Yes, I’m Mom Blogging And Proud Of It

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I read an article in the Parents section of the Huffington Post a couple of days ago, it was a point of view that’s not new, but it was well-written and clearly thought out. What struck me though, was one comment, which I shall paraphrase.

“I don’t get why you ‘mom bloggers’, oh, excuse me, ‘writers’, are making a ‘career’ of writing about how you’re raising your kids, I don’t care, I’ll just go read some fiction.”

Ouch.

I am one of those ‘mom bloggers’. I write about my children, I share tidbits of our lives, I talk about how I’m raising them, or want to raise them. I write about my struggles and challenges as a mother, I share my joys.

My readers commiserate, relate, challenge, provoke, agree, disagree, are inspired. They laugh and cry with me. They understand. They thank me for saying out loud what they are thinking, but dare not write. They tell me to chin up, toughen up, write it out.

I also write about my passions – writing itself, social media, baking, friendships.

Sometimes, I talk about my husband. Other times, I write about just me. The pre-Mom me. The child me.

It doesn’t make me less or more of  a ‘mom blogger’. It doesn’t make me less or more of a writer.

I am not writing about motherhood and parenting, to make a career out of it. Sure, I get paid to write about it in some places, and it’s nice to get published elsewhere, but that is not why I write about motherhood.

I mom blog because I need to write these things that are in my heart, my head. I need to write on this blog, a public forum, because I need to feel less alone in this life as a mother, because yes, it gets fucking lonely sometimes. I mom blog because I want my children, when they’re all grown up, to have a piece of their mother, right here, right now, to appreciate, in a way they can’t at this young age. I write about the challenges and joys of motherhood because some days, when the clouds hang over my head, when I think I really, really suck as a mother, I can look at my words and know that no, I don’t always suck. I mom blog because there are so many little moments in the day that I want to grab hold of, make it tangible, and a part of me, so I can remember forever.

So yes, I’m mom blogging, and proud of it. And make no mistake, I AM a writer. So there.

Mom blogger

Edited to add: This post echoes Tracy of Sellabit Mum’s post about why she blogs, which you must absolutely read. If you’ve written something similar, or plan to, let me know, I’ll add your post here!

What do you think about mom blogging?

Alison
Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • February 27, 2013 gigi

    See, it’s that sort of comment that you quoted that’s just so unproductive. If you don’t want to read about moms’ lives, don’t! But why complain about it?

    I love this post. Especially the last long paragraph. I told my kids the other night that a lot of what I write, I’m writing for them to look back on when they have children, to understand a bit of themselves, and me, and hopefully, a little of their own kids, too.
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      Gigi, I hear you. I just never get it when I read such comments. If I think that about a particular article, I just click away, I don’t waste time telling the writer they shouldn’t bother, it’s just rude and unproductive.

      Thank you for relating to this post. We are really doing this for the kids, as much as we are for ourselves. This is why we write and this is why we’re here to stay.

    • February 28, 2013 TOI

      I totally agree with Gigi.

      I know some people out there can’t stand mom bloggers (writers) because we like to share anecdotes about our everyday life. I once read an article by a writer who wrote that she doesn’t understand some bloggers. Why do they write about what they ate that day on their blogs.

      I thought, because I want to live my life and document the milestones of my daughter/children because I want to leave my own legacy on earth and not only my fictional characters.
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  • February 27, 2013 sarah

    bloggers are writers. mom bloggers are writers. I feel exactly as you do on this. I too feel compelled to share my stories–sometimes about motherhood, sometimes about me–but always about these days and their terribly wonderful ups and downs and in-betweens. haters gonna hate. I’ll stand proudly with you as a mom blogger to be sure.
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      I know you will, my friend! So glad to have you in my corner.

  • February 27, 2013 tracy

    Yes, this echos much of what I said in my ‘why I blog’ post a few months ago. Completely agree. xo
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      I linked back to you! xoxo

  • February 27, 2013 Ginnie

    Very well said. 🙂
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Ginnie!

  • February 27, 2013 Denise Rayala

    Hello Allison! Can I use your photo (will link you as the source) so I could also make a post about this? Thanks! 🙂
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      Denise, I will email you the visual, and do appreciate if you could link back, thanks!

