What I Really Want For Mother’s Day

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Motherhood is a choice you make quote

The oft-repeated phrase, “Motherhood is hard, yo.” can be heard loud and clear in the blogging world.

Posts and articles are popping up, where “humor” bloggers are writing lists of what they really want, which includes, pooping in peace, and “leave me the eff alone” coupons.

These posts make me sick to the stomach.

I understand humor. I understand sarcasm.

But I don’t understand the vitriol and bitterness these bloggers have towards their children, and motherhood. I get it, it’s hard, it’s challenging, we need a sense of humor to get through it. There is a way to be funny without being vulgar.

I don’t do funny well, so I’ll just do honest.

Here’s my counter-list to what I really want for Mother’s Day (and every day, really).

For the mothers 

1. I wish for pregnant mothers to have access to maternal health services. Organizations like CleanBirth.org ensure that. With just $5, you can save two lives in Laos (which has one of the highest maternal and infant mortality rates).

2. I wish for all mothers to feel special – whether it’s breakfast in bed, or a long hot bath alone, or a special spa day.

3. I wish for all mothers to hear “I love you”, and “thank you”.

For the children

4.  I wish for children worldwide to have a Shot@Life. Nicole of Sisters from Another Mister is raising money for this amazing cause. $20 can save a life!

5. I wish for my children to have a good day. By extension, I’ll have a good day. Win-win.

For me

6. I wish to have a couple of hours to write, then the rest of the day to be with my family. I wouldn’t mind some cake either. And I can always do with some hugs and cuddles.

7. I wish to never read anymore badly written posts about how awful motherhood is (note to self: do not click on every Facebook link).

Happy Mother’s Day, my mother friends!

What’s your Mother’s Day wish?

* This is not a sponsored post for Cleanbirth.org or Shot@Life. I just really, really believe in those causes.

Alison
Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • May 10, 2013 Kristina

    Thank you for finally writing a Mother’s Day post that makes sense. I can’t stand hearing motherhood is hard. What isn’t? Nothing in life is easy. If it was, it wouldn’t be worth it.
    Happy Mother’s Day to you!

    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Kristina, you’re exactly right. Hope you had a great Mother’s day!

  • May 10, 2013 Kim

    I gotta say it: For every woman out there bitching about how hard motherhood is there’s several more who cannot have children and will gladly take her place. We all know and understand motherhood is hard, even those without kids are smart enough (most of the time) to know how challenging it is. But bitching about it incessantly? Pointless. I have a good sense of humor and do understand the reasoning behind the posts but sometimes it does go overboard.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Yes, I too, appreciate the humor that we need to employ day-to-day to get through the challenges. But you’re right, sometimes, it goes overboard.

  • May 10, 2013 Kerstin

    Great post, Alison – I wholeheartedly agree.
    I have taken a shot or two at writing funny posts and I still love to look at the lighter side of things, but I think I’m just not callous enough to be a “humour” blogger.
    The best I can hope for is to achieve a good mix 😉
    Anyway – I love your list! As for myself, I’m getting my mother’s day treat Saturday night when I go with a couple of my friends (without husbands) to a crab dinner – and Sunday we’ll have a Family Fun Day Sunday.
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    • May 10, 2013 Kristin

      And therein lies an unfortunate misconception – you don’t have to be “callous” to be a humor writer. Erma Bombeck was a humor writer and she wasn’t callous at all. Dave Barry is a fantastic humor writer and, again, he’s not callous. Humor writers are funny, edgy, snarky, and self-deprecating, but only the lowest common denominators are truly callous. And unfortunately, they give the good humor writers a bad name. 🙁
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      • May 10, 2013 Kerstin

        That’s a very good point, Kristin. (I do love Erma Bombeck.)
        I just seems like there is a flood of humour writers out there who focus on the lowest common denominator… Those Mother’s Day posts about “I just want to pee alone” and sorts pop up in every newsfeed, much more dominant than great posts like Alison’s.
        You are right – that does give humour writers a bad name 🙁

        • May 11, 2013 Kristin

          Yes, those are the posts that get the most attention. And I don’t know why. I really don’t. I don’t get it, either. I guess cheap humor just appeals to the masses. But please know that those bloggers (I hesitate to call them writers) are not representative of all humor writers. You don’t have to be callous and crass to write good humor. 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      The lighter side of things is certainly something we all need to look at sometimes. But we don’t need to go the way of these “humour bloggers” resort to, to get a laugh or two.

