Beauty Is A Light In The Heart…. And Other Things

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Kahlil Gibran quote

13 months ago, I wrote a letter to all girls about beauty.

Today, this post is republished at World Moms Blog. It’s my final post there, so it would be ever so lovely if you could head over and read it, especially if I’ve only just met you this year and you missed it on here. This one is close to my heart.

Yes, I will no longer be writing for World Moms Blog – I was spreading myself too thin as it is, and something had to give. However, it’s not au revoir, I am staying on as the Social Media Editor. It’s a sisterhood that I’ve grown with since I started blogging, so leaving has never been on the cards. Just doing less. Which believe me, is rather difficult for me.

I’m feeling mellow this week. I was in the doldrums and feeling rather sorry for myself, only for the Universe to taco kick me with appendicitis, to make me realize I actually have it really good. So this week, I’m chilled out (not from the painkillers as I’m on regular, over-the-counter ones, thank you breastfeeding!), just going with the flow and trying to enjoy my last few days of ‘bedrest’. Soon, I’ll be back on my feet again, my boys will come home after a very extended ‘vacation’ at their grandparents, and I’ll be cheerfully digging boogers out of the toddler’s nose, and cleaning yogurt off the baby. And this makes me happy.

By the way, my toddler is turning three on December 29. Can I still call him a toddler then? No? *cue tears* I am considering a little birthday do for him at school, even though we have NEVER talked about birthdays with him, and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t realize he has one. I know, mean parents. We’re just not the celebrating types. However, I feel the need to celebrate him this year, and how far he has come since he started school. Aye or nay to a little birthday party? (this will mean I’ll need to make some food, bring some party favors and so on, and it has to be next week!)

Oh, last question and a serious one, so do weigh in. I‘ve been posting twice a week here for a few weeks now (except for last week with the giveaway) – is that a good thing for you as a reader? Do you prefer more posts? Or less? Or just right? Tell me in the comments!

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • December 12, 2012 Stasha

    I don’t like throwing parties and I really don’t like attending them. But you will enjoy seeing the happiness on his face if you throw a little gathering for his bday. We usually serve a lot of wine and cheese. To parents πŸ˜‰ win win…

    • December 12, 2012 Alison

      Well, if we do, it’d be at his school so I don’t think they’ll let us bring wine and cheese πŸ˜‰ Darn.

  • December 12, 2012 Kristen

    You most definitely need to celebrate Monkey! Trust me, it doesn’t have to be big for them to enjoy it. It will be
    fun for him but it will warm your heart more than you can imagine. It is sooo worth it!

    As for your blog, 2-3 posts are great to me but I think that is a decision that you need to make. Is it easy to bang out 5 posts a week for you? Then keep at it if it is something you love to do. If you think 2-3 will give you more of your life back for your family and your new social media company then cut back. And just remember we’ll all be here no matter how many posts you write.

    Congrats on handling the social media for World Moms Blog!!!
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    • December 12, 2012 Alison

      I can’t do 5 posts. I can barely manage 3 quality ones, hence the two a week! Glad to know people don’t really mind just two a week. Yay!

      Thank you for your input on the birthday – I think we’re going to do it!

  • December 12, 2012 adrienne

    Enjoy that last little bit of rest! You need it, mama! I love that quote by Kahlil Gibran. So true.

    As far as the posting, I like it b/c then I don’t fall behind! πŸ™‚
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    • December 12, 2012 Alison

      Two posts a week it is then!

  • December 12, 2012 Kim

    I get intimidated by parties, but they are pretty special to our little ones. I am sure that he – and you – might enjoy a little celebration. As for the posting, I think it is up to you. Whether it is 2 or more, like Kristen said, your readers will come to see you. πŸ™‚
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    • December 12, 2012 Alison

      Well, he loves attention and what better way to get it than a party right? πŸ™‚ Thank you for your input!

  • December 12, 2012 My Inner Chick

    Love the quote, Mama A.

    & I love U. xx
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    • December 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you. Love you too, like big. xo

  • December 12, 2012 Olga

    Alison, I’d read your posts if you posted every day -;) so no, twice per week is not too often.

