Cake For Breakfast

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On Sunday, the three of us had leftover birthday cake for breakfast. Two of us were not wearing pants, and no one had brushed their teeth. One of us scraped frosting off with a fork, and one of us licked it off his fingers. 

3 layer blue birthday cake

The old (childless) me would have been wagging her finger, shaking her head, and judging someone like me for poor parenting and bad decisions. The same way she (or I – gosh how long can I talk about my former self in third person, I don’t know) judged her brother and sister-in-law for allowing their daughter to eat chicken nuggets and fries almost all the time, and not being potty trained until she was 4. 

When I was expecting my first child, I was a smug know-it-all. Two year old eating crap? Not sitting at the table for meals? Demanding the same food over and over? What’s the big deal? Just offer her what she’s supposed to eat and she’ll eat it when she’s hungry. Three year old not wanting to be diaper-free? Easy, just tell her to go potty because it’s what big girls do. Still crawling into her parents bed every night? No problem, just put her back in her own bed and she’ll stay there.

What is so hard about this parenting thing? Jeez.

I have a child who eats fries for dinner. I still have two children in diapers, although one is already in preschool. I still have one child who sleeps in my bed. 

Plans have gone awry and I don’t have the perfect children. I am far from being the perfect parent. 

I have been defeated and brought to my knees. I have eaten my words over and over. I have fought and lost many battles. 

Do we eat cake for breakfast every day? No. Are we too permissive? I think not. Do my children get away with everything? Hell, no. We do our best to teach them right from wrong. We have routines, bedtimes, meal times, and we do not tolerate screaming, hitting and tantrums. 

But. Parenting? Is full of battles; some worth fighting, others, not so much. What I realized is this: the battles I need to fight, the ones that demand my energy and attention, are not the ones I fight with my children. One day, they will be able to pick out their own clothes, and the top will match the bottom. One day, they will eat a normal breakfast, without cajoling. One day, they will go to the bathroom on their own, and wipe their own butts. One day, they will sleep in their own beds in their own rooms until noon. One day, they will get their own snacks, make their own meals, drive themselves to school, do allthethings, grow up and leave us. 

That day is not far off. 

The battles I need to fight are the ones where I advocate for my children,  in school or in the community. I need to fight to protect them from the worse of the bad stuff in this scary world of guns, crime, greed, anger and hatred. I need to fight the evil forces that abound, to ensure that my boys are the good ones, the ones who stand up against bullies, and not be the bully. I have to fight for their voices, to teach them to be strong and speak up, if they are ever in the minority because of their race, religion, sexuality.

So, cake for breakfast on a Sunday? Yes. Why not? 

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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • July 15, 2013 Nicole

    Let them eat cake! You’re absolutely right that there are far more important battles to fight as parents! It’s far more important to raise kind, compassionate, informed citizens than to force feed organic food at every meal! Plus, cake for breakfast sounds fabulous!
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      All I hope to do is to raise kind and compassionate people. Who like cake for breakfast. πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 Alma

    I so get it Alison.I was different too before kids. I now eat my words for breakfast. I can tell you here and now its all good. My son was a picky eater, but he got over it. at 12 he still has his preferences but I have seen him go through changes. He still does not like his food to touch but he eats so much better. One of the things I told him before he went away to Hawaii was “make sure you try everything on you plate once”. He did not roll his eyes this time. It gets better.
    We have had cookies, ice cream sundays you name it. Hey the Germans eat desert first. They got the right idea. I have slept better when we pick our battles. Cake for breakfast … I say let them eat cake … its 5 o’clock somewhere. ((hugs))
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    • July 15, 2013 Kerstin

      Lol, yes the Germans eat dessert first and have a beer with it πŸ˜‰
      I’m with Alma – it does get better, sometimes you don’t even realize it until you pause and think about it…
      I am a firm picking-the-battles-believer, in child-rearing and marriage!
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      • July 21, 2013 Alison

        Yes, in marriage too, absolutely. πŸ™‚

    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      It’s very reassuring to know that they do grow out of picky phases!

      Yes, it’s always cake o’clock somewhere πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 Andrea

    I so completely love this. I know. I totally know. It’s so easy to think all these things will fall into place, and to say, I’ll never … and then you have kids. And then? You do. It’s okay. They’re fine. You’re fine. Cake is yummy and you’re the mom who ROCKS!
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Oh Andrea, I just want to be an okay mom, I don’t need to rock. But THANK YOU!