      Kristin is definitely right too, we certainly don’t need to be callous to be funny.

  • May 10, 2013 Maureen

    Oh Alison this is just lovely! Really refreshing to read an honest post. Yes, I get the joke, the sarcasms I really do but to make it sounds that horrible? Yikes! That’s why I love your voice here in the blogosphere 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you for your never ending support, Maureen. Glad you had a wonderful Mother’s Day!

  • May 10, 2013 kimber

    Love this Alison! I totally agree!
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Kimber!
      Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day!

  • May 10, 2013 Alma

    I saw these posts as well and I had the same sentiment. I told my husband yesterday “maybe I’m gettingold but I just don’t get the sarcasm which just translates as mean spirited humor to me” . He told me “no you are not old… its just like pop-art, its a way to get noticed”. Whatever it is I leave to you to write a well written post in response to that.
    I struggle every day. To make the day better for them no matter how I’m feeling. I broke down the other day as my son was leaving to school. He said ” I love you, you are a great mom” Ive held on to that feeling all week to get to the nest one.
    I will be checking those organizations above. I used to work for a high risk pregnancy women’s clinic for low income families. I have seen it all. Much love to all the others who struggle to make a happy home.
    ((hugs))
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    • That is brilliant – it’s like pop art! Exactly.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Your husband is a wise one, Alma!
      You ARE a great Mom, I hope you know that every day.

  • May 10, 2013 Kim

    Thanks for this 🙂 This is my very first Mother’s Day and I feel so so blessed to hold the title of Mommy to my baby boy. I’m exhausted and my body will never be the same but I can’t help looking at my son in awe of what my husband and I created together.

    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Congratulations, Kim! I hope you had a great first Mother’s Day.

  • May 10, 2013 jaim

    stuff is as miserable and as hard as you want to imagine it is. some people see the “hard” bits as challenging or an opportunity for growth. it’s all perspective. this mothers day and every mothers day im happy and proud to be a mother. glad to be in good company.

    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      It is definitely about perspective. And it’s important to have the right one.Thank you for your comment.

  • May 10, 2013 Julia

    I kinda dislike those posts too, especially the ones about pooping in peace. What I want for Mother’s Day is quality time with my mom, who I don’t see as often as we would like and to lounge in bed and read.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      I hope you got the Mother’s day you wanted 🙂

  • May 10, 2013 Kathy Radigan

    Alison I love your list! I too have seen a variety of these posts and though they are not my taste I do understand using humor to deflect some of the harder days of motherhood. I love that there are a variety of voices in the blogging world and that I can pick and choose what I want to read each day! Wishing you a wonderful Mother’s day with your beautiful family!!
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      I too understand the need for humor in this hard, hard gig. I just don’t appreciate the ones that go a little too far. But you’re right of course. We can pick and choose what we want to read, and that is why blogging is great, it’s a fair ground for all kinds! Hope your Mother’s Day was awesome!

  • May 10, 2013 Jessica

    I liked this post, and your honesty (and the list!). I try to be funny when I write, but I fail miserably. Maybe that’s not a bad thing. 🙂 As a working mom, I get plenty of time to poop in peace (don’t tell my boss ;)), so maybe I’m lucky, but I would trade it for more time with my little man. He’s pretty awesome. 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      It’s really about perspective, isn’t it?
      (I won’t tell your boss, heh)

  • May 10, 2013 Ginny Marie

    I love being a mom, and all I want for Mother’s Day is to spend it with my children. Bravo for writing a great Mother’s Day list!
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Hope you had a great one, Ginny Marie!

  • May 10, 2013 RJ

    A lovely and refreshing post. Thanks! Hope you have a Happy Mother’s Day!
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you so much.

  • May 10, 2013 Tonya

    I love you.

    That’s all.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      🙂 Love you too.

