even then. #lazy

  • November 11, 2014 Vanessa C.

    I lose many pieces of jewelry also. Over the years, I have just tried to not get attached too any earthly possessions. I find that memories are what really matter. I remember my Aunt saying if you have something nice and can’t wear it, then what’s the point. I agree with her logic.

    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      Your aunt is right!

  • November 11, 2014 Julia Hunter

    I kinda love this. I’m awful with jewelry it’s one of those things I’ve learned about myself as I’ve gotten older and it holds not joy or value to me,so I don’t want it.
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    • November 15, 2014 Alison

      I am too. But I love my trinkets. I can’t resist. Sigh.

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