The (Almost) Unbearable Lightness Of Not Being Needed

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As my car picked up speed, and I drove further and further away from my home, where I’d just left my husband in charge of the children, I felt lighter and lighter. I turned up the music, and jammed to some rocking dance tune, the name of which I cannot remember.

With each mile, each beat, each tap of my fingers on the steering wheel, I could physically feel the stress leave my body.

It was the first time in ten days (two weeks?) that I was on my own, worrying about no one, doing nothing but something for myself.

There was no guilt. There was no thinking I should be at home, with the boys. There was no wondering if people would think I’m a terrible mother, for rejoicing in the fact that I had three whole hours of ‘me’ time to look forward to.

Guilt. It’s like the ball and chain we figuratively attach to ourselves when we become parents.

Last Saturday, I shook off that bitch, and saved my sanity.

I retreated to a cafe, I read an actual book, I drank too many coffees, I only sent one text message to my husband to let him know I was alive (and to see how he was doing).

When I got home, the house was a mess, the kids had food all over them, but they were happy, laughing and the baby launched himself at me (something I will never get tired of).

My husband didn’t even look the worse for wear, and assured me it was a breeze.

Guess what I did on Sunday?

Three. More. Hours. Off.

Morals of the story? For wives and mothers, take time off for yourself. For husbands and fathers, don’t say it was a breeze unless you’re prepared for two days of solo parenting, because your wife will take full advantage of it.

Thank you, husband.

Just for fun, I’m participating in Trifecta for the first time ever. Their week’s one-word prompt fit perfectly into this post, which I’d already half-written. My word count is 319 words.

This week’s word is: BITCH (noun)

1: the female of the dog or some other carnivorous mammals
2 a : a lewd or immoral woman
b : a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman —sometimes used as a generalized term of abuse
3: something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant

Please remember:

  • Your response must be between 33 and 333 words.
  • You must use the 3rd definition of the given word in your post.
  • The word itself needs to be included in your response.
  • You may not use a variation of the word; it needs to be exactly as stated above.
  • Only one entry per writer.
  • Trifecta is open to everyone. Please join us.

When was the last time you had a break and ‘me’ time?

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • January 23, 2013 Kimberly

    Guilt really is a bitch.

    I can completely relate to this. There are times I just NEED to take for myself before I lose any shred of sanity I may have left.
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      It is a need, not just a desire. Sometimes, putting ourselves first is the only thing to do.

  • January 23, 2013 Nina

    Good use of the B word! What a fun assignment. And glad you got some time to yourself!!
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      No one gladder than me! 🙂

  • January 23, 2013 Kim

    It’s been a little while since I have had some ‘me’ time come to think of it. Your post is inspiring me to plan some soon. Tunes, a book and some coffee? Sounds great to me! Glad you enjoyed your time.
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      Three simple pleasures every Mama needs from time to time. 🙂

  • January 23, 2013 barbara

    welcome to the challenge. I think all mamas should take some special “me” time. 🙂
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      Thank you, Barbara, this was fun!

  • January 23, 2013 Natalie

    YAY for you! You totally deserve a break…and so glad you are getting two breaks. We all need a little time to ourselves to re-energize our batteries.
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      Sunday was such a bonus. I managed to finally get a much-needed haircut!

  • January 23, 2013 Julie

    That’s a pretty cool writing exercise. I love that while reading it, I had no idea it was for a prompt.

    I’ve often dreamt of taking a few hours at a coffee shop to myself. I missed that window between having the first and carrying the second, but I’m determined that as soon as my boobs aren’t needed for three hours, I’m going to become the girl in the corner of the bookstore, or the chick taking up the valuable real estate at the coffee shop.

    Or the lady getting her toes did. Or her hair trimmed.

    Oh my gosh, look what you’ve done to me. You’ve allowed me to dare to dream…
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      Dreams can come true.
      Though maybe not for the first 6 months after #2 is born. 🙂

  • January 23, 2013 Jessica

    “I shook off that bitch” LOVE that line.
    I try to take “me” time at least every other Saturday if not every Saturday. When the youngest goes to take a nap, I leave the oldest and my husband and just get out of the house alone. It is so needed and I always feel refreshed when I walk back in the door.

