My Now, Your Future

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Dear boys,

You are growing up in the era of social media, over-sharing and the “Me, Me, Me” culture. This is both exhilarating and frightening.

Exhilarating because your (almost) entire childhood will be captured. Every small, silly, momentous event in your lives will be recorded right here, on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and who-knows-what-else-in-the-future.

Frightening because your (almost) entire childhood will be captured. Every small, silly, momentous event in your lives will be recorded right here, on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and who-knows-what-else-in-the-future.

You see, nothing is really erased when you put something out there in the digital world. You can take things down, delete frantically, or just hope that by virtue of the crushing enormity of information out there, certain things will just be buried (like a picture of kids on the potty – not that I’ve ever, or will ever do that to you).

When you grow up, and apply for jobs, you will likely be Googled (that’s the faith I have in Google, it will still be around 20 years from now). Do I want your potential boss to see you frolicking in the pool? Will it hurt your chances if I dress you in a bee suit? Will they think differently of you if they knew you had a speech delay when you were 3? Will they hold it against you if your parents are politically inclined one way or the other? Will they like you more because they saw that at age 5, you were a champion reader? Will they decide on whether you’re a good fit or not because your mother blogged and occasionally dropped the F-bomb? Will you be judged in any way because of your digital footprint, most of which in your young life, you had no say over?

I don’t know.

I certainly hope that you can hold your own as young men. That we, your parents, have instilled the right values in you. I hope that your personalities will shine through on their own, and that any digital history of you, will just be a small reflection of you as a whole. I want to believe that everything we’re doing now, online and offline, is considered, measured, well thought out, and nothing that any of us will regret.

We will all be be judged in life. I just hope you won’t be because of what we did online.

Love, Mama

This post was inspired by this article I read on Social Media Today, where the author warned that what we put online now, can affect our children in the future. It has made me think long and hard about my social media behavior. It’s not just about me. 

The amazing Jill Smokler of Scary Mommy has once again allowed me to pour my heart out on her gorgeous site. Today, I wrote about my mother. It was hard because it’s not flattering to her. But it’s an important post, so it would be so wonderful if you could read it. Thank you.

Speaking of futures and children, I wrote a post about 3 fun ways to remember your baby’s first year at Everyday Family. Would love for you to read it! Thank you.

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the worldโ€™s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Womenโ€™s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesnโ€™t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • March 27, 2013 Maureen

    Wow this is deeply thought provoking, Alison. Guess our children will already be having lots of digi-prints that might resurface once they’re a grown up. This make me rethink about posting pictures online and write about him. I’m so gonna check out that link that inspired this beautifully written post. Thanks for sharing, Alison!

    • March 31, 2013 Alison

      It is something to think about, isn’t it?

  • March 27, 2013 Michelle

    Definitely something that should be on all of our minds. I’m always thinking about what I put online (and yet I am sure at some point I have put something on there that probably shouldn’t be there). Even “liking” something on Facebook can be an issue. I’ve tried to impress it upon my kids as well, and I think for the most part they are pretty good, but there have been times where I’ve made them delete something. And I’ve tried to impress upon them, just because they delete something, it doesn’t necessarily mean its going to disappear completely. Its a slippery slope for sure. Thanks for raising our awareness here.
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    • March 31, 2013 Alison

      Definitely a slippery slope – so hard!

  • March 27, 2013 sarah

    I think about the impact of my social media behavior TONS. Because when I started blogging years ago when L was just a baby, I didn’t. I didn’t get that it was that important. I put a lot of details out there. Mostly it was just family who was reading at the time. But I see how much what I say and do matters. I’ve reigned in my content for sure. I want to tell my truth but at the same time be very respectful to my children. I always put myself in their shoes. What if my own mother had been a blogger? How would i feel about looking back on my documented life? Well, depends on her voice and tone and how did the documenting. You can tell someone’s intentions. If there is love in his/her heart. So, I try to strike a balance. As compelled as I feel to write and share my life–I have to be careful with what I share about my children. That’s just the way it’s got to be ๐Ÿ™‚
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      You’re very wise, my friend. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 27, 2013 Tracie

    This is such an important thing to think about. It is the ever-present question of where our stories as mothers end, and where our children’s stories begin. I would hope that our children will not be judged on our blogs, but instead on their own merit, when they are job hunting in the future.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I really hope so too, Tracie.

