Time, I’m Sorry

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Is it possible to feel like a failure twice in one day, in a matter of hours?

Yes, yes it is.

The first time was when I snapped at my oldest, for throwing cookies all over the clean floor. His face fell, feelings clearly hurt. As I grumpily went about vacuuming the crumbs, it struck me that in that moment – I had just lost it over crumbs.

“Failure! Failure! Failure!” my inner bitch screamed.

When nap time for the boys came, I couldn’t get them to their rooms quick enough. As I said, “Sleep tight, buddy,” in a slightly strangled tone to the cookie-throwing boy, he waved me off with a cheery, “BYE!”

He’d already forgiven me for yelling. I hadn’t forgiven myself. This time, silent whispers of “failure, failure, failure” rang in my head.

Utterly defeated, I sat down at my desk, turned on my laptop, and the first thing I read, hit me squarely in the gut. “Why don’t we allow children to feel the same things we feel as adults? Why aren’t they allowed to have a bad day? Or be grumpy?”

I had not given my son the grace of just being human. I had piled on expectations on him, because of my own standards. I hadn’t given him leeway to just be three years old. On the other hand, I was grumpy all morning, I complained and bitched, I yelled and showed displeasure. I was acting like a toddler having a bad day.

Later that day, I found myself alone with him. We had settled down quietly – me, writing, him, drawing.

Then, he stopped, took my hands, said, “Mama,” and climbed into my lap. As I held my firstborn in my lap, his head on my shoulder, I noticed that his legs seemed to have lengthened overnight. I reminisced when he used to sleep on me, his little head over where my heart beat, his legs curled up on my stomach. As I inhaled the scent of a 3 year old and held a hand bigger than I remember it, I realized with great certainty two things: that my son has given me the grace of being a fully flawed human whom he loves unconditionally, and that time is not on my side.

Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”  ― Mother Teresa

Time is a thief. It steals away all the minutes and hours when their brains grow, their limbs lengthen, and their independence flourishes.

Time is a liar. It tells me that my days are long because nerves are frayed, and tempers are lost over the smallest things.

Time is devious. It hides from us all the tiny moments that truly bring joy and rounds up your days, by showing us our perceived failures.

By wishing it away (“I can’t wait for them to be old enough to wipe their own butts! I can’t wait for them to leave me alone in the bathroom!”), I have made time my enemy.

Time, I am sorry. Slow down a little, let’s be friends again. I need all of what you can give, and I promise not to waste a single minute. Thank you.

Do you ever wish time away?

I wrote a letter to first-time mothers-to-be over at Everyday Family. Would love for you to read it – it has a picture of me with a brand-new Monkey boy in it!

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • June 5, 2013 Kerstin

    Yes, I have often wished for time to fly and make things “easier” for me. (I even wrote a poem about it: http://kerstinauer.tumblr.com/post/18585655103/best-days). But with every little milestone I feel left out a little more and I’m not sure what to do with myself.
    It’s the expectations on my kids and on myself (and allowing both of us to simply be human, bad days and all) that keep me from enjoying the present. Le Sigh, it’s constant struggle, but I’m working on it!
    Glad you are, as well. xo
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      It is a constant struggle. When I think it’s a win, it turns out that it wasn’t really, it just wasn’t a fail. I need to ease expectations on my children, on myself. We all do.

  • June 5, 2013 Maureen

    This is just so beautiful, Alison and oh how very true?!
    I recognize myself too from your post…the grumpy toddler in a form of a mom? Yeah, that would be me just different setting. My setting: me feeling dead tired in bed wishing my boy would stop talking and go to sleep already. Him: Just wanting to spend the little time he have of the day with his Mommy. Guilty guilty guilty yes. Thank for you for this beautiful reminder.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Aw, hon. That must be SO hard. To be a working, single mom. Here I am with all the support, and I’m complaining. Sigh. Must be better tomorrow. You are awesome, don’t forget it!