    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      Exactly, I feel like I can take on the world when I get home! Well, at least tackle two kids and housework. 🙂

  • I’m not sure if it is the new year, but I have definitely seen a trend of mommies recognizing that they need time for themselves. It doesn’t mean we love our babies any less, but we have to love our selves a little more than we have been doing.

    “If Mama is not happy, nobody is happy” – I have no idea who said this first.
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      Well, my word of the year is DO, and a part of that, is to do something for myself. Making one day a week, every other week, for myself is part of the Happiness Project. 🙂

  • January 23, 2013 Vanita

    girl, saturday i had the house to myself for 5 hours and didnt know what to do with myself. i spent most of it going “wow i’m alone”
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    • January 28, 2013 Alison

      Haha! Funny lady.

  • January 23, 2013 Leighann

    I couldn’t agree more. Time away is crucial for moms to reenergize

  • January 23, 2013 Tracie

    I love that the next day you went out and did it again. Good for you!!
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Right?? That’s my favorite part. 🙂

  • January 23, 2013 my inner chick

    Last Saturday, I shook off that bitch, and saved my sanity.****

    Great Sentence, Mama. Xxx

    Yeahhh, for some ALONE TIME!
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Why, thank you, Kim!

  • January 23, 2013 KymmInBarcelona

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  • January 23, 2013 joetwo

    Hear! Hear! Totally true!

  • January 23, 2013 sarah

    THIS! THIS IS WHY EXACTLY WHY I take my solo drive every Sunday, or every Sunday that it’s possible for me to go. Sorry for all the caps, but isn’t it just fabulous?! the freedom, the music, the no guilt, the stress leaving your body. Good for you Alison. I’m so glad you enjoyed it 🙂
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Oh it is SO fabulous. I can see why you do it. There is no better way to retain a little sense of self. Truly.

  • January 24, 2013 AnnMarie

    I just got a break when I went to New York and the guilt was awful until I got on the plane and like you, I shedded that bitch like a snake sheds its old skin. I might have to use that word like that in several conversations all day today since it is so fun. 🙂 Love that you went back the next day. 🙂
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Hah, yes, like a snake, woohoo!!
      Oh yes, day 2 was awesome – I finally got my hair cut!

  • January 24, 2013 Nicole(Whole Strides)

    That is awesome. I can’t wait until I get a break…. someday.
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Oh you will, Nicole, you will.

  • January 24, 2013 Valerie

    That’s great Alison!!! Today it’s three hours of “me” time, but in a couple of years it might be a short trip with a few friends (without the guilt!)
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Cannot. Wait. 🙂

  • January 24, 2013 The Dose of Reality

    Ooohh! What a cool writing challenge!

    I could not agree more with your conclusion. Moms have GOT to take some time for themselves. It is not a want, but need.
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      It was fun, Trifecta!
      Yes, definitely a need.

  • January 24, 2013 Rivki Silver

    Glorious! Three hours!!?!?!? Amazing! Every mother needs this. A friend of mine and I used to swap kid-watching for each other. One week she would take mine and the next I would take hers, and we would have two hours to get whatever done (or nothing, sometimes, which is also something).

    I recently joined a concert band (think band camp) and now every Wednesday, for an hour and a half, I get to be a clarinetist instead of mother/cook/cleaning help/wife. It is incredibly rejuvenating. I love it, and I love my husband for recognizing my need for this and helping out at home so I can go.
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Well, that’s awesome, Rivki! Yay for understanding husbands.

  • January 24, 2013 Jessica

    I’m glad you got a few hours to yourself. It’s important.
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      It absolutely is.

  • January 24, 2013 Denise

    Sounds wonderful.
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  • January 24, 2013 Kiran

    Guilt can be such a bitch. I saw your tweet the other day and was so happy for you. I felt like i wanted to exhale for you – those three hours or three days or three minutes are so important sometimes and we need to know when we need that for ourselves.

