What’s In It For Me?

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Do you find yourself asking that question when you read yet another blog post or article giving you advice about blogging? How to get more comments, how to build and grow a community? That to get comments and shares, you have to comment and share other people’s work?

And you ask, “What’s in it for ME?”

Before that, you may think that blogging is such “hard work”. That it takes up so much time. Writing, taking photographs, promoting, commenting, sharing. Repeat, rinse, repeat. 

Yes, blogging takes time. But it only takes as much time as you want to give it. Do you need to post every day? Will once a week do? Do you have to take pictures for every post? Do you have to read and comment on 20 blogs a day? Do you have to be on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google+, Instagram, StumbleUpon, LinkedIn and what-have-you every single day? Do you have to retweet everything you see in your Twitter feed? Do you have to do allthethings?

No, you do not. 

You do what you can, when you can, if you want to. You are not obligated in any way. You make your blogging experience your own. 

If you want to grow your blog (for whatever reason – to make money, work with brands, use it as a springboard to publishing a book or a new career, or because you just like the idea of many people reading your writing), then yes, you have to put in some work. You get what you put in it. 

If you simply want a place to record family memories or just write/ photograph simply because you love it, then do that. 

I comment and share. A lot. I enjoy it. I don’t expect something in return. You see, my blog is a place to write and share my photography because I love to, a place to capture the moments that would otherwise fade from memory, a space I can call my own, a place where I meet with people I consider friends. So what’s in it for me?

Deborah Day quote

A community of like-minded people I would not have met otherwise.

People who have become the kind of friend who emails me to see how I am. 

People who send me Christmas cards with the faces of their family, whom I’ve come to know and love.

People who have crossed into the world of being personal Facebook friends, where real names are used.

People who I can confide in, commiserate with, seek comfort from.

People who I have collaborated with for my blog and business.

People who have offered me opportunities in places I had no chance in hell to a) get into or b) even know about.

People who have given me many reasons to smile and laugh.

People who have given me the privilege of reading their beautiful words.

People who have surrounded me with love and care when I needed it most.

People who understand what it’s like to be a mother, the good, the bad, the ugly.

People who I have come to trust and rely on. 

People who have taught me about writing, photography, and design.

People who have taught me so much about blogging, community, friendship, the power of words. 

What’s in it for me?


Tell me, what’s in it for you?

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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • January 13, 2014 Christy

    Wonderfully said! The rewards of blogging are so great, and it can be hard to realize that if all you are doing is writing, rather than participating. Release is a big word for me lately: loving that feeling of putting my words out there and sharing what I’m going through. And connection! Just joined my second blogging community and I’m so glad I did.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Release – yes, that is a good way to approach blogging. Connection is what it’s all about!

  • January 13, 2014 Tricia

    Oh I love this post. I love that you remind us that none of these are things we must do. They are things we can do and could do. It’s so a easy to get caught up in all the tips and advice and forget to just do what we love.
    Still, I struggle to answer your question sometimes. Sometimes I loose sight of what I love about blogging and writing.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      It is easy to lose sight of it, because, allthethings in the blogging world!

  • January 13, 2014 Kerstin

    Co-sign everything! (I know, it’s the easy way out).
    I love making people happy and to see joy in other people makes me really happy. I also feel accepted in the blogging community and that people “get” me there (my husband says that’s not easy :D)
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      I think many of us turn to blogging and social media, because that is where our people are. The ones who get us. So, no surprise we’re all hanging out here. πŸ™‚

  • January 13, 2014 Tamara

    Well I could pretty nod along with everything you said! Those Facebook friends and “real names.” Meeting in real life. (Ilene, Michelle, Stephanie, etc.) Emails that make me smile. Comments that make me feel able to face tough times.
    I used to only do it to write and photograph, and really, only my mom and sister read it! (at least publicly) Now it’s a whole new world (I was just watching Aladdin and the song is in my head) and I feel like I both give and take a whole lot of good stuff.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      You do, Tamara! The blogging world is better with you in it.