  • June 5, 2013 Jessica

    Oh, this is so true. My son told me the other night, “Mom, I wish I could be a kid forever.” I said, “Me, too, buddy.”
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      From the mouth of babes. Sigh.

  • June 5, 2013 Elaine A.

    I used to wish it away after my first was born. Those first days when I was home with him were so long and honestly, quite hard. But of course now, sometimes I wish I had them back.

    And you spoke to me when you said we just need to let them be human beings. Pure truth.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Right? It should be so simple but when I realized it, I felt like the person who discovered electricity. Like, whoa, universal truth. Putting it into practice however, is much, much harder.

  • June 5, 2013 Kate

    This brought tears to my eyes! I felt the same way today and you said it so eloquently! As I looked at my firstborn getting his first haircut and my smallest starting to pull up on things…time is not on our side. Thank you for a fabulous post!
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Time is most certainly not on our side – we need to bring it back though!

  • June 5, 2013 Roshni

    Such an amazing, spontaneous moment caught on camera! Love the photo and the post!
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    • June 5, 2013 Stevie

      Alison, this was so beautiful. I too have often felt at odds with time. I used to always want to fast forward. I’m trying to learn now at this point in my life to be more present and just enjoying the moment at hand. I know when the day comes for motherhood I’ll be tested even more. What a beautiful glimpse into the trials and beauty of motherhood.
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      • June 7, 2013 Alison

        Motherhood really turns what you think you know on its head.
        You are well on your way for motherhood-preparedness, by knowing to stay in the present and just be.

    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Roshni!

  • June 5, 2013 Onica {MommyFactor}

    I use to wish for the time my son was “older” and more interactive instead of clinging to me. Well that time has come. This month he turns 5 but things aren’t going as I thought. He’s interactiveness keeps him away from me more as he “interacts” with the world and all it’s wonders. Time is truly fleeting. Forgive yourself for the mistakes and enjoy the “now” moments. Kids are great teachers about this and do it very well
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      They truly are.

  • June 5, 2013 Susanna Leonard Hill

    What a wonderful post, Alison. You have captured one of the hardest things about motherhood so beautifully – that dichotomy between time the thief and time the liar. How easy it is to let the minutiae get to us in the day-to-day, but how suddenly those moments take us by surprise when we realize that, seemingly overnight, our babies have grown so fast and left things behind forever. (That said, there’s a difference between cookies thrown on the floor and cookies dropped accidentally :)) The fact that you think about these things proves you’re aware of them, and if you’re aware, then you care and are trying to be the best mom you can be. There are always going to be moments when our tempers or grumpiness get the best of us – just like the children have moments when they melt down – but I think the important thing is to try to keep your perspective. To remember that ultimately, as you say, time is not on our side. And to grant each other, parents and children alike, the grace to be ourselves and the gift of unconditional love.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Oh, I love that last line, Susanna! As always, you’re ever so wise.

  • June 5, 2013 sara

    This is beautiful, and so reflective of what I’ve been feeling lately. Thanks for sharing it.

    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Sara, for reading.

  • June 5, 2013 Kathy Radigan

    Alison this one really got to me. Especially as I approach the 8th grade graduation of our eldest child. I look at my man-child and I literally feel as if I just blinked his babyhood away. Not that I didn’t enjoy it, because I did, but the speed in which our children grow is frightening. Thanks for this, before I roll my eyes or get impatient with my children because they are moving so “slowly” today, I will say a silent prayer and soak it all in!! Wonderful post!!
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Kathy! And oh my, 8th grade graduate, that’s big!

  • June 5, 2013 Kim

    So true about time.
    I used to wish it away when I was younger. I couldn’t wait for the next event, the next birthday, the next milestone – they seemed to take forever to arrive. Then once I became a mother, it seemed that time sped up. (And it keeps going faster, it seems.)
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Right? The going faster thing is crazy. And scary and sad. Sigh.

