I Know This Much To Be True

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10 months ago, I started a little business. It’s been a dream of mine for a while now, being my own boss, setting my own hours, loving what I do, and doing what I love. It has taken me 12 years to get here. 

Blogging got me here. If I say this to someone who doesn’t blog, or doesn’t read any blogs, they will likely shake their heads and move on. To the many who started a blog just to document family moments, or just write, and find themselves in careers they never envisioned possible (social media consultants, community managers, brand ambassadors, published authors, freelance writers, website designers, the list goes on), they will understand. 

To those who blog and found an outlet to express a creativity, a longing, an energy inside of them they didn’t know existed – they will understand.

To those who blog and met people they will never otherwise meet, the same people who will shore you up when your insides break down, who will high five you (virtually) when you see victory – they will understand. 

To those whose blogging saved their lives in more ways than one – they will understand. 

And so, I want to tell you new(ish) bloggers who are looking at your statistics and social media numbers, comparing yourselves to others who seem to be doing better, a few truths I learned over the past couple of years.

Blogging advice for newish bloggers

Don’t focus on statistics

I know this sounds like foolish advice, because when you’re new to blogging, that is all you think about. Who’s reading? Who’s commenting? Where are my people? Why aren’t they here? What do I need to do? I can tell you that to have some goals in mind (10,000 page views a day!) is a good thing, but do not beholden yourself to it. Does getting 20 page views a day mean you will stop writing and blogging? No? Then, carry on. 

Don’t compare

It is so easy to let someone else’s joy, happiness and success, suck our very own joy, happiness and success away. Don’t let it happen. Whoever you’re comparing yourself to, worked hard for their success. Be happy for them. It’s far easier (and healthier) than burrowing yourself into a hole of “not good enough”.

Write like it matters, write from the heart

Now, this is very important. The actual writing. You could be a social media rockstar, but if your writing doesn’t match up, your blog will suffer. Aside from checking your grammar and the correct usage of words (you’re/ your, they’re/ there/ their, lose/ loose, faze/ phase, I could go on), write from your heart. Write what you know. Write like it really, really matters to you. Don’t write something because you think it will go viral. Don’t write something controversial to get page views. Which leads me to this….

If you can’t stand by it, don’t write it

Do you truly feel strongly about an issue and have something to say? Then say (write) it. Are you prepared to defend your beliefs, your stand, to the ends of the earth? If your answer is, no or “I am not sure” – do not write it. Do not put yourself out there if it’s not your whole, true self. Do not get into the fray to get attention. Do it if it’s something you believe in.

Be honest, be yourself

As above. Write the way you talk. Write in the way that feels most natural to you. Start sentences with “so”, or “and” if that’s the style that suits you (it suits me). When your readers come back again and again, it’s because they like YOU. Show them who you are. Show them your messy desk. Tell them when you’re having a hard time. Or not. But don’t lie. Don’t say you’re happy when you’re not. Don’t project a fake facade. Don’t pretend to be who you’re not. Don’t for the love of cupcakes, make shit up. You will be found out. 

Be kind to others

Blogging is a big, big world. But it can also feel very, very small, because when someone does an act of kindness, or the opposite, everyone will know about it (or least it will seem so). So, be kind. Be kind whenever possible, and it is always possible (said a Tibetan monk). Give help when asked. Give it when it’s not. Send someone an email to tell them how much you love their words, or that you miss them. Or just to see how they are, because their latest post seems to hint at something sad. 

Love, care and share

Be unselfish with sharing. If you love a blog post, tweet it out. Share it on Facebook. Pin it. Comment on it. Send the blogger an email, say you loved it. Know two bloggers who you think should absolutely meet? Introduce them to each other. 

Your heart will be broken

I haven’t met a blogger whose heart hasn’t been broken in some way, big and/ or small. It could be because of missed opportunities, or friendships broken. Of a harsh word from a troll in the comments, or the ending of a brand relationship. I’m here to tell you that it will be okay.  Your heart will heal. You will come across other (better) opportunities. You will meet new friends. You will ignore the trolls. You will find and fall in love with other brands. 

So, new (ish) bloggers, I know this much is true – work hard, play hard, have fun, be true, be yourself, keep writing/ photographing/ blogging, and one day, you will be where you want to, need to be. 

Do you have any advice for new bloggers?



Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • August 5, 2013 Dana

    I so needed this advice, Alison! If I sit and really think about it, this whole blogging thing can be so overwhelming. I’m going to take a deep breath, read your advice again, and then print it out and put it on the wall behind my laptop. Thank you!
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      Dana, thank you for your kind words!

  • August 5, 2013 Susan ~ designsofhome.com

    Thank you, Alison!
    Thank you so much for helping new bloggers such as myself. I am sure that I do not speak only for myself, but I would like you to know how much your help and information is appreciated!
    πŸ™‚ Susan
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      Susan, thank you so much, that means the world to me.

  • August 5, 2013 Ilene

    This is seriously some of the best blogging advice I’ve ever read. It’s for newbies. It’s for not so newbies. It’s for all of us. And yes, blogging has taken me places I’d never knew it would take it. It’s a gift. I love this post.
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      Ilene, thank you so much for you continuous support, kindness and friendship. You are an example of showing kindness and love to your fellow bloggers. I’m so glad to know you.

  • August 5, 2013 Leah Davidson

    Such words of wisdom, Alison. You are truly an inspiring person to read! I love the tips – they are honest, heartfelt, and useful. Thank you for the encouragement. One of the best parts of blogging is you never know who you will touch, or how much someone needs to hear something that you say.
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      Leah, you’re absolutely right!
      One of the ‘legacies’ (such a grand word) I hope to leave in the world of blogging, is to have people say that my writing touched them in some way. That I was a friend. I hope I do that every day.
      And thank you.

  • August 5, 2013 Kimber

    Great and wise words as always Alison! I don’t think there is much left to say. I love how you encourage connection. That is what makes the world go round:) It meant a lot to us to have a few bloggers reach out to us when we started and I hope to do the same many times over the years to come.
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      Paying it forward, that’s the way to go πŸ™‚ I think you’re on the right track, Kimber.

  • August 5, 2013 Christine

    The opening of this piece? Perfectly stated as is the advice. I agree with Ilene that it’s a great reminder for all blogger, not just new ones.
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Christine!

  • August 5, 2013 tracy

    Love this. xo
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      And I love you!! xo

  • August 5, 2013 Elaine A.

    I wish I had read this a while ago… πŸ˜‰ Great post, Alison. I would also tell them to attend a conference as soon as they can!
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      I left out all the other technical, true bloggy stuff like, clean up your sidebar, no Captcha, attend conferences – it would have been a 2,000 word post otherwise. But that IS good advice, something I hope to do soon.

  • August 5, 2013 Robin

    Good advice πŸ™‚ Mine? Use Twitter. (Okay, yes, it’s different than it was a few years ago when I made so many of my amazing connections, but it helps.)
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      That’s a good one, Robin. πŸ™‚

  • August 5, 2013 Michelle

    Such great words of wisdom Alison! I hope this gets shared all over the blogsphere because everyone should read it. I’ll be sharing for sure. I especially love your comments about being kind to others. Kindness will make you friends, and it’s kind of like paying it forward in a way too. We should all treat people the way we want to be treated.
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      Michelle, yes, absolutely! I truly believe in the Golden Rule. And in kindness. Thank you.

  • Since I am new in the blogging world, thank you for these things that I have to remember… πŸ™‚
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    • August 5, 2013 Alison

      I am always glad to help πŸ™‚

  • I am going to print and frame this and hang it over my bed/computer.
    Wise words!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Aw, shucks. Thanks Tinne.

  • August 5, 2013 melissa

    I love the idea of printing this out. I think I’ll do the same.

    One piece of advice here that stands out to me is not caring about statistics. I have this one girl who reads every post and leaves a comment on most of them and I do the same with her blog. That one woman makes me feel like people like my blog. I even emailed back and fourth with her a bit.

    My advice is don’t follow a blog and comment “I’ll follow you if you follow me!” It isn’t sincere! And to be honest it is a bit annoying and can even come off as hurtful. At least is does with me.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      It’s amazing how just one person can make another’s day, yes?

      You’re right, the follow you, follow me comments, are just ugh. I don’t like them, I don’t recommend them.

  • August 5, 2013 Brittany

    This is a really great list… I started blogging sometime late 2009, but I sometimes still let some of these get in my way. Especially the statistics one. Thank you for the reminder!!!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      The stats one gets all of us. The trick is, not to let it get us down. πŸ™‚

  • August 5, 2013 Sheri

    I love this. You have made me feel like I am doing the right thing by just being myself, choosing topics because I WANT to write about them, not worrying so much about never getting comments etc. I started my blog for me… and I’ve been true to myself – it’s just nice to have some encouragement once in a while, thank you πŸ™‚
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Sheri, thank you for your sweet words. I’m glad you’re staying true to you. One can never go wrong from that path. Good luck with everything!