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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Yay for exhaling!!
      The time off did wonders.

  • January 24, 2013 Laura at Mommy Miracles

    Awesome. So so awesome! My husband used to do “Man-errands” with Cameron. I think we need to reinstate guy time (So I can have some me time).
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      Man-errands! I like that! My husband takes the toddler out for 45 minutes or so in the evenings after the baby goes to bed, gives me a little me time at home to like, take a shower (it’s hot here, 2 showers a day is necessary), and just sit down for a cup of tea. It’s awesome.

  • January 24, 2013 Robin

    You did it! Love that you used “bitch” in this context.

    I’ve been getting some of this semi-regularly. And thank the ever-loving gods of good husbands that I am.
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      I did! Good husbands – we’re so lucky, aren’t we?

  • January 24, 2013 deana

    I love my me time!
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  • January 24, 2013 Mrs. Jen B

    Guilt is so ugly and mean. And heavy. I’m glad you shook it off – you deserve time for you.
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      You’re right, it is mean, ugly and heavy.
      No more!

  • January 24, 2013 KalleyC

    It has been ages since I’ve had official me time. That is one thing on my to do list that I need to get done. Just focus on me for one hour or two. So glad you were able to enjoy your time without The guilt and the husband had fun parenting solo.
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    • January 29, 2013 Alison

      You definitely need to get this scheduled, it will do wonders!

  • January 24, 2013 Leslie

    If there’s any benefit to being an office mom, it’s lunch breaks. Even if it’s only 15 minutes, that’s still 15 minutes to de-stress, 5 days a week. I have the utmost respect for mothers who stay home with their kids all day every day. For those moms, their work is NEVER done. The breaks are few and far between. Good for you for getting at least 6 hours of weekend! (BTW, Trifecta sounds like a lot of fun…definitely going to check out some of the other posts!)
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      6 hours of weekend is such an awesome way to look at it!!
      Yes, do check out Trifecta, you never know, you may get inspired.

  • January 24, 2013 Greta

    Ahhhh, that sounds divine. My husband is usually grumpy when I get home from a few hours by myself, which does not allow for the guilt to stay away. I bet it was LOVELY.

    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      It was SO LOVELY!
      Husbands are not supposed to be grumpy, they’re supposed to grit their teeth and assure you it was ‘a breeze’. 🙂

  • January 24, 2013 Sue


    You go, girlfriend.
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  • January 24, 2013 Janice

    How terribly wonderful of your hubby to let you catch a break like that! It always makes me happy to hear one of my “mom” friends got to go out and enjoy themselves because I know how much we moms need it once in a while. And it’s true – it really does save one’s sanity!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I love that other moms are happy for me! 🙂

  • January 24, 2013 Tori Nelson

    I’m getting used to the whole “alone time” thing. I still have that panic or guilt that makes me sure the world around my house will crumble if I’m not there wiping counters or bums.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I’ve been so deprived, I had no problem getting used to it, I loved it so much!

  • January 24, 2013 Galit Breen

    Oh you,love what you did with the prompt and *love* that you took time for yourself – two days in a row! #Swoon

    Now, inquiring minds must know: What was the rockin’ song?! 🙂
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I know, TWO DAYS IN A ROW.
      Honestly, I have no idea what song it is. It’s familiar but I can’t place the song title. #Old

  • January 24, 2013 tracy

    I’m rarely away – but confession time – when I do go, I never call or text home..even if I’m gone for 4 days for a work thing.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I envy that you’re able to do that. xoxo

  • January 24, 2013 Atreyee

    Ha!ha!Glad you conquered that Bitch & enjoyed your “me” time:-)I have always believed in it too & made sure that I have it every day-even if its only an hour.When my daughter was small,I used to use the hours she napped ,to catch up with reading or listening to music or doing whatever took my fancy .Enjoyed reading your post:-)
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Thank you! I do get some blocks of time in my day to do my thing (like write/ blog), but getting out of the house? It’s a treat.