  • June 5, 2013 thekitchwitch

    I needed these words. I always feel so guilty about wishing time away–which I’m very guilty of doing, because parenting is messy and hard. I love how you point out that your son forgave you before you forgave yourself. They’re more generous souls than we are.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Oh yes, it is messy and SO, SO super hard.
      My boy is so ever forgiving. I think he knows he has to be, or everyone will be very unhappy. Savior.

  • June 5, 2013 Felicia

    I remember when I was younger always wishes to be older, to be an adult. Now, I find myself wanting that time back to enjoy my childhood more and to appreciate it. Even today, every now and then I find myself wishing that it was next year because then I would be finished getting my degree, but once it’s over, I know I’m going to regret wishing that time away. It’s hard, sometimes, to enjoy the present and not wish for the future. Every now and then, though, I think it’s important for us to stop and think of what we’ll miss if we keep wishing for the future instead of living in the moment and enjoying it.

    I really enjoyed this post, it was another great reminder to me that I should enjoy today and stop wishing for tomorrow.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      It’s only human nature, to want to get to the next thing quickly. Then when we get there, we want to get to the next thing again. And totally not enjoying that moment we’ve waited for. Let’s all pledge to slow down and soak it in. 🙂

  • June 5, 2013 Laura

    Sigh. This makes me want to cry and hug you and hug my kids and cry again and tell you “it is normal”. I hope you can give yourself as much grace as your precious big boy does!
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      You know I welcome hugs anytime, my friend! But not tears. 🙂

  • June 5, 2013 Alexandra

    Time has become my great enemy.

    I’ve decided that the only way to tame its ever crushing intrusion in my life is to give it my back.

    “I don’t see you there, and if I need to find you, I know where to look for you.”

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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      That is a good move. You’re ever so wise. xo

  • June 5, 2013 Tamara

    I love how forgiving three-year-olds are. I’ll think something tragic took place – me losing patience against my precious kid, but she’s usually over it fast and all bright and sunny within minutes. I totally wish time away often – “Until my husband gets home…” “Can’t wait until the little one is potty trained (at 11 months old, not happening soon)” etc. And I also panic at how fast it can go and does go.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      It’s so natural to wish the hard parts away. But with the hard, comes the unexpected bright spots. And I’ll hate to miss those.

  • June 5, 2013 Katie

    Time is one of those things I love and hate at the same time. I really don’t feel bad about wishing things like tantrums and poop explosions away. But I do feel bad when I react like a witch to something that didn’t need that reaction. When I expect my boys to be something other than 1 and 3. I don’t want to rush through the ages because someday soon enough these ages will be a faint memory and I will long for them when I get a whiff of baby or toddler from somewhere else.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Yes, I don’t feel bad about wishing away the not-so-good parts of parenting. But time in general, it’s passing us by so quickly. The baby is already 13 months old and walking. Like, what? Sigh.

  • June 5, 2013 Shannon

    This rings so true to me. Even with teenagers, I still have to watch my expectations and allow them to be human. Whenever I get bent out of shape over something small, I have to stop and remember what I was like when I was their ages.
    And time, oh time. College is just around the corner with my oldest. How did that happen?

    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      OMG college! Shannon! How are you coping? (I’d be in a ball in the corner when the time comes)

  • So hard not to feel this way .. time simply marches on no matter what I do.
    btw, I love this quote … I made a pretty floral pin of it a while back, will have to find it for you.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Would love to see your Pin!
      And yes, time just keeps on keeping on.

  • June 5, 2013 Andrea

    I love, love, love this. Especially “Time is devious. It hides from us all the tiny moments that truly bring joy and rounds up your days, by showing us our perceived failures.”

    I am guilty of allowing time to “round up” my days instead of enjoying the moments. Thank you for this post. This attitude towards time, to become friends with it again, is something that I need to be reminded.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Andrea, there’s nothing better for a writer than having her words quoted back to her, so thank you. Thank you for reading and your kind words. Let us all try and be friends with Time!