  • February 27, 2013 JanBierens

    And why shouldn’t you be proud…
    It does not really make a difference when you are a ‘mom-blogger’ or a ‘dad-blogger’, you’re a blogger, period. Ok maybe you could do with some more time to blog, because – yeah – kids can be very time consuming… lol
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      Unfortunately, there are many people out there who look down on ‘mommy bloggers’. As to why, I really don’t know, but they use the phrase like it’s a bad thing. So, thank you for your encouraging words!

  • February 27, 2013 Christine

    That comment over on the article really stuck with me too. It’s just so spiteful and hurtful and unproductive. We all have our reasons for blogging and I agree, your last paragraph gets at the heart of it. I need to know that I’m not alone, that I don’t alway suck at this, that I have a place to preserve those special memories, and that I have a place for ME.
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      Some people just like to write stuff like that to rile others up. Safety behind the computer screen. They could just as easily click the X in the corner of their window, but no, they choose to spew hatred. C’est la vie.

  • February 27, 2013 Vanita

    i’m proud of u too. and if you can mom blog and generate an income, i’m even prouder. imagine, us moms are able to contribute to our home finances because we’re so good at doing something we love, sharing our life. that’s the ultimate entrepreneur dream: making money from doing what you love. haters are just haters and jealous. go read your fiction, you’re not my market bozo. you’re not someone i can relate to and want to connect with. hmmph. hugs girlie!
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    • February 27, 2013 Alison

      Hah! I wanted to write that too at the end of my post – go read your fiction, bozo!
      Thanks for the support – you rock, and you’re my inspiration. The ultimate mom blogger entrepreneur.

  • February 27, 2013 Kim

    Well said, Alison. I have never understood those kind of comments. What a waste of time to write out a hateful hurtful comment. It always leaves me wondering if it is jealousy rearing it’s ugly face. I have loved blogs like yours for just the reasons you describe, especially because it helps me through rough patches, makes me smile and laugh,and provides a fresh perspective. You keep writing-you have lots of goodness to share!

    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thank you so much, Kim!

  • February 27, 2013 JDaniel4's Mom

    I think writers write about what the know and their readers love hearing about it. They obviously haven’t spent much time reading “mom bloggers”. Truly they are one of my favorite things to read!
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      I think commenters like these must have read a couple of not very good ‘mom bloggers’, perhaps? It’s their loss!

  • February 27, 2013 Brittany

    I despise these comments and I wish people would just click away instead of trying to be hurtful. There are moments when I have doubted writing about my life with the kids, but then I remember what they will have and how we will be able to look back. And I remember how this community has supported me through some very tough times. Great article!

    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Brittany! Yes, to the haters, click away, go read something else.

  • February 27, 2013 Martine

    YES. Oh, yes, yes. I am a mom blogger. But you know what? For a time, I forgot that I was. I got sucked into the work of it all. I stopped writing from the heart. I stopped writing about my bliss. That’s why I took some time off to split the “work” from the “blog.” I started to go back to my “why” (or “center” as we’ve all learned to call it since The Rise of the Guardians, haha). I realized that I had stopped being the mom blogger that moms loved, but instead, the mom marketer that brands eyed. It was tiring, and I lost my blog mojo.

    I’m back, slowly and surely. I’m back to writing about my life, my bliss. *big sigh of relief*

    Thanks for posting this, Alison. Hear, hear!
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Glad to hear you’ve got your mojo back, Martine!

  • February 27, 2013 Adrienne

    First, I love the new design! Very pretty!

    Second, I love this post. People love to hate. Why? But, reading comments like the ones in that article help remind us of why we really do it. I’m in the same boat, sure I get paid (sometimes!), but I write because I love it, and I don’t care if everyone likes it.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thanks, it’s so pretty, isn’t it? 🙂

      Yes, we write because we love it, and we write about being moms,because that’s what we know. Nothing wrong with that at all.

