The Easy

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This blog is for my children.

It’s for me too, but mostly, it’s for my boys.

It’s their baby book which in-real-life, I never got round to doing.

I want to fill it with memories, milestones, stories.

I want them to see it all – even the hard.

I’ve been writing a lot about the hard lately. I’ve had to dig deep to get through the days.

But it’s not hard because the boys are difficult.

No, it’s hard because this parenting thing? This making sure that the children are well and happy, and it’s all on my shoulders to make sure of that? The scariness of oh-my-god-I-cannot-screw-this-gig-up? The sinking feelings of not-enough-hours-in-a-day? Yes, those are the hard parts.

But the boys? My children? The pieces of my heart?

They are the easy.

Like the littlest who is 5 months old today.

Who can roll in all directions (and does, often), who stays seating up by himself for a little while, who has little teeth coming through.

Who has a ready smile and an infectious giggle. Who loves his tummy rubbed and his head stroked.

Who brightens up when he sees his brother or me. Who grabs my fingers at every opportunity.

5 month old baby boy

And the toddler, who told me just the other morning, “Love you!”, both hands on my face.

Who comes up to me at random times of the day just to hug me. Who still likes to cuddle when he’s sleepy.

Who adores his baby brother and loves being with him.

Who points out colors of everything and counts them all. Who sings the Alphabet Song and Alouette all through the day.

2 year old toddler

Yes, they are the easy.

They are the reason I wake up in the morning, to do better, to be better.

They are the reason motherhood rocks.

What do you love about parenting?

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • October 8, 2012 Laura

    Yes! YES! SO YES!!!

    Love has never come easier than it does with my boys. And because of that, motherhood just comes naturally.
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    • October 11, 2012 Alison

      I think it’s meant to be that way. And it’s fabulous when it all comes together.

  • October 8, 2012 Elaine A.

    First of all, gorgeous photos.

    Second of all, I want to squeeze those chub rolls on baby.

    Third of all , 5 MONTHS?!?!

    And fourth, yes, the kids are mostly easy. It’s all the thinking and doing that is hard.

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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you – Nikon!
      I squeezed the chub for ou!
      And yes, FIVE MONTHS! OHEMGEE.
      Yeah, all that thinking. Though I do more doing these days. Sigh.

  • October 8, 2012 Keely

    Your boys are beautiful.

    *I* love the moments that make me feel like I’m playing dress up, pretend, House, and babydolls…in those fun, sweet times, it’s kinda like I’m 9 again. (With AWESOME toys.)
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you!
      Can I come over to play?

  • October 8, 2012 tracy

    May I have just a small bite of baby’s thighs? Please? Pretty please?
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      You know he’s all yours!

  • October 8, 2012 Natalie

    They sure are the reason motherhood rocks! How sweet is your toddler…and how big is the baby! Such a big boy sitting up and rolling over πŸ™‚
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Yes, 5 months and growing up too quickly, sigh.

  • October 8, 2012 Christine

    ohmygoodness, the rolls! Does he have a wrist crease too? I loved the wrist crease surrounded by arm rolls. The boys definitely are the easy part.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      YES the boy has wrist creases!

  • October 8, 2012 Nina

    Gorgeous pictures and I love the title. It’s nice to talk about the good stuff, too, isn’t it? πŸ™‚
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      It absolutely is. πŸ™‚

  • October 8, 2012 Sarah

    My Gawd. Your children are so beautiful. Look at little man sitting up! I have my vinyl stencil that I won last linkup…it has been on Mitchell’s to do list FOREVER to put on the wall for me. Once that actually happens I’ll tweet you a pic. Having said that, I wouldn’t mind winning again πŸ™‚
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Yes, would love to see what you got from the last MC linkup!

  • October 8, 2012 Alexandra

    The easy? I don’t know how they do it, but my children save my life every day.

    They’re the reason I pray thanks every night, for the last 17 years … I’ll never believe they’re mine, and how lucky I am.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      And THEY are lucky to have you πŸ™‚

  • October 8, 2012 My Inner Chick

    —One day when your children read your words, they will KNOW
    how BLESSED they are.

