I’m A Cat and A Queen Bee: #AskAwayFriday

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I call her Goose (for silly goose). We tell each other many, many things. We’ve cried and laughed together. I mourned with her when she tragically lost her brother suddenly before Christmas. I rejoice in all her updates on her miracle twins boys (who turned 6 on January 8). She’s my #HeartSister (hat tip to my lovely friend, Galit, whose love language I enjoy so much). I’m so happy to pair up with Kir of The Kir Corner this week for #AskAwayFriday! 

Kir AskAwayFriday

This fun weekly link up is hosted by Penny of The Real Housewife Of Caroline Country and Amber from Bold Fab Mom. Typically for Ask Away Friday, bloggers pair up, swap 10 questions,answer them on their blogs, and link up their posts with Penny and Amber. It’s such a great way to get to know someone better.  

1. How are you today? (Thought we’d start out with what I’d ask you on any given day)

Thank you for asking! I had a good start to my day (it is Sunday night as I write this) as I got to sleep in until 7.45 am! It’s also the day I got my hands on a 50mm lens, one which I’ve been eyeing for a while. My sister and her husband gifted it to me (very early birthday present). I’ve been snapping away all day! 

2. If you were an animal, what would you be and why? (This is my favorite interview question, it tells me a lot about a person. For the record, I consider myself an otter.)

A cat. I do as I please. I like sleeping. I have good toilet habits. I am stealthy. I love my humans, although I like time away from them sometimes. 

3. You write about motherhood quite a bit, if there was one piece of advice you’d share with a new mom, what would it be?

It will be okay. You will be okay, and so will the baby. Ask for help. Shower everyday. Eat when you can. Drink a lot of water. Don’t forget your husband. Breastfeed or bottle feed, it doesn’t matter, as long as the baby gets fed. Don’t worry about sleep training or when the baby will sleep through the night. He/ she will when they’re ready. Take some time for yourself, even if it’s just to grab a coffee. You’re doing a good job. You are. You know I couldn’t stick to just one piece of advice, right?

New mother

Mother for 5 days. Smiling, but terrified inside.

4. I know you have dozens (hundreds) of friends online, do you have a best friend in your off screen life? If so, tell us just a little bit about her/him. (Please, only as much as you feel comfortable sharing)

I have a couple of best friends. Jasmine and I have been friends since we were 15. We lived in the same apartment for a few months when we started college (pre-university). We hung out together a lot when we both started working in Kuala Lumpur after graduation. We rarely saw each other when she moved to London, but always caught up and picked up where we left off when we did meet up. I just saw her in Singapore, where she lives now, over the new year. It’s like we were never apart, talking for hours. 

My sister is my other best friend. We’ve had our ups and downs, but more of the former. We are awesome travel buddies. She’s an amazing aunt to my boys. I would do anything for her, and she would do the same for me.


Fashion forward and goofy even then

5. We both share a love of cupcakes, what is your favorite kind?

I love red velvet. I do have to throw in a mention of my lemon cupcakes, because, yum.

Lemon lime cupcake

6. Before you became a high powered blogger and exceptional mom, you worked a high power job as a marketing executive. Do you ever miss the high heels and corporate work day?

I’m an average blogger, and an okay mom, but thank you for your high praise! I don’t miss high heels or a corporate work day. I love being able to be home with my children. I enjoy my freelance writing work, social and blogging consultation business, and my new gig with BonBon Break. I don’t think I could achieve the kind of satisfaction in so many areas of my life if I worked at my old job. The one perk I do miss? International travel.

7. Of all the places your writing has been featured what is the one piece being featured or published that meant the most to you and why?

It’s starting to occur to me that I can’t pick just one of anything. Because I have two pieces of writing that I love that I’m really proud of – my first piece, Mothering Through The Generations published on The Huffington Post last year, and the first original article I submitted to BonBon Break, Raising Boys The Girl Way. Go read them? 

8. We are both the mom of two boys, what are the best and not-so-good-sometimes parts of that for you?

Best part – I’m the queen bee. Not-so-good-sometimes – I’m the queen bee. 

9. What is your favorite book of all time?

I think my answer to this will change every month. Last month, it was 11/22/63 by Stephen King. This month, it’s A Lady in France by my friend, Jennie Goutet.