  • March 27, 2013 seventiesbaby

    Well, well, well… and here I was smug in my belief that I was on top of my parenting game! I HAD NOT thought through the ramifications of my boys’ online personas. I am conscious of not being too personal [of them or anyone close to me] but I hadn’t considered their digital footprint in the grand scheme of life. Thank you for the virtual ‘wake-up call’.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Always happy to ‘help’ ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 27, 2013 tracy

    Oh I think about this a lot..and discuss it will my kids too. All I can say is THANK GOD the internet was not around when I was growing up.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I KNOW!!! (relief)

  • March 27, 2013 Leslie

    I don’t know, Alison. Yes, I think we need to be respectful of our children’s futures, but as mothers we tend to sacrifice so much of ourselves for our kids anyway, and having a blog or a social media presence can be such an important release and form of expression. I hate the idea of women feeling afraid to be themselves and not sharing helpful information with others online like coping with developmental issues, behavior problems, addiction, etc. just because they are afraid of how their kids will be judged someday. There has to be a balance, obviously, and good judgment, but my kids have their own paths ahead of them which will surely be enhanced by having a mom who is happy and connected…even if I do use colorful language or share funny stories about my kids.
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    • March 28, 2013 Julie the Wife

      And @Leslie, if an employer is looking him up as “Bucket Head” when he’s applying for his job? A whole other issue, really.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I agree with you. For those of us who blog, we need to. The stories we tell, they need to be told. I just worry that we may invariably and inadvertently affect our children’s digital footprints, not by their choice, and have to pay the price. Balance and good judgement, definitely.

  • March 27, 2013 Cyndi

    First, thank you so much for your comment over at my blog. ๐Ÿ™‚ Second, I think that with so many people sharing, perhaps people won’t pay attention to every little thing. I do, however, think that sharing so much about people’s children COULD be detrimental – I always thought that if a bully really wanted to wreak havoc, they could go to the kid’s mom’s blog and do a little digging and find stuff that’s really embarrassing. People are entitled to their opinions for sure, and should be able to share, but I’ve always approached it from a “if my mom, boss, or someone else was watching” that I should be judicious in what I’m saying/doing. ๐Ÿ™‚ Awesome post! Tweeted.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I think sharing is good and great. Over-sharing is what I have a problem with. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 27, 2013 Arnebya

    I must admit I’m thinking about this more these days as my oldest turns 13 this year. I want to show her how to properly use social media (oh, the talks we’ve had about her friends ass-out in those bathroom underwear shots. Yes, at 11 and 12). I want to SHOW her how easily it is to lose control, after posting one seemingly non-argument inducing thing. I want her to protect herself and I want to protect all of them. At the same time, writing is my passion; writing about my life and mothering are things that are necessary for me to remain (OK, pretend to be) sane. I’d considered going through and removing their names from my blog, considered no longer photographing them. I don’t want to be able to Google my child’s name at 15 and see a string of stuff associated with her– because of me. But, I also figure that as long as I’m not ass-out in the bathroom they should be ok. Now, if their future employers/boyfriends/girlfriends find that one thing I wrote…they’re all SOL. I do sometimes feel it’s their lives and I have no right to tell the world that my oldest is failing 7th grade. I’m still trying to find that balance.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Balance – that B word. That’s the thing I am conscious of with each word and each picture I share of them. I put myself in their shoes – if I look back, will I be embarrassed/ horrified/ mortified/ okay with it? It’s still imposing MY worldview but it’s the same view I’m bringing them up with. I want to tell their stories, but I want them (and future employers/ friends) to be okay with it too.

  • March 27, 2013 Christine

    I’ve thought about this a lot. I love that my kids’ childhoods are captured because I know that I wouldn’t necessarily do it otherwise. Or least do it well. While they have a private blog which talks about the more day-to-day stuff, I do worry about the stuff that I write and share about them on my blog and may be part of the reason I’ve been sharing less of them? I don’t necessarily worry about future jobs (hadn’t really thought that far out) but more about friends/classmates finding stuff about them and using that to tease or bully them. I don’t know. I do think that there can be a balance.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I think that when my boys are old enough to understand what it is I do with blogging/ social media, I will ask them before I post a story/ picture, to make sure they’re okay with it. It is about balance, what’s too much? What’s not enough if we are here to capture memories?