    Lovely. Xxx

    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      That is my hope. πŸ™‚ xo

  • Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this lovely post. I’ve been too wrapped up in the hard lately, and this was exactly what I needed to read.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      I’m glad reading this helped you, Aramelle. Truly.

  • October 8, 2012 Stasha

    You are such a positive person and mom. I read this earlier and I nodded. It is the overwhelming responsibility of growing men that will one day shape this world, that’s hard. The kids, they are our joy for sure

    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Stasha. I try to be positive, or I’ll sink in the negatives πŸ™‚

  • i love all about parenting. I have to agree with you that PARENTING in itself is indeed difficult but once your kids comes to you give you that hug, say words that make you laugh, you instantly forget the difficulties of the PARENTING… nice post… I like it…
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, glad you did!

  • October 8, 2012 Barbara

    You captured it perfectly. The look between brothers is what melts my heart each and every time. It makes the chaos of two so worth it!
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      I’m so lucky my boys love each other πŸ™‚

  • October 8, 2012 Vanita

    omg. im sitting with all these memories in my head and i really cant pick just one. i guess when you some it up it’s for two reasons. the unconditional love they give me and the fact that when they’re teens they’ll take out the garbage and wash dishes. πŸ˜€ for money of course. still cheaper than a cleaning lady.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Ah, chores! I can’t wait to get them to do chores! πŸ™‚

      • October 12, 2012 vanita

        warning…chores come at a cost. not 15 minutes ago i asked damian to put his cup in the sink and he says “got a quarter” little creeps i tell you. i’m sure he picked that up from one of the teens.
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  • October 8, 2012 Brittany

    Okay I loved this post so much! I had a LOT more I was going to say but now I am trying to get the kids ready for school.

    I just wanted to tell you that so far it only happens when I am logged into Facebook but on both my Mac and PC. I will figure it out! I will dig deep.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Brittany! I hope that whatever issue you encountered while trying to comment has gone away.

  • October 8, 2012 Tracie


    I love those moments that come at me unaware – like when I’m standing in the hallway, and my daughter almost knocks me over with a hug, yelling, “SNEAK ATTACK HUG! I love you!!”
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Aw, that’s adorable!

  • October 8, 2012 KeAnne

    Beautiful boys! I love how it has softened me. I feel like I have a better sense of what is really important in life now.
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Yes, I feel that way too!

  • October 8, 2012 angela

    I can’t list it all. The smiles and the hugs and the relaxing in a bed with all of us reading a book πŸ™‚
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Motherhood is so awesome, isn’t it?

  • October 8, 2012 Ginny Marie

    So, so sweet! I love that my girls still want to snuggle even though they are not babies any more. Hopefully they won’t grow out of that for a long time!
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    • October 12, 2012 Alison

      Oh I love the snuggles!

  • October 8, 2012 Joy

    Your boys are so beautiful! My nephew just turned 8 and I can’t believe how quickly time has whizzed by. You’re so right that it’s important to appreciate them at every moment. I’m not a parent, but as an auntie I can appreciate, on many levels, what you’ve written here.

    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Joy!

  • October 9, 2012 Jessica

    I love the joy I see on my kids faces when they are happy.

    I also love seeing them drive off with grandma for a weekend. πŸ˜‰
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      I can understand the grandma part! πŸ™‚

  • October 9, 2012 Lady Jennie

    What gorgeous kids – someone got the genes right! πŸ˜‰
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, I’ll tell the husband!

  • October 9, 2012 Robin

    They are both lovely, and they both have fantastic hair. πŸ™‚

    I’m not sure my biggest boy is the easy for me, but it’s the really nice stuff in the midst of the hard – like the hugs and kisses and watching all the amazing stuff he can do – that brings the mama smiles.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Monkey’s hair is kinda cray cray πŸ™‚

      Yes, there is always the good stuff amidst all the hard. Those are our rewards πŸ™‚

  • October 9, 2012 Julia

    Oh they are just so cute. What I love about parenting is the way my toddlers hand wraps around my finger and how the words, “love you” sound like “wuv vu” when he says it.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      I love the expressions of love, truly.