A Lady in France

10. What is the one question you wished someone would ask you? (Consider it asked !)

What’s on my gift wish list! (I know, cheeky) 

Thank you for your fun questions, Kir! I loved pairing up with you this week. Now, head on to Kir’s to check out her answers to my 10 questions.

If you want to join #AskAwayFriday and need someone to swap questions with, let me know!


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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • January 17, 2014 Nicole

    I love my humans, although I like time away from them sometimes. Best line ever. This Q&A is chockful of so many great things, plus lemon cupcakes. Yum. Can’t wait to check out your Huff Post & BonBon pieces!
    Nicole recently wrote…One Thing I Won’t Do For My Daughters: Guest Post at Kiss My ListMy Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Hah, yes, that is really how I feel!
      Thank you for checking out my posts!

  • January 17, 2014 Tamara

    Oh, fun! I love these questions and I love these answers. They were simply put, yet thorough and deep.
    My sister is my best friend too. Sometimes I think that’s why I’ve never really had a long-standing best friend. It’s more like many.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you! Deep? Me? Never 🙂

  • January 17, 2014 Lisa

    Great questions and great answers!

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thanks, Lisa!

  • January 17, 2014 Maureen

    What a fun piece, Alison. Fun questions and great answers. The cupcake looks so good!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Maureen! The cupcake picture itself is not great, but the cupcake is delish.

  • January 17, 2014 Stacey Gannett

    Oh my goodness, those lemon cupcakes look wonderful! I love lemon flavored treats! I just made devil’s food cupcakes this evening. I totally look forward to checking out your articles! Great getting to know you Alison! Hope you have a great coming weekend!
    Stacey Gannett recently wrote…#AskAwayFriday 24 with Tamara from Tamara (Like) Camera Blog!My Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Stacey, nice to meet you!

  • January 17, 2014 Kir

    I liked you before the questions, but now I really like you. And honestly, I am not a cat person. You might be the one and only “cat” I ever love.

    That picture of you and your sister..AWESOME! I love my sister like that and am so glad I have a #HeartSister in you.

    I never would have made it through the last two years without you in my life, I hope you know that.

    and your advice for new moms made me happy, proud and teary…it’s exactly what I would tell a new mom too. “SHOWER EVERY DAY!” I go to visit #MyLisa and her new son on Monday and I will tell her all of it, especially..”YOU are already a GOOD, FANTASTIC MAMA”

    so Bug? What’s on your gift wish list??? 😉

    Kir recently wrote…#AskAwayFriday with Alison Lee of Writing, WishingMy Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Aw, hon, I love you!
      Tell Lisa I said hi, and give her baby boy an extra squeeze for me.
      My wish list has all kinds of photography equipment on it, heh. #newobsession.

  • January 17, 2014 NJ

    I also love my humans but like time away from them sometimes! I keep hearing a lot of buzz about A Lady In France and it is on my to read list. Sigh, if only I had TIME to READ.
    NJ recently wrote…Ask Away Friday With Mama Rabia!My Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Oh get the book, it’s so good!! You have all year to read it 🙂

  • January 17, 2014 tracy

    Oh this is fabulous and Truffle wishes that you were a cat too. You guys could marry. He also has good toilet habits. xoxo
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      I’d still marry Truffle. xo

  • January 17, 2014 Allie

    YES to all the things you said about motherhood. Because I had twins, I didn’t get that “second” baby easiness. I really wish I could have relaxed more when the boys were babies and not have worried so much!!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Oh, twindom is so different, Allie!

  • This was such fun to read! I think you would get along great with my cat by the way, he likes cupcakes too, especially the batter (yes, my cat likes cupcake batter. I know…)

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Hah! That’s perfect!

  • January 17, 2014 AwesomelyOZ

    So if you were a cat, what would you want to be named? Haha the Queen Bee, amen to that. Great articles that you linked there, that’s insane about your grandma and momma – it’s fascinating what a difference a generation makes. Great questions + answers Alison! -Iva
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for reading my article, Iva!
      If I was a cat, my name would be … Divine? 🙂

  • January 17, 2014 Kim

    I love the questions and answers! As the mom of boys, I totally get being the queen bee.
    And now I must think what animal I would be if I were an animal.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      When you figure it out, let me know! 🙂

  • January 17, 2014 Tiffany

    Allison I think it so amazing to find someone you can consider your #heartsister (love that term by the way)! It can happen so rarely but when it does it is truly amazing. You can definitely tells you are friends with Kir becuse your questions and answers are awesome..