  • May 10, 2013 Crystal

    I love them all, but especially #1. 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Crystal 🙂

  • May 10, 2013 seventiesbaby

    oooh… now you make me feel bad for wanting to be left alone to wake up when I’m good and ready on Mother’s
    Day! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE being a mum. With my whole and entire heart. But sometimes the yearning to go to the toilet alone burns and sometimes being a mum is harder than I ever expected it to be. When those times occur, I share. Sometimes it’s funny. Sometimes it’s poignant. At all times it’s honest. I’m not bitter about being a mum. I’m deeply grateful even though it sucks sometimes.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Ooh, I don’t mean mums like you, of course.
      I was referring to those bloggers who call their children assholes and demon spawn, and wish they could be away from them all the time.
      Motherhood is challenging, we all need to get through with a healthy dose of humor. As long as our children doesn’t get hurt in the process. 🙂
      Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • May 10, 2013 Debbie McCormick

    lovely post Alison! And I agree, the vulgar complaining about children has reached the “overkill” status. Been there done that lets us move on to somethings else. lol
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Right?? Moving on….. 🙂
      Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • May 10, 2013 Katie

    Thank you, I’ve seen so many harsh, grating what I want for mother’s day posts I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels that a happy day involves time with your happy kid. I hope you have a beautiful mother’s day!
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      I did, thank you!

  • May 10, 2013 Rachelle

    My cousin is a week into this mother – hood and she’s not been able to bring her sweet boy home yet. I think she’s looking forward to the sleepness nights and ever-present worry about whether she’s doing “it” right. I pray she’ll have him with her soon.

    I’ll admit that sometimes I wonder how I got into this “club” in the first place – not the biological aspect, but the “they’ll admit anyone, won’t they” aspect of it all. I wasn’t ready, but I wanted to be. I might still not be ready for each new milestone my kids approach, but I try to be.

    As for the gift of a “poop in peace” voucher? I should probably also admit that using a restroom without interruption might be nice, but I understand the urgency my kids place on everything. Time is important. They want mine. I’d better give it to them while they still care to have it. And cuddling? Oh, my “I’m almost five” year old is the supreme cuddler these days. And my five month-er steals my heart over again when she reaches in my direction or turns toward my approaching voice. My elder children still place value in an impromptu hug, an afternoon with mom, and in the countless “come watch me” events they’re involved in.

    I like this club. I think I’ll stay.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Rachelle, I love your comment so very much! This part is my favorite: “Time is important. They want mine. I’d better give it to them while they still care to have it.”
      I love this club too.
      Hope you had an amazing Mother’s Day!

  • May 10, 2013 Michelle

    Lovely sentiments Alison. There is nothing better at this point in my life than a teenager or tween who comes up and gives me an impromptu hug or says “I love you” when I am least expecting it.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Michelle. Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • May 10, 2013 Susanna Leonard Hill

    I think you have said this beautifully, Alison! Hope you have a happy mother’s day! 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, and to you too!

  • May 10, 2013 Kim

    Love this, Alison! Yes, as with anything, there are hard days in motherhood and a sense of humour is important – but what benefit can be gained from constant negativity? What day better than Mother’s Day to reflect on the gift we are given as mothers and cherish and celebrate our families?
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      It is a gift indeed. Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day, Kim.

  • May 10, 2013 Jennifer

    What a great post! I tend to stay away from those posts like mentioned above, we all know how hard it is. We also all know how worthwhile every single day is to watch our children grow and blossom. Happy Mothers Day Alison!

    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Happy Mother’s Day to you, too, Jennifer!

  • May 10, 2013 Kristin

    “I wish to never read any more badly written posts about how awful motherhood is.”

    A-fucking-men. Look, I’m a cynical, snarky bitch and God knows I have a sense of humor. But the posts you speak of? They’re not funny. Or even original, for that matter. The “I just want to move my bowels in peace” line? It’s been done. To death. There’s intelligent humor and then there’s crass, vulgar humor. And in terms of “humor,” these types of posts frankly appeal to the lowest common denominator.

    Thank you for a lovely Mother’s Day post, Alison. Enjoy yours. 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      I did. Hope you did too. 🙂

  • May 10, 2013 Brittany

    Amen. Hell Yes. I am so sick of the nasty posts being the ones everyone loves and responds to. We are flipping blessed to have our kids. Love you mama!