  • February 27, 2013 Ma. Teresa Grech Q. Racal

    I love this post. I am too is a mom blogger, and a newbie in theis blogosphere world. Making a mom blog sharing stories to one another makes me feel around mom who, one way or another does encounter the things I do encounter. I also tell the things about me, my friends, husband and other stories. I love reading your blog because you inspire me, encourage me to write things randomly. That is why I always look forwards to your post. Kudos to this post…
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thank you for your kind words!

  • February 27, 2013 Blond Duck

    I think blogs are the reality television of writing. You don’t have editors and a whole staff producing each post, it’s just real. Does that make it worse than fiction? No. It’s a totally different medium.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Exactly. And as with every medium, there is an audience. Not liking it? Read something else.

  • February 27, 2013 deborah l quinn

    Hell to the yes, I think is most appropriate response here. When did “mom” before any other noun (dancer, driver, writer, blogger…) become such an automatic disparagement – or maybe (sadly) it’s *always* been a disparagement and I was just hoping everyone would outgrow that phase. I mean, even something like “mastermind criminal architect of doom” would be “cute-ified” if it were a MOM mastermind criminal architect of doom. Sucks. On the other hand, perhaps we’ve got the premise here for a great new tv show? Great post.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Hah! I believe you’re on to something here, Deborah….

  • February 27, 2013 Tracie

    I love this. You perfectly summed up so many of the reasons I blog.

    Totally unrelated…your new design looks great!
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thank you Tracie, on both counts!

  • February 27, 2013 Mamarific

    Yes, yes, yes!!! Thank you for this. So tired of being dissed by the “real” writers. Thank you for putting yourself out there.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      I just dislike the whole, you’re a mom blogger, hence you’re not a writer sentiment. Bah. Thanks for reading!

  • February 27, 2013 Lili

    Another great post Allison! I share the same reasons of why I decided to have my own blog. I honestly don’t care what people say about mom-blogging, I am doing thing I love, writing thing about my life and my family, sharing thing I know and learning thing I don’t know. I am not doing any crime here.

    Just for the record, I am so proud of you too! You’re in my “awesome bloggers” link for a reason!

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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thanks so much Lili!

  • February 27, 2013 Kristin

    ::Sigh:: this is such a hotly contested subject – and honestly, I can see and understand both sides of the coin. I held off starting a blog for a long time because of exactly what that commenter said – why would anyone want to read anything I had to write? I was nobody special and, therefore, blogging seemed very self-centered and narcissistic. Ultimately, I broke down and began blogging for all the reasons you (and Tracy) said – it’s a way to chronicle memories, bond with others, and I find writing to be both soothing and therapeutic. Plus, I’m good at it. I know this. So, yes… I *am* a writer. Perhaps not a professional one, but a writer nonetheless.

    And in terms of blogging being self-centered and narcissistic, I just look to the reactions of my family and friends, all of whom know about and support my blog. My parents are my moral compass and VERY outspoken, and they would not hesitate to let me know if I should ever get my head stuck up my own ass. But so far that hasn’t happened, and so I have to figure I’m doing something right.

    The problem I have with “mommy blogging” (a term I loathe, BTW), however, is when I see such bloggers crossing the line from merely chronicling their memories and bonding with others in the joys and pitfalls of motherhood, to outright exploiting their children for the sake of their blog and its income. When you start believing your own hype; when your entire life is lived out on your blog and everything becomes a photo op; when you stop considering your children’s right to basic privacy and start telling THEIR stories instead of your own; and/or when you’ve made a full-time career out of blogging and it’s your family’s sole source of income… THAT is what gives mom blogging a bad name, IMO.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      You’re right, when bloggers cross the line, and we’ve had discussions about that. We are on the same page. Though this particular post I read, did not do that. It was about a parenting challenge/ issue, and how the writer chose to tackle it. Yet, she was ‘chastised’ for it. Ah well, can’t win them all, can we?

      (PS: I don’t loathe the term ‘mom blogging’ – it is what it is.)

  • February 27, 2013 Mark

    I’ve tried to “Mom Blog” before but the heels and pearls were killing me. So I went in another direction.
    You Go Girl!
    Your Old Friend, m.