  • October 9, 2012 Kim

    So very true, Alison. For me, the easy is the hugs and the conversations and the laughter and the tossing balls and reading stories and family walks. They are some of the joys that brighten all my days.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Your children sound lovely, Kim!

  • October 9, 2012 Kristin

    Oh, look at that precious baby and his fuzzy little baby bird head! So cute.

    What do I love about parenting? All the hilarious things that pop out of my daughter’s mouth on any given day. She’s got quite the imagination and sense of humor, that one. And I love it. πŸ™‚
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Your Vivian IS pretty funny! I wonder who she got that from….. πŸ™‚

  • October 9, 2012 Amanda

    Adore this, Alison, and I couldn’t agree more!
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Amanda!

  • October 9, 2012 just JENNIFER

    Yup, all that special stuff is why being a mom rocks. I knew I wanted to be a mom my whole life. I had no idea about the hard parts, just the cute stuff. Luckily, the good outweighs the bad.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      The hard parts hit us hard because really, how would we know? But you’re right, the good always outweighs the bad.

  • October 9, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Aw, I love the baby’s fuzzy little hair, it’s so cute!! And your toddler is looking so much like a grown-up boy *sigh*
    Your reason for blogging is the same as mine. I don’t do baby books πŸ˜‰
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      His hair slays me!

      I don’t have the discipline for actual baby books πŸ™‚

  • October 9, 2012 ilene

    Oh, I love this analogy. the kids really are the easy!
    It is I who makes it complicated.
    You truly have a way with words. xo
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Right? We adults do this to ourselves sometimes. πŸ™‚

  • October 9, 2012 Leslie

    Beautifully written. The hardest part is the patience. It’s so easy to forget how little they are and how little they know and understand about the world around them.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Patience is a hard one indeed.

  • October 9, 2012 Alma

    I know about the easy and its so great.
    Especially when 4 year old girl lays next to me in bed and says “momma I like you”.
    And when my 11 year old boy says “mom you rock” for no real reason. The easy is all about the gooey warm center of that nugget of the day that makes me melt.
    You are so blessed and I know its not always easy but you make it look good.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      I am blessed indeed! As you are too πŸ™‚

  • October 9, 2012 Amy

    Well said. And congrats on at least getting online pseudo-baby book done at least. I didn’t even manage that. My sister, on the other hand, has every line, every page filled out in the baby books FOR ALL THREE KIDS. I digress – love the pictures, the rolls and the love πŸ™‚
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Wow she’s dedicated, your sister! πŸ™‚

  • October 9, 2012 Heather

    We definitely make motherhood harder(by putting too much on our plate) than our children intend it to be.

    Your boys are so adorable.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Heather.

  • October 9, 2012 Courtney Kirkland

    I couldn’t agree more. Children are easy. Parenting is what’s so friggin hard. Parenting is frustrating and exhausting and emotional and down right annoying some days. If parenting were as peaceful and easy as our children…then, we’d have nothing to write about. πŸ™‚ Hoping the days get easier for you!
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      It definitely gives us blog fodder, that’s for sure!

  • Nothing can compare to a child hugging you and saying that they love you.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Those are awesome, indeed.

  • October 9, 2012 thedoseofreality

    The giggles. The moments when my girls say yes to whatever I ask with no hesitation. The things that they say. Watching them learn and love. All of it is the easy.
    You captured so well the struggle with the hard. Well done.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for your kind words. And your children sound wonderful!

  • October 10, 2012 Alexa

    Those are some cute boys! And yes, those are the easy things about parenting. But so much pressure! I am sorry you have been having a hard time. I wish all days were ice creams and rainbows. No one told me life could be so rewarding and yet so difficult at the same time! And this is a wonderful thing to leave for your boys!
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      The hardest times have passed. We still have days when it’s harder than it is easy, and it’s so easy to overlook the latter when we’re overwhelmed. Which is why I wanted to write this down πŸ™‚

  • October 10, 2012 karen

    yes… love the last line… they are the reason motherhood rocks…ain’t that the truth. Despite the times we are tired and they won’t sleep. Despite the times they don’t listen and have tempertantrums, Motherhood DOES ROCK!
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      It does, although we need to be reminded of it sometimes!

