“Use your words, Monkey. Tell me what you want. Hand tugging does not work anymore,” I say for the umpteenth time.
My 3 year old obliges me. He tells me what snack he wants.
5 minutes later, I find myself repeating, “Use your words. USE your words.”
It struck me later that I need to take my own advice.
I need to use my words. I need to say things out loud.
Life is short, we know that. Days may seem long, but years are a blip in the Universe.
Children morph from tiny, helpless newborns to walking, climbing 1 year olds, who can say ball, and demand for a cuddle.
3 year olds who are going to speech therapy, will one day be giving a valedictorian speech (one can hope, yes?).
Newlyweds who look at each other breathless, and think, “I can’t believe you’re mine, and we’re here,” will one day be married for 10 years, and barely have time to say hi and bye in the rush of daily life.
I tell my children I love them, every single day.
I don’t think I tell them enough though. I need to tell them what they mean to me. I need to tell them how every fibre of my being wants to hold on to all their littleness, their innocence, their adorable mispronounced words, and their physical need for them to be with their Mama. I want them to know, from my lips, my hopes and dreams for them, and how proud I am of them.
I don’t often tell my husband that I love him. He knows I do, of course he does. I hope he knows in my actions. In the way we sit quietly together, after the children are in bed, just being safe with each other. In the meals I make, especially for him. In the inside jokes we share. In the quiet handholding that happens at home, and when we walk, side by side. In the gazes I give him when he holds, laughs and plays with our boys.
I know they know.
It’s time they hear more of my words.
My words of love, of silliness, of joy, of let’s-just-be-together, of assurance, of encouragement.
Time to say it all out loud.
Do you use your words out loud?
In other news, if you have plans for a 1st birthday party, check out my post at Everyday Family, where four moms share what they did for their baby’s first birthday!