Imagination, Where Are You?

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A conversation between my husband and I, this past weekend.

Husband: “Aside from the camera, do you have anything else on your wish list?”

Me: “Um…..”

Husband: “I think it would be nice for you if you got a few things that you want.”

Me: “Um…..”

Husband: “It feels a little unfair to me that the highlight of your week is the one day of the weekend where you get to go out on your own for a few hours. Isn’t there anything else you want?”

Me: “Er…..”

Husband: “We’ll get you a new phone when the baby’s a little older, and not obsessed with playing with it.”

Me: “Oh yes! A new phone (that hasn’t been chewed on, spit on, thrown on the floor, and so old I can’t even download certain apps on it) would be nice.”

Husband: “What else?”

Me: “Um….”

Husband: “Seriously? You can’t think of anything else? The trip to Australia in August is great, but it’d be a family vacation. Would there be anywhere else you want to go? Something you want to do?”

(At this juncture, I was imagining that most people would have already reeled off a list of 10 things they want to buy, and places they would love to go. What the heck was wrong with me?)

Me: “It’d be nice to be able to go to a blog conference. All. By. Myself. But, we both know I can’t leave the kids with anyone for at least another year.”

Husband: “Or two years.”

Me: “So, that’s out of the question.”

Husband: “Yes. For now.”

Me: “We need a new vacuum cleaner.”

Husband: “Okay. Wait, that’s on your wish list?”

Me: “Dude, I clean up crumbs every 5 minutes. YES. Also, a couple of new pillows (that I’ll probably never get to sleep on because I rarely sleep) would be great.”

Husband: “Hmm. Okay. Pillows.”

Me: “Aren’t you glad you married me?”

What’s on your wish list?Β 

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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • June 3, 2013 Laura

    Ahaha! I have a few things on my wish list, but when asked straight out, I can only think of things the family needs, and not treats for me.

    Man. You’re husband is just getting more and more wonderful these days, it seems.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      He’s making up for the times he wasn’t so sweet, heh. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 angela

    Though I wish a blog conference could happen for you? I totally get the wanting a vacuum. (I hope you come up with something else, something more decadent, too!)
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I can have both! Seeing as the conference isn’t about to happen anytime soon. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Catherine

    It’s a fine wish list.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I think so!

  • June 3, 2013 Maureen

    LOL such a cute conversations. You two are so adorable I could almost see the look on your face, Alison as you said those things πŸ˜€
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Hah! Like, DUH. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 tracy

    So very true. Off the top of my head I can’t think of anything either – except maybe seeing you. xo
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      THAT is on my wish list. To see you.

  • June 3, 2013 Robin

    Laughing. This makes me want to make a list for you. Something nice for your kitchen? Some new, mom-friendly shoes? C’mon, girl!

    That said, I don’t know what’s on my wish list either. But yes, a new vacuum. Seriously. I want.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I know, I suck! The thing is, if I want shoes or books, I get it myself, so I would never think of those for a wish list. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Robbie

    A camera is on my wish list too since I cracked the digital screen when I dropped it on the cement at a soccer tournament. I could also use a pedicure.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Oof, ouch! I hope you get it replaced soon.

  • June 3, 2013 Kerstin

    That’s all kinds of awesome!
    In Germany we would say you’re “wunschlos glΓΌcklich” (meaning happy with out anything left to wish for) – and what’s wrong with new pillows? πŸ˜‰
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I like beingw unschlos glΓΌcklich!

  • June 3, 2013 Stasha

    I am the same! All I want is a camera that we could never afford. So I asked for a nap. And my husband took me to Vegas instead… So you might be getting a maid πŸ˜‰
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Hah! But I don’t want a maid. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Christine

    haha.That’s awesome. I always add lots of things to my wish list but when I’m actually asked about it, I can never remember a damn thing that I want. Now I just ask for cash money πŸ™‚
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Yeah I do that regularly anyway. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Elaine A.

    Girrrrrllll… I would STILL be talkin’ and asking for things. This post would be SOOOO long…. πŸ˜‰

    I DO hope you get to make it to that conference soon and that I get to be there TOO!!!!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Hee! I hope I will too. Can you wait 2 years?