  • October 10, 2012 Kimberly

    Yes! This is exactly it. My boys are my reason for everything.

    What I love? The smiles, the hugs, the kisses, and I lub eww’s. what I don’t love? When they repeat the language they’ve heard from me. Ahem.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Aw, I lub ewws, so cute! I never say bad language so I don’t know what you’re talking about, ahem.

  • October 10, 2012 Jessica

    I cannot believe he is FIVE months old. Gorgeous pictures of both your gorgeous boys. And what I love about parenting is how it has humbled me, how it has made me real, how it has grounded me all in effort to honor the gift they are.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Soon he’ll be going off to college! *sniff* Humbling and grounding, yes, absolutely.

  • October 10, 2012 Kate

    He’s so cute!

    And yes, this was something I needed to read today. Because it’s my kids that make it all worth it!

    Great post!
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Kate!

  • October 10, 2012 Natalie

    I love them. They are adorable. And so is your book for them! (That’s what my blog is too.)
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Your children are pretty adorable too! I love our blog-books πŸ™‚

  • October 10, 2012 Kimberly

    Yes yes yes. They truly are.
    Those moments when your toddler squeezes you without having to ask them are the best form of validation that you’re doing a wonderful job. xo
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      I love those moments. xo

  • October 10, 2012 AnnMarie

    I love the hugs and kisses and the “I love yous”. I love the giggles and the smiles. This parenting is so hard that sometimes those moments get lost. Thanks for making me think about them. πŸ™‚
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      You, amidst the chaos, need to hold on to these moments. πŸ™‚

  • October 10, 2012 KalleyC

    The best part about parenting that just LOVE so far, is to look at things from a child’s point of view. To hear their thoughts, and how the process something. Their explanations about anything, and most of all, seeing the all the love you pour into them, reflected through them.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      I love children’s perspective on things – another reason why I can’t wait for my toddler to start speaking in full sentences πŸ™‚

  • October 12, 2012 Elena

    I love so many things. This gig is tough and brutal. But, there is also the easy love we have for them. 5 months? How did that happen? I know, you’re thinking the exact same thing, right… πŸ˜‰ Open mouth, insert foot!

    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      It can be brutal especially when you’re deep in the trenches!
      Yes, 5 months. It’s actually been pretty quick for me too. It was pregnancy that was slow-moving πŸ™‚

  • October 13, 2012 Charlotte

    Oh, my goodness… Your boys are so handsome, Alison!

    You are a wonderful momma for recognizing the good in others and wanting only the best for everyone in your life, your sweet family included. Sometimes we just have to surround ourselves with little ones to realize that there is good and innocent and so much beauty in this world.
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, sweet Charlotte. So much.

  • October 13, 2012 Katie

    I love this post, Allison. You are right. It’s the responsibility of raising the little fellas that is hard. It’s the DOING day to day.

    but loving those guys? So easy.

    I love Eddie’s little songs (he just makes them up about whatever he is doing. it’s cute) and Charlies little growl he does when he sees Cort. So funny!
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    • October 13, 2012 Alison

      You have to film those (Eddie’s songs and Charlie’s growl), that sounds adorable!!

  • October 15, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    is that not the awesome head of baby hair ever? How adorable is he getting? Boys rule…I love the cuddles I get from my sons, they seem to need them more than my girls….
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  • October 15, 2012 Alison

    He does have awesome fuzzy hair! Boys are awesome. But then, I don’t have girls πŸ™‚

  • October 23, 2012 Kir

    lately, the one thing I love most about motherhood is being a mom next to other phenomenal women like you. When I am sure that I am lost in a sea of doubt and self berating about what I am capable of and what I am not…I remember that I have a village of “sisters” that get it, that will ride out the waves with me until I feel like myself again.

    I love watching my children grow up next to yours and others. it makes the experience of it even sweeter.
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    • October 23, 2012 Alison

      Oh me too, my Goose, me too. xo

  • October 23, 2012 Galit Breen

    Amen and hallelujah! That kind of love is easy and wonderful and the sweetest there is. xo
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    • October 23, 2012 Alison

      And it outweighs all the hard. Cupcakes help too. xo

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