  • August 5, 2013 Julia

    I love your advice especially about writing from the heart and if you can’t stand by it don’t write it.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Julia!

  • August 5, 2013 Adrienne

    This is great advice for ANY blogger! I needed these reminders today. Thanks!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thank you so much, Adrienne! You’re a great blogger and person, don’t forget that. πŸ™‚

  • August 5, 2013 Kristine

    Thank you so much Alison! These are the things I truly need to today.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Kristine, that makes me glad. πŸ™‚

  • August 5, 2013 Jessica

    Such great advice, I think writing from the heart has been the key for me, if I don’t write what is on my mind I can’t seem to write anything.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Jessica, you’re a very from-the-heart writer. Every post of yours stays true to you, and I think, that is why so many love your writing. Keep on keepin’ on, right?

  • August 5, 2013 Martine

    Amen to that, Alison. I, too, have learned by way of the “hard knocks” of blogging. Thanks for writing this!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thanks for reading, Martine!

  • August 5, 2013 Tamara

    Oh, how I love this. Lately I think about what my life would be without blogging. Sure I may have found some other thing, but I can’t imagine ANYTHING like this. These relationships are golden – it’s like we meet people from the inside out. My writing and photography would probably be stagnant without blogging, because where and how would I share the way I do now.
    My advice to new bloggers is to not be like me – and not connect for years. Connect! Comment back! Comment. Reply on twitter! Like back on Facebook! And so on.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Yes to all of that!
      I know what you mean about not blogging. I can’t imagine life without. Blogging has brought me so many things I’m not sure I would have gained (and not just talking about my business or new friends) – such as finally learning to shoot with a DSLR, learning some coding, unlocking the writer inside. It has literally changed my life.

  • August 5, 2013 Nicole

    Awesome advice Alison! Thank you so much for sharing your bloggy wisdom with us. It’s all great, but I LOVE ‘Be kind to others’ the most. I’ve been surprised and overwhelmed by the kindness and support in the blogging community so far. It’s amazing how a nice comment or ‘atta girl can make your day. Love this!!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thank you Nicole!
      Living by kindness is my mantra, online and offline. It’s the best way to live, in my opinion. πŸ™‚

  • August 5, 2013 Jeanne

    Such great advice! I especially love the Be Honest, Be Yourself… I’m not a great writer but I write my blog how I would talk. Sure wish I had more time for the social media part.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Writing the way you talk makes you a good writer. πŸ™‚

  • August 5, 2013 Felicia

    I absolutely LOVE this advice and, honestly, really needed it. I think what connected with me the most was not comparing to others and not focusing on the stats. I always seem to fall into those traps and end up upsetting myself over it, when at the end of the day, it’s not that important. My blog was started for me to share my experiences and opinions and that’s exactly what I’m doing. I have to make sure to save this post so that I can always go back to it and remind myself that it’s not all about stats and that I have succeeded in my own way.

    Thanks for this post! Loved it!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Felicia, I do think you have succeeded in your own way – that you’re comfortable with where you are with your blog and not worrying about what others are doing – that IS success. πŸ™‚

  • August 5, 2013 Lady Jennie

    My husband always said, “Just keep writing good stuff” and every time I feel forgotten, hurt, overlooked, loser-ish and all that, I remember that. It has really served me well.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Your husband has very good advice, smart man.
      (also, you’re never loser-ish, oy)

  • Be prepared for your husband and kids not to understand what you do or take it seriously. If they can’t see the cash flow from it then it’s just a hobby to them. They won’t understand that you have to build it and care for it for a very long time. You will spend hours fixing, editing and trying to learn. They will still expect you to keep everything else going.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Not everyone understands what blogging involves, that is true.
      I’m very fortunate that my husband is fully supportive of what I do.

  • August 5, 2013 Jennifer

    I second all of this advice. Fantastic!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Jennifer!

