Plans Schplans

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Announcing a pregnancy these days is like art. Creative photos involving your other children, spouse, maybe even your pets. Chalkboard walls, pretty props, balloons, maybe a cake or two. If one was really clever and had oodles of time, perhaps even a movie poster type thing, or a video of some kind, with an appropriate sound track.

I had some ideas to announce my third pregnancy. I had decided on a date (April, when this first trimester is over!), even had a series of pictures in mind to shoot, and ta da! Reveal! 

Life doesn’t always go as planned.

As evidenced by the fact that we had decided we were two and through. We had even gone to the extent of purging baby stuff, giving away a bunch of clothes and I looked forward to some Me time as the boys got older.

We changed our minds. I can’t tell you why exactly, after we were so sure before that we were done. I guess deep down, we weren’t really done. I wasn’t done. Three suddenly felt like THE right number.

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So, three kids. We were ready (at last) for three kids.

Halfway through my 7th week of pregnancy, I was admitted to the hospital when I had been bleeding for 3 days. I feared the worst. I was losing my baby. I spent a fitful night in the hospital (under observation), bleeding less (thanks to the drugs), convinced I was not destined to be a mother of three (sort of right in a way). 

My obstetrician came by the next morning for my ultrasound. I was never so nervous as I was done. I was praying sticky thoughts, “Please baby, please be alive and well!”. 

We didn’t see one baby. We saw two. 

“My dear, you have twins,” announced my doctor. 

“What?” said I, Captain Obvious. 

He went on to show me my babies. BABIES. Both well, both growing in track, both hearts beating strong. 

The bleeding was probably because of the tiny blood clot he detected, but he wasn’t overly concerned, and I’m on a twice-daily course of a drug that keeps it ay bay. 

I wanted to tell the world about our twins. TWINS! Not only was I not losing my pregnancy, I was having twins. This is the stuff of miracles. Instead of the three we planned, we have been gifted with four. 

Instead of going with my series of creative pictures in April to announce the pregnancy, I opted to share our good news on Facebook at 8.5 weeks. I had a dream the night before that, to tell the world. I don’t normally put much stock into dreams, but it felt right. The flood of congratulations, well wishes and good thoughts told me that sharing good news is never the wrong thing to do. 

I am now nearly at the end of my first trimester. The twins (fraternal, if you’re wondering) are growing on track, as they should be.

I am so very grateful that we changed our minds. 

When did you get your last surprise?

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • March 31, 2014 Julia

    Congratulations again and I’m so glad that things turned out well for you. How scary to think you had lost so much only to find out that your joy was to be doubled.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      It truly was an amazing turnaround of events. Thank you.

  • March 31, 2014 Jenny

    Congrats! Three and then four…you are so blessed. I am the oldest of four. It’s a great feeling to know that I’ll always have three others looking out for me. You’ll have a full house but a happy one. Yeah!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Oh yes, I grew up in a household of 4 kids too. We do hope ours will be happy and healthy, thank you.

  • March 31, 2014 Christy

    I can’t imagine a more wonderful surprise. Thank goodness your fears were unfounded! Wishing you wellness, rest, and excitement as you and your family prepare for such a big change πŸ™‚
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for your well wishes, Christy!

  • March 31, 2014 Jeanne

    Congrats!! The thought of having twins must be both exciting and a little bit scary. I hope everything continues to go well for you.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      This whole first trimester has been scary. I just want to get these babies to week 36 at least. And thank you.

  • March 31, 2014 Michelle

    What an exciting time this must be for you! I’m with you, sharing good news is always a good thing! Congratulations again!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      It is! I’m still trying to get my head around it 4 weeks later πŸ™‚

  • March 31, 2014 Amy

    What?!!? How did I miss this happy news earlier?! Congratulations!! I totally remember your post about being done at 2. I can relate to your change of mindset even though I’m still done. πŸ™‚ How exciting! I hope you continue to feel healthy and well. Double yay for twins!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Amy! It’s been a tough first trimester, but I’m doing my best to tough it out (that’s what moms do, right?). Can’t wait for the second trimester.

