For a few weeks now, I’ve been reading a few friends’ posts where a fellow blogger would ask them 10 thoughtful questions. It was incredibly fun to read, and I was hankering on getting in on the action, mentioning it in someone’s comment section. NJ of A Cookie Before Dinner swooped in, and inducted me into Ask Away Friday, so thank you, girlfriend! If you haven’t met NJ, go say hi! I love her blog title (of course), and her honest writing. A mother of two (a sweet boy and one adorable new baby girl!), NJ is a Red Sox fan and writes about parenting (and breaking rules – my kind of girl).
This fun weekly link up is hosted by Penny of The Real Housewife Of Caroline Country and Amber from Bold Fab Mom. Typically for Ask Away Friday, bloggers pair up, swap 10 questions,answer them on their blogs, and link up their posts with Penny and Amber. It’s such a great way to get to know someone better.
These are NJ’s questions for me.
1. If you could only use one social media channel, what would it be and why?
Oh girl, this is like asking me who my favorite child is! I love social media, warts and all. I like Twitter for its immediacy and easy connection. I adore Pinterest, because, pretty things. I have a love/ hate relationship with Facebook – I can’t live without it, but sometimes, I really want to delete my account. Google+ is my new love, I always find really great content and awesome people there. Instagram is a fun way of capturing daily life snippets, and I love it. I love feeling like I’m part of my friend’s lives because I know what color their last manicure was. So if I had to use only one social media channel, just kill me already. I can’t choose.
2. You live overseas. How did you “land” in Malaysia?
I’m Malaysian, born and bred. I did live in England for 3 1/2 years when I went to university there, and spent one summer in London the year I graduated. I’ve been back in Malaysia since 1999. I’ve written about where I came from, and this city I live in.
3. What is the number one thing your boys fight about?
Things. ALLTHETHINGS. It could be the bike. The toy piano. Space on my lap. A pen. A crayon. A piece of torn paper. A fork. The last cookie. Clothes. You see, my little one wants whatever his older brother happens to have in his hands. Even if it’s THE EXACT SAME THING he has. This will be the story of our lives, won’t it?
4. What do the holidays look like in your house? What is your favorite tradition?
We don’t really do holidays or traditions. We don’t celebrate Christmas and we don’t have the kinds of holidays Americans do. My side of the family do celebrate Chinese New Year in a fairly big way, so we make the trek to my hometown, eat a lot of food, see many relatives, and generally endure a lot of noise, welcomed and unwelcomed. If we had it our way, it will always just be quiet acknowledgement of the holiday. We are however, trying to start and continue our own family traditions.
5. If you could give once piece of advice to someone who wanted to grow their blog in a serious way, what would it be?
Be true to yourself. Write what you know and what you love. Connect genuinely with people whose words you enjoy reading, and comment like a human being, not a robot. Don’t waste time trying to be like someone else, because someone else is taken, said Oscar Wilde, and how true that is of bloggers.
6. Speaking of blogging, you founded your own company, Little Love Media. How did the company get its start?
Little Love Media was born through a genuine desire to help others. The original idea was to offer social media consulting advice to small-business owners in environments like Etsy. There are so many talented people out there, selling their lovingly crafted goods, and it’s easy to get lost in the sea of online shopping. I wanted to offer them a way to stand out. Almost as a second thought, I decided to offer blog evaluations and strategies. As destiny would have it, my first client was a blogger. Then the second. And third. I grew to love this part of my business, and focused heavily on growing that. However, I recently signed on my first small-business client, a Malaysian boutique design company, and I’m excited!
7. The house is quiet. Everyone has gone to bed early. You’ve got several hours of piece and quiet ahead of you. What are you going to do with yourself?
First, I pinch myself to see if it’s real!
But seriously, during the week, I sit down with my laptop and a cup of hot green tea, and start reading blogs. Later in the evening, I may watch TV with my husband for an hour or so, and we also take the time to catch up with each other. If I have a client, I’ll likely be working until 10pm or so. Then, you can find me on Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter.
On weekends, I try to stay off the computer as much as possible, and in the evenings, I read. Taking time out to read is part of my journey to taking back some happiness.
8. You are a community lead at SITS and heavily involved there. How did you get involved there?
I was a Community Lead at SITS up until recently. I joined SITS in April 2011, a couple of weeks into blogging, and was always fairly active on the site – reading and commenting on posts, participating in the Saturday Sharefest, and visiting featured bloggers on their SITS Day. A year later, I was asked by SITS to join them as a Community Lead, and of course I said yes! I’ve met so many wonderful people in the community, and have learned so much. After 20 months there, I felt that it was time to move on to other endeavors.
9. What color do you love the most? What do you think your love of that color says about your personality?
Yellow. It wasn’t always yellow though. I was always a blue girl, then black in my 20′s (what does that say about my 20-something self?). Lately though, I have been really drawn to yellow. It’s always struck me as a happy color, and I suppose, subconsciously, I’ve been seeking for more joy and happiness in my life. I hope my love of yellow means that I’m happy.
10. What has been your most humbling moment as a parent? Did it change your outlook in any way?
Two moments – when each of my boys were born. With my oldest, the reality of actually being a parent hit me full force when I was alone with my baby for the first time, just the two of us. The enormity of my responsibility as his mother, truly humbled me. A year before that moment, he was merely an idea, a desire. Three months after that, he was just a bunch of cells. And now, he was here. My entire outlook changed.
With my second, seeing my boys together for the first time made me realize that the dynamics of my relationship with each member of my family, would now be different. Going from one to two children, is humbling. Blessed twice. How can that not change someone?
Thank you for your lovely questions, NJ! Please check out NJ’s post where she answers the 10 questions I had for her.
My question for you: What was YOUR most humbling moment as a parent?
And if you want to play #AskAwayFriday with me, let me know, we can swap questions!
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