  • June 5, 2013 Natalie

    This has been me for the past two days b/c I’m sick…my patience is running then and I have snapped at the oldest more times than I can count. I instantly feel guilty…and like you said I need to give him slack b/c he’s only human and we all get grumpy.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Yes, we do. Especially when we’re sick. 🙂

  • June 5, 2013 Keely

    Aaand now she’s crying. You’re being very hard on yourself. But I get it. Because I do the exact same. Hugs and high-fives and smooth days to you.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      You are not the yelly type. I just don’t see it. Thank you. xo

  • June 5, 2013 Tricia

    Oh I wish it away all the time. And then I wish it back. I literally fight with myself these days. One minute I’m desperately wishing that my 7 month old would hurry up and crawl and walk and talk because making dinner or playing at the park become more fun (and easier) when he can do those things. And then the next, I’m soaking up his baby face and our hours of nursing and refusing to give away the baby things he’s already grown out of. Time is so very tricky.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      It is. Oh, Time, Stop driving us crazy!

  • June 6, 2013 Michelle

    Yes, I have definitely wished time away and you are right, we shouldn’t do that!! It’s precious and we can’t get those moments back!
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Most of the moments are precious. Some like poopy days (literally), not so much. But still, wishing time away only exacerbates the guilt. 🙂

  • June 6, 2013 Jessica Smock

    I’m sitting here now at my computer with a wailing two year old in his room who refuses to nap in his room, screaming, “Mommy, come back! Mommy, come back!” For the last half hour of tired tantrums I’ve been wishing to myself that my son would outgrow this horrible stage of simultaneous defiance and clinginess. But this is a great reminder that I shouldn’t “wish” any stage away. Someday I’ll be thinking wistfully of the days when my son would scream for hours rather than be alone in his crib without me.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      He just wants to be with his Mom. But they’re just not very good at expressing themselves, are they? It’s all par for the course, they are raising us as much as we are them.

  • June 6, 2013 Leah Davidson

    I used to wish I could just get my boys to sleep through the night. I fantasized how great it would be to not have to get up in the middle of the night and everyone sleep straight through. The day eventually came, and now I creep into their rooms and watch them sleep and sometimes have the urge to wake them up to share those nighttime moments with me – when we were all alone in our little world…. it passes too quick. Every stage now, especially the ones that “annoy me”, I try to remind myself, I will miss this one day.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      I do wish sometimes that my youngest would sleep through the night, as much for him as for me. But I do love snuggling him in the middle of the night!

  • June 6, 2013 Adrienne

    Oh Alison. I just lost my shit on my oldest. It’s just one of those days here. I’m such a bitch, I don’t even feel bad-well I didn’t until now. Some of my rant was validated, but (sigh…) as I sit here and read your post, I realize what my heart already knew. Anger is never the answer. Time sucks and now I can’t get that 2 seconds back. The thing that sucks most? 14 year old teens are not nearly as forgiving as 3 year old toddlers. Excuse me while I curl up and cry in my pillow now.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      You’re not a bitch!! You’re just human. I lost my shit with my oldest so many times, and there was one time, it really scared him, and it scared me. I was horrible. And I realized there and then, that it needed to stop. I needed to stop, and just breathe. Just breathe, honey. Teenagers are so hard.

  • June 6, 2013 Lady Jennie

    I have other favorites of yours, but this might be your finest yet. So well articulated, so relatable.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Aw, hon, thank you. Truly.

  • June 6, 2013 Charlotte

    This is so incredibly beautiful. You’re not alone in feeling this way (I do hope you realize that). It’s hard to get lost in a moment and forget that everything else is inconsequential. But sometimes taking that necessary step back to understand, appreciate, and revel is what life is truly about. And you had that and you deserve to forgive yourself for it. Your son already has 🙂

    Oooof, this picture. Melts my heart. So very sweet. XOXO
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      You didn’t notice the dust on my desk then? 🙂
      Thank you for your sweet words, love. xo

  • Everytime I see how my kids turn into longlimbed toddlers instead of small balls of soft babyness…
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Right?? The bundles of fat all just …. gone…

  • June 6, 2013 Amanda Jillian

    They grow so fast it’s just not fair.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Yeah, totally unfair.