    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Love ya too!! xo

  • May 10, 2013 Jennifer

    I wish all the mother’s with empty arms a sense of peace and hope instead of the pain and loneliness that I know this day can bring.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Me too, Jennifer. Me too.
      Hope you had a great Mother’s Day.

  • May 10, 2013 Amanda Jillian

    Some of those humor posts are funny but some are a bit crass. Mainly cause I completely understand the poop in peace ones.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Sure I get those too. But they’re done to death, and not done very well either.
      Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • May 10, 2013 Greta

    Yes, this is what I want, too. I enjoy Mother’s Day because my husband usually does some house stuff, and the kids get to feel special making me feel special. 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      I bet you had an amazing Mother’s Day weekend!

  • May 11, 2013 Hope

    I totally agree. Of course motherhood has its challenges, but children are blessings. I really don’t like when posts make sarcastic jokes at children’s expense. Happy Mother’s Day to you. I hope you get all that you’re wishing for this mother’s day.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Exactly that, when the supposedly funny posts actually make fun of their kids.
      Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • May 11, 2013 Kimberly

    Annnnd…this is the comment where my ass gets handed to me on a voucher from all the mother’s in the land.
    Motherhood is not that serious. Don’t we all want to poop in peace or have a shower without someone asking you if butter goes on the walls?
    I get what you’re saying. I really do.
    I love being a Mom. I am blessed to be a mom. I wouldn’t trade it in for the world.
    But come on…it’s hard…it’s not all fluff and flowers…we are individuals outside of this amazing world of parenting…
    Isn’t it refreshing to know that other moms struggle too? Are challenged? Can offer you some light to yours? I think it’s all in good fun.
    Behind the humor, we all understand what’s going on.
    Laugh. It’s not that serious.
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    • I think it’s OK to talk about the challenging parts too (and Alison does!) but what she’s talking about at the blog posts that are one complaint after the other, all the time, complete with lots of f-bomb punctuations to color it up. Everything in moderation, including both poop and light. 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Yes, it IS hard.
      It’s also funny. And I have a sense of humour. I hope that you, of all people, Kimberly, would know that.
      So know that the bloggers I speak of, are not the ones who use humor to lighten the motherhood load. I speak not of the ones who make us laugh because they made poop stories funny. I refer to those who call their children fucking assholes, demon spawn, and god, they just want to be left alone. Post after post after post. So no, I do not understand their ‘humour’ behind it, because all I get is bitterness. I don’t get the good vibes I get from reading funny posts about motherhood. I can choose not to read them of course, but I can’t stop my friends from doing so, then sharing them across all social media platforms, which can only be avoided if I stay offline altogether. And you and I both know I can’t do that.
      I do laugh. But motherhood IS serious. At least to me.

  • May 11, 2013 Natalie

    Yes and yes! Beautifully said my friend! You are spot on as usual 🙂
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Natalie. Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • May 11, 2013 Robin

    Ditto that. All I really want is a nice day with my family with generally good behaviour from all of us. Truly.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      I know it wasn’t perfect, Robin, but I hope that there were enough parts of the day that was good. xo

  • May 12, 2013 Lady Jennie

    This is a perfect post Alison. These are the essential things kids and moms need.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, hope your day was beautiful!

  • May 12, 2013 Ilene

    I love your wish list! Motherhood is hard, yes. But awful, no. Anything worth having takes work, including kids. Mine are raising me as much as I am raising them. Happy Mother’s Day, Alison!
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      I love that – that they’re raising us as much as we are them. Hope your Mother’s Day was awesome!

  • May 12, 2013 Christine

    I love your list Alison. I know what you mean about those posts and the vitrol.
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Christine. Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • May 12, 2013 TOI

    I really love this one. the quote depicts the essence of motherhood perfectly
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Thank you! Hope your Mother’s Day was wonderful.

  • I read the ‘funny what I really want’ – lists, heck I sometimes write these myself, but I prefer yours if I’m honest…
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      There’s funny, and there’s trying-to-be-funny-but-just-turning-out-to-be-bitter-type posts 🙂

  • May 13, 2013 Adrienne

    So true, Alison. I think we need to have humor in motherhood, but sometimes people go too far. I have posts that are rants. We all need a little peace and quiet, and pooping alone wouldn’t be so bad. (Yes, even at 14 and 8, they still interrupt you.) BUT, I don’t want my kids growing up and reading an overly sarcastic and bitter post and thinking I hated being a mom. The truth is, it’s wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. And I want them to know how much I enjoyed it. Even if I never get another chance to poop alone.