  • January 13, 2014 allison

    I do this for the community, too. I am constantly inspirated and motivated by the beautiful, wonderful bloggers out there. I am not looking to build an audience, I just want to build some friends and relationships over all these touchy feely mom stuff I talk about. πŸ™‚ Thanks for this post!
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for reading! And yes, friendships and relationships and all those touchy feely good stuff.

  • January 13, 2014 Kim

    I agree that blogging offers so much!!! Sure it takes up a lot of time but that time is a choice!!
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Yes, exactly!

  • January 13, 2014 Kristen

    This is what I love so much blogging. You really do get what you put in. Sometimes, I can put a lot in, but sometimes I can’t. I’m OK with both. But these relationships I’m building? I love them. They mean the world to me.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      All the relationships and friendships I have made since I started my blog? Makes all that I put in totally worthwhile.

  • January 13, 2014 Herchel S

    I agree 100%. I got caught up in the numbers and took a step back last night. I closed my browser, chose a writing prompt, and just wrote. It felt good.

    I comment and connect on social media because I enjoy the community. I love reading posts. I thought staying home would get boring because I have always been a social person at work, but I have met many intelligent, warm, and friendly women that go through the same craziness with their kids that I talk to during the day. I haven’t been lonely at all.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      It’s the most unlonely place ever, this blogging world!!

  • January 13, 2014 Ilene

    Amen, Alison. We CAN make blogging our own and make our own rules with regard to it. How many things in life are like that? Not many.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Yes! What you said, Ilene!

  • January 13, 2014 angela

    I like visiting blogs that make me happy (like yours!) My expectations for my own blog have a lot to do with improving my writing πŸ™‚
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Self-improvement is a good thing πŸ™‚ (and thank you!)

  • January 13, 2014 Christine

    Oh I love this so much too Alison! I have reminded myself of this countless times in the past few months. I’ve made what I can when I can my mantra lately and it’s helped to take me out of the craziness of thinking about everything I should be doing WRT blogging and social media and all the things.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Christine!
      Take out all the “shoulds” and just do the “wants”. πŸ™‚

  • January 13, 2014 Maureen

    Thought provoking post, Alison!
    To be honest I’ve failed to keep my blogging a floats yet again lately and I could drive myself bat shoot crazy if I have to implement every blogging rules to the dots hahaha but yes I cherish the benefits, the friendships most importantly that blogging has brought me.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Throw the rules out of the window! πŸ™‚

  • January 13, 2014 Ma Teresa Grech Racal

    I so love this post…. to be honest, the first time I blogged, part of it is that I want my blog to be known, work with brands, and others. Bur reading your blog and other mommy blogs who shares their “life” to readers like me, makes me realize that you blog because you want to let others know that they are not alone. I do make a comment especially IF I could relate to the topic and if I really, really like the blog so much. One thing I learned from one of the many bloggers I really look up to, Dainty Mom (Martine de Luna) is that you blog from the heart. And that is what I am doing, share what you want to share. I blogged because I made friends through this and they are friends whom I could really relate too.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Blogging from the heart is really the only way to go. πŸ™‚

  • January 13, 2014 Karen Main

    Wow this is so so true and a much needed boost for me today. I had no idea what it took to grow an audience,really no idea. I was so concerned about the writing commitment and have devoted countless hours to my photography and then I write a post I am proud of and crickets. I have been overwhelmed by the generosity and comraderie of the blogging world and Even though I am still finding my tribe I feel loved all over the world. Blogging is a love a deep deep love.

    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Oh Karen, yes, it truly is a deep, deep love.
      Don’t worry about the crickets. It happens to all of us. The readers will come. πŸ™‚

  • January 13, 2014 Sarah

    This is so lovely! I know I’m never going make a living from blogging (or probably even a penny), but I love having a place to document my thoughts and my life, and getting to know great people like you has been wonderful. Sometimes I do feel overwhelmed by everything I could be doing, but like you said — what I can, when I can, if I want to. Thanks for all YOU do!
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for your kind words, Sarah!