  • August 5, 2013 Leslie

    Such sage advice. The part about the heart break really resonated with me, Alison. I wasn’t expecting to be so easily hurt in the blogosphere, but it does happen, and it does heal. I keep hoping I will grow a thicker skin one of these days. πŸ™‚
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      I’m sorry you’ve been hurt. I know what that’s like, unfortunately. You have a big heart, so I know that your positive experiences far outweigh the crap. πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 Shannon

    Thank you so much for writing this. I have only been at this blogging thing for one year and your words are words that I need to hear. Really hear.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Shannon, only a year? You’ve done so much in that year, something to be proud of. No comparing, you hear? πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 Deanna

    Hi Alison,Deanna here from Sits girls, you recently gave me advice on Header Image/Google Fonts,etc, something I am struggling with because it is my final touch on my new blog. And here I thought I am going to buy my domain,and start writing! Riiiiiiiight.

    Excited,antsy, a lil scared. These are normal fears of the brand new bloggers who have never done this before I am sure. This was a good timely post. I think being yourself was a key advice here. As I form my new blog I think,yea,this is me, but will it attract readers,am I good enough? I have to be more confident in that area. You do feel like you don’t know what you are doing at the beginning.

    So thanks again.

    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Deanna, no one knows what they’re doing in the beginning. We all learn as we go. But first, you have to go. Get off the starting line, and just go. πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 Rivki Silver

    Wonderful list. I can’t think of anything to add; the list seems complete to me. I still have to remind myself not to compare. Blogging certainly has given me so much, and I am so glad that I never stopped! Yay!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      You are a gem, Rivki, never, ever stop. xo

  • August 6, 2013 Arnebya

    Keep at it, is all I have to offer. When you start blogging for the purpose of blogging, of writing, not necessarily fame, sometimes you have to remind yourself to keep at it. Keep it going.

    All of the advice you offer here is worthy for newbies but in the grand scheme, it’s all stuff that each of us, even seasoned pros (of which I am not, still, never will be (I’ll always be learning. That’s another one, new blogger: always be open to learning. You’ll never know it all and once you start thinking you do, it’ll shine like a beacon and no one will appreciate it)) can use.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Keepin’ at it is key, absolutely. It always makes me sad when I see bloggers quit.

  • August 6, 2013 Amy

    Get organized would be my recommendation. I’ve finally gotten to where I am decently organized and it makes a huge difference on my ability to not only post on my own blog more than once a month (gah) but to also interact with the blogs that I love. Figure out a good system early on and stick with it. Great advice Alison – for all bloggers, not just new ones. thanks!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Oh yes, absolutely! I couldn’t live without my editorial calendar, Evernote app and old school planner. Only way to get all the deadlines in line. πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 My Inner Chick

    Excellent. Groovy. Faaaaabulous.

    Brava. Bravo. Magnifico.

    I loved this abundantly, Ms. Alison Lee.

    Ps. My favorite: Be yourself. Be Honest. YESsss.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      You know you’re one of my favorite write it as it is people, right? xoxo

  • August 6, 2013 Stevie

    I’m all smiles today reading this. Alison, I hope you have an idea of how much you have encouraged and inspired so many of us, through your writing, your advice, your friendship, and your business. Hugs to you friend!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Stevie, thank you so much for your kind words!

  • August 6, 2013 Tonya

    You nailed it. Especially that last one. Pinning and tweeting. Nice job.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thanks, you. xo

  • August 6, 2013 Amelia Grace

    Hi Alison, I found you through your comment on Sheryl’s blog ‘Southern life, Indian wife’ and very different blog than what I expected! Your suggestions and advice came good timing πŸ™‚ I enjoy writing and sharing with others but lately have been checking the stats button too much ! So thank you for pointing this out.

    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Amelia, it’s so easy for us to fall into the statistics/ comparison game. I think it’s totally okay to do so once in a while, just to see where you are. But don’t obsess over it. Thanks for stopping by!

  • August 6, 2013 Teresa

    Food for my soul this is…. Thanks for writing and SHARING this. I can feel myself exhaling now.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thank you for your kind words, Teresa.

  • August 6, 2013 Natalie

    These are wonderful tips…and I completely agree!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Natalie!

  • August 6, 2013 Alexa (katbiggie)

    Such great advice! By the way, I gave Little Love a shout out on my post “How Does Your Garden Grow” last Friday. My only advice would be to get a tribe! It’s so frustrating when you pour your heart out in a post and NO ONE RESPONDS! But when you have a tribe, you know those handful of people will always be there to respond and encourage.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Oh yes, a tribe is very important. I’m so glad I have mine.