  • July 15, 2013 Jennice

    Thank God for this post! I find myself feeling so,guilty for sometimes letting my daughter pig out on junk food,letting her stay,up,until 5 in,the morning,or spending all day in front of the t.v. sometimes. In the grand scheme of things, she is normal and heathy child and I make sure of that!
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      She’s normal and healthy? You’re doing good!

  • July 15, 2013 Elaine A.

    Dude, It has eggs and milk!!

    And like you said, in the grand scheme of things, cake for breakfast ain’t no big thang. ;p


    p.s. When I was in college and say my SIL (who had 3 small children at the time) didn’t shave her legs for a while I was all, “Eww”. And now guess who goes a while without shaving sometimes. Ahem.
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      YES it had a load of eggs! πŸ™‚
      (oh yes, the leg shaving, ahem)

  • July 15, 2013 Michelle

    I think we all knew so much about parenting until we actually became one! Haha. I agree with you that your time is better spent as an advocate. We all know that they will eventually shed the diapers! I’m waiting for the clean up help…they can make their own meals, but seldom clean up their mess! Ugh.
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      I hope to do as good a job as my Mom with my boys, she made me the clean up freak that I am πŸ™‚

  • Mmm, cake for breakfast is yum. Picking our battles is right! Why sweat the small stuff? Eventually, our kids will grow into responsible, caring adults. It’s all good … is what I keep telling myself. πŸ˜›
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      I hope so, Bruna!

  • July 15, 2013 Stevie

    Cake for breakfast? Yes please! A couple weeks ago after Father’s Day I ate cupcakes for breakfast. This made me smile. I remember my Mom letting me eat cake and pie a few times for breakfast, after a holiday or birthday. And I’d like to think I turned out okay. πŸ™‚ Most important, is that you children are loved.
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      It’s good to know from a child’s perspective what cake for breakfast did for them – and that it’s not a bad thing. πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 tracy

    Cake(and pie) is one of our favorite breakfasts. yum. xo
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      We’ll all get along just fine! xo

  • July 15, 2013 Susanna Leonard Hill

    Excellent post, Alison! You have beautifully articulated where the true battles lie. A little cake for breakfast never hurt anyone πŸ™‚
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Susanna!

  • July 15, 2013 Ilene

    I love this! My kids eats ice cream for breakfast once a week. It’s part of the fun of being a kid as far as I’m concerned!
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Fun it definitely was!

  • July 15, 2013 NJ

    “What I realized is this: the battles I need to fight, the ones that demand my energy and attention, are not the ones I fight with my children.” This is the one of the best things about parenting I’ve ever read. Thank you for reminding me that my battles are not found in my children, but in the world!
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      It seems so simple, but we forget it so easily!

  • July 15, 2013 thekitchwitch

    Hooray for cake for breakfast. We ate peach pie for breakfast last week. Why not? And oh, the potty training. I thought we’d never be done.
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Peach pie – fruit, so perfectly good for breakfast as far as I’m concerned.
      Potty training, ugh. Hold me.

  • July 15, 2013 Tomekha

    You are right. You have to choose your battles wisely; reserve your strength for the ones that really matter. (y)
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Reserving my strength, yes, absolutely!

  • July 15, 2013 Kim

    I am a big believer in pick-your-battles parenting. Some things are just not worth stressing about when there are far more pressing concerns, whether in the moment or down the road. A repeated meal or cookies for breakfast isn’t the end of the world – at least they are eating, right?
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      That’s what I figured πŸ˜‰

  • July 15, 2013 Laura

    Goodness, this is a fabulous post, my love. I could not have said it better myself.
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Thank you! You could have said it better, but you’re too busy moving and stuff. πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 Shannon

    I think it would be a little sad to go through childhood and never, ever have dessert for breakfast. See? You’ve done them a service.
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Hah! Thanks Shannon. πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 Christopher D Drew

    Very interesting. I am not sure if we have ever eaten cake for breakfast, not yet anyway, but we are trying to pick our battles much more carefully now. This is a great reminder.
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Try it. It’s life changing. πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 Dana

    So true and so well said, Alison. The day has come in my home where I wipe no bottoms, pick out no clothes, and am the first one awake at 9:30 on a summer morning. I don’t need to battle my kids on these things, but I need to give them the strength and voices to fight their own battles. Cake for breakfast will be a fabulous memory for your kids and for you – we had cookies for dinner one night on vacation and the kids thought it was awesome (honestly, so did I!)
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      I do want my children to look back one day and recall with happiness that Mom let them have cake for breakfast. πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 Natalie

    Yes! Sometimes life is a little sweeter with cake…and some battles aren’t worth it. Isn’t it funny how we thought our parenting styles would be until we actually had children. Yeah it’s like a big slap in the face LOL!
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    • July 21, 2013 Alison

      Bitch slapped actually. πŸ™‚

  • July 15, 2013 Jessica Smock

    Yes, definitely let them each cake sometimes… Or cookies or candy once in a while. Shouldn’t we teaching our kids that life is about balance and unexpected joy?
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    • July 22, 2013 Alison

      Balance and unexpected joy – yes!!