  • January 13, 2014 Galit Breen

    This? Is symbolic of every bit of your authenticity. Love.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      My #HeartSister! Love you. xo

  • January 13, 2014 My Inner Chick

    —Hey, Alison Lee,

    If one is writing & making comments to get something in return, one’s motive is insincere.

    What’s in it for me?

    –My sanity. To observe the written word upon my page. To connect with other crazy people.

    I have NEVER looked at my stats.

    I don’t want to know. I don’t want to write for somebody else to get the numbers.

    Love! You! xx
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    • January 14, 2014 julie gardner

      I thought I was the only one who’d never looked at her stats. Not even once.
      I’ll admit I have at times been overwhelmed by what I COULD put into blogging if I wanted to; but then I remember that I already get what I need from it…*meeting* fabulous people whom I’d never get the chance to know if it weren’t for my little space in the blogosphere.

      • January 17, 2014 Alison

        I am so lucky to have met you, Julie, my friend. xo

    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      You are the epitome of authenticity, my love! Love you. xoxo

  • January 13, 2014 AwesomelyOZ

    Great post and all so very true – I hear a LOT about monetizing your blog and that’s all great and dandy but that’s not why I blog. I spend hours a week visiting other bloggers websites, like yours, and commenting (thoughtfully) but I do so because I love it. I don’t post more than 2X a week but that’s because I’m obsessive about the content I write and verbage so that’s my standard I set for myself and that keeps me balanced. πŸ™‚ I love the interaction so I promote my blog because I just merely want others to read it and connect with me. It’s fun! Happy Monday Alison! -Iva
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Sounds like you have your blogging head straight on!!

  • January 13, 2014 Adrienne

    Well said! What’s in it for me? Besides the fact that I love to write and I’ll continue to do it even if no one reads, I love the community of bloggers, women(and a few brave men), and mothers. Blogging has helped me grow as a person, writer, and mother in the last few years. I hope it never goes away!

    I’m learning to let go of feeling like I have to post everyday. Less is more, quantity vs. quality, and all that stuff. I like it better that way! (I’m actually sharing a special post tomorrow about this very thing at a new home I’m announcing. Stay tuned!)XO
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Posting every day is just cray cray πŸ™‚

  • January 13, 2014 Jessica

    This post…I love it! I think one of the biggest lessons I learned after four years of blogging is that there really is no compulsion in blogging. You do what you do only because you want to do it. Otherwise it’s not fun anymore. I LOVE the people I’ve met through blogging, the writing, andthe creative space it offers me as a mom.

    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Keeping it fun and something we love, that is far more important than the numbers. Thank you, Jessica.

  • January 13, 2014 tracy

    You’ve said this all so perfectly. I’m not sure what else to say except that I love you.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      I love you too!

  • January 13, 2014 AlwaysARedhead

    I started my blog to keep my mind active, but it is also so my children have a written history for when I am gone. I love comments on my stories, and I love commenting on others, but is I don’t receive a comment on a story, that is okay too. I write for myself first and that means a lot to me.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Writing for yourself is the most important thing.

  • January 13, 2014 Kir

    every day in every way, what it’s always been about for me…
    to build a community of writers, women and warriors who help me see the world through their eyes and who support, care and love me in my highest and lowest times.

    What a beautiful, truthful piece Alison. XO

    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      I think you’ve done just that, Kir. xo

  • January 13, 2014 Barbara

    I blog for me, the friendships and connections I’ve made as a result have been such an added bonus! πŸ˜‰
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      That is truly the best way to blog!

  • January 13, 2014 Nicole

    I love the quote you chose for this post. Perfect & 100% true. I’ve been amazed at the amazing people I’ve met and connections I’ve made through blogging. Yes, it takes time, but, if you love what you’re doing, it’s time well spent.
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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      It truly is time well spent!

  • January 13, 2014 Alison Hector

    Ah, my namesake! I can depend on you to hit the nail on its proverbial head.