    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      I have missed you so much, Mark.
      xoxo

  • February 27, 2013 Mary

    Thank you for sharing this. I find great solace in writing about my own and in reading others journeys. I have found a lot of smart, funny, women with whom I’d love to have a cup of coffee, but something tells me we wouldn’t learn nearly as much about each other at Starbucks. Here’s my blog about blogging: (http://overthinkingadventures.blogspot.com/2013/01/less-of-me.html).
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thanks for reading, Mary! I would love to have dinner party with my bloggy friends. Maybe someday 🙂

  • February 27, 2013 Nancy

    Well said! I wear the badge proudly, too! I started writing again after having kids to get the crazy out of my head. (What did Jerry Seinfeld say? “Having a 2-year-old is like having a blender without a lid.”) What I’ve discovered since I started “mom” blogging? This is the connection that mothers used to get from chatting with each other over the backyard fence while their children played together in the yard. Now the miles separate us, but the Internet connects us and we have found our connection to each other here.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Yes, exactly! I’ve met so many incredible women – moms – who have inspired and helped me through this parenting gig. Can’t imagine anything better than mom blogging.

  • February 27, 2013 Kim

    I am a proud mom blogger, too. Our words and thoughts and writing are valid and worthy of being shared. It is not fiction, it is real. Some people prefer mysteries, others biographies. They are both worthy; to compare the two does no justice to either. P.S. – Love your new design!
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      People who prefer fiction should just go ahead and read those, and stop stalking parent blogs, right?
      (thank you!)

  • February 27, 2013 Jessica

    If I don’t write what will I do with all the words filling up inside my head?
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      I feel the same way!

  • February 27, 2013 Susi

    Alison, loved reading this. As for that comment, it falls into that category of “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. No one forces (you) to read mommy blogs, (you) don’t like it, don’t read it. There’s tons of other stuff out there… I like reading the mommy blogs for the reasons you listed – to be inspired, to laugh, to commiserate! So, keep on doing what your doing because I am a loyal mommy blog reader! 🙂
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thank you Susi. People just like to spew hatred from the safety of their computer screens. It’s a reflection of them, not us.

  • February 28, 2013 Valerie

    Alison,

    I think this comment stems from ignorance. People just don’t understand why someone would want to do something like this. I’ve experienced many puzzled looks from friends. Obviously they wouldn’t make such an ignorant statement, but I know they wonder.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Wondering is okay. To come outright and say, you’re wasting your time? Ouch.

  • February 28, 2013 Alma

    Great response to that comment. I have been faced with that same backlash from people who “dont get it”.
    Try to label. Find reasons.
    I write because I feel compelled to document. I owe it to my kids.
    I have a handful of pictures of me when I was a baby. A flood destroyed it. Parents divorced. Mother with Alzheimers. I feel I must….for my kids.
    Thanks again for doing what you do and never stop 😉
    I am not alone
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      I so wish my parents had documented at least some of my childhood. I have a handful of pictures of me from age 0 to 5. No videos. No recounting of what I was like as a child. I feel like I’m missing chunks of my life. I don’t want my kids to feel that way. You are most definitely not alone.

  • February 28, 2013 Suzanne

    This may be cynical, but I suspect that the term “mom-blogger” is just another way to diminish the efforts of women. It’s always said with such derision, which makes me think that it’s a way to dismiss women’s voices. Or maybe I’m just in a grumpy mood. In any case, keep writing and doing so proudly!
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Yes, I get that feeling too. Which is why I’m taking it back, making it mine, and making it a good term.

  • February 28, 2013 Courtney Kirkland

    You know….this is one of those things that drives me crazy. Why does it matter what we write and where we write it? If you don’t want to read it, don’t. That’s along the same lines of people who leave trolling comments on sites. If you don’t like what someone says, then go ON somewhere rather than leaving such negativity and word vomit all over the place. I consider myself a writer no matter what I write about. I’m using words, yes? I’m forming sentences, right? That’s writing. Last I checked, certain topics didn’t mean you weren’t a writer.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      What you said, Courtney!! I never understand the people who feel the need to spew hatred. Can’t they use their energies on something productive?

  • February 28, 2013 Rabia

    I’m a mom blogger. I started it because it was an easy way to share pictures and stories with my mom. It kept at it because it is a great way to remember things. I love that other people enjoy reading it. I don’t much care if people don’t like it. I write it for me and for my family.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Yes, exactly! Thanks for weighing in, Rabia.