  • July 15, 2013 FitBritt

    Your post makes me laugh Alison because I have not had children yet and I think a lot like how you describe your pre-child self. I have a feeling there will be so much to learn when that time comes. At least I’ve had fair warning.
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    • July 22, 2013 Alison

      Just throw all those expectations and all-knowing thoughts into the bin πŸ™‚

  • July 16, 2013 Leah Davidson

    The best memories are made over cake for breakfast, and guzzling pop from a bottle, eating ice cream for dinner, and ordering pizza at midnight. I’m all for order, structure, rules, organization, security, stability etc. etc. but we need the FUN, and the spontaneous, and the wacky and unheard of!
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    • July 22, 2013 Alison

      Coming from an experienced mom like you definitely makes me feel better about cake for breakfast. πŸ™‚

  • July 16, 2013 Tamara

    Look at you with the DSLR skills – you make that cake come alive! Seriously. Can I have some? I think this is pretty much perfect. I laugh at my old smugness. (smugity?) I did think I’d have perfect children. Why do we think that?! My first didn’t have sugar until she was 18 months, at least. My second had it by 8 months, I’m certain. If I had cake here, I might give it to him for breakfast. Occasionally, of course.

    These moments will pass. So true. There are bigger battles to fight, unfortunately, and I knew that coming in. I knew that this imperfect world would be hard to explain to my (imperfect) children. Is it so lame to say, “Let them eat cake!”?
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    • July 22, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Tamara, I’ve been practicing a lot with my camera, and I’m taking a great online course to help me better my photos.

      It’s not lame at all! (also, same here, my first never ate anything sweet until he was like 2, and the baby is well, at a great advantage)

  • July 16, 2013 Kim

    I love this! Thank you for the reminder. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, it is easy to forget that mis-matching clothes and a diet that consists of Fruit Loops is not going to matter a short time from now. I have to remind myself to focus on the big picture instead of the little one.
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    • July 22, 2013 Alison

      The big picture is definitely a prettier one πŸ™‚

  • July 16, 2013 Mandi Noel

    My mom always let us eat cake for breakfast every morning after our birthdays until the cake was gone. I still do it to this day. And I will probably do it with my kids because it’s like a special tradition. And those special moments are worth way more than following the rules. I think you’re doing a great job as a mom! πŸ™‚
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    • July 22, 2013 Alison

      I love that it’s a tradition with you. I think that’d be our new tradition. And thank you Mandi.

  • July 16, 2013 Jennifer

    I want to eat cake for breakfast. James eats either a corn dog or pizza rolls every morning when he gets up. I’m happy he’s eating. Who cares if it isn’t the “right” food at the “right” time?
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Yes, exactly! It’s food and they’re eating – I have to be grateful for that.

  • July 16, 2013 Christine

    Absolutely. I’m learning to pick my battles and there are a lot that really aren’t worth fighting in the sense that they aren’t about the real important stuff. I had SO MANY different ideas and opinions before I had kids and now, really? All I want is for my kids to be happy and to feel loved.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      It really is just about that, isn’t it?

  • July 16, 2013 Amanda Jillian

    Sometimes we have brownies for breakfast, usually when I’m on my period lol
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      That’s a once-a-month guarantee of cake for breakfast then πŸ™‚

  • July 16, 2013 keely

    I adore this. I adore you. And I’m pretty sure I’d adore eating anything you’ve baked.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      You know you’re welcome for breakfast any time πŸ˜‰

  • July 16, 2013 Poppy

    I want THAT cake for breakfast! Loved this post.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Would have saved some for you if you were nearer, Poppy!

  • July 16, 2013 Leslie

    I’m all for cake for breakfast every once in a while. Some days just need to start off more special than others. I don’t think any parent would say that their attitude hasn’t changed since having kids. You’re doing the best you can.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      I sure hope so, Leslie!

  • July 16, 2013 Rach (DonutsMama)

    Yup, pick your battles. Not everything is worth fighting for. Parenting is a constant negotiation of give & take.

