You are growing up in the era of social media, over-sharing and the “Me, Me, Me” culture. This is both exhilarating and frightening.
Exhilarating because your (almost) entire childhood will be captured. Every small, silly, momentous event in your lives will be recorded right here, on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and who-knows-what-else-in-the-future.
Frightening because your (almost) entire childhood will be captured. Every small, silly, momentous event in your lives will be recorded right here, on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and who-knows-what-else-in-the-future.
You see, nothing is really erased when you put something out there in the digital world. You can take things down, delete frantically, or just hope that by virtue of the crushing enormity of information out there, certain things will just be buried (like a picture of kids on the potty – not that I’ve ever, or will ever do that to you).
When you grow up, and apply for jobs, you will likely be Googled (that’s the faith I have in Google, it will still be around 20 years from now). Do I want your potential boss to see you frolicking in the pool? Will it hurt your chances if I dress you in a bee suit? Will they think differently of you if they knew you had a speech delay when you were 3? Will they hold it against you if your parents are politically inclined one way or the other? Will they like you more because they saw that at age 5, you were a champion reader? Will they decide on whether you’re a good fit or not because your mother blogged and occasionally dropped the F-bomb? Will you be judged in any way because of your digital footprint, most of which in your young life, you had no say over?
I don’t know.
I certainly hope that you can hold your own as young men. That we, your parents, have instilled the right values in you. I hope that your personalities will shine through on their own, and that any digital history of you, will just be a small reflection of you as a whole. I want to believe that everything we’re doing now, online and offline, is considered, measured, well thought out, and nothing that any of us will regret.
We will all be be judged in life. I just hope you won’t be because of what we did online.
This post was inspired by this article I read on Social Media Today, where the author warned that what we put online now, can affect our children in the future. It has made me think long and hard about my social media behavior. It’s not just about me.
The amazing Jill Smokler of Scary Mommy has once again allowed me to pour my heart out on her gorgeous site. Today, I wrote about my mother. It was hard because it’s not flattering to her. But it’s an important post, so it would be so wonderful if you could read it. Thank you.
Speaking of futures and children, I wrote a post about 3 fun ways to remember your baby’s first year at Everyday Family. Would love for you to read it! Thank you.