  • March 31, 2014 Christine

    I am beyond happy and excited for you!! What an amazing gift for your family.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Christine! It truly is.

  • March 31, 2014 tracy

    I cry for joy every time I think about this. And them. And you. So much love. So effing excited for yous. xoxoxoxoxoxo
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      I’m so effing excited too!! Love you. xoxo

  • March 31, 2014 Shannon

    I am so excited for you and your family! I hope you are feeling well!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Shannon! Feeling better now than a few weeks ago πŸ™‚

  • March 31, 2014 AwesomelyOZ

    Omg this is sooo wonderful Alison!! Happy to hear all is going OK with the pregnancy πŸ™‚ No wonder you’ve been feeling a bit benign neglect lately πŸ˜‰ Enjoy your pregnancy momma!!! Have a great one love -Iva
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Yes, it’s been a big part of why I’ve been benignly neglecting everything. πŸ™‚ Thank you.

  • March 31, 2014 Maureen

    Oh Alison, life works in a mysterious yet amazing way. My sister in law who followed your blog on Facebook told me the news and I was like “Wait what????” then quickly get on the computer. lol. Congrats my friend! I wish you and your precious twins health and smooth pregnancy. Super excited for you!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      I love that your SIL found out before you, lol. Thank you!

  • March 31, 2014 Jessica Smock

    Oh, Alison! I’m so excited for you. I can’t tell you how loudly I squealed when I saw that ultrasound picture. What an incredible surprise!!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      It was!! And thank you!

  • March 31, 2014 Vikki

    CONGRATULATIONS! I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Vikki!

  • March 31, 2014 Allie

    I still remember when I heard my twin news. I don’t think I have ever been so shocked (with good news). I wish you joy and an easy pregnancy!!!!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Yes, exactly! And thank you.

  • March 31, 2014 Kir

    Twins! My heart and eyes fill every time I think of you finding out because I love you and know what a dream come true it is for you and your family.
    I felt the same way, after I was being told “there’s nothing in your uterus” to have the doctor come in to do my ultrasound and tell me, “There is one baby and there’s the other”
    it’s surreal and heart stopping and absolutely AMAZING.

    the last time I was surprised?
    When a group of truly kind, amazing, wonderful women welcomed me with open arms into a place of kindness, truth and friendship. It was an unexpected but life changing moment for me. xo
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      I’m glad to be part of your last surprise.
      And OMG YOUR TWINS are such miracles! I’m so glad you’ve been blessed with your boys.

  • March 31, 2014 Kimberly

    Oh I am so glad that everything was ok…said I captain obvious. That must have been incredibly scary. I was in the ER yesterday and a young couple was waiting for those results too. I just wanted to hug the mom so hard. I just couldn’t imagine. Thankfully, she too had a fighter all up in her vagina canal.
    PS. Last surprise, I ordered a shirt from Zazzle and they sent a huge size. They contacted me and waived the return shipping and told me to keep both of them…sent me a new one. Made this sad girl happy that there are good people in the world xoxo
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      So glad for the couple!
      Zazzle is pretty awesome. You deserve that slice of happy. xoxo

  • March 31, 2014 Rebeccafaith

    I want to be the person that has super creative and clever ways of announcing such types of news but then I fall into my casual ways and you know what? That’s okay. I loved the subtle way you announced your big news, it left me completely mind fucked! I went from reading a regular post to finding out you’re having TWINS! So fun. This is going to be a journey of all journeys! I’m so happy to be here for the ride.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Hah you crack me up, Rebecca! I’m happy to bring you along for the ride, I need all the support I can get.

  • March 31, 2014 Kristin

    Alison, such huge congratulations to you and your family! Wow, what a blessing.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Kristin!