    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      It is definitely a negotiation!
      (and what are you doing blog reading so soon after giving birth??)

  • July 16, 2013 Amy

    Amen. I love this, and I need to serve cake for breakfast more often.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      We all should!

  • July 16, 2013 Mama and the City


    I would have cake any minute too. If my kid and family is healthy and are having such a great and bonding time, that trumps the feeling of imperfection and guilt by a million.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Feel no guilt. That is the message. πŸ™‚

  • July 16, 2013 Katie

    Oh this is me too. I am all about choosing my battles. Sometimes that means Charlie eats just peaches for dinner. Whatever. We are consistent in our teaching of kindness, gratefulness, graciousness, and joy. The rest will come, right? I assume so and that is what gets me through each day.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Girlfriend, I think you’re doing alright.
      (also, peaches is fruit. Fruit is good for you)

  • I am a huge advocate of cake for breakfast … little difference btw cake and pancakes or waffles or french toast. AND It makes me look good …
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Right? They’re eating, so no issue!

  • July 17, 2013 Jessica

    I agree, wholeheartedly. In the grand scheme of things, it’s the very little battles that make you want to rip your hair out that won’t amount to much. It will be those little things, like cake for breakfast and a missed nap, that you’ll look back on and say, “That feels so small…now.” Some battles, as you rightfully say, are worth fighting, but many aren’t. And parenting is a lot more fun and less predictably “hard” when you let go and just let some things be.

    p.s. That cake looks yummy!
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Parenting is hard enough – when I can, I want to make it easier. For everyone!
      (It was yummy!)

  • July 17, 2013 vanita

    mind meld. we had cake for breakfast this morning too. wasn’t even good cake. store bought golden cake with chocolate frosting. i blame younger teen. i was on deadline this morning, practically losing my mind. feel behind when we were out of power for 4 hours. younger teen decides she must have cake before the little ones wake up. she spoke too soon. it was like they could smell the cake in their sleep. now i should have pushed that they have real food for breakfast first and cake after lunch. i should have. but the whining. the tantrums. i just could not be the strict parent this morning. so they had cake and i met my 9am deadline. afterwards they had breakfast. sometimes you gotta let them eat cake to keep your sanity. its part of motherhood i guess. so glad i’m not alone.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      You are so not alone!!
      (smell cake in their sleep, haha!)

  • July 17, 2013 Maureen

    Alison, this post brought me to tears – I’m such an emotional mess today – but your boys will turn into wonderful amazing men having you as their mother. Really.
    Oh and I’d take that cake for breakfast any day πŸ˜€

    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Maureen, I hope so, because most days, I don’t feel so awesome. πŸ™‚

  • Cake for breakfast, sure why not. There are more important things to worry about/battles to fight. After all, that cake probably has the same calorie content as your average croissant.
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  • July 17, 2013 Kathy Radigan

    Alison I too had a list of things I would never, ever do as a parent. Three kids later I know better!! I love that you had cake for breakfast, there is something fun and playful that we teach our children when we do things like this. We have done the same thing from time to time, and we always have fun.

    The other day we did a backward dinner where the kids ate their dessert first and then had dinner, do we do this everyday, no, but it was so cute to see my 8 year old get so excited by backwards day that it had me thinking what other little rules we could let slip every now and then! Thanks!
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    • July 17, 2013 Ashley

      Do you know how much I love this?? Sunday night I wrote a very similar post, except it was ice cream for dinner! Sometimes, you just gotta do what you just gotta do. The days pre-school are so much the trenches; my oldest will be going to second grade and it’s such a difference (of course, I threw in another baby so there’s that.) I usually try to use him as a reminder of how fleeting it all is. That works about 10% of the time because it’s just.plain.hard with little ones. And sometimes, you just have to have cake!
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      • July 23, 2013 Alison

        Y’know, I thought it’d be hard the first year with the baby, and a toddler. Now that one is in preschool and the baby IS the toddler? It’s not easier. It’s just as challenging, just different. So yes, it is just plain hard. Cake for breakfast and ice cream for dinner FTW!

    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Backward dinner is so awesome, Kathy!!