    I love that you said your a cat partly because of you good toilet habits 🙂

    I have never had a lemon cupcake but that picture is definitely making me want to go find one…LOL

    I truly enjoyed reading your answers and can’t wait to head over and see what you asked Kir 😀

    Have a great weekend!
    Tiffany recently wrote…#AskAwayFriday W/Sonya From Saving With Sonya K.My Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Tiffany! It is amazing to find a #HeartSister (and I’m blessed, I have more than one). Lemon cupcakes are divine!
      Have a great weekend!

  • January 18, 2014 Jodi Flaherty

    Alison what a lovely and heartfelt introduction! I am so glad I stopped by via #AAF I know of you from various networking sites- but I hadn’t yet visited! Nice to meet you! Oh and I’d be a cat too!
    Jodi Flaherty recently wrote…#AskAwayFriday Week 24 with the Lovely Lanaya from Raising Regan!My Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Hi fellow cat! And truly, I appreciate you stopping by, Jodi.

  • January 18, 2014 Kim

    Just found your blog and have endorsed you on sverve. I love this post, and I know you have some great tips & tricks throughout your posts. I can’t wait to surf around some more and see what I can find!
    Those lemon cupcakes look amazingly tasty. And I love the Goose as a nickname. =0)
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Hi Kim, thank you for stopping by and the Sverve endorsement! And thank you so much for your kind comments.

  • January 18, 2014 Jennifer Hall

    Ooh, 11/22/63….I heard about that one and think it must be good! And cats…yes. Love that photo of you with your baby. 🙂
    Jennifer Hall recently wrote…View from Here: Parenting in a Mixed-Ability FamilyMy Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      It is so very good! It left me wishing that I had 800 more pages to read 🙂

  • January 18, 2014 Carrie

    You are so right…being the queen be is good and bad.

    This was a great read! I love when you get to learn a little bit more about someone you so enjoy reading!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you so much, Carrie! It was a fun post to write. 🙂

  • January 18, 2014 Kalleyc

    I love getting to know bloggers this way! Growing up, me and my sister was not very close, but over the past year or so, we’ve grown closer and I’ve really enjoyed it.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Adult sibling relationships are so rewarding!

  • January 18, 2014 Katie

    I TOTALLY want to do this!! How do I find a partner??

    Also, I think I am cat-like too. Or sloth-like. Hmmm.

    I also have a love/hate relationship with being Queen Bee of the hive.

    Love reading these things about your, Alison!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      You just ask whoever you want to swap questions, it’s that easy!!
      Cat, sloth, coth. Heh.
      And thank you!

  • January 18, 2014 Alexa

    Loved getting to know you better. I think, based on your description, I would also be a cat! And YUM love, love lemon! I didn’t realize you were working with BonBon Break now! That is awesome. Congrats Alison!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you! I love BonBon Break, and I feel so privileged to be working with them and Val.

  • January 18, 2014 My Inner Chick

    1.S U P E R B
    2.Cat! Yessss, I see this!
    3.Lemon muffin Sin!
    4.I LooooOVE your generosity.
    5.Because of this humble, tell all sentence, you now have my entire heart: “I am an average blogger & okay mom.”

    My Inner Chick recently wrote…Remembering JuneMy Profile

    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, I love you!!!

  • January 18, 2014 Rorybore

    What a great idea – love “interviews” like this.
    And those lemon cupcakes look just divine!
    I think I’d be a penguin — but that might just be because it’s so darn cold up here right now! I might choose differently in the summer.
    Really enjoyed the article “Mothering Through the Generations” – it made me think of my grandma who had 11 children – and a farm! Some would say she gave birth to her help, but I still can’t imagine it was ever easy. Then my mom – who had just me; but was a working, single mom. I was definitely raised by a village. Then myself, who left the corporate world to stay home with my 3…..and learned how to bake home made bread like my grandma.
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for reading my article, that means so much to me! I have always been fascinated by how different mothering is in different times, so looking towards my family seemed so natural.

      I love penguins! 🙂

  • January 18, 2014 The Bold Fab Mom

    I love your new mommy advice! 🙂

    Thanks for linking up!
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    • January 18, 2014 Alison

      Thank you for hosting, such a great idea.