    I think the cultural differences you point out here are so refreshing. You’ve probably read my post on gifts and parties, so you know that this is something we tackle all the time. I do think that a party once in a while is great and gifts once in a while are great. So, if you decide to do something at his school he will love it and will treasure this celebration for a while. But if you don’t do it now and do something another year that’s okay too. And by the way, 3 is totally a baby! That’s what I call my 3 year old, at any rate. Will now head over to World Moms Blog to read your post there.
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    • December 12, 2012 Alison

      Yay, three is still a baby!! I think we will do the little birthday thing at his school. At least when he looks back when he’s older, we can say we did do a birthday at least once. πŸ™‚

  • December 12, 2012 Sarah

    JUST right. I love the two weekly posts. When people start posting a lot I get stressed about leaving good comments. Two posts does not stress me out πŸ™‚ I vote yes to the little party. I bet he’ll love it. THREE wow! I think you might have to start calling him something like “preschooler.” He’s moving up in the world πŸ™‚ If my blog gets fixed in time I’d still love to do a memories captured. Oh, and Vanita is heaven sent. She is wonderful and I feel like I’m in such good hands. Thank you thank you!

    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      Yay for 2-3 posts! I’m good with that and I’m relieved that everyone is too. Preschooler – NO!!!!! I checked your blog yesterday and it looked okay so that’s good, yay. Vanita IS amazing, hope she’s able to help you!!

  • December 12, 2012 The Dose of Reality

    Aw! You can call them toddler as long as you want!
    I think a small party is a fantastic idea. It will feel even more special because you haven’t done it before! Yay!
    I will be happy to be your reader if you blog twice a week or twice a day. Whatever works for you, works for me!! –Lisa

    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      Looks like we’re doing a small party for the kiddo!

  • December 12, 2012 Shannon

    Happy Birthday to your boy! I say yes on a little party, but keep it simple so it doesn’t cause you to stress out. And of course he’s still a baby! I look back at the pictures of my son from when he was three and he was such a baby, compared to the hairy, smelly teenager that he is now.

    I think 2-3 posts a week is great if that is what works for you.
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      “Hairy, smelly teenager” made me laugh and grimace at the same time! πŸ™‚

      Yes, looks like we’re veering towards a small, simple birthday do for the kiddo. Yay!

  • December 13, 2012 Lady Jennie

    Hi my dear,

    First of all, I’m glad you’re staying on at WMB, no matter what fashion. And I love 2 posts a week. I can’t get to much more than that and with some of my favorite friends I don’t like to miss posts. I think you should have a birthday party, but I’m all about celebrating. And … what else. Doldrums. It’s the time of year and the change of responsibilities, isn’t ? At least that’s what it seems for me.
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      I can’t leave WMB. I won’t. Even if anyone tries to drag me out kicking and screaming, I won’t. πŸ™‚

      A birthday party it shall be. Though a simple one as I’m just getting back on my feet. The doldrums – ah. That will take a little longer to move out of. But moving, I am. One day at a time. Hope you’re well, my friend.

  • December 13, 2012 Brittany

    I read whenever you post so of course I say if 2 days works then awesome and if more than I will still read but please not less πŸ™‚

    I get being stretched too thin. Good for you taking a step towards more balance.

    And you know me. I always say AYE to birthday parties or celebrations of any kind.

    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      Can I hire you as my party planner? πŸ™‚ No, I can’t post less than twice a week – what would I do then?

  • December 13, 2012 Julia

    Love Kahlil Gibran quotes. Happy almost birthday to your sweet boy! I’m sorry you are leaving World Mom Blog but so proud of you for taking care of yourself. And I think your posting schedule is perfect. I much prefer blogs that post more infrequently but hold quality than blogs that post daily just about stuff, you know?
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      Not totally leaving WMB, just working behind the scenes so less pressure! Oh good, twice a week is good for you then.

  • December 13, 2012 Robin

    Re: World Moms Blog: good for you for carving out some boundaries. I know how tough that is – I had to do that when I chose to stop writing for them too. But glad you’re staying on in some capacity. You’re such a big part of that team!

    Re: party: we seem not to be big on birthdays either for some reason, but we do celebrate. It might be fun to do something for him, but only if you want to set a precedent. πŸ™‚

    Re: posts: Whatever you do works great, but I kind of like the 2-3 posts. I’m having a hard time commenting on things lately (there’s only so much I want to type with one hand) and I always read and comment here, so fewer is fine by me πŸ˜‰
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      It’s a nice feeling to grow with something, I know you know that with JBE!
      Ah the party precedent – such a dilemma. Thinking maybe just sticking to school parties, much smaller scale.
      2-3 posts it is then!

  • December 13, 2012 Kristiina

    Yes to frequent posts, love your writing.

    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much!

  • December 13, 2012 AnnMarie

    I say yes to a small to do. Think of it as having an excuse to browse Pinterest (not that you have to do any of what you see or pin because aren’t we all guilty of that). I think 2-3 is fine if it works for you. I just know I click on the link whenever it shows up in my email. This gives me something to think about, though. I never thought I might be overwhelming my readers with too much. I might have to steal this poll and ask. πŸ™‚
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      I’ve been Pinning birthday cakes, all of which I can’t make. Hah!
      Thank you for always reading, and yes, do a poll!