  • February 28, 2013 Jessica

    Oh, I’ve heard this thing said, too. I don’t think all mom bloggers would call themselves “writers.” I think there are many women (and men) who are parents who do this blogging thing for a variety of reasons. They do it…to share, commiserate, to write, to connect, to laugh, to make memories, etc. I think that parents can come online and create meaningful spaces is a good thing. And it’s not anyone’s place to judge whether they are “worthy” or not. Like one of your commentators said, if you don’t like what you read, then don’t read.

    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      The judging, yes, that. You’re right, who are they to say who’s a worthy writer/ blogger?

  • February 28, 2013 Kir

    oh wow, first your space is beautiful..this new design is gorgeous.
    I want to just stay here, so calm, so reflective.

    and as far as this subject, I have talked /emailed you many times wondering what it is about me that doesn’t write as much as I should about the boys. I have stories, PILES of stories that I could tell you, wonderful introspective posts that I should write about choosing daycares, Catholic Schools and every day to day funny things that they say…and do and how they make my life amazing.

    but something stops me…mostly it’s moms like you. (THAT IS a compliment) I don’t feel like I would do it as well, or with the same kind of attention. That makes me sad and when i write Fiction, for the prompts, I just feel like I can just hide among the characters I create.

    I want to bake like you, dress like Tracy, inspire people like Elena, write beautiful posts like Erin and a gazillion other bloggers who are also moms…and do it as seamlessly as all of you, but I know deep down that I don’t do that. I don’t have the chops.

    I think Mommy bloggers are the hardest working writers in the internet world, because you create posts that speak to all of us, that we can all relate to and be proud to a mom. Even in our places where we think we’re failing, we see others who are doing the same thing and we can breathe in the knowledge that we’re all fighting the same demons, hugging the same babies, doing the best we can.

    I am so glad you are here in the internet world, labels are bullshit (someone VERY WISE wrote that once xo) mommy blogger is just one part of the WHOLE of what you are. (AMAZING)
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Kir, can I kick you up the butt and tell you, YOU can absolutely write about your children, about parenting? You always write with sincerity, from the heart, and with love. Really, that’s what good writing is. Do it. Please, for us, mom bloggers, do it.

      Love you. xo

  • February 28, 2013 Natalie

    BTW love your new look! And yes you are a mom blogger but also so much more…and there is nothing wrong with either…b/c you rock at both!

    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Aw, thanks so much Natalie!

  • February 28, 2013 Rach (DonutsMama)

    Couldn’t have said it better myself. And really, if the commenter was so put out by mom blogs, then he or she could have clicked elsewhere. Nobody is making you read them! But yes, this is our outlet, this is how we connect to other moms in our struggles and happiness. This is life.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      This is our life, that’s for sure.

  • February 28, 2013 another jennifer

    Well said. It’s funny when people say “Oh, you’re a mom blogger” as if it’s a bad club to be in. I’m a mom and a blogger and I sometimes write about my kids. When I write, I think about my kids reading my words. Oh, and I’m also a writer. I’m guessing most of the mom bloggers commenting in this thread are too. Seems like a pretty good club to me!
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      It is a SUPERB club! 🙂

  • February 28, 2013 angela

    You know what doesn’t make sense to me? Why people get so WEIRD about it? Unless you’re asking someone to pay for your URL? This is your place, and you get to mom blog all you want 🙂
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Right? Why are people so vehemently against bloggers who are moms?

  • February 28, 2013 Katie

    I’ll admit I sort of hate the term “mom or mommy blogger”. I think it’s because I feel like it puts me in a room with walls. NOBODY PUTS KATIE IN A CORNER!

    Wait. What?

    oh yeah. Toxic people out there: If you don’t like it or “get it”, don’t read it. That’s why I don’t read porn. But I”m not going to bitch about it.

    Ok, maybe not the same thing.

    I’m tired.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Hah! Totally made me laugh.
      I don’t like to be in a corner either. Which is why I’m taking back this mom blogger badge and making it what I will.

