Priorities

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Sick and tired.

Numbers. Subscribers. Likes. Page views. Bounce rate. Followers.

When I read at Vanita’s blog, After Bedtime Blog about the possibility of Feedburner going away in October (still just a rumor), my heart sank.

Do I really need this right now? Worrying about losing subscribers the way I did when Google Friend Connect was discontinued for WordPress? Having to start from scratch and go through the “Please follow me via RSS! Please subscribe via email!” thing again?

And what about when I had to start over with Facebook when I changed the blog name/ domain? Starting from zero and begging reminding people to please like my new page?

Sick and tired.

Don’t get me wrong, I WANT people to subscribe/ follow/ like me. Of course I do.

But do the number of subscribers/ page views and so on change the way I blog? The topics I write about? The way I write?

No, no it does not.

This blog is ultimately my gift to my children (as well as my creative outlet). That they can one day read my words and know what they were like as children. That they will come to know their mother as she was. That they know I love them, want so much for them, that I tried my best, even when I failed.

It’s not about the numbers. I refuse to stress over them.

Because it doesn’t matter if one or one thousand read my words.

There are only two people who really matter in all of this. 

Toddler and baby

Feel free to keep subscribing/ following/ liking though. But I will no longer beg remind anyone to. Please know that I treasure and love my existing readers/ community.  

And of course, Memories Captured will go on – it’s the very essence of why I blog. Next week’s Memories Captured (September 10 – 14) will see one lucky linker win $50 worth of jewelry from Dawn Butler Jewelry – gorgeous, yes?

 

Alison
I am a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother to two boys, born December 2009 and May 2012. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world's biggest sports brands, I traded in launch parties, product launches, and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Aside from this blog, I am a contributing writer at Everyday Family. My writing has also been featured on Mamalode, Families In the Loop, andThe Huffington Post.
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  • September 5, 2012 Laura

    Ahhhh! I feel this dilemma! I define myself so much by the numbers. And trust me, my numbers aren’t great. All of my bloggy friends? They have higher comment numbers, higher subscribers (some people post this on their PR page so I can easily feel inadequate!) I put up a post and I keep running back to the computer, just waiting for someone to comment.

    Sure, we write for ourselves. We write for our kids. But we also want to be heard. It is normal. But it should NEVER define us. I constantly try to remind myself of that. You’re too awesome to be defined by those numbers.
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      The comparison trap is the worse – why do we do this to ourselves? I guess it’s human. It’s very hard not to compare. I’ve done it. I’ve wondered, why does she have more?

      Then I have to remember that I do this for other reasons. And for the record? I think you’re pretty awesome too.

  • September 5, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    I hardly ever check my stats…I just can’t care anymore…I have enough stress in my life
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Right?? Who needs this crap?

  • September 5, 2012 Vanita

    girl have you noticed i don’t have a facebook like box on my site? or any other way to count followers? i mean i should, i run a business out of the blog, but i don’t. there’s already too much to do, isn’t there? don’t worry about numbers girl. i’d have to be a fool to visit this blog and not want to subscribe. and you know this chic is no fool. you just keep blogging and entertaining and giving us food for thought mama. love your blog and love that it’s for your boys.
    and? thanks for the shout out sweets.
    p.s. when i convert the feed to wordpress, i really will have no way to track subscribers. for the best i tell you. definitely for the best. one last thing to hold me back.
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      I did notice and I remember you mentioned it too. I won’t worry about the numbers. I just can’t. I have better things to figure out – like my next fabulous blog post :)

  • September 5, 2012 tracy

    I have no idea if I have subscribers let alone how many. I have NEVER checked. Ever. I haven’t been on Google Analytics since January. January. When I let that go I felt like a new woman. Now I’ve barely been on twitter in a month.

    I used to get 50 comments on a post. Now I’m lucky to get 12. I love the community and the love and the friendships that I’ve found from blogging. I do. But I love my kids more.

    xoxo
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Yes, exactly that. And your kids are pretty awesome.