  • January 19, 2014 Angela

    I thought I was the queen bee till I over heard my daughter telling my son that SHE was the queen. Huh…I sense I’m about to be dethroned.

    This was fun…I might want to join in one Friday!
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    • January 19, 2014 Alison

      Hah! Until I have a daughter, I think my throne is quite safe. 🙂
      Play along, you can jump in by asking a bloggy friend to pair up!

  • January 19, 2014 anymommy

    I love these! You are adorable as a new mom and I adore that you said Jennie’s book. Awesome!
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    • January 19, 2014 Alison

      Thank you! Can you smell my terror from the photo? And I do love Jennie.

  • January 19, 2014 Natalie

    I love reading more about you and hope we can share a cup of coffee one day!!!

    • January 19, 2014 Alison

      That would be awesome!

  • January 19, 2014 Michelle

    I loved your answer about being a cat! That is what I would have picked too, although I am more of a dog-person. I am more like a cat, but I enjoy my dogs more. That sounds weird, doesn’t it? And red velvet…oh, so delicious! I can’t wait to read A Lady in France! Thank you again! It came in the mail the other day and I was so excited to see it!
    Michelle recently wrote…#AskAwayFriday with Beth from Structure in an Unstructured LifeMy Profile

    • January 19, 2014 Alison

      I can’t wait for you to read Jennie’s book!

  • January 19, 2014 Tess

    I love hearing about other bloggers/women. Thank you so much for letting us find out about such an interesting person!
    Tess recently wrote…White Chocolate Sunflower Butter CookiesMy Profile

    • January 19, 2014 Alison

      Kir certainly asked me some great questions! (these are my answers)

  • January 20, 2014 Christy Garrett

    I love your advice for new moms. A new mom won’t go wrong with this great advice.
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    • January 20, 2014 Alison

      Thank you, Christy.

  • January 20, 2014 Greta

    Those muffins look divine. I think I’m a lot like a cat, too. 🙂
    Greta recently wrote…A Lady In France: A ReviewMy Profile

    • January 20, 2014 Alison

      Cats rule! (just don’t tell the dogs)

  • January 20, 2014 Sarah

    I love reading these AAF posts and learning more about my favorite bloggers! Your advice to new mamas is spot on. Also, lemon cupcakes sound AMAZING. I love all things lemon.
    Sarah recently wrote…Menu plan, January 19-26My Profile

    • January 20, 2014 Alison

      When I see lemon anything, I want to eat it immediately. #LemonAddict

  • January 21, 2014 Andrea

    Love your answers to Kir’s questions, Alison! The cat – yes, me too. The queen bee – yes, that is a problem. 🙂
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    • January 21, 2014 Alison

      Fellow cat queen lady!! xo

  • January 21, 2014 Lady Jennie

    Oooh! I’m here! 🙂 Thank you for mentioning me!

    My sister is totally a cat. She loves to sleep and she’s all warm and cuddly. But just with me and her husband and baby – not with people she doesn’t know.

    Those lemon muffins. Yum!
    Lady Jennie recently wrote…When You Can’t See the MeadowMy Profile

    • January 21, 2014 Alison

      You’re welcome!!
      My sister loves sleeping on my couch. So, yes, pretty much like the cats I used to have. 🙂

  • January 21, 2014 Adrienne

    I love your retro sister pics. They remind so much of me and my sister! Those cupcakes look yummy! 😉
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    • January 21, 2014 Alison

      I have a few more retro pictures that need to be scanned – they’re hliarious!

  • January 22, 2014 Galit Breen

    Oh LOVE this so much, you two! And you are, indeed, a cat and a queen bee! Hee! 🙂 xo
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    • January 23, 2014 Alison

      Hee! I like to think so 🙂

  • January 23, 2014 Julia

    I call my son, goose for the same reason. I like that saying being the queen bee.
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    • January 23, 2014 Alison

      My sister has the same nickname from me!

  • January 23, 2014 Elaine A.

    I adore your advice for #3. And you. And these questions. I mean, you KNOW I love question/answer stuff. And getting to know my friends even better. This is so fun, I cannot wait to do it too! 😀

    • January 23, 2014 Alison

      It’s so up your alley, Elaine! And thank you.

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