  • March 28, 2013 greta

    This is interesting, and not something I’ve thought long and hard about as a blogger or social media mom. I should, though. I do try not to post things that will be embarrassing or detrimental as the kids get older, or even now, with the ones that are in school. I do take a little comfort in knowing that by the time they grow up, most of the people around them will also have had their childhoods recorded. You know?
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      That is a good perspective, I hadn’t considered that!

  • March 28, 2013 another jennifer

    I think a lot about what I put online, particularly when it comes to my kids. That doesn’t mean I won’t slip some time and share something I regret, though I hope that doesn’t happen. The key is to think about these things and figure out what works for us (because I don’t think there’s one answer for every blogger). Very thought provoking post!
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      It’s definitely very personal for each mom/ blogger. I think as long as we exercise good judgment, our kids will be okay.

  • March 28, 2013 Kristin

    I’ve long considered how my behavior on my blog and social media will affect my daughter. This is not new to me. She has a right to basic privacy and I’m therefore conscious of everything I share about her, that it may never hurt, embarrass, or exploit her in any way. This is, in part, why I’ve chosen not to monetize my blog with ads and/or sponsored posts (the other part being that I just don’t like them). And yet, I still wonder if even a little bit of information is too much – especially considering she has no knowledge, let alone say, over what I put “out there” at this point in her life. It’s why, as she gets older, I find myself sharing less and less about her specifically and instead just mentioning her in the abstract.

    It’s such uncharted territory, this whole social media thing. On the one hand, one could make the argument that our parents never shared our lives for all the world to see and we owe our own kids the same courtesy. But on the other hand, social media is here to stay. Our kids will grow up knowing it, using it; it will not be new to them like it was for us. So one could also argue that this, in effect, negates the exploitative aspect of it. In the end, though, I think it just comes down to good judgment.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      It’s definitely about good judgement and a common sense. You’re right, social media is here to stay, we need to adjust and adapt to it.

  • March 28, 2013 Alexandra

    Wise woman. For being so young. And with a conscience. Throw in foresight, too.

    Yes to all of this. It is their lives, they will be googled. THINK HARD about that.

    You are a powerful voice to so many with very very young children.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      And you are my teen parenting mentor!! xoxo

  • March 28, 2013 Natalie

    I think about this same thing…I have a love hate relationship with social media. I love the relationships I have developed but I also worry about having too much info out there. It’s so hard to know!

    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      It is, and until they children grow up, we won’t know for sure. We just need to exercise good judgement!

  • March 28, 2013 Thekitchwitch

    Hoo-boy. If my kid is judged by what I say online, she is royally screwed, because I cuss like a sailor. *hangs head in shame.*

    And you are right–how horrifying would it be to Google your teenager’s name and come up with unpleasant surprises. Shudder to think of it.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      It is scary, isn’t it? And when they’re older, we need to teach THEM to be responsible on social media. Aren’t you glad we grew up without the Internet?

  • March 28, 2013 Charlotte

    Wow, you know… I hadn’t really thought about it. At least not extensively, I guess because it’s not something that affects me momentarily, but it is food for thought, for sure. I love the convenience of social media and the opportunities it can present to us; it’s crazy to think some of our online actions can come back to haunt us later.

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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I know, right? Definitely something everyone, not just mothers, need to mull over.

  • March 28, 2013 Kara

    I like this …

    That we, your parents, have instilled the right values in you. I hope that your personalities will shine through on their own, and that any digital history of you, will just be a small reflection of you as a whole.

    I hope that people will be mature enough to know this when looking someone up on the net.

    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Kara, thank you. I hope so too.

  • March 28, 2013 Susi

    This was an interesting read and certainly made me look inside myself again. I think, overall I’m doing pretty good with the things I share about my kids. I really try hard to be conscious of the fact that they are individuals with feelings and that some things should remain private.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Susi, you’re a good Mama!!