  • August 6, 2013 Gina Jacobs Thomas (

    Great words of wisdom for novice and veteran bloggers alike! Thanks for the reminder. My favorite tidbit? “Don’t for the love of cupcakes, make shit up.” Same could be said to my kids. Perhaps I need to make a plaque…
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Hah! A plaque is a good idea. πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 Kathy Radigan

    Great advice Alison! Thanks!! As someone who only got an email address two years ago I am amazed at what blogging has opened up for me. Thanks for some helpful reminders!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Kathy, you’re a rockstar!

  • August 6, 2013 keely

    Oh, Alison, if we weren’t already pals, we would be because of the blog-stalking that would have occurred after this post.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Hee! Funny lady. xo

  • August 6, 2013 that cynking feeling

    I think number one is so important. There are ways to increase your stats, but what do you sacrifice to get more page views? I’ve discovered that if I spend a lot of time on social media and/or visiting and commenting on other blogs, I can more views, but then I don’t have that time for writing.
    Stats can be a useful tool to provide feedback, but I’m so glad I didn’t worry about them when I was a new blogger. Spending time writing was way more helpful.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      You’re right. There has to be a balance. No matter how much (or little) I do on social media, I always make time to write.

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • August 6, 2013 Leigh Ann

    I get so bummed when I see a blogger get disheartened by the above things, even though I know i’ve done it too. Such great advice, Alison.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Leigh Ann. I get bummed too. Especially when some bloggers say they want to quit because they’re not getting 10,000 page views.

  • August 6, 2013 It's A Dome Life

    I’ve been blogging for less than two years now. I still think of myself as a new blogger. My statistics go up and down. I’ve already had a heart break or two, but I still have so much to learn. I think not comparing yourself to other bloggers is so important. When I first started some people seemed to attract readers effortlessly and I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong. Then one day I realized that I couldn’t really compare myself to a blogger that had been blogging for over six years. It seems to me that so much of blogging (and getting a readership) has to do with stamina. Just like everything else worth doing it takes passion and lots of work and time. So, my advice would be not to think bloggers with lots of comments and readers (and 10,000 views a day) are an over night sensation. They have probably just been doing this for a long time now and all of their hard work is starting to pay off! Also, don’t give up!
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      There’s a quote along the lines of, don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle, and that holds very true in blogging. Not giving up is a good one too!

  • August 6, 2013 Leslie

    Such a wonderful post. For the first year or so, I obsessed so much over statistics. Now I don’t even worry about it. If I could add anything, it would be to recognize that blogs don’t always need to be seen as revenue sources. One of the best decisions I made was that as long as I’m working outside the home, my blog is my personal space. No ads. No sponsors. No $$ changing hands. (There’s a bit more to it than that, but not chasing the stats anymore was a real life-changer!)
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      I’ve never aimed for my blog to be an income revenue. It’s my place to write because I love it, and to capture some memories of (and for) my children. People who start blogs to make money are barking up the wrong tree. πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 Katie

    I co-sign this entire post. And also, write every day. That doesn’t mean POST every day, but write every day. Even if it’s just a brain dump and you never use any of it. Even if it’s just lists of ideas or words you like in a notebook. As a writing teacher, I live by WRITE EVERY DAY.
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Writing every day is spot on advice, Katie. Spot. On.

  • August 6, 2013 Christy

    Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, Alison! Be honest, be kind, and be authentic are excellent mottos for life as well as blogging! πŸ™‚
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    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      Christy, you’re absolutely right!

  • August 6, 2013 Star Traci

    What terrific heartfelt yet practical advice. I have been blogging for a while now but I still have so much to learn. Thank you for sharing what you have learned.

    • August 6, 2013 Alison

      I’m still learning too, Traci. That’s the beauty of all this! πŸ™‚ Thank you for reading.

  • August 6, 2013 Brittany

    Amen to all of this Alison. There is so much to learn and be aware of and I can say that after 5 years, all of these things hold true.
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      The learning is the fun part!

