The Truth

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Here’s the truth. 

I really suck at pregnancy. The first trimester was hard. I spent a lot of time lying horizontal on the couch, and at 5.00 pm every day, the waves of nausea would come. If I wasn’t already off my feet, they would have knocked me off them. This made cooking and eating terribly difficult. Which is inconvenient when you’re hungry a lot. This explains the regular bowls of chocolate ice cream at 8.00 pm (yes, after the kids are in bed), because I just had to have something cold, chocolatey and creamy. 

My energy returned when the nausea passed at week 14. I was jumping with joy, though not so much at the fact that I had been wearing maternity pants since week 9. It was nice though, for the belly to look like a baby bump, as opposed to ‘too-much-ice-cream-belly’. I was still hungry a lot, and craved carbs. Sure enough, as soon as the food was in front of me, I lost my appetite, although my stomach was growling. So I’d force myself to eat at least half, and thoroughly resented the fact that I could not enjoy my baked potato with an insane amount of cheese, more. 

I still liked ice cream though.

Coconut ice cream

Recipe for this homemade coconut honey ice cream at Everyday Family now!!

At week 17 or so, my real appetite came back and there were many fist pumps and shouts of hurrah (mostly from my husband, because a hungry grumpy pregnant woman is no joy.) We saw the twins on ultrasound and they were right on track growth-wise, so I guess all that food aversion made no impact whatsoever on them or my body (which is great now, but imagine when I try to get back into my jeans postpartum). 

Now, at 20+ weeks, I am hungry all the time. All. The. Time. I’ll eat breakfast at 7.00 am. And again, at 9.30. Lunch is at 11.30 before the boys get home from school (hot meal, baby!), and by 2.00, I’m hungry again. Snack. Bagel with a mountain-load of cream cheese. Washed down by chocolate ice cream (I really love ice cream). Dinner is at 5.30 pm, and by my standards, a measly portion, because my tummy feels tight and full by then. Though I still feel hungry, I just can’t get the food to fit. So at 8.00 pm, I’m snacking again. 


An example of a post-meal snack – a bagel loaded with cream cheese.

That is a lot of meals and carbs and calories. 

I’m eating us out of house and home. 

And that, my friends, is the truth.

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • June 11, 2014 Lauren Weber

    You are NOT alone. I have never ate so much in my life than I have during this pregnancy — and I just have one in there. I also eat two breakfasts and loads of ice cream πŸ˜‰ Personally, I’m living it up. No need to starve and be grumpy pregnant lady!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      I agree! I’m totally NOT miserable with my food intake. πŸ™‚

  • June 11, 2014 Janine Huldie

    I totally did all day nausea through about 20+ weeks with both my pregnancies. And must admit I had very little appetite during those weeks with either, but once the nausea did pass, I too couldn’t stop eating. Truly vicious cycle and sadly could totally relate.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      I think our bodies were making up for all the food we couldn’t eat during the nausea weeks!

  • June 11, 2014 Christine

    I think that my husband was so surprised by the amount of food that I ate when I was pregnant and me too! During my second pregnancy, all i wanted to eat was fried chicken and bacon. mmmm. But you’re growing two amazing beautiful babies in there. Glad that the nausea and sickness has passed. That was definitely the worst for me.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      FRIED CHICKEN!!! Mmmmmm…….

  • June 11, 2014 J.Lee

    Hang in there. I wasn’t good at pregnancy either, for though I relished every squirm and kick and daydream of baby the rest of it seemed like a total bummer. But very soon they will be in arms and your belly (and what it desires most, lol) will be totally under your control again. Good luck. =)

    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      I really can’t wait to meet my babies!

  • June 11, 2014 Janice

    Glad your nausea passed and you can enjoy food again!! Love seeing all these updates about the you + twins on the blog and Facebook and Instagram!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Janice!

  • June 11, 2014 Rea

    Alison, you do eat a lot. But remember that I was like that too when I was pregnant although I didn’t have twins. I guess it’s totally understandable that you’d be hungry like that because hey, you have two kiddies inside you and I think they’re battling over who gets to eat the bagel and ice cream! LOL πŸ™‚

    Hope everything is getting better though.

    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Hah, yes I DO! I don’t feel that terrible about doing so, because OMG, hunger. πŸ™‚

  • Oh God yes, the pregnancy hunger. I ate like a famished wolf as soon as I hit week 21 with both girls.
    Glad to hear the twins are doing OK!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      I’m TOTALLY famished all. the. time.

  • June 11, 2014 Kerstin

    OMG, bagels. You know what’s good? Maple French Bread bagels, I don’t even need anything on them, plain will do! Unfortunately they were limited edition, so I am back to cinnamon raisin.
    Also – mmmmhhhh ice cream!!! I know it’s cliche (and probably not even to be taken literally) – but you are eating for three, woman! Enjoy it while it lasts πŸ˜‰
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Maple French Bread bagels?? WHERE DO I GET THOSE BABIES??

  • June 11, 2014 Tricia

    Ahh I remember this! And I’m sure two babies means more of it all! I ate a ton of ice cream through both pregnancies. The cold creamy stuff is so comforting!
    Glad you’ve moved beyond the nausea stage!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Right? I truly love ice cream. I mean, I always have, but now it’s just OTT, lol.