  • January 25, 2013 Rabia

    My husband is staying home with the kids today because they have a snow day. I could tell he wanted to complain, but he knew better, because I get them all to myself every Saturday while he works. It’s good to take some time to yourself every once in a while. It makes you a better mother!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      It absolutely makes you a better mother! (and wife!)

  • January 25, 2013 Christine

    Love this and so so happy that you got some time off and kicked that bitch to the curb. You totally deserve it!! I’ve stopped feeling guilty about my need for “me” and alone time. My husband knows that I need it and that everyone will be happier if I have it. Otherwise, I become the raving bitch at home.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Hah! I WAS the raving bitch at home, I was walking around, head down, literally sulking, which prompted the, “Do you want to go out this weekend, and I’ll look after the boys?” I never said yes to anything so quickly before. 🙂

  • January 25, 2013 Maggie S.

    Good going. That’s the number one thing I would tell young moms, is always take time off. Get it on the schedule.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Absolutely! Getting it on the schedule is key.

  • January 25, 2013 Tess

    I love time off from the family. I have my youngest with me so much, that when I do have time away, Im looking down next to me making sure she is there. It drives me crazy. lol.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Haha, that’s funny. 🙂

  • January 25, 2013 Rach (DonutsMama)

    I firmly believe that we are better mothers when we allow ourselves to take a break from our obligations. After all, when we work, we have weekends off and can take vacation days. In school, we have breaks. This is a hard, hard job and why shouldn’t we take time to recharge??
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Gosh that is awesome logic, Rach!

  • January 25, 2013 Ewa "Mom Photographer"

    I am so desperate for “me time” I started running. Those 30 minutes every other morning are a bless. In not time I’ll be running marathons just so I can be on my own and have the excuse to do it!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Time alone AND working out! Perfect!

  • January 25, 2013 Amanda Jillian

    Oh to be away from the kids for an hour during the daylight and having fun not at a doctor appointment would be a slice of heaven right now.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Make time, do it!

  • January 25, 2013 Roxanne

    It really is super important for us all to have a little bit of time to ourselves. Glad you’re getting your me time!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      It is, if Mama ain’t happy and all that. 🙂

  • January 25, 2013 Trifecta

    Welcome and thanks for linking up! This is good advice for any mother. Hope to see you back soon.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Thank you for the great prompt!

  • January 25, 2013 Mama J

    I hardly get a few minutes to myself during the day so I definitely deserve time to decompress every single night. Recharge, not guilt! Glad you got good time for yourself.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Decompressing is SO important!

  • January 25, 2013 Poppy

    I love the warming to husbands – seriously, I’m going to take you at your word too.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Heh. Fortunately, my husband hasn’t caught on. I think.

  • January 25, 2013 another jennifer

    My hubby is pretty good at giving me some “me” time. It definitely gets easier as the kids grow. (Mine are 4 and 7.) It’s so important to get that alone time in to keep your sanity!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Oh yes, I know I’ll have more time when both kids are going to school. On one hand, I can’t wait. On the other, I know I’ll mourn the passage of time.

  • January 26, 2013 Runnermom-jen

    Ha! Guilt is a bitch. Husbands can be wonderful, and seem to know exactly when we need a little time to ourselves. Glad you had yours 🙂
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      They can be, definitely. 🙂

  • January 26, 2013 anymommy

    There is nothing like the freedom of alone time. I’m so glad you took some for you. I want us to be able to take some together!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Going to a blogging conference would be the ultimate take-time-for-myself-freedom, and a whole bunch of us can do it together!

  • January 26, 2013 ilene

    As Kimberly said above, guilt is a bitch. Tomorrow – the kid are going to their dad’s for the day, and I’m going to yoga, getting a pedicure, and working on blog posts and will love every minute of it. – as well as having too many coffees like you. I am glad you had your “me” time!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Oh that sounds divine!

  • January 27, 2013 Tonya

    First of all, what a cool meme. Secondly, guilt is a bitch and I’m so glad you got some time off. Two days in a row! What a treat.

    Thirdly, where would we be without our partners?
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I know, two days in a row!
      My husband is the best. Even on his worst days. 🙂

  • January 27, 2013 Lady Jennie

    Awesome title, I must say! And yes, 3 hours is nothing – you deserve it. Your sanity deserves it. Your husband and kids deserve it.