  • August 6, 2013 Andrea

    Thank you for this, Alison. It’s so important to have this fresh perspective. I need it on repeat sometimes. πŸ™‚
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      I’m happy to press the repeat button, just for you. πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 Cindy

    Hi Alison. Thanks for your advice. I’ve recently started reading your blog now from a publication on news.com.au. I do have a concern of mine though which is how much we can blog about work without it hurting us or getting in trouble. I hear stories about people being fired from their jobs due to stuff said on social media. Work is a huge part of my life so not blogging at all about work means I have little material to go by. Also, how much of ourselves should we really post? What if a potential employer ‘googles’ you, reads your blog and makes a judgement about you during their recruitment process? Lines are blurry when it comes to professional vs personal life.

    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      Cindy, that is a tough one. Since I didn’t blog and my social media activity was limited to Facebook when I was working, I had no such issues.

      I think it’s best to err on the side of caution. Don’t put online what could potentially come back to bite you, and that includes status updates, photos, comments. As for blogging material, if you look hard at the every day, there will be plenty of material to draw from. What about your past? Growing up experiences? Travel experiences? Weekend fun stuff? What are you passionate about? Writing? Reading? Movies? There’s more to life than work, and this is true too, for blogging inspiration.

      Good luck, and thanks for stopping by!

  • August 6, 2013 Bev

    Wonderful tips, Allison!I think it’s so easy to get caught up on the numbers in comparison game, but if you are writing from the heart and for yourself, then in the end they don’t really matter. If you’re writing comes from this place, people will naturally be drawn to it over time.

    I would also add find a blogging community. Being part of SITS has made me truly appreciate blogging and really pursue it.
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      A community is definitely a must. There are so many more things about blogging to write about, there just wasn’t enough space for it all πŸ™‚

  • August 6, 2013 karen

    great advice and all so true. In the end just writing is important and freeing. This advice works for newbies, experienced writers, and all in between.
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      Just writing is definitely freeing. And thank you.

  • August 6, 2013 Leighann

    excellent advice Alison and it comes at the perfect time for me.
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      I’m glad, Leighann!

  • August 6, 2013 Kim

    I don’t think I qualify as a new blogger anymore. But some days? I still feel like I have so much to learn. I look back on where I was a year ago and can see all the growth that got me from there to here, so I can only hope that that will continue as tie goes on.
    I have experienced all of your points at one point or another on my journey – especially the stats and comparing ones. But the connections we forge, the “me too!” moments when you find someone with a similar experience or feeling – or when they find you – those are the gifts that blogging has given me.I am so happy to be fumbling my way along.
    You always have such great insights into blogging, Alison – thank you so much.
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      The connections make it all worthwhile, that’s for sure, Kim!

  • August 6, 2013 Carolyn Y

    Just awesome advice – totally.
    The only thing I can think of – choose your blog (brand) name right – give it some thought, cause you’ll be stuck with it (kind of).
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      Do I know that! Changing my blog name/ URL was the best thing I could do, but it was with some trepidation. I do wish I’d given it more thought.

  • August 6, 2013 julie gardner

    For the love of cupcakes – ha! That’s the best. And also, now, I’m hungry.

    So I think that after three months of not blogging, I qualify as a blog virgin again (not that this was my philosophy with sex probably).

    I may or may not throw myself back into the fray, but I will remember your advice because I, too, know it to be true. It’s just possible I’ve forgotten a bit of it in the past few months.

    Thanks for being super-real all the time, Alison. And for reminding me that cupcakes are delicious.
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison


      I miss you. Please come back. “Rules” don’t apply to you because you’re a real writer, with words that we want to read. Our world is a better place with you and your blog in it.

      I want cupcakes too. All the damn time.

  • August 7, 2013 Julia

    Oh, how I love this. And you. And I totally get it because blogging has opened so many new doors for me and has saved me in so many ways. Meeting amazing bloggers (like you) has been such a gift. Blogging has become one of the best things about my life. And this advice? Is perfection. xo
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      Julia, thank you. I’ve enjoyed seeing you spread your wings and fly, my friend. So very much. xo

  • August 7, 2013 Amy

    I first found your blog last week from a link that Cori @ Olive to Run posted on Twitter. I read your “Don’ts” post and I’ve thought about that list several times over the past week or so (especially when I look in the sink and see dirty dishes, and then decide to go to bed and wash them in the morning). I found your blog again through SITSGirls, and I just have to say how much I love your writing. I think the best writers are those who figure out how to express what many people feel but can never quite identify. That’s why I like your blog.

    These are great tips! Can’t wait to read more.
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      Amy, I want to pink puffy heart your comment!
      Thank you. Thank you so much. It is readers like you who keep me going, when I don’t think I can.