  • March 31, 2014 Tamara

    I think you know my last surprise! When Cassidy came home with a puppy. Really. Sigh.
    That’s a beautiful story, but only because it turned out ok. Twins! They run heavily in my family so I was always convinced it would happen to me. Maybe my sister.
    I know how it feels to think you’re done, and then you’re not. We very firmly wanted one kid. And then we decided we didn’t anymore, and Des came like..10 months after. That was a quick change of mind and plan to action.
    It’s all beautiful.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      It IS all beautiful.
      Just as Athena is, and how she came into your lives.

  • March 31, 2014 Natalie

    I’m so excited for you and can’t wait to follow along this journey as you add to your family!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Natalie, I’m excited for the journey to come!

  • March 31, 2014 Tracie

    I’m so glad you announced it, too. And I’m SO happy for y’all. What a special blessing twins are going to be (already are)!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Tracie, they are! We are so lucky.

  • April 1, 2014 alexandra

    And the news of twins made so much sweeter by the fact you lived in fear, you could lose a baby. So much sweeter. Happy for all this goods news, A, and celebrating with you!

    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      I love that you’re here celebrating with me, Alexandra! xoxo

  • April 1, 2014 Mindi

    I missed this!! Congrats!!! How exicting and crazy!!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Mindi!

  • April 1, 2014 MomWithaDot

    OMG!!!! Moved to tears as I read this post CONGRATS! I’m very happy for you. Double the joy YAY! Have a wonderful pregnancy Alison, wishing you loadsa Joy and happiness :)))
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you very much!!

  • April 1, 2014 Allie

    You know that I could not be happier for you!!! My last surprise? I think you can guess…they’re now 5 years old!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, fellow twin mom! (wow I get to say that now)

  • April 1, 2014 Katie


    I get so excited whenever I think of you and your BABIES!!!!!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you!! I am excited too!

  • April 1, 2014 Emily

    Twins! How very exciting! Congratulations πŸ™‚
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Emily!

  • April 1, 2014 Arnebya

    I’ve always aspired to fancy announcements. Yet…no. I do try to get the shower invitation and birth announcements to be cute if by be cute you mean ask my MIL to do them so that they’ll be cute. I am so excited for you and your soon to be sixsome.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      I’ve never even done any birth announcements beyond the ones on Facebook – I’m just counting on the babies to be cute on their own. OMG sixsome.

  • April 1, 2014 Kristen

    So happy for everyone in your family! I remember when my cousin found out she was having twins. It was amazing and scary all at the same time. And now they’re graduating high school in a few months. Ugh. Where does the time go?
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Oh gosh, that is bittersweet, isn’t it? They grow up so fast.

  • Congratulations!I hope you and the babes will continue to do well! Amazing, it really is amazing!

    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Tinne! I’ll take all the well wishes, I sure need them. πŸ™‚

  • April 1, 2014 Ann

    Big congratulations to your family! How exciting!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Ann!

  • April 1, 2014 JennyRedfield

    I’m so happy for your family, usually the answers for the main questions in our life just happen)))
    My last biggest surprise was when we finally got our visas to Canada)))

    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Congratulations, Jenny! Very exciting for you and your family.

  • April 1, 2014 Janice

    Congrats again! My cousin just had twins and now they have 3 boys under the age of two. o_O Life is hectic.

    All the best wishes for your pregnancy!

    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      I can imagine! Thank you.

  • April 1, 2014 Shell

    It’s such happy news! Congrats!

    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Shell!

  • April 1, 2014 Susi

    Pretty amazing! I’m so happy for you and the family!!! Wishing you lots of luck…
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Susi!

  • April 1, 2014 Angela

    I am so excited for you and your whole family. Four kids is an adventure that I know well, but twins, woah! I can’t wait to read about your adventures and see the pictures. So very happy for you all.
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      I’ll need to hit you mamas of big families up for advice on how not to go crazy πŸ™‚
      Thank you!

  • April 1, 2014 Laura

    Good things happen! πŸ™‚ I love the progression of this story – from two and done to three to maybe just two again to FOUR!

    I think about you every day and hope you’re entire (big) family is safe and sound. Sending all my love! xo
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Isn’t it just crazy? Oh. Em. Gee. And thank you, my friend.