      I can tell you that you’re fabulous, regardless of the numbers. xoxo

  • September 5, 2012 Robbie

    why why why do they have to keep changing? Hope it is just a rumor and i have no idea what bounce rate means. I’ll keep reading here because I love how you write and what you write about and those adorable boys and their smiles are just the icing on the cake.
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Thanks so much Robbie! Google just loves screwing around with us, sigh.

      (PS: A ‘high’ bounce rate (60% or more) means people don’t stay on your site beyond that one click. So the lower the bounce rate, the better. Or whatever, you know :))

  • September 5, 2012 Sarah

    Alison! I’ve been having similar thoughts. I’ve been blogging for EVER okay 5 years, and the more I concern myself with attracting new people, and the “likes”, it’s just, …not fun. I started doing this for my kids too. It’s for them. It’s for me. I agree with Mommy Miracles–you’re too awesome to be defined by the numbers. Keep on keeping on :)
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Exactly – numbers are just so unfun. And thank you, you’re pretty awesome yourself!

  • September 5, 2012 Maureen

    Awesome post, Alison. It speaks right through me…especially since you know about my plans *wink* thanks for the reminder. Just what I needed to read today.
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Thank you and you’re welcome! Good luck with the plans. :)

  • September 5, 2012 Courtney Kirkland

    Yes. This. I think that blogging is great for some who want to make a profit from their writing. I respect that, and who doesn’t love making a dollar every now and then? But, I do believe that the numbers, the stats, the comments, etc. have gone a little haywire. I love knowing that people enjoy my writing. But, I love my boy(s) more and ultimately? What I write, is for them.
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Do not begrudge those who use their blogs to make a living, and understand their need for obsessing over numbers. But it’s just not for me. When things get stressful, they stop being fun. When they stop being fun, I give it up. And I would HATE to give up blogging. Because ultimately, it is for my boys, just like you.

  • September 5, 2012 Mamaintheburbs

    Well said Alison! I like your blog because you speak from the heart. I only read blogs where I feel a connection to the reader. You onnect to your readers! I’m glad to hear its not about the numbers or the comments or the likes… It’s about you and your beautiful family. For that I love your blog!

    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much! Readers like you keep me going!

  • September 5, 2012 Jen Burden

    Blogging is similar to raising kids. Just when you think you’ve got it all figured out (like the nap schedule down pat), it all changes. It all keeps us on our toes! lol

    Lovely post, Alison!

    Jen :)

    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      It sure does! (and WMB is a different beast – over there, we need to make the numbers count for so many reasons!)

  • September 5, 2012 Rach (DonutsMama)

    Right there with you on this. I can’t keep up! It’s taking too much time. I figure the people who love reading what I have to say will find a way to keep following me, just like I’ll find where my friends no matter where they go. This is part of the reason why I never set up a FB page. It was just something I didn’t want to keep track of. And I hardly ever check my stats (or if I do, it’s to check the search terms b/c those usually crack me up). Just do this for you–it’s the only way to stay real.
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Staying real – exactly. I do feel people who keep numbers in mind, write differently. And that’s too bad. I just can’t do it. And yes! So what if RSS goes away? If people really care, they’ll check in once in a while even without being prompted by the Reader or an email, right?

  • September 5, 2012 Erin

    I love you priorities . . . you KIDS!
    It is frustrating to have circumstances beyond your control screw things up that you have worked so hard to create.
    I love reading your blog and I’ll follow you :)
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much Erin! I truly appreciate it.

  • September 5, 2012 Robin

    I still look at my stats, but I don’t care too much anymore. I do like the engagement though – when I get a comment (you’re still the queen) or a response on FB it totally makes my day.

    If I got the number of comments you got I wouldn’t worry about it though. :)
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes, I do love the engagement. Comments make my heart happy. Also? I do look at my stats once in a while, out of curiosity. But I can’t let it bother/ affect me, no matter the numbers.

      (also, what qualifies as ‘many’ or ‘few’ comments?)

