I am a lot of not-awesome things – I have a temper, I am impatient, I swear at idiot drivers, I am bossy, I am not a great cook, I buy too much crap for the kids, I feed them crap sometimes, I get lazy sometimes and take the easy way out, I say the F word more than I should, and once, I screamed at a stranger.
I do have one virtue. I like giving. Giving of my time, of resources where possible, of love, of friendship, of kindness. I try, every day, to give one thing. Mostly, it is to give to my children – patience, the grace of allowing them to be their age (no matter what), smiles and hugs all day, I love yous.
That is the easy kind of giving. They are of our hearts and souls, it’s a no-brainer.
It’s the other kind of giving that is a little challenging.
Patience on the road by not cutting someone off, or staying your hand on the horn when someone isn’t moving fast enough for your liking.
The grace of giving people the benefit of the doubt, especially on social media, because you just don’t know the whole story. And refrain from rolling your eyes, stomping your feet, and angrily tap-tapping on your keyboard, calling them out. Why not just walk away and move onto better, more heart-worthy efforts on the Internet?
It’s the giving of your time when someone has a cause close to their hearts, and need help from every quarter.
It’s the giving of hard-earned money to someone else who needs it more. That new <whatever it is you really, really want for Christmas> can wait. Because we really have so much already, and what is money when it cannot be spent on good useful things, that not only fill bellies, but hearts as well?
It’s a kind word, a helping hand, a pat on the back, a virtual hug, an email, a thinking-of-you text message.
It’s the sharing of knowledge, and extending a hand in kindness and friendship, even when we feel depleted inside.
It’s putting other people’s needs above your wants.
And although it sounds like a lot to give, it is always in giving that we receive. Tenfold.
You will receive what cannot be measured by dollars or cents. Friendship, love, kindness, all of it.
So yes, I love the giving. I am a lot of not-so-awesome things, but I am giving. It’s the least I can do, for all the receiving I get.
Happy Thanksgiving, my American friends.
In the spirit of the season, The SITS Girls is kicking off a Gratitude Challenge, and I wrote all about it there. Check it out?
In other news, my dear friend Alma is holding a special one-day sale on Saturday, November 30, of her gorgeous crochet and wood items. Check out her etsy shop now!