    Blogging has been an entry into a whole ‘notha world of people I would never have met and got to know otherwise. It is my community, a place where other people “get it”, with “it” being what it means to put your life on display in the blogosphere. It’s meant friendships and understanding and shared wisdom. It’s priceless.

    Thanks for putting it into words far better than I ever could.


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    • January 17, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Alison, for reading and your support!

  • January 13, 2014 Katie

    As usual, this is spot on. Lately I have felt a nagging in the blogging world about “why do I do this?” and “what is it all for?”

    This is exactly what it is all for. This right here. You make it what it is in your life.

    Love your words, friend.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      “You make it what it is in your life.” Yes. Love you too!

  • January 13, 2014 Clare at CatsEatDogs

    What she said! Agree agree agree. I am still a teeny tiny blogger, but the people I have met and follow and chat with and know their actual name and where they are from is such a bonus I honestly never expected. I am sure I thought that every blogger was so much bigger and better than me and I never expected to ‘meet’ people and form these wonderful communities.
    This was just what I needed to read this morning as I decide whether to put the laundry in, vacuum or write a blog post first!
    Great post as usual Alison, thanks x
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Clare, I’m so glad you can relate!

  • January 14, 2014 Kerry

    Clearly blogging has given you so much. I started guest blogging a few years ago, and then launched my own blog about two years ago to give myself more control. Still, I wish I had more time to devote to it, because I’d like to get where you are at. Time is an issue though. With a full-time career, a long commute and three kids, the blog slips. I try to post twice a week, but I struggle keeping up with commentin on other sites. I love when I do get to read other blogs though, and try to show them some love when I can. There have been so many times I’ve said I’m going to quit the blog, but I’m still sticking with it. I suppose deep down, I love to write and share and create. Down the line, I’d love for it to grow into something more, but I have to be realistic. πŸ™‚
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Keep writing, Kerry! Your blog is your own, just keep on keeping on.

  • January 14, 2014 Leigh Ann

    It’s so funny how often we have to remind ourselves of this. I mean, of blogging is stressing you out, and you’re not getting paid for it, then what is the point? I’m much happier when I don’t overthink it.

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Yes, exactly! Just go with the flow, yes?

  • January 14, 2014 Nicole

    Yes…this, so perfectly said. Love. Don’t really know what else to add because you said it SO well.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you so much, Nicole.

  • January 14, 2014 alexandra

    Yes , but you’re one in a million, Alison. You give in incredible amounts and do it with love. Very rare, your loyalty and heart, are very rare. I’ve been blogging for four years now, and there are only a handful of people I’ve met that give the way you do.

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      You are too kind, my friend. You are a rare gem yourself. I thank the Universe every day that I met you.

  • January 14, 2014 Diane

    Well said! Glad I crossed paths we you on #MondayBlogs. Look forward to reading more. Thanks again for focusing on all that we get as bloggers, when we have the courage to put ourselves out there. All the best to you, D.

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Diane, thank you for your kind words! Nice to meet you.

  • January 14, 2014 Rorybore

    You captured this perfectly! I have grown weary of trying to explain to family and friends the reason I put time and effort into this thing called Blogging. In the future, I’ll just refer them here with a calm “she gets it.”
    Thank you for writing what I suspect is in many of our hearts.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I know exactly what you mean πŸ™‚
      Thank you for reading!

  • January 14, 2014 Kim

    Oh, these are so many of my own reasons for doing it, Alison. Blogging has come to mean more – and brought more to my life – than I ever would have believed.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Isn’t it just amazing? πŸ™‚

  • January 14, 2014 Tracie

    You completely hit on all the things I get from blogging. It has been such an incredible blessing in my life.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      And mine too!

  • January 14, 2014 Natalie

    I totally agree with us! It can bevery overwhelming to do everything, so do you what you can, when you can. We shouldn’t stress ourselves about it! πŸ™‚
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      When it stops being fun, why do it, right?

  • January 14, 2014 Julia

    I like the feeling of community, I like sharing my experiences. That’s what’s in it for me.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I feel the same way!