  • August 7, 2013 Barbara

    I’ve been blogging for about 5 months and have learned loads by following blogs such as yours and other successful blogs. You are right it’s not about the numbers or stats, although it is nice to see the numbers moving up. No matter the numbers, you are correct I will continue to blog and write my thoughts and sometimes no one sees them but me, but when I see them and re-read them I smile, even if only to myself. Great post and wonderful tips on how to stay focused on the reason I first started blogging. For me it is a way to say what I think, feel and believe.

    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      Staying focused, getting back to basics – yes, oftentimes, we need to go back to that place. Because that is consistent. That keeps us grounded.

      Thank you so much for you comment, Barbara.

  • August 7, 2013 Jennifer

    What a great post, and I love that you say your heart will be broken. It hasn’t happened to me yet, so I am hoping I somehow come out unscathed when it does…
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    • August 7, 2013 Alison

      Jennifer, I hope it doesn’t happen to you. And thank you.

  • August 8, 2013 Jessica

    I think one of the hardest things, especially in the beginning is to not compare. But it’s really pointless. Instead, make friends with as many people as you can.
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    • August 8, 2013 Alison

      That is good advice!

  • August 9, 2013 Heather

    Amen, sister. love this.

    • August 9, 2013 Alison

      Thank you so much, Heather!

  • August 9, 2013 Jane K

    Alison – this was an amazing blog. I haven’t read your blogs before, but today (my birthday), I really appreciated hearing what you had to write. I’ve had soooo many people telling me our stats are awful – which they are, but I know I will keep trying. Thank you for this.

    • August 9, 2013 Alison

      I hope you had a great birthday, Jane! And thank you for your sweet words, I truly appreciate them.

  • August 9, 2013 Tammy

    So were you thinking about me? Because I can’t stop beginning sentences with “so.” And “because”…;)

    Love the post. So much of blogging is like the rest of life.

    Incidentally, my rule is don’t write anything you wouldn’t say to someone’s face. It works especially well when walking the line with friends and family members.
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    • August 9, 2013 Alison

      That is a really good rule, Tammy. I’m absolutely with you on that.

  • August 9, 2013 Greta

    Fantastic advice, Alison. You’re one of the best!
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    • August 9, 2013 Alison

      Aw, thank you Greta!

  • August 10, 2013 Grownandflown

    Alison, first of all, congratulations on Little Love Media – the logo is adorable and the title seems perfect. I hope it will bring you continued success. This is a wonderful list for new bloggers and I might add that they should seek out seminars or conferences to attend, especially if they are at a low cost and nearby. For networking, improving skills, and feeling connected IRL, meeting other bloggers and learning about their work can be inspirational.
    Over from SITS
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    • August 10, 2013 Alison

      Attending conferences is a recommendation I give to my Little Love Media clients, for all the reasons you list. It’s definitely a good investment.

      Thank you for stopping by!

  • August 10, 2013 Tiffany Haywood

    This is such an uplifting and encouraging post…something I needed to read and hear as a new(ish) blogger πŸ˜€ I believe in the support and giving support to fellow Bloggers but I also know there is a reality that things aren’t always rainbows and roses. This post is definitely something I will be coming back to time and time again. Thank you so much for sharing your insight and I wish you nothing but blessings in your new endeavor.
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    • August 10, 2013 Alison

      Tiffany, thank you so much for your kind words and well wishes!

  • August 10, 2013 Pam

    I loved this post so much. This is great advice for both new and old bloggers.
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    • August 10, 2013 Alison

      Thank you so much, Pam!

  • August 10, 2013 Stephanie B.

    I think the first is so important to remember! It takes continuous hard work to gain followers, and keep them. You have to be committed. That’s my downfall, so I can’t expect 40k visitors in a month. So, I definitely need to stop worrying about my numbers. LOL
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    • August 10, 2013 Alison

      It’s the hard work that people don’t see, they just covet the numbers. You’re right, we just have to be realistic about how much we want to put into this blogging thing. The more we put in, the more we gain. But if we want to lead a balanced life, then something’s gotta give, and blog stats is the first to go for me. πŸ™‚

  • August 10, 2013 Louise

    Thank you very much for this post!! it was very interesting definitely bookmarking this to reread on a bad blogging day!
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    • August 10, 2013 Alison

      Louise, I’m so glad that you liked it. Though I do hope you don’t get those bad days often. πŸ™‚

  • August 11, 2013 Nicole

    Thanks for the advice Alison! As a pretty new blogger, it’s so helpful to hear from people who have already been through the beginning stages of starting a blog, so thank you for this! It’s also very inspiration to hear how you found new opportunities through your blog. I look forward to reading your other posts!
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  • August 11, 2013 Andrea

    Great advice! I especially love that you mention “statistics don’t matter.” I actually just posted my own set of to blogging tips to follow. We’re on the same page!
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    • August 11, 2013 Alison

      Andrea, I read your list, it was awesome!