  • June 11, 2014 AlwaysARedhead

    I remember my first pregnancy, I ate and ate and gained 40 pounds. During the last month of my pregnancy, my doctor ordered me to eat carrot sticks, lots of carrots, which I don’t particularly care for, but I did. Luckily, it only took about 5 weeks for me to drop the weight. The same happened for my second pregnancy and the third, but I didn’t lose all the weight after my last one. I blame my teenage son for being born late in the summer – August, I wasn’t outside enough walking.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      I lost all the pregnancy weight (and more) after my first was born, and I gained 45 pounds. With my second, I only gained 30, but struggled to lose all of it. I finally did 18 months after, but a couple of months later, I got pregnant with the twins πŸ™‚ I hope this weight is going to drop off easily!

  • June 11, 2014 Thekitchwitch

    I can’t imagine how hard a body has to work to make and grow two human beings. I think payment in the form of ice cream is an excellent idea.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      I agree 100%!

  • June 11, 2014 Jessica Smock

    I really suck at pregnancy too. I seem to be particularly bad at the first trimester. I was just a mess this time. You put it perfectly: you’re absolutely ravenous but you’re nauseous and can’t eat anything. I’m now at 18 weeks, and the nausea has finally passed and now I’m just hungry all the time too. Even though there is no comparison between a twin pregnancy and a singleton, I like going through pregnancy “together” with you!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      First trimesters for all 3 pregnancies for me has sucked, lol.
      I think it’s so fun that we are pregnant at the same time!

  • June 11, 2014 Britt

    I am hungry all the time but as soon as I start to eat I feel way to full and sick! It’s the worst!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      It is. But it will pass!

  • June 12, 2014 Laura

    Gurl!!!! I’m doing the exact same thing over here. And I can’t blame it on twins.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Hah! Well, it’s *something* πŸ˜‰

  • June 12, 2014 julie gardner

    I feel like it was back in the Stone Ages when I was pregnant.
    But two things I will NEVER forget about either time:

    A. the hunger
    B. the fatigue

    All the time. No matter what.
    So you are normal, my friend. Times two.

    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Thank goodness! I just feel like a freak, eating way more than my husband πŸ™‚

  • June 12, 2014 Marta

    That sounds exactly like my first pregnancy. I was BEYOND miserable and always nauseous in my first trimester. I actually lost weight. And then the ravenousness set in. I could not be fulfilled. I ate a lot of lime tositos with salsa. And Snickers. Those were my favorite things. mmm you’re making me hungry now and I’m not even pregnant.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Hah! Sorry about that πŸ™‚

  • June 12, 2014 Susanna Leonard Hill

    You’re eating for three, Alison πŸ™‚ It’s a tough job, but somebody’s got to do it πŸ™‚ So glad to hear the twins are right on track! Now. How about a little chocolate ice cream? I’ll help πŸ™‚
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Er, not enough for you, Susanna! πŸ˜‰

  • June 12, 2014 Tamara

    It’s a good truth.
    That magic week 14 for me with Des, and week 10 for me with Scarlet, let me love food. I think some of the smells/aversions took some time to come back, but I ice cream was really it for me.
    And it still is! I didn’t even eat ice cream or french fries in adulthood until pregnancy. Weird, right?
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      OMG what? I hope you’re making up for lost time!

  • June 12, 2014 The Bride

    I ate so much during my pregnancy that when I delivered, I felt profound relief at not having to eat all the time and a physical aversion to bakeries (as breads were the things that seemed to settle my stomach). To add to it, although I really had to eat to not feel queasy and throw up, I was getting stress from the nurses at the government clinic about my weight which killed any joy there might be in it.

    Ugh. Glad it’s over.

    Enjoy your bagels and ice-cream πŸ™‚

    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Pregnancy is really not all that glamorous, is it? πŸ™‚

  • June 12, 2014 Chris Carter

    Those little miracles inside of you need all that nourishment!!! EAT AWAY!!! Load up on groceries and consider your family officially grown by two more- NOW. πŸ™‚

    I ate ALL the time, and I only had ONE growing miracle in me each time. I hated being pregnant. It pretty much ruined me for both of the pregnancies. Oh, it’s so so hard! Bless your mama heart Alison! Hang in there girl!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      It is hard. It’s especially hard with 2 young kids who need all my attention all.the.time.
      OMG I can’t imagine our grocery bill when we have 4 kids!

  • June 12, 2014 MomWithaDot

    Have fun Alison! And if that means eating what you like, how much you like, go ahead do it. Hey! You are pregnant! That is such a blessing. The joy you experience will reach the little one within πŸ™‚ I know you won’t go overboard nor will you indulge just for the sake of it. I’m sure you are a responsible mom and you will stay within your doctors’ guidelines. So go ahead grab that ice cream LOL!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      My weight gain has been pretty good so far, so we’re OK!