  • March 28, 2013 Robin

    I’ve been thinking about this more lately. All this stuff I’m posting. I’m not so worried about the PPD stuff because I really see that as more about me than my kids, but I was trying to imagine what it would be like if my mom had posted all kinds of pictures and stories about me. It’s so common that I think it will seem normal, and in some ways I’d love to have that to look back on. But something to be mindful of, for sure.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      It’d definitely be very normal and run of the mill by the time the boys are old enough to know what Mama is up to on the Internet. I hope that means even when they’re Googled, employers/ friends will understand that they grew up in the huge boom of personal blogging and new social media, and take that into consideration. Wow, that big future thinking just made me want to reach for an ice cream and curl up onto my couch. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 28, 2013 Leslie

    I often wonder about this with my girls. I fear posting too much, but at the same time, the blog seems to be my only motivation to actually edit photos. It can be really hard to hold back sometimes. We all want to gush about our childrenโ€™s accomplishments, but then also want to rant about the tough times just to get some support and camaraderie. I think youโ€™ve done a great job so far of keeping them pretty anonymous; and not spilling too many personal items.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Thanks, Leslie. I nearly outed my kids a few months ago, I wanted to introduce them by name here, and after thinking it over for weeks, decided not to and I’m glad. When they’re older and I can ask them permission, maybe I will. This blog here is to capture their moments, in words and pictures, so yes, there is the fear that maybe I’ve said/ will say too much. It’s really about balance.

  • March 28, 2013 Laura

    Part of me thinks that by the time they are adults, there will just be so much information overload that what I do now won’t matter. That being said, I am VERY cautious about what I put out there about my family. I try to consider what they would not want me to say or what they would be embarrassed about if they knew. Any potty shots are entirely artful and flattering. ๐Ÿ˜‰
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Artful potty shots are acceptable! I am not confident I can pull those off, so even if i take them (and I have), I will never post them. I’m just keeping them for the boys, hehe.

  • March 28, 2013 Elaine A.

    I have to say, I have not that about this that much. Although I think I do a fine job of representing my children, you just never know what those in the future may choose to focus on. And it IS so crazy to think that their whole lives are out there for everyone/anyone to see. MUCH food for though, Alison.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I do think that you do a great job of representing your children – what I get is that they’re loved very, very much and they’re terrific and photogenic. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 28, 2013 Stasha

    Such a good post. Well both of them. I worry a lot too. Then again who knows what the future holds anyway…
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      It’s hard to tell, yes. Best to be safe than sorry though. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 28, 2013 Kimberly

    And that is why I want to slap every single blogger who puts up pictures of their children in the bathtub. Not only because of their reputation at stake, but there are a lot of perverts out there.
    Chunky is within limits. I never use his real name. If anything, people will say oh your mom? She’s a fucking nut. And I’m totally ok with that because it’s true.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      ๐Ÿ™‚ I don’t do the nekkid shots. Okay, there are a couple of the baby in his diaper, eating. And one or two of the big boy shirtless (what is up with 3 year olds and the general dislike of wearing clothes?). But nothing that’s ‘revealing’. And no more when they’re older.

  • March 28, 2013 angela

    This is a tough question. I am more and more careful about what I post about my kids as they get older. My worry was more for their emotional well-being as they age into a part of their lives where they are having arguments with friends and whatnot, but it IS thought-provoking to think of the implications for their professional futures.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Yes, that too, the personal side. I’d hate for them to be called out for stuff *I* wrote about them, or worse, about me. It’s a tough, tough social media world.

  • March 28, 2013 Mrs. Weber

    I think about this often as well. As bloggers, it’s important to connect with our audience through our greatest connection — our children, but at what cost? I LOVE posting photos, but I do try to draw the line in places and try to think if it will embarrass my kids down the line. Hard to know. But, I do think they are in a different generation and this is their norm, too, and maybe we are over-thinking. It shall be interesting to see what happens down the road!
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      That’s true, their generation will probably consist of kids whose lives have all been documented on blogs, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube etc. You’re right, we may be over-thinking it, but we can’t not think about it.