  • June 3, 2013 RJ

    I have a camera on my wish list as well as a vacuum! I think I have had the same wish list for many years in fact. πŸ™‚

    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I’ve had a camera on my wish list forever too. I have had cameras (still do) but I want an upgrade. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Kathy Radigan

    I totally get the new vacuum too! Though I think someone who would push it for me might top my list now!!! It’s funny how my wants have changed since I had my kids. A few hours to myself is far more precious than all the jewelry in the world right now, though I could be persuaded to accept time by myself and a new piece!! πŸ™‚ As always I love to visit your site!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I know, perspective, right?

  • June 3, 2013 Stevie

    This is so cute, it totally made me smile. Your husband sounds like a great guy! For me I go through spurts. Christmas rolls around I find myself wanting nothing. I have everything I really need. But then I find a new hobby or get excited about something and all the sudden I have a few things on my list. So it goes and comes in waves.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Ooh yes, I get that way with new hobbies too. When I first started blogging, I did get a new camera. But now that I’m venturing more into food photography, and portraits, I really need a DSLR. So it’s more like an upgrade. πŸ™‚

  • hahaha!!! I have A LOT in my wish list, and it is literally WISH for the meantime… You’re so lucky that your husband is supporting you whatever you want…
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Well, not whatever, as long as it’s reasonable πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Susanna Leonard Hill

    I totally get this, Alison! The things I really want are never things anyone can give me anyway – for my husband, kids and family to be happy and healthy, productive and fulfilled. The things that really matter to me aren’t material. (Of course that is probably because I am lucky enough to have a nice home and enough clothing and food on the table, but you know what I mean.) And then there are always a few other things I want – like going to a writing conference – which would be nice but are simply impractical so they’ll have to wait. But I think it is a good sign if you don’t have a long list of things you want – it means you’re generally happy πŸ™‚

    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      See, I knew that it’s a good sign. I really, really want to go to a blog conference though. I hope I stay blogging long enough to make it one day!

  • June 3, 2013 Heather

    Sometimes my wish list is HUGE and sometimes I can’t think of a single thing to put on it. I love that he kept on pusing you to think of something “good”. I would love a new vacuum too. And someone to come in and push it around for me everyday.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Someone to push the vacuum would be nice, yes!

  • June 3, 2013 vanita

    i want a salon day. that’s it. nothing more. not even anything techy. a salon day sans the kids would be awesomeness.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I hope your hubby makes it happen soon!

  • Actually new pillows are on my wish list too. But I’m waiting to get them until we have a new couch, which we will buy when the kids no longer use it as a fortress/trampoline/drool-station/table/snotrag/…. so I’ll probably get them in a year or 5.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Hah, I know, right?

  • June 3, 2013 Michelle

    Usually camera equipment is on my list too, but the other thing I really want is one of the vacuums that vacuums by itself. It’s hard to keep up with the pet hair sometimes!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      My husband suggested that too. But we have quite a large floor space, it’d take ages for it to finish up and I have kids around most of the day – not going to happen. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Poppy

    I’m feeling like a greedy bitch right about now cause my list is long, expensive, and can be rattled off without too much thought πŸ™‚
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      You’re not a bitch. πŸ˜‰
      (love ya)

  • June 3, 2013 Alexa (Kat)

    I have the same problem Alison! I am sure there are things that I want, but I can’t think of too much beyond the basics. These days I just want materials to update our bathroom and kitchen. How not exciting is that? I hope whatever blog conference you are able to attend that I’ll be there too! And I can’t wait for Memories captured!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Well, we have 2 years to plan to be at the same conference!! Can’t wait to see your Memories Captured post.

  • June 3, 2013 Tamara

    There is so much I want that I fear I’ll let it consume me, but when my husband asks, I’m like, “ hour to get my eyebrows done? Maybe a nice dessert.” Really I’d like no less than three expensive camera lenses and a slew of sundresses. And a full cooked meal. And a whole day of no diaper changes or baths or meals in which the baby flings food on the floor. I don’t understand why I’m so bad at making my needs known.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      You need to speak up just as you did here, Tamara! πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Bev

    Right now, the top of my wish list is to buy a cute handmade bag from a fellow crafter, but I also have a hard time coming up with things to treat myself. Often when I get money as a present I use it toward paying for my jewelry metalsmithing classes (which is both work-related and a treat).
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I think it’s great that your hobby is also your work – do what you love, love what you do. Win/ win!