    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I like that perspective – that the husband and kids deserve it too. 🙂

  • January 28, 2013 Andrea

    Such a great reminder that we really do need our own time & we don’t need to feel guilty about it. I struggle with this a lot, I even feel guilty asking my husband for this time (horrible to feel this way right?!) I know this is something I have to get over though because it is so important for us!
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Yes, you cannot feel guilty for asking for some time alone! Absolutely not.

  • Yes! Yes! Yes! There is no reason to feel guilty for a couple of hours to yourself. Mothering is a 24 hour a day job/drain with little kids. I say the women who waste their break time feeling guilty instead of rejuvenating themselves really SHOULD feel guilty.

    And here is a little light at the end of the tunnel: although I hate to see them grow-up, as they get older the physical day-to-day drain does lighten up. Ellen
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      When both boys are in preschool/ school?
      I can’t even imagine what I’ll do with myself for 4 hours every morning. 🙂

  • January 28, 2013 Elena

    I’m always an advocate of taking a break and getting time for yourself. Hence my blog name. 😉
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      Hah! YES!

  • January 28, 2013 Maureen

    Ah the guilt yeah it’s like an old friend of mine. Mine went through the roof this past week. Long story but that’s awesome your husband can give you that much needed ME time 😀

    My me time? When I hit the gym or just when I’m alone in my room working out on my own.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      You spend it wisely. 🙂

  • January 28, 2013 Mirjam

    I’m glad to hear you had some me time! You deserve every minute of it.
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  • January 29, 2013 lisacng

    From the title, I thought you were going to write about your kids not needing you anymore (or at least the older one being really independent now). Whoops :). I love that you got two days of YOU time! Sometimes I feel guilty having me time, but ya know what, give and take. My hubs gets his time every week to go play sports. Granted my 2yo is watching TV for an hour and then off to bed, so to me, that’s a breeze. Last Saturday, I took 3 hrs and went to a photo shoot with photographer-friends. That was great me time and went so fast! Don’t know what my hubs did at home with J, but my hubby certainly didn’t complain. Again, give and take. It makes me feel less guilty.
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I used to feel guilty if I had an odd hour here and there to myself. I don’t know why we should though – everyone needs breaks, right? Glad you had your me time too!

  • January 30, 2013 TOI

    Guilt is such a bitch (i don’t dirty words, but i will say it again, guilt is a bitch).

    i love being a mother but i would also like to have those few hours to myself and when hubby allow me those hours, after he gets back from work, i feel guilty because he is taking care of our daughter and i am chilling, reading or blogging.

    you are right “For wives and mothers, take time off for yourself.” tonight i will not feel guilty when i get the off time 🙂
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    • January 30, 2013 Alison

      I’m glad you decided to ditch the guilt. It will take away the joy of your time, so why bother with it, right? Just enjoy it. 🙂

  • February 3, 2013 Katie

    I have GOT to find more time for myself. Work does NOT count because that is so not for myself.
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    • February 4, 2013 Alison

      You do. No, you MUST. And work totally doesn’t count. You have all those kids to think about!

  • February 8, 2013 Kir

    It took do it, but I got out now, I have time with my friends, I take the day off, let him go to work, take the boys to daycare and take a nap, or call Lisa and go shopping. Guilt becomes such a ueless emotion for me.
    I used to feel it so much, used to think “I”m needed here, I don’t want John doing this all himself” and the simple truth is that John works and parents just as hard as I do..there is no 50/50 with us…it’s 100/100 and we’re still floundering as mommy and daddy.

    But I am so glad that you left the house, so happy that you knew what good for you and did it. You deserve that, and your babies will be happier with a mommy that is happy, rested, fulfilled in other ways.

    you are one of the best moms I know..never forget that. 🙂
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    • February 8, 2013 Alison

      I love the 100/100 and not 50/50 when it comes to parenting. So right!
      Glad you take the time off to do what you want. You’re right, our kids deserve happy, well-rested moms!

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