  • Yes, this – the struggle on what is ok and what is too much.
    I live this every single day of late.
    And the post ‘over there ‘ – you did good xxxx
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      It’s tough, isn’t it? Especially when the kids are older, like yours are, and can tell us what they think we should post. Or not.
      Also? Thank you. Hope you’re well. xo

  • March 28, 2013 Julie the Wife

    I think about this every time I post, because I have two teens and a tween, so it affects them TODAY. If I post about my teens, I let them read it first so they can decide if they’re okay with it. But if it’s about me? It’s about ME. F bomb and all. If a future job is denied to my child because someone at the company dug up a post where the candidate’s mom dropped the F Bomb 20 years earlier on a blog called “A Day in the Wife”? Well good. I wouldn’t want them to work for an a-hole company like that anyway.
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    • March 28, 2013 Julie the Wife

      And? I NEVER use our last name, or my kids’ names on the blog. EVER. So they can’t be found on Google to be associated with my blog in any way. A bigger concern is the bullying thing, that another child uses something I blogged about to taunt my kid. Lots of moms in our area read my blog, and I’m sure someone will lack judgement and share it with their kid. Fortunately, we’ve talked about this, and they are somewhat prepared for it if it happens. As soon as I think my blog is stressing my kids out, it’s on hiatus.
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      • April 3, 2013 Alison

        Julie, you’ve got it right on all counts. Keeping their names/ last names off the blog, asking whether they’re okay with you writing certain things, and a-hole companies. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 29, 2013 Jennifer

    I hope that nothing I write or share now has a negative impact on my kids later in life. I guess if it does, they won’t be alone. ๐Ÿ˜‰ And maybe they’ll accept my apology at the same time.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Hah, yes! Growing up with friends whose lives have been well-documented even before they were born? They definitely won’t be alone.

  • March 29, 2013 Abigail

    I think about this a lot for sure now that my little guy will be here any day now. There are a few rules I’ve set for myself (no potty pictures being a big one) but the other stuff? I just don’t know. This is really the first generation of “blog children.” It will be interesting to see how all this plays out in the future. I guess I’ll just do my best, what else can I do?
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      You’re right, they’re the first generation of blog children. It could very well be normalized then.
      And congratulations on the arrival of Wesley!!

  • March 29, 2013 RJ

    Something to think about. Glad you posted this.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Thanks for reading, RJ!

  • March 29, 2013 Jessica

    I haven’t thought about how my online presence will affect the girls in the future. Maybe I should stop posting about Layla and her foul language. Or not.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Haha! No, don’t. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • March 29, 2013 My Inner Chick

    you will likely be Googled***

    Aint that the truth, Mama A.

    Sending love from MN !! Xxx
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Receiving your love and kisses from MN! xo

  • March 30, 2013 Mothering From Scratch

    {Melinda} I feel SO strongly about this — and in fact, just wrote a post about it over at The Mom Cafe last week. We have to use self-control on our blogs and social media or we may find we have done serious damage to the relationships with the people we care the most about. No Comment, “Like” or momentary validation is worth that. Great post!
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      Momentary validation – yes, that. Absolutely not worth it.

  • March 31, 2013 Katie

    Based on Sluiter Nation? no one in this family is going to be president any time soon. Ha!

    Seriously though, this is a good topic. I think a lot of moms think about how they are creating something for their kids, but what is the value of that thing we are creating? Will it do more harm than good?
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I like your comment, very much. Yes, we are creating, but is it something THEY want? Something that’d help them?

  • April 1, 2013 Kir

    I think that’s why I have really stepped away from SM. First and foremost it’s exhausting and there is a small part of me that says every single day, “Am I that interested in what you are having dinner?”
    Yet, I don’t talk about the boys enough, when I decide to return with a full heart to SM, I know that I will make it more about them. Also, the cliche is old, but if someone doesn’t like them because of A,B, or C and that is who they are, who we are as a familty, then they are not the right person, the right job, the right place for them to be. I would never actively seek to hurt my babies, but I also want to celebrate their childhood..and if that means posting pictures of them as bees or Harry Potter, then I want those memories. Like you said, the silly, but momentous things to me.

    This will give me a lot to think about…thank you for writing it.
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    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      You’re right, if someone judges our children based on tiny things we posted, then they’re not the right match. I want to read more about your boys!

  • April 2, 2013 Lady Jennie

    This absolutely never occurred to me. What a good point you make! I don’t think there’s anything I write or post that could compromise them, but I will have to be even more careful as they grow older.

    • April 3, 2013 Alison

      I think it’s okay when they’re really young (like mine), but definitely when they’re older.

  • April 6, 2013 Tonya

    It’s very scary, this all digital world we live in and it is exciting and exhilarating, but mostly just scary. We HAVEto think twice about what we share.
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    • April 6, 2013 Alison

      We do, we don’t want something we did to affect our children, unwittingly.

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