  • June 6, 2013 Ilene

    Sometimes I wish time away and sometimes, I just want it to stop. And I snap at my kids too for being human and then want to go back in time for a do over. But we are all human, we all snap – and thank God, we all forgive.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      The kids are more forgiving. I feel awful sometimes. Sigh.

  • June 6, 2013 Leslie

    My FIL has always told his sons to stop growing up, and ‘complains’ that they never listened. The worst thing that Time seems to have done to me is it has taken away some of those precious memories of T as a baby. I vaguely remember rocking her as an infant, but the way she is now is crowding out those sweet moments that I don’t want to forget. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Kids and adults all have tough days…thankfully we have enough love to forgive and move on.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      I just keep stumbling over myself. I tell myself I will be better tomorrow, then I’m not. And I have to keep going anyway. And the children are just growing and growing. Sigh.

  • June 6, 2013 Robin

    Been there. Done that. Wished the same. But tomorrow is a new day. 🙂
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      It is, indeed.

  • June 6, 2013 jaim

    my eyes are so full reading this. i allow myself to feel so worn sometimes, splitting my attention poorly between two young children. and other times i hold them so close, trying desperately to smell the baby scent on their heads- now long gone- and hope my embrace will keep them small just for a little bit longer.

    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Oh, you are NOT alone, my friend!

  • June 6, 2013 Christine

    We’ve all had days like that. At least, I have had multiple days like that. It’s so true that we expect our kids to be on their best behavior all the time. And you’re right – it’s not fair. I have wished time to move faster and lately, I’ve really wanted it to slow down. My boys are getting way too big too quickly. It makes me sad that Jasper doesn’t quite fit on my lap anymore, even all curled up.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      We see them every day, yet it’s such a surprise when we realize how big they’ve really gotten. Sigh.

  • June 6, 2013 bru

    I had the very same moment! I, too, begged for time to go slow…when I was working in an office for 14 hours a day and I have not seen my son grow each day. It was until I asked him who “mommy” was and he pointed out the picture on the wall. He didn’t know me! I bargained for time to go slow and I’ll stay at home. I did, but I’m still keeping up with it. 🙂
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      I think it’s lovely that you’re enjoying time with your boy now.

  • June 6, 2013 Andrea

    Such a nice post! I tend to wish time away when I’m at work or on a long flight. Daily I’m trying hard to fit this, that, and the other into 3 hours. Never happens, so I end up staying up way late into the night. The next morning I’m back to wishing time to go speed up so that I can return home only to do the same thing again! Oy vey…Visiting from SITS.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Oy, that happens a lot, doesn’t it? Time is a tricky thing!
      Thanks for coming by!

  • June 6, 2013 thedoseofreality

    Those moments are so tough. I tend to forget that my girls are still small, too. Forgive yourself, because your sweet boy did. He knows he is loved!-Ashley
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      I sure hope so, I really do.

  • June 7, 2013 Julia\'s Math

    Yes, more frequently than I’d like to admit. I am forever grateful,that my daughter has infinite forgiveness along with her infinite questioning… As I am very quick to hold her to standards that frankly i would have trouble obtaining. However, i occasionally get it right. Last week, I received a poor report from school. Her teachers asked all the usual questions- what didn’t think was the root of the problem, what could we do to fix it, etc. While I appreciate the sentiment, I felt it was a little quick on the draw- I mean, it was one day! I chalked it up to her having a bad mood day… And got a glowing report the next day.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Momma knows best!!