  • January 14, 2014 Allie

    I read this at the right time, as I am feeling a bit overwhelmed by how much work blogging is. I had no idea when I started. I started for a couple reasons, writing career, promote my freelance projects and to connect with other moms. I have been pleasantly surprised by the people I have “met.” It’s a whole new world!

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      It is indeed! But what a truly great world it is!

  • January 14, 2014 Christine Organ

    I think that one of my favorite parts about blogging is the connections that I have made – both new ones and strengthened connections with my family and friends. Writing and blogging has opened the door to many meaningful conversations with loved ones that I might not have otherwise had. I feel like I have been able to know others better, in addition to getting to know myself better.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      That is a wonderful reason to blog, and to continue to do so, Christine. I’m so glad blogging has brought you so much.

  • January 14, 2014 Life of K

    It’s so true – the more you put in, the more you get out. I get caught up and forget that my blog is mine and I can do what I want. It’s freeing realizing that (and being reminded)!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      It’s easy to get caught up, because, allthethings!

  • January 14, 2014 Elaine A.

    You know the community aspect of it is BIG for me too. I am so happy to read that list and know that I am part of yours and you are part of mine. xoxo

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I’m ever so glad we met, Elaine!

  • January 14, 2014 Lady Lilith

    Nice post. It is really nice that you are all in it for the viewers. I think you blog has allot to offer. Keep up with the great work.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for your kind words.

  • January 14, 2014 Ashlee

    I genuinely love to write and I’m a natural-born story teller, so blogging is perfect for me. I used to do my friends essays (for free) in high school if that tells you anything. I’m also big on social media, again, because I love it. I share, not expecting anything in return. If I read something share-worthy, it’s getting shared on all of my social media networks, not because I want them to share something of mine, but because I want to share it with the ones that follow me so they can share it with their followers and so on.

    I’m with you, blogging is whatever you may it become. But, if you rush it or try to do something too big too soon, you’re setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. Just sit back and enjoy the ride : )
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Passing on the goodness is a big reason for my love of social media and blogging, too!
      Sitting back and enjoying the ride is good advice.

  • January 14, 2014 Poppy

    Whatever your motivation, I am constantly amazed at your ability to keep on top of things!

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      It’s a fine juggling act (and facade) πŸ™‚

  • January 14, 2014 Rebeccafaith

    This blog had me questioning my bloggy-motives to celebrating my bloggy journey! Thanks for sharing your words with all of us and reminding me what the heck I’m here for. :]
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I’m sure you’re blogging for all the right reasons, Rebecca! Keep on keeping on!

  • January 14, 2014 Rebecca

    I had divided up my blogs that I follow via Bloglovin by day. So that way, I have less blogs to check on daily. It helps.

    I think that blogging connections is one of the best things I have received from blogging.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      That’s a good way to stay organized!

  • January 14, 2014 Keely

    This post felt like a warm hug. Thanks for that.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      YOU are a warm hug. xo

  • January 14, 2014 Angela Youngblood

    Yes! Yes! Yes! I love this. I have gotten so much more from blogging than I ever anticipated. Some of my greatest friends and best supporters are people I met through blogging. Creatively I’ve gotten the opportunity to do things I never dreamed. While I wish I was better at some things (like replying to emails and comments, I’m the worst) I try not to beat myself up over it and know I will work on getting getter because I want to.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Look at me, replying to emails almost a week later πŸ™‚
      We just do what we can! And look at you, LTYM producer!!

  • January 14, 2014 Alma

    Am I nuts to think that more people “get me ” here? I am so often misunderstood and socially awkward that it is easier to be me here. I did not grow with with pictures and my parents divorced when I was four. My memories are few. I dont want that for my kids. I want to record for them and for my family far away.
    I don’t have expectations but I do have short term goals. My small business makes me happy and documenting my life in bits and pieces does as well. I want to keep the circle of friends I have built here and build on that too.
    I say “yes” to all your points here.
    So glad to have made a connection with you , always.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I love that we met, Alma! And it’s not crazy – I think many of us blog because here is where we really find the people who do understand us, and why we do what we do. I’m so happy for you that your business is going so well, totally well deserved.