    This was a beautiful post, and your lists show your heart for others and your children! XXOO
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    • May 13, 2013 Alison

      Yes, exactly. I don’t want my kids to ever think it was awful to be a mom, to be THEIR mom.
      And thank you!

  • May 14, 2013 Chris Carter

    Yeah… I get that. I try to steer away from writers who go ‘there’. Although being a mom has HUGE amounts of humor threaded through our sacrificial days… there is a fine line between being funny and creating a message of resentment and selfishness. I love your wishes. 🙂
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    • May 14, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Chris. Yes, that’s the fine line I’m talking about! The one that some cross, often and without qualms. That bothers me. Appreciate your understanding of where I’m coming from. 🙂

  • May 14, 2013 Kim

    Hooray for moms who love being moms! I agree completely: I grow so tired of moms who write about how horrible their lives are now that they are moms.
    Thank you for sharing much love and wisdom about mommyhood!
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    • May 14, 2013 Alison

      Thank you to writers like you who always, ALWAYS show us the positive sides to motherhood. Hope you had a great Mother’s Day!

  • I read and shared the post you are referring to on Facebook. I found it funny and found myself saying, “yea, I’ll take that too!” But I get what you’re saying about how it seems that we have gone from motherhood being the best thing ever too motherhood is a pain and my kids are animals. It seems like the natural progression of things because it seems like just a few years ago you were ridiculed if you said anything the least bit disparaging about parenthood. Plus now with all this social media, we see so much more than we ever have before.
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    • May 15, 2013 Alison

      There is something for everyone out there, definitely. The blogging world is big enough for all of us, fortunately. Just because I don’t like it, doesn’t mean others can’t or shouldn’t . That blogger is far more popular than me, so that must say something, right? 🙂

      • Well, everyone is more popular than me, so….

        I think blogs like that are a passing fad and a way for people to feel cool and with it maybe?

        I’d rather read about someone’s true struggle with parenthood and how they are looking for alternatives to get over the hump. Being a mother has been the hardest thing I have ever done and after 4 years, I still don’t know what I’m doing most of the time.
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  • May 20, 2013 Katie

    I have said over and over and OVER again: “motherhood is hard, yo.” (probably in those exact words). And it is. And yes, I do wish some of those things: to poo alone, to be left alone whatever. And I get “keeping it real” on motherhood blogs. But…the other reality is that (I hope) we all love our children and are so very grateful for those little boogers who interrupt our daily “can time” or need to be hanging on us EVERY SECOND. It’s really a paradox because I totally feel both sides of the coin. I feel the need to be left “the eff alone” but I also love them so fiercely that the minute I am alone I miss them. I physically ache for the sloppy kisses and the funny faces and the stupid grins. Motherhood IS hard. But it’s not just black and white “hard”…it’s so many shades of grey…and red and orange and all the other colors of the rainbow. Motherhood is the most underdefined concept of all time.
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    • May 20, 2013 Alison

      Or it could be argued that motherhood is the most overdefined concept of all time. 🙂
      I like that we’re on the same page. I miss those little boogers all the time when I’m not with them.

  • May 24, 2013 Laura

    Sooooooo late to the party – but yeah. This is the perfect list. I wish for all mothers to recognize the blessings that being a mother brings, every day. And for all children to feel truly loved and appreciated for the blessings that they are in this world.

    Yes, motherhood is hard and exhausting and overwhelming. It is also an incredible experience. And when *people* are involved (little, precious people who can’t stand up for themselves and whose whole worlds are in front of them), we have to be extra careful to protect them… that includes watching our words.
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    • May 24, 2013 Alison

      That’s the thing – the inability to defend themselves.
      I read somewhere today, that we blame our kids for just being… well, human beings. Just because they’re small, doesn’t mean they’re not allowed to be grumpy, be in a mad mood, demanding etc. Because we as adults do that too. We have to give them the grace of just being people.

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