  • February 28, 2013 Tania

    I’m a mum and I blog which, apparently, makes me a mum blogger. I read other mum blogs with an open mind and interest. I share my own stories because, predominantly, the feedback I get is support and gratitude. I am always fascinated at the outrage shared by people about mums and blogging and social media and over-sharing. We all write to our own audiences. If you don’t want to be in that audience, then don’t buy a ticket to the show. I love what you’ve written. It speaks to my own heart. Thanks and blog on sista x
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      I love the analogy of a show and buying a ticket. I can’t understand why someone would do that and stand there all night and heckle. Asshats.

  • February 28, 2013 Leslie

    First off, I love the new design. So whimsical and cute! Now, on to the topic at hand. I know that “mom blogging” has become cliché, but I see it as the new support network for mothers. It used to be that we lived near our friends and family, and we knew all of our neighbors. Now? Notsomuch. Blogging has become the new cup of coffee at the kitchen table. But now it’s with people all over the world. Pay commenters like that no mind. You’re great at what you do!
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Leslie! I love that idea of virtual coffees and real conversations – yes, that’s what this is.

  • February 28, 2013 ilene

    Amen! I love the community that blogging provides because it’s nice to share these thoughts and experiences and and commiserate with others. It’s more than writing about being a mom. It’s community.
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    • March 2, 2013 Alison

      It absolutely is, Ilene!

  • February 28, 2013 Elaine A.

    I was thinking the other day about how many of us “mom bloggers” aspire to write books. In a way, I sort of feel like I have already written one, through my blog. And that’s fine if you do not want to read “my book” but that does not mean I am not going to write it. It’s part of me and my soul dictates that I must. It just does. I just happen to be writing about my life AND I am a MOM.
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  • February 28, 2013 Kayla

    Mom bloggers are just like every other person out there-They are a group that sticks together, share their experience and knowledge, help other mothers-to-be and seasoned mothers alike, and just ralley around each other to SUPPORT.

    As a reader, fiction is great but as someone who needs to reach out to like minded people, learn and grow, personal experience is what I look for.

    I think all mom bloggers, crafty bloggers, lifestyle bloggers or whatever you write and blog about are valuable and SHOULD be proud to do what they do 🙂
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Oh yes, I’m definitely proud of what I do (and write!).

  • February 28, 2013 Sue

    Alison, this is fantastic. My favorite post I’ve read from you in a long, long while. We all hear comments like the one you mentioned in HuffPost, and…not that we owe the naysayers any kind of a response…but yours is a home run. Off to share this with the world….after I go read Tracy’s, of course.

    Also? It looks GORGEOUS up in here, girlfriend! Fun to see where all of those nickels and dimes are going! 😉

    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Sue! Naysayers begone.

  • February 28, 2013 Kimberly

    It is so much more than the stigma put on it.
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      It is indeed.

  • February 28, 2013 Julie Moore

    Totally agree with you! I’m a food/allergy blogger, but sometimes I’m a mom blogger, sometimes a Fibro blogger…sometimes just a ranting and raving blogger. 🙂 Either way, I am a writer, too. 🙂 Very well said!

    Thanks for stopping by Natural and Free and visiting me on my SITS Day! 🙂 I appreciate it!
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Exactly. Writing about certain topics doesn’t make any of less of a ‘writer’. Thanks for reading, Julie!

  • March 1, 2013 Kimberly

    I don’t know what category I fall under…Vulgarity?
    I blog because of my mental illness and to talk smack about Shawn.
    It shouldn’t matter what you write about. If it makes you happy then do it.
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      You fall into the category of Awesome.

  • March 1, 2013 Julia's Math

    I’m jealous that you to be recognized as a “mom blogger”! That’s what I’m working towards! Sounds like some other ladies are abut jealous…
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      I don’t know whether I’m recognized. I’m just calling myself that, hah!

  • March 1, 2013 Stasha

    And you better never stop cause I love reading your thoughts. They echo mine a lot.
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Ain’t no stopping me! 🙂

  • March 1, 2013 Amanda Jillian

    Cause you’re awesome and if people can make a living writing about being parents while being home and being parents why shouldn’t they?
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      That is right, Amanda!