  • January 14, 2014 Char

    Well put together! I am learning about the blogging community and how I fit in. Something that has always bothered me is when I read that some people think that if a photographer is not posting in their blog than they must not be busy. I find this as a bit backwards. I mean… if I am busy with photography, do I really have time to write posts for a blog? However, I am learning how to create my own to suite and fit my world as a photographer and blogger. In the process I found Alison and her blog… it has been a terrific inspiration during my journey. Now if I can only figure out how to tie the photos that I post or the writing that post to Pinterest… that darn Pin It button!

    • January 14, 2014 Nicole Robinson

      I love that blogging lets people create opportunities out of nothing. With a strong idea, Internet connection and a few tools people can literally build empires and help people around the world.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I’m so glad we met, Char! And you’re right about the circle of busyness πŸ™‚
      You find your own way at your own pace, don’t worry about what other people say.

  • January 14, 2014 Lady Jennie

    People you can come visit!!!!

    Love you so much. πŸ™‚
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      YES!!! I cannot wait.
      Love you too!!

  • January 14, 2014 Erica

    I blog to leave my mark. To remember things. To practice writing. To meet people and form relationships with them. And now…to make money, to get recognized to work with brands, maybe to write a book one day. This was a great post. Sometimes we need to be reminded that this is our OWN experience and we make the rules for it.

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      We need to own our blogging experience, yes!!

  • January 14, 2014 Olga

    The timing was perfect. I needed to come back to “center” about why I am blogging. You not only reminded me why I’m blogging but helped me recognize what is really important in the process πŸ™‚ Thank you!

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Olga, I’m so glad that my post helped. xo

  • January 15, 2014 Stacey

    You put it so well. Over the last six years I go through phases where I want to grow my blog and phases where I don’t. I do what I can and when I stop loving it or feeling that sense of community, I take a break, make adjustments and then come back. I truly love blogging. I have learned so much and met so many amazing people. The rewards for me far outweigh the work of it.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      You love it, Stacey, that is key! 6 years is amazing! May you have many more happy blogging years.

  • January 15, 2014 Kimberly

    Toilet paper.
    I got toilet paper in the mail yesterday along with payment. Best weird mail I’ve ever received.
    I blog because I needed an outlet and I needed to connect with other moms fighting PPD. I was in survival mode.
    Then it became a community like you said above and I found that I can actually write and I love it.
    When I found out that I could make money on the side, I jumped in because when you’re not making a single dime, you do what you can.
    Love you
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Toilet paper is awesome. What?
      The blogging world is much better with you in it.

  • January 15, 2014 sarah reinhart

    Let’s see, for me–above all. I blog because I feel so…bottled up if I don’t. I have to have a place for my words and pictures. If others read and come to visit, that’s a bonus. I mean, don’t get me wrong, an audience makes it more fun and enjoyable! But audiences come and go. It’s in the spirit of sharing what I have to offer the world. That’s why I’m in.

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I think the blogging world needs you and your light in it, Sarah. xo

  • January 15, 2014 Rozanne Paxman

    I love this so much. After a number of years with struggling with these very questions, I finally came to this same determination. I blog because I love it. I write about things I enjoy thinking about. I read blogs because I enjoy reading blogs. I comment because I have something I want to say to the author about their post. When I take it that way, all of the “pressure” to perform falls away.

    Thank you for writing this post!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Rozanne, co-sign everything you say.
      Thank you for reading!

  • January 16, 2014 Suniverse

    I’ve decide only to write when I want to write. That’s very freeing. It gives me space to try stuff out, to connect.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      That’s the best way to blog, Sunny!! xo

  • January 17, 2014 Vi

    I swear, I battle w/this thought all the time. I keep thinking that I wanna be popular and have tons of followers and comments, but then I also think about the fact that I just like blogging in general and I like having a place I post pics and stuff that happens in my family and to write about my favorite products or books. It’s hard to find that balance though. Great post Alison!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      It is a difficult balance. I think at the end of the day, we just do what we love, that should come first, always.
      And thank you!