  • June 3, 2013 Katie

    I’m not going to lie, I have a whole list I could rattle off…but a lot of it is because we just don’t ever have any extra money, so I don’t get pedicures or treats for myself often at all. BUT that being said, other than a pedicure (which costs $$), most things I would love for myself are just small…$5 to buy a coffee, $15 to buy a book. My mom often asks me if I don’t have a “big ticket” item I would like. So every year she gives me money to shop for myself, because I can’t think of any one item that costs more than $20 that I would really love! Ha!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Aw, your Mom is awesome!

  • June 3, 2013 FitBritt

    I am one of those people that would be able to list off at least 10 things: trips, bags, clothes, etc! My husband is like you, it’s a struggle to come up with five things. I think it’s a good thing. He’s way less materialistic than me and enjoys just being. So I wouldn’t feel bad feeling unimaginative, I would congratulate yourself on loving life without the need for things.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Aw, thanks a bunch! I don’t think you’re materialistic, it’s natural to want things. πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Natalie

    This really made me laugh…b/c this is totally me. My family asked for a wish this past Christmas…and it including things like new laundry baskets, clothes hangers…very glamorous stuff I tell you! My father in law was like this list has nothing personal for you. So yes I totally get your list!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Soul sisters! πŸ™‚

  • June 3, 2013 Leighann

    new pillows are SO on my list! AND a new vacuum!
    Also a new camera and a trip and a blog conference.
    I’m with you sister.

    I would also love a shopping spree.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I hope we both get what we want!

  • June 4, 2013 Keely

    You KILL me. And it’s so true- my birthday is coming up and PJ is like, what would your dream gift be? “Umm…new six buck mascara? A shower?”
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I hope you have absolutely amazing birthday and get presents you didn’t even think you wanted but love anyway. If that makes any sense.

  • June 4, 2013 Susi

    You know, there are always a few things swirling around in my mind that I would like to have but when asked directly and put on the spot – I’m usually at a loss for words myself. Ever since I became a mom I just can’t buy anything just for myself without thinking of the million and one things the kids always seem to need! But a blog conference – all by myself – is tops!!! πŸ™‚
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Aside from learning about blogging etc, and meeting online friends, the getting away by myself and sleeping in a quiet hotel room? That brings it home for me. πŸ™‚

  • June 4, 2013 Ilene

    My wish list is long – but includes going to BlogHer – which will be tough since I am moving the end of July – AND one weekend per month when I can check into a hotel that has WiFi and snuggle under the covers with my laptop. That’s not asking for much, is it???? πŸ™‚
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      It is a totally realistic wish! I would love to do the same.

  • June 4, 2013 Lady Jennie

    Wait …. did I miss your birthday or something? I think I would have seen it on FB. Is that why you get a wish list? I wish you could go to a blog conference. The one I’m going to!

    I love that your husband pampers you – as he should! πŸ™‚
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      My birthday is in August, and my husband doesn’t know when it is anyway. He was just being nice. πŸ™‚

  • June 4, 2013 Jackie

    Sounds like a similar conversation at my house. It’s funny… there are so many things that I want and when it comes right down to it I can’t come up with something. I’ve started making an Amazon wishlist so when times like that happen I can point him in that direction.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Someone else suggested I make an Amazon wish list too πŸ™‚

  • June 4, 2013 Jamie

    I’m with you. There isn’t much that I would request — except the things I know aren’t in the budget and life stage we are in.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      It’s actually quite nice to be satisfied with what we have. πŸ™‚

  • June 4, 2013 KalleyC

    Hahaha, anyone of us would be lost for words when asked what we wanted. At least you’re getting something out of it. πŸ™‚
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I am waiting for my camera as we speak!

  • June 4, 2013 Jennifer

    I have this exact same problem. It drives both David and my mom nuts. I’ve started keeping a list of things I want in my phone, big and little, for when they ask.

    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I need to do the same – 3 words. Amazon wish list!