  • April 1, 2014 Kim

    So much joy. Twins!! I am so happy and excited for you and your family, Alison! πŸ™‚
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Kim!

  • April 1, 2014 Leslie

    Congratulations! I can’t imagine the shock of finding out that you’re having twins, but I’m so excited to hear you’re taking the plunge for more kids!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Taking the plunge is the right phrase! Thanks, Leslie.

  • April 1, 2014 Leigh Ann

    Has it even sunk in yet? I think *I* am still in shock that you’re having twins. But so excited!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Um, 4 weeks on, it hasn’t REALLY sunk in yet!

  • April 1, 2014 Lisa

    Saw it on FB, but congrats again! So exciting and such a blessing. Sometimes, our best laid plans turn out even better than we expect. πŸ™‚
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      This is one surprise that definitely turned out to be doubly good!

  • April 1, 2014 Kerstin

    I believe the last surprise I got was when you announced your twin pregnancy πŸ˜€ .
    And what a great surprise it was! I’m so happy for you my friend and i’m looking forward to hearing more about it the whole time πŸ™‚
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Kerstin! I’m excited to share this journey.

  • April 1, 2014 Chai a Cup of Life

    Congratulations Alison! I guess nothing goes as planned. Makes it even better πŸ™‚ take care of yourself

    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, and I will!

  • April 1, 2014 Kathy Radigan

    So happy for you! Congratulations!! Four sounds like a great number!!
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Four is a number I’m still getting my head around πŸ™‚ Thank you, Kathy.

  • April 1, 2014 Adrienne

    I am overjoyed for you! *tears* I can’t wait to watch more of your beautiful children grow! You are blessed, mama! XO (TWINS!)
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      Yes, we are blessed. Doubly blessed.

  • April 2, 2014 My Inner Chick

    Congrats! Bravo! Brava! Manifico! Splendid! And all of that.

    I feel as if you’re part of my family w/ JOY))!!!!!!!!!!

    WOW. Amazing. I am so very happy for all of you. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      You ARE part of my family here, Kim. Thank you!

  • April 2, 2014 Amanda Jillian

    That is so awesome! That is such good news =)

    • April 2, 2014 Alison

      It is, thank you!

  • April 2, 2014 Andrea

    Now this just makes me happy. πŸ™‚

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    • April 3, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, it makes me happy to make you happy πŸ™‚

  • April 3, 2014 Rorybore

    baby #3 was my last surprise. we thought we were done too.
    Then, I also had a scary bleeding episode that landed me in the hospital. and then 5 weeks of hospital stay to prevent pre term labour. All of course being worth it to have the little bundle of joy we love so much, even though we never we knew we wanted it.
    life has way of showing you the true desires of your heart, doesn’t it?
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    • April 3, 2014 Alison

      What a scary ride it must have been for you! Glad it all worked out.
      And yes, life certainly does have a way of showing us what we really want.

  • April 3, 2014 Janice Trinh

    How scary those first moments must have been! I’m so happy to hear that the ending was good. Twins! Double the blessing! We are all wishing you a safe pregnancy and can’t wait to meet them!
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    • April 3, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for the well wishes, Janice!

  • April 3, 2014 Helen Boulos

    I love, love, love your blog. And it is so exciting to hear you are having twins!!!! COngratulations and I hope you find the time to keep plugging away…I do so enjoy this site.
    Thank You

    • April 3, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Helen! I will definitely continue to blog – now I have lots of blog fodder!

  • April 4, 2014 Christine Candelaria

    Oh, I’m a little late, but nonetheless STOKED for you! Congratulations and welcome to the mom of 4 club!

    • April 4, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Christine! I’m slightly terrified, lol.

  • April 6, 2014 Living Serenely

    Oh WOW! This IS huge. Congratulations, Alison. Someone decided to throw you one big curveball up your way. Look forward to following your journey!
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    • April 7, 2014 Alison

      Someone sure did!

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