  • January 17, 2014 Angela

    Popping over from Christine’s – she always has the best links to you! πŸ™‚

    I often get asked why I blog and a lot of times I go blank. I really don’t have any other answer than I like to write and chat about fitness and healthy eating. Connecting with others who share that is fun to me. Sometimes I feel like people are like “that’s it?”

    Thanks for this post!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Hah! I know what you mean, Angela. It’s hard to nail down all the intangible goodness we get out of blogging, and unless the people you talk to blog as well, they find it hard to understand.
      Thank you for reading!

  • January 17, 2014 Tiffany

    I couldn’t have said this any better… When I first began my Blog I never thought I would meet people that I would come to consider true friends. Not simply twitter handles or Blog sites but true friends that I can confide in and support and care for. Yet that is what happened. i started my Blog to give a place for my inner voice to be heard and possibly to earn a bit of extra income but the bonus is so much more than that. There is so much in it for me and I wouldn’t trade it at all…
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      All the intangible goodness is truly irreplaceable, I agree!

  • January 17, 2014 Angie Mizzell

    Blogging, over time, has helped me become my true self, rather than a persona of myself. And when I engage on other people’s blogs or on social media, it is because I have made time in my schedule to do so and/or feel compelled/inspired to do so. Meaning, I’ve learned to ditch the feeling of obligation, the tit-for-tat (if you comment on my blog, I’ll comment on your blog). I really love the quote you shared in this post… if our actions are forced and we’re just not feeling it… I think it comes across.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      The “I follow you, you follow me” thing never worked for me, not even in the early days. I’m glad I stuck it out anyway, and found my own way.

      Thank you for reading, Angie!

  • January 18, 2014 Jennifer Hall

    Oh yes, those are the biggest “in it for me” things on my list too! The camaraderie between bloggers is down right inspiring! It helps me see the world less cynically and keep my open heart.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Oh yes, the heart-opening. So unexpected, yet amazing.

  • January 19, 2014 Nina

    I so agree that you get out what you put in. You are a great example of leadership in our community and set a great bar in general. I love all the reasons you’ve listed here for why put so much in. I feel all of those in my life too. So honored to be friends and colleagues in this “biz.”
    Nina recently wrote…Why We Use a Timer for EverythingMy Profile

    • January 19, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for your kind words, Nina!

  • January 19, 2014 Brian Sorrell

    Such an interesting way to approach this topic. (Wow, that sentence sounds like spam doesn’t it?) I mean it seriously though: I spend time thinking about why I bother, as my readership continues to decline. But these people things you list — I’ve got a list of my own, more or less. And most importantly, writing about my life ends up being therapeutic. Writing creates clarity in my life. And if I end up with something my son can appreciate somewhere down the line, well then win win.
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    • January 19, 2014 Alison

      You know why you blog, and it matters to you and your family – I think that’s all that matters, to be honest. Not the numbers, not the follows etc. Thanks for reading, Brian!

  • January 24, 2014 Andrea

    I love this! You took the words right out of my mind. πŸ™‚

    We get plenty out of it. If we enjoy it, that is.
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    • January 24, 2014 Alison

      Enjoying it is definitely key!!

  • January 27, 2014 Jennifer McCullough

    Everything you said, Alison! Spot on! I’m so glad to hear you and other bloggers say there’s no rule that says you have to post every day because I JUST CAN’T right now. I love blogging and everything about it, and I don’t want it to ever become something I feel bad about myself for not doing more of. I already have enough things like that in my life haha, i.e. exercising:) Have a great week!
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    • January 27, 2014 Alison

      The day you start feeling bad/ guilty etc about blogging, it’s time to take a step back πŸ™‚ Have a great week yourself!

  • January 29, 2014 Amanda Jillian

    Wonderfully put, I blog cause it makes me feel less alone. I like to connect. It also makes me feel better when I write things out. I like to keep practice and get feedback. Not to mention I do earn some money from it.
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