  • June 4, 2013 Adrienne

    Haha. Love this. I thought he was going to send you to the states for second! When’s your bday? I can’t wait to link up for Memories Captured! XO
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      My birthday is in August. We did talk about me going to the States, but it’s not realistic anytime soon. Hence the 2 year timeline. πŸ™‚

  • June 4, 2013 Elizabeth

    Hey, a good vacuum cleaner is hard to come by! I think you should be gifted great books, pretty clothes, delicious desserts, and good coffee. At least, that’s the start of a good list to me πŸ™‚

    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I do get those things anyway, so they’re not on my wish list. I’m pretty lucky!

  • June 4, 2013 Kim

    This sounds like me! My birthday is coming up in a month, and I have no idea what I want. I usually end up requesting – and receiving – a gift card for books. πŸ™‚

    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      That is always an awesome gift!

  • June 4, 2013 Melissa

    I am wishing for a Wantable subscription and a new laptop. Very curious about Memoies Captured!!!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Check out the link for Memories Captured, it’s fun!

  • June 4, 2013 Leslie

    Too funny! I’m definitely guilty of having kid stuff on my wishlist. Top of the list right now is a sit & stand stroller…but the one I want is over $200, which is way out of our price range. I’d say the biggest thing on my wishlist would be an addition to our house…but if I can’t afford $200 for a new stroller, then you know I’m just dreaming! Here’s hoping you get those new pillows AND you get to use them!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      See, pillows. Totally doable πŸ™‚ Maybe try a second-hand place for the stroller?

  • June 4, 2013 Martine

    Wow, I wish I was more simple like you. I have a loooong list of things I’d like that my husband ALWAYS has options. He has told me many times that he prefers getting me stuff from a list, so I guess I’m also doing him a favor?!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Yes, men are practical like that. Give him a list!

  • June 4, 2013 Amanda Jillian

    Go on Amazon and start a wishlist, give husband link to wishlist when he asks what you want. =]
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      On my to-do list!

  • June 4, 2013 Tricia

    I so know this feeling! The things I want are always things that one can’t really buy or provide for another.

    But I hope you (or he) find the thing that will make you smile big!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      The DSLR should do it!!

  • June 4, 2013 Julia\'s Math

    Sounds like a case of stage fright to me! I do the same thing. I have started keeping a list in my phone (I used to be able to keep lists in my head ::snort:: those days are gone) so I don’t have the deer in the headlights response.
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      For a list maker, I sucked at this want-to list which I don’t have. Yet. πŸ™‚

  • June 4, 2013 Suzanne

    An off-set spatula? A new comforter? A coffee from Starbucks? What mom wouldn’t appreciate anything!
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I do get new books and coffee regularly, so that makes me happy already. It’s the big ticket items that stump me!

  • June 5, 2013 My Inner Chick

    I Love Love love you!

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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      I love love love you too!

  • June 6, 2013 Charlotte

    Hee. I love this. I can’t ever come up with anything on the spot like that either. When I’m alone with my thoughts, I can easily rattle off a few things I’d love or places I’d like to explore…

    I hope to one day meet you at a blog conference. How cool would THAT be?! XOXO
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    • June 6, 2013 Alison

      Oh that would be awesome!

  • June 7, 2013 Kimberly

    A new spine and brain or membership to the beer of the month club.
    You know…simple things.
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    • June 7, 2013 Alison

      Totally reasonable. πŸ™‚

  • June 7, 2013 Greta

    Oh, girl. Obviously you aren’t getting enough sleep if you can’t think of some other things that you want. πŸ˜‰ Although, it must be fabulous to get away once a week for a few hours. That would definitely clear the cobwebs from my brain. I want a new iPod to replace the one I lost. Sigh.
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    • June 8, 2013 Alison

      I wish I could blame the lack of sleep for my lack of imagination – I really can’t think of anything more! I guess the idea of going away, just me, is all-consuming. πŸ™‚

  • June 8, 2013 Katie

    Australia! That sounds like sooo much fun! You are very low maintainance-but new vacumes are amazing, we just got one and I never thought it would make me as happy as it does.
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    • June 8, 2013 Alison

      My husband is Australian, so we try and make a ‘home’ trip once a year with the kids. The little one hasn’t been yet, so it’d be fun! Good vacuums are such a life saver, I’m not surprised it makes you happy. πŸ™‚

  • June 14, 2013 Jessica

    My wish list is always full of items. Usually starting with a new pair of expensive jeans and ending with a kid-free vacation.
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    • June 14, 2013 Alison

      I would really love a kid-free vacation!

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