  • July 18, 2013 Alexa (katbiggie)

    I love it! We have cake in our underwear for breakfast sometimes too! And yes, you have to pick your battles. I certainly pick mine.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Cake- check. Underwear – check. We’re set. Off to make memories. πŸ™‚

  • July 18, 2013 Triplezmom

    I would like to write a wonderful description of how much I loved your post, but all I can think about now is cake.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Hah! Thank you. πŸ™‚

  • July 19, 2013 Greta

    First of all, did you make that cake? The ombre is so pretty and it looks DELCIOUS. It’s all about picking the battles, isn’t it? We could stop our kids from doing certain things all day long, we could be relentless in our quest for daily uber-healthy meals, etc. But MAN. That would be a lot of work, and there are much, much bigger things to worry about. Our kids are eating fries? At least they’re eating.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      I did! It was pretty yummy. One of the best vanilla cake recipes I’ve tried.
      Also, yes, it is a lot of work telling them no this, no that. I’m all for easy parenting when it’s possible. So yes, cake? Fries? It’s still food.

  • July 20, 2013 karen

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this post…so true babe. you do need to pick your battles, if you fight the wrong one you both lose. I used to think I knew everything about parenting before I had kids…now I just know what’s best for my son.
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Karen! Knowing what is best for your child, is the most important thing.

  • What a great post, Allison! A wonderful reminder that “good enough” parenting is a-okay. Plus, that cake in your picture looks delish! Did you make that? Reminds me of the rainbow “ombre” cake my sister and nephew made for July 4. And I’d have eaten that one for breakfast. (Though I might not have been so keen to share!) Wonderful post. A joy to read you!

    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      I did make that! It was a very good vanilla cake recipe, I added the colors myself. And thank you for your kind words!

  • July 20, 2013 Anna Hettick

    I love this! I too was a bit smug when I was pregnant with my first….then reality set in….Do we eat a perfectly balanced diet here? No hardly…Are the kids happy and well fed? Yes. Which one matters? The second! Don’t get me wrong, we try, but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. πŸ™‚

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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Smug is the right word, Anna!
      Happy indeed. The kids were delighted (and probably a little on a sugar high) afterwards. Best Sunday ever.
      Thanks for visiting!

  • July 20, 2013 Bev

    I’m bookmarking this post for when my little one makes her appearance in the world! I think there are so many things you have to contend with with being a parent and raising children, and they don’t often follow the prescribed plans as adults we make for them. I am sure I have lots of ideas about raising my children that will get squashed once they are actually here and their little personalities form, and I am sure I will be eating lots of my past words one day. And I say nothing wrong with cake for breakfast once in awhile!
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Oh, we are so know-it-all, then the kids show up and teach us what is really important, lol.
      You’ll do good, Bev!

  • July 20, 2013 Tiffany Haywood

    Alison, I used to be that person to looking at other people’s kids wondering how they let them do this or that. But then I became a Mom and realized some moment ARE worth more than the time it takes to make something perfect. Thanks for sharing…

    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Well said, Tiffany!

  • July 21, 2013 Kesha of We Got Kidz

    Okay, so that sounds like a AWESOME morning. lol. Great piece πŸ™‚
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      It was!

  • July 21, 2013 RenΓ©e β™₯

    Long ago, when my five daughters were still little (they are 12-26 now), their grandma came over and spent the night. She told me to sleep in, telling me that she would fix them breakfast. When I went downstairs, there they all were, sitting around the kitchen table eating chocolate cake for breakfast. Instead of getting upset, I laughed, and I made a decision right then and there – when I am a grandma (I am now!) I will feed my grands chocolate cake whenever I want to. Because you’re right – it’s not like they are going to eat cake for breakfast forever. You are a very wise young woman to know how and where to pick your battles, and wiser to know that acting as advocate for our children is one of our most important roles. Bravo!
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      RenΓ©e, thank you so much for your comment. I think you’re an awesome mother and grandmother!

  • July 21, 2013 Katie E

    Sounds like you’re pretty good at this parenting thing πŸ™‚ There are MUCH bigger battles than cake for breakfast! It sounds pretty awesome to me πŸ™‚
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      Oh I don’t know, Katie, I’m just skating by the seat of my pants!

  • July 22, 2013 Mariann

    Well said, Alison! I learned to pick my battles long ago, when it comes to my children and being their mother. In due time, they’ll get most of those things right. Even if they don’t, that’s okay too!
    My Littlest Gal ate an oatmeal cream cookie for breakfast last week and I was okay with that. Some times not having it all figured out, works out for the best!
    Great reminder of what parenting is really about!
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      You’re absolutely right, Mariann!

  • July 22, 2013 Tonya

    Why not indeed? You gotta live a little. And? YUM!!
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    • July 23, 2013 Alison

      YES! And YES!

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