  • June 12, 2014 Rebecca

    Oh gosh. I don’t miss being pregnant at all. Total nausea the entire first trimester and yet hungry like you said, “All. The. Time.” It’s cruel. Especially when you near the end of 2nd trimester and you’re starving but you cant even fit food in your belly! It’s always nice (and a relief) to know the baby is growing on track..or in your case..BABIES!!!!!!!!!!!!! Still so excited about it :] I’m glad you’re snacking (or as I described myself, grazing) and keeping yourself fed as much as you can. That bagel made me so hungry. And that coconut ice cream…oh gosh! It’s all worth it in the end. I don’t miss being pregnant at all but I would LOVE more babies so the 9 months plus whatever it takes to find a new routine, so so so so worth it. EAT UP!
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Go for it! When you do finally hold the baby in your arms, you will forget the 9 months of nausea, illness and whatnot. But I’m preaching to the choir, I know!

  • June 13, 2014 AwesomelyOZ

    That is awesome and insane although, who can blame you? A) Ice cream is heavenly and B) You’re carrying two little babies in there!! I’d eat the house too – I’m already a moody B I can’t imagine getting pregnant again and dealing with all those hormones. My brain produces more hormones than it freakin’ should so anymore and I would be rendered socially-incompatible until it’s over. Enjoy devouring ice cream at night and breakfast twice a day πŸ˜‰ It’s a glorious life so live it up! Have a great one Alison -Iva
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Oh it is oh-so-glorious, Iva! Thank you!

  • June 13, 2014 Melanie

    LOL! The twins are hungry. :-))
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Hah! They most certainly are.

  • June 14, 2014 Kimberly

    Hey, small meals are better than none at all. Don’t they say to eat frequent small meals rather than a truck load three times a day (and that is for non-pregnant people too)?
    I cannot even imagine the energy suck with two. Hot damn. I was dead up until my second trimester.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      I feel half dead half the time!

  • June 14, 2014 Keely

    I was always the lousiest at pregnancy. I am SO PROUD of you for getting yourself to eat- whatever it is that you can manage *coughIceCreamcough*.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Ice cream saves lives!

  • June 14, 2014 Rorybore

    I was diabetic for 2 of my pregnancies and had to eat Constantly!! Like every 2 hours. but very very specific meals/snacks so as to control my insulin. I literally would get to the point of “I don’t want to eat anymore!!!” I’m pregnant and I just said THAT. It’s so unacceptable. LOL
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      Oh, diabetes during pregnancy is TOUGH. I would not wish that on anyone.

  • June 14, 2014 Julia

    I lived off of milkshakes and ice cream when I was pregnant. I hated how I could feel so hungry and so full at the same time it makes no sense.
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    • June 15, 2014 Alison

      It’s crazy, isn’t it? I’m so glad it’s my last pregnancy. πŸ™‚

  • June 15, 2014 Yetunde

    Second trimester with my twins, I ate a motherlode too. But hey, the doctor-people did say I needed an extra 400 calories per kid… so enjoy your bagels πŸ™‚

    • June 17, 2014 Alison

      Oh I absolutely am! πŸ™‚

  • June 16, 2014 Kara

    That’s the only way I eat my bagels – even when I’m not pregnant! Ha. Food is a lovely thing. Indulge.
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    • June 16, 2014 Alison

      Oh I absolutely am!

  • June 17, 2014 Kir

    I’m just glad you’re healthy and hungry. Honestly, I threw up so much and kept nothing down so I’m a little envious of your voracious appetite.

    So my friend, eat up, rest’re beautiful and growing two beautiful babies. Yummy all the way around. xo
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    • June 17, 2014 Alison

      I’m so glad I finally get to eat because I LOVE IT!! xo

  • June 17, 2014 My Inner Chick

    You know what?
    I remember going to the doctor and he said “Kim, you gained 10 pounds!”
    I smiled. He said, “1 pound of that is baby.” I started to cry.
    Love your honesty as usual, dear. xxxxx
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    • June 18, 2014 Alison

      Hah! Well, so far, I’ve gained 15 pounds. About 1 1/2 of that are the babies πŸ˜‰

  • June 18, 2014 Roshni

    I firmly believe in listening to my body and its cravings! If yours is telling you that it needs carbs then si be it! Enjoy!! πŸ™‚
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    • June 19, 2014 Alison

      I am totally listening. And enjoying. )

  • June 18, 2014 Kim

    I craved allthecarbs later in my pregnancies too. I am normally a fan of carbs, but it was more than usual. I remember feeling suddenly hungry and carbs just being really satisfying.
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    • June 19, 2014 Alison

      There is something about bread, pasta, rice, potatoes….. YUM!

  • June 18, 2014 Elaine A.

    You’re making me wish I was pregnant. πŸ˜‰

    • June 19, 2014 Alison

      Hah! Really, you don’t want to be. πŸ™‚

  • June 28, 2014 Andrea

    Minus the pregnant belly, eating all the live long day sounds like heaven to me. My husband and I went on a cruise when I was in my second trimester and it was just heaven. You know, because there is food ’round the clock on a cruise. Virtually a never-ending supply of food. Ahhh, memories.
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    • June 28, 2014 Alison

      That is SUCH a good idea for a babymoon πŸ™‚

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