      • March 4, 2013 Amanda Jillian

        I think anything that helps parents actually get to be around their kids more is always a good thing.
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  • March 1, 2013 Abigail

    I love this post so much. It’s silly that the HuffPo writer wants to be judgmental about other writers. Obviously not every genre is for everyone. Duh. So they don’t like reading mom blogs? And? It doesn’t make mom blogs less worthy (although some are obviously higher quality or more interesting than others) it just makes them for a different audience than this particular writer is in.

    Anyway, you said it very well so you don’t need me to write a wall of text in your comments.
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      A wall of text in comments IS WELCOMED here 🙂

      It was a commenter on the HuffPo writer’s article, not the writer herself (who is a mom and well, a writer). There are so many things to read on HuffPo, I don’t get why that commenter chose to read and comment on a mom’s post about her daughter, if it so offended her. Just don’t understand.

  • March 1, 2013 Not a Perfect Mom

    oh Lord….then don’t effing read the mom blogs…what a twat…
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Right?? The twat also added in her comment that she wasn’t a mom. So, why are you reading a mom’s article? Duh.

  • March 1, 2013 Jennifer

    Alison, I loved your post! I was stopping by to say HI and to read over your blog. It’s awesome! 🙂
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Jennifer! 🙂

  • March 1, 2013 Angela

    I think that some mommy bloggers have given the rest of us a bad reputation, which is unfortunate but not totally shocking. I have written my entire life, started out in a spiral notebook then progressed to a fancy covered “journal” I obsessively carried everywhere and then since I am online 24/7 managing social media & online communities it’s only natural that I blog. All of those journals were about my life, and my life now is that of a mom who writes, has thoughts, opinions, bad days & good ones. I share all of it there.
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      You’re right, some mom bloggers have given the rest of us a bad name. But there are bad apples in every category of bloggers yes? Love that you’ve been writing all your life!

  • March 1, 2013 Galit Breen

    Love this, you. Mom blogging and proud, indeed! xo
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, love you! xo

  • March 1, 2013 Kimber

    These thoughts are great! We write because we all support each other! I think the irony lies in that the person that made the comment just spent the time to read the mom bloggers thoughts. If there is no audience, there wouldn’t be nearly as many writers!
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Yes, exactly! Great observation.

  • March 2, 2013 Robin

    I kind of get why people don’t want to read it, but I think that general opinion is based on the many mom blogs that aren’t terribly well-written. (Yes, I said it.) But it doesn’t make the stories any less important, especially to that mom and her family. I think it’s the writers like you who give this material meaning. It’s not a chronology of your day all the time (though sometimes it’s nice to see what others are up to) but the real stuff about the challenges and the small moments and the reminders that we’re not alone. And I think that totally is worth reading.
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    • March 2, 2013 RJ

      I hear you and I am so glad you wrote this post. I am a new blogger and struggle with this quite a bit. I found your blog via the linkup on MommiFried and I am now following you on Twitter.

      • March 3, 2013 Alison

        Thanks for stopping by and the follow, RJ!

    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      I too, understand that some mom blogs isn’t everyone’s cup of tea (look where I went, what I did etc), but they’re clearly writing for their audience, whoever they may be. I don’t read those kind of mom blogs. Just as this commenter clearly should have just clicked away instead of writing her nasty comment.

  • March 2, 2013 The Stepford Wife

    I’m so annoyed by the negative comments like the one you mentioned. I think people believe it’s cool to represent maternity as something negative and it really, really annoys me. I’ve even written a post about it, after seeing a TV commercial for the new Fiat 500L http://stepfordska-supruga-en.blogspot.com/2013/01/why-is-it-cool-to-represent-maternity.html

  • March 2, 2013 Melanie

    Ouch is right!!! Why the hate?? Wow…

    I think having a mom blog is a great way to document our children’s lives. It flies by so quickly and I’m scared I’ll forget when I get old and senile. lol

    Have a great weekend!! 🙂
    Melanie
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Melanie! Yes, blogging as a way of memory capturing and keeping – nothing wrong with it at all.