  • August 11, 2013 Involuntary Housewife

    This is exactly what I needed to hear today, I love blogging but sometimes it feels like things are not where they should be. I try really hard to focus on the small successes and just keep moving. Then something amazing will happen and that is enough to keep me pushing through the bad days!
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    • August 11, 2013 Alison

      I’m glad you’re focusing on the successes, big or small. Keep pushing, and most of all, enjoy it all!

  • August 11, 2013 Alison Hector

    Alison, many, many thanks. I’m just two years into the blogging world and so often I’ve felt like throwing in the proverbial towel. Everything you said makes sense and is true. Persistence, a thick skin, delivering the best possible content, and … being kind! So very, very true. Thanks for the encouragement!
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    • August 11, 2013 Alison

      Alison, thank you for reading, and for your kind words. Don’t throw in the towel, I think you’ve got something good going on there!

  • August 11, 2013 Jen

    Great post. I am struggling with the whole not focusing on statistics thing. Thanks for some great advice.
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    • August 11, 2013 Alison

      I think it’s good to be aware of your stats, but just don’t get too caught up in it. πŸ™‚

  • As always, Alison, you have fantastic advice. Especially about working on your writing craft — and checking grammar and punctuation. I get stopped all the time when reading by poor noun/verb agreement, misplaced modifiers, using “that” when they mean to use “who,” using “your” when they mean to use “you’re,” to name a few common errors. I also loved your point about being kind. One of the most wonderful things I’ve discovered in the blogging world is how kind most people are to bloggers who need a hand. So many veteran bloggers have helped me at Science of Parenthood. I try to pay it forward when I can. What goes around really does come around.
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    • August 12, 2013 Alison

      Paying it forward is a great way to blog, Norine!
      Thank you for your comment.

  • August 12, 2013 Chrisor

    This is some of the best blogging advice I’ve ever seen! I just wish I’d read it 3 years ago before I started blogging. These are things that I need to be reminded of, regularly. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Alison!
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    • August 12, 2013 Alison

      Chrisor, it’s never too late to get better at this blogging thing. Thank you for reading!

  • August 14, 2013 Jasmine

    Love this post! It is so hard to not compare yourself. I think that is the thing I need to work on the most. I see so many amazing blogs it gets hard but thanks for the insight! Adding a new blog to my Must Read list! ☺
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    • August 14, 2013 Alison

      It is hard not to compare. But as someone wise said, don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. And comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on your successes. Do what you love. And you’ll see results. πŸ™‚

  • August 14, 2013 Marta

    I’m so glad that I happened to save this post in my queue to get to when I had time. I’m so glad I was able to carve out a moment of time for it. Brilliant words Alison! I’m not a new blogger, I’ve been blogging for YEARs, and yet it seems still so applicable to me. I don’t have the time to dedicate to blogging. I never will. It will never be my first, second, or third priority (but it is number 4!) and that’s okay. I think I need to stop beating myself up and feeling inadequate. It’s okay that my blog isn’t successful by statistical standards, and may never be. I’m pretty damn successful in my career and that’s just my top priority outside my family and friends right now. Blogging to me has become this dream of “having it all” and honestly if it comes down work, family friends and watching True Blood, Newsroom, Dexter, Breaking Bad, et al or blogging well blogging is just going to lose right now.
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    • August 14, 2013 Alison

      Marta, it’s wonderful that you blog for you. That, I believe, is the secret to longevity in the blogging world. πŸ™‚

  • August 15, 2013 Mo at Mocadeaux

    “Write the way you talk.” I find that to be the key for me. It’s the key to being able to write honestly and authentically and the key to finding joy in blogging. Thanks, Alison, for the words of encouragement and wisdom for us “newbies”!
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    • August 15, 2013 Alison

      Mo, you’re well on your way to blogging success then! πŸ™‚

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