  • December 13, 2012 Christine

    I think that if you’re up for it, do something small/informal for his birthday. I hate celebrating birthdays, hate going to birthday parties, etc. but my boys truly light up on the birthday and when we celebrate them. For that, I’m willing to bake the cupcakes and clean up. And like Stasha said, lots of wine and beer for the parents πŸ™‚

    Feel better and enjoy your last couple of days of bedrest. As for your posts, it’s really what is manageable for you. I love your posts but I’m also always behind in my blog reading πŸ™‚
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      Nothing for the parents as it’d be at the school, which also means no cleaning up! I think it’d be nice to do one. I kinda want to now.

      I think most of us are usually behind in blog reading – I’m guilty of skipping some if they post too often. Oops.

  • December 13, 2012 Asianmommy

    Oh no! Hope you feel better soon!
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      I do, thank you!

  • December 13, 2012 Jessica

    I’m not a fan of birthday parties for kids. I don’t even have them for my oldest. Too much work.

    And post as often as is comfortable for you. I’ll read them, just might take me some time.
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      I know you’ll read them, thank you.

  • December 13, 2012 Leslie

    I still call our 3 year old a toddler, even though she’s running and jumping. Her clothes still have a “T” designator right? As far as the posting frequency goes, I think you need to do what works best for you. I love your writing style, so I don’t tire of seeing frequent posts; but if posting more often is going to stress you out don’t do it.
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      I think posting more than 3 times a week WILL stress me out, so I’ll stick to two regular (hopefully quality) posts a week, and maybe an extra one thrown in here and there. And good point about the T in sizing πŸ™‚

  • December 13, 2012 Kimberly

    I know what you mean about needing to do less!

    As for posting, do what you’re comfortable with. I’ll still read, it just may take me a few days to catch up. πŸ˜‰
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    • December 13, 2012 Alison

      I don’t mind catcher-uppers at all!

  • December 13, 2012 Susi

    I’m not a “big party” thrower either. I prefer small scale intimate get-togethers instead. But I think, your boy is old enough to appreciate it. Just take some cupcakes, maybe a small favor bag and little party hats for the kids. That should be fun but not too over whelming!!! (I’ll happily bake some cupcakes for you!!! πŸ˜‰ ) Also, our oldest boys have the same birthday – mine will be 12 on the 29th!!! πŸ™‚
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    • December 14, 2012 Alison

      Yes, that’s the plan! (thank you for the baking offer, if only I could take it up)
      Oh, Dec 29 baby too!

  • December 13, 2012 Sue

    You celebrate that little boy if you are moved to do so. He is absolutely something to fuss over.

    And you post as often as it’s comfortable for YOU. That’s what I did. And I’m so much happier for it.
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    • December 14, 2012 Alison

      I’m moved but I’m also lazy πŸ˜‰

  • December 14, 2012 Kate F.

    I prefer twice a week. I have a hard time keeping up with much more than that (I read blogs through my Google Reader and can sometimes feel overwhelmed with how much reading I have!) I actually often look forward more to those bloggers who post less, because usually – not always, but usually – I feel like those blogs have more to say in a less “forced” way… does that make sense?
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    • December 14, 2012 Alison

      Yes, that does make sense! Although I think some bloggers post a lot because they do a lot of reviews/ giveaways, or they just like to write πŸ˜‰

      • December 14, 2012 Kate F.

        True, very true. It is all very personal, isn’t it? I actually post 2-4 times a week – just not all on my blog (also on the Mothers Central Blog for the National Association of Mothers Centers where I am a staff member). I am a creative person by nature, but not an “easy writing” person (my background is in graphic design and advertising). It takes me hours to write posts. HOURS. Love to do it – really enjoy writing, but sometimes it can be mentally draining.

        Conversely – the more you do something the better you get… huh? (Sorry! Now, I’m just rambling, bet you never through your 2 sentence response to me would evoke this much back – LOL)

  • December 14, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    it’s your blog, you need to post however much will keep you sane, happy, and wanting to write…
    no one is going anywhere
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    • December 14, 2012 Alison

      Yay! You better not go anywhere, I’ll hunt you down. πŸ™‚

  • December 14, 2012 Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson

    Hi Alison!

    I have a unique perspective on this – as the boy who used to be called Monkey is now my 13-year old TechSupport. Tech was born in August. He never got to sit in that cool chair that they had in school . And they banished sweet treats coming into his school due to allergies long before he ever got there. He never got to have me come in and read a book to his class.

    I thought he would feel deprived.

    So I used to make these elaborate summer birthday parties. ANd, of course, no one was ever around, so they kind of tanked.