  • March 3, 2013 melissa

    Mom blogging is the best! I love reading about other kids and I love to think “I have been there!” when I see a mom going through something I have gone through countless times. I am 26 and the only person out of my friends that have kids and they just never get it.

    But on the happier side of things sometimes my kids do something that is just so damn awesome that I have to share.

    Having children has opened up a whole new world for me. A lot of what I do has been inspired by them. They have inspired me to be more creative, to get out in the world, and just say YES. So why in the world would I NOT write about it for other moms to see??
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Yes! Having kids has opened up a whole new world for me too. Totally awesome.

  • March 3, 2013 Laura

    This was great to read! I’m just starting out with blogging, literally JUST started a couple of weeks ago. It’s something I’ve been thinking about doing for a while now, for the reasons you talk about here, to preserve memories to look back on later, to not feel so isolated, to have a personal creative outlet. But comments like the one you quoted kept me from starting it earlier. Stupid! Why should I care if people think I’m wasting my time?

    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      You shouldn’t care. Just do it. It’s for you and your family, not for the haters. Welcome to blogging! Hope you’re enjoying it.

  • March 3, 2013 Christina

    I admit to reading a lot of mommy bloggers. However, I am not a mom. I read them because they are interesting. I read them because they are written well. I read them because one day I might be a mom. Do I sometimes feel like I can’t always relate to a mommy blogger? Of course. But they are still valid and interesting blogs.
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      Exactly! Mom blogs are not all crap and uninteresting. Thanks Christina!

  • March 3, 2013 My Inner Chick

    ~~~Alison Lee,
    I’m wondering why bloggers get so much flack & disrespect.
    Are people threatened, envious, intimidated?
    It is a platform like no other to feel liberated & without boundaries.
    And YES, we are writers.

    So there. ASSHOLES!

    Excuse my French. Yes, I do that, too. Xxx
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    • March 3, 2013 Alison

      I love that you said assholes because that’s exactly what they are!!!
      Love you.

  • March 4, 2013 Lady Jennie

    There will always be people who have snide comment to say about something. If it’s not mom blogging then it’s something else. Goodness gracious! I would hate to be the one so exacting that I could never allow myself to fall short of perfection.
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    • March 4, 2013 Alison

      You said that so well. xo

  • March 5, 2013 Alexandra

    Someone said that tonight in a writer’s group and I calld them on it. They were reading something and said it was originally posted on a blog tht that their editor told them they “had” to start. She said, “I get comments. But they’re blogger comments, not from writers.”

    I said, “so? Bloggers aren’t writers?”

    Yup. e
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    • March 5, 2013 Alison

      I sure hope I don’t know this person. 🙂

  • March 9, 2013 Runnermom-jen

    Wow! Ouch is right. This was very well written, also.
    xo
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    • March 9, 2013 Alison

      Thanks Jen!

  • March 15, 2013 Kelly

    The silly things is that if it was so pointless, there wouldn’t be so many of us. And we wouldn’t all be reading one another’s blogs. And, it isn’t even like we are in competition with each other. We all have families and blog about families and all of their little idiosyncrasies and yet, there is still more to write and we continue to read them! So, whoever wrote that line about not getting us Mom Bloggers, clearly hasn’t done their research and probably isn’t a mom (or a parent for that matter).
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    • March 15, 2013 Alison

      You’re right, the commenter was not a parent, and she said as much. Clearly not our target audience!

  • March 26, 2013 Kim

    About two months ago, I received an extremely harsh comment from a man about me being a work-at-home mom. I wrote about it in my blog (read: http://www.momonduty.com/2013/02/ay-housewife-ka-lang.html). There are some parts in our native language, but you’ll get the point of the post (“Ay, housewife ka lang?” means “You’re JUST a housewife?” in English). It was so harsh that I cried when we got home. It’s just hurts when people belittle you for choosing to stay at home with the kids– even when you help earn by working from home.

    Anyway. After posting my thoughts and feelings about what happened, I felt a lot better. The comments of other mom bloggers really helped.

    I’m sharing this post! 🙂
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    • March 26, 2013 Alison

      I’m glad you managed to get past that – which was just plain mean.
      Thanks for reading, commenting and sharing!

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