  • June 7, 2013 Christopher D Drew

    I saw you comment on another site, and this title drew me in. I really appreciate it. I have been struggling with my four year old son and some of his behaviour some and this is a good perspective.There is a movie quote about time I really like it goes like this, ‘time is a companion who goes with us on the journey and reminds us to cherish every moment because they’ll never come again’
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      That is a good quote, Christopher!
      I hear 4 can be tough too. I’ve concluded that the ages of 2-5 will be tough. Best to just get with the program now. 🙂
      Thanks for visiting!

  • June 7, 2013 Kimberly

    Sometimes I wish it…for obvious reasons…but my thief is more of a bully than time will ever be.
    Kids need to just be. They’re little people. Sure their bad days will differ from ours and they exhibit their emotions very different than ours, but that’s them being independent 🙂
    Of course if they smack you in the face because they couldn’t have another Freezie that gets an automatic time out and a lashing…kidding…no lashing in this house 🙂
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Oh yeah, the face smacking is absolutely UNACCEPTABLE.
      Even if it’s for a Freezie, which I’m guessing is a frozen treat, and you know how I feel about treats.

  • June 7, 2013 Alexa (katbiggie)

    As usual, I totally get this. I snapped at my daughter for something stupid the other day. No it was worse than stupid. It was awful horrible. She wanted me to play with her. I didn’t want to play Barbies. She insisted. I yelled. As she slept that night, I had the “failure, failure, failure” guilt trip going on too. I literally hate myself when I get mad at them for wanting to spend more time with me. Your Mother Terese quote is perfect. I need to make friends with Time again too.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      You’re not alone on this journey, Alexa!

  • June 7, 2013 sarah

    you are such a good mama Alison. i have to remind myself to be gentle with me too. perfect quote. love the introspection on this one. xo.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      I don’t know, I don’t feel like a good Mama most days. Sigh. Thank you for your sweet words.

  • June 7, 2013 Greta

    Yes, yes I do. Mostly, it’s that I can start over with a new day, because of grumpiness that you mention, or impatience or just that it’s been the longest day EVER. My kids probably wish that time away, too, but just like your boy (and thankfully for me), they forgive me, too
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    • June 8, 2013 Alison

      Oh Greta, you have FOUR. And they’re all so small. I would have lost my shit a long time ago if I had 4. I think you’re AMAZING.

  • Oh, I really loved his one! So true. I never wish for time to fast forward, but I certainly have under-appreciated its limits at times.
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    • June 8, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, my friend.

  • June 8, 2013 Lindsey

    Oh, wow – YES. So, so true. I do wish time away and then I grieve that wishing. Over and over and over again. xox

    • June 8, 2013 Alison

      It’s human nature, isn’t it? So hard to curb.

  • June 8, 2013 Vicki M. Taylor

    You’ve written a wonderful post. I enjoyed it so much. Time has marched on in my life. My children are no longer children and have children of their own. I have missed so much and I miss so much now that they live in other states. I miss my babies. and my grand babies. Followed you from SITS. Have a blessed day!
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    • June 9, 2013 Alison

      I hope you get back some of that time, there’s still well, time! Thanks for visiting.

  • June 8, 2013 Denise

    Oh Alison such a wonderful reminder. I must make friends with time again myself. Stopping wishing and wasting it away.
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    • June 9, 2013 Alison

      I do too, Denise!

  • June 9, 2013 Katie

    Beautiful and sooo true as always.
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    • June 9, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Katie!

  • June 12, 2013 Honeybee

    I can totally relate! This is my everyday struggle. I am happy to read this, at least I know I am not alone. Beautiful write-up. Looking forward to read more from you. Visiting from SITS.


    • June 12, 2013 Alison

      Thank you for reading and commenting. Motherhood is hard, we shouldn’t have to go through it alone. 🙂

  • June 14, 2013 Jessica

    I hope time listens, and slows down at least just a little. For all of us.
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    • June 14, 2013 Alison

      I hope so too!

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