    Eventually, I just stopped. I told him he could have a friend or two over for dinner and a sleepover, that kind of thing. He has loved that. But he never asked. All of this came from me.

    Eventually, he started going to summer camp where they make a big deal about birthdays. Kids with summer birthdays have cup-cakes baked for their entire bunk and they get to skip around the entire dining hall. He LOVES this practice. He feels so cool as people shout: SKIP SKIP SKIP SKIP!


    Ro answer your question.

    He is going to get bigger. It’s happening fast. If YOU want a party, do it. If you don’t, don’t. But eventually, he won’t want a party anymore. He just won’t. I am fine with it — and we celebrate his 1/2 birthday in February because I am not even with him on his real birthday. I can only call him on the phone. On those days, I look back at the pictures of his old birthday parties and I’m glad we had them. Even if it was a hassle. Even if it rained. Even if it wasn’t very much fun for the adults.

    Because now? I’m out of it. *pass the tissues*
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    • December 25, 2012 Alison

      We ended up not having the party as OMG I fell sick from the flu right after I fell well enough to get up and about.

      Thank you for sharing your story, ypu’re right, soon, they won’t want a party. His birthday is in 4 days, I am baking him something and he’ll blow out 3 candles. it’d just be me, his dad, his aunt and his brother but he’s well loved.

  • December 14, 2012 Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson

    Oh, and as I learned from Nina Badzin. Writing less can be more. I think people get overwhelmed when there is too much coming in the reader. One fabulous piece a week is better than a lot of junk. (Not that you do that. You know what I mean. SOme people feel compelled to post something every day, and then I click through and I’m all: Whaaaat? WHat a waste of time! So I might delete the next 3 posts because I am busy and figure they are probably similar.

    And what if one of those was the BEST post ever.

    That would suck.

    I think if you put out consistently excellent quality, people will love you. Some of us are just a little slower than others. I only post twice a week. It works for me — in fact, my readership has been growing because I think people know I have spent a lot of time crafting one long serious piece and one more silly piece. They can decide which they dig. Or, if I’m lucky, they’ll like both. πŸ˜‰

    But you won’t lose anyone by blogging a little less. ANd I know you aren’t dropping off the planet. πŸ˜‰
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    • December 25, 2012 Alison

      I agree. Posting less IS more. πŸ™‚

  • December 14, 2012 Nellie

    I agree with everyone else, if 2-3 is what you can do, go for it!!
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    • December 25, 2012 Alison

      I’m sticking with 2-3 times!

  • December 15, 2012 karen

    love that quote, so true, but wish more people believed it.

    happy birthday to your little guy…so sad when they leave babyhood then toddlerhood.
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    • December 25, 2012 Alison

      He’s now preschooler, not even toddler!

  • December 17, 2012 Jessica

    I’m sorry to hear that you’re leaving World Moms Blog as a contributor, but I understand. I am happy to hear that you are doing better! Three is still most definitely a toddler, right? Or that’s what I thought. Either way, where has the time gone?

    I think you should only post when you can! Those who follow you will keep up no matter what, or at least that’s been my experience.

    • December 25, 2012 Alison

      I’m still with WMB as a Senior Editor, and that suits me for now!

      Time has flown by – days long, years short. So true.

  • December 24, 2012 Katie

    I am in love with the fact that you only post 2-3 times a week because I adore reading your words, but, well ,you know my lack of time these days. I always get to them, but it’s easier to have 4-5 to read rather than 8-10. It’s not so overwhelming.

    Also? YAY MONKEY! Three is a great age (ignore all the crabby frustrations I have ranted about on my blog). So many cute sayings and a boom of learning. There is attitude for days, but somehow the sweetness the follows makes it worth it πŸ™‚
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    • December 25, 2012 Alison

      The attitude is gonna drive me bat shit crazy right? πŸ™‚

      Thank you for catching up with my posts. I’m definitely sticking with two a week, three will be an exception.

  • December 31, 2012 Vanita

    gosh i hate hand IVs too. my hands are always swollen for a week afterwards and purple and bruised for another week. so glad you’re doing better girl! now don’t forget…you’re not allowed to eat tree bark when u dont have an appendix.
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    • December 31, 2012 Alison

      It took 10 days for my hand to get back to normal!! Thanks for the tree bark tip πŸ™‚

  • January 8, 2013 Tonya

    Until Lucas requests certain guests and/or locations we have decided to limit his birthday parties to backyard BBQs with close family and friends only.

    Love the quote and remember your post on beauty well. I loved it.
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    • January 8, 2013 Alison

      I think backyard BBQs with friends and family is the way to go!

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