  • September 5, 2012 Nancy

    I have been gone from blogging for so long and was sad to see Google friends is history. I’d hate to see feedburner vanish also!
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Yea, that would be a REAL pain. Not just for me in terms of subscribers, but in trying to subscribe to others.

  • September 5, 2012 Shell

    That’s a great way to look at it.

    Though I admit that my heart sank at the thought of losing feedburner. Not really about the numbers, but more about that being the way that I’m able to keep up with all my bloggy friends!
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      Yes, exactly! I’m guessing this is why Google+ is going to count, yes?

      (PS: I don’t think you need to worry about numbers anyway)

  • September 5, 2012 Elaine A.

    I think we all go through stages with this. The funny thing is, when I very first started blogging I had NO idea about any of that stuff. (and well… some of it didn’t even exist then! ha!) So, most of the time? I try to pretend like I just started blogging… ;)

    I love our attitude about it, because well, I agree.

    xoxo
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    • September 6, 2012 Alison

      I had no idea either when I first started! Also? At my old blog? I never had Google Analytics installed. I know, right? Mind.blowing. We just keep on keeping on, yes? xoxo

  • September 5, 2012 Christine

    I am totally the type of person who can get sucked into and obsessed with numbers. That’s so not how i want to live my life and having been away for the past two weeks and somewhat unplugged, I really don’t care so much. Well, I know a part of me will always care but my priorities have to be and should be my family and my kids. I do love the blogging community and I love reading and interacting and commenting but not as a means to an end to increase numbers. Hope that makes sense. It’s late.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      It makes sense, of course! I read and comment on blogs and participate in communities like SITS and World Moms Blog because I love the sense of community and the friendships. If that doesn’t bring in the numbers, that’s okay. I’m not going to worry about it and neither should you :)

  • this post had me thinking why I am blogging? hahaha! i guess I could not compete since there are A LOT but to share some moments in my life as a mother, wife and me being myself, I guess that is better than nothing at all. I guess the joy I get is every time a reader take some of their precious time to leave their comment… thanks for reminding me that blogging could be an outlet and at the same time meet new friends… :))
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Sharing moments and capturing them on my blog is exactly WHY I continue to write here. Whether one or 20 read it, it doesn’t matter. Meeting friends is great, of course!

  • September 5, 2012 Heather

    I gave up on stats awhile ago. It was totally burning me out. And it’s funny because a friend asked for a link to a blog entry from over a year ago so I sent it to her and as I did I noticed that the entry had more comments and it wasn’t even that great. I was just trying really really hard.

    I love to write and I love my kids. I just don’t love stats!

    Thanks for letting me see all the like minded bloggers out there!

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I hate stats! Half the time, I can’t make head or tail of it anyway, so why care, right? Just keep doing what I love, that is to write. :)

  • September 5, 2012 ilene

    As a new blogger, I toggle that line between wanting followers but not wanting to get wrapped up in that either. Like you, the reasons that I blog are bigger than the numbers….
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      It’s hard when you’re new. I remember being obsessed with my GFC followers when I was on Blogger (and before it was removed in March), and wondering how I can get comments etc. I was totally burning out after 6 months. Now, I read and comment on blogs because I want to, because I enjoy reading them, because I like making friends. Not because I’m hoping for a return visit/ comment. I can’t even keep score/ count anymore!

  • September 5, 2012 Jessica

    I am with you! At one point, when GFC was going away, I cared. Now, I don’t care. I keep blogging because I love to write and to connect with others. That’s it.

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      It’s hard not to care, but eventually, I stopped caring too. I couldn’t really make head or tail of the numbers anyway and the stress is unnecessary!

  • September 5, 2012 Tina

    I always forget to look at my numbers….it’s great to know others are reading your posts but at the same time it puts so much pressure on you. I decided to stop looking & just write. I feel that comments (for me) out weigh how many hits I get to my blog. I like the interaction better. BTW – congrats on your new site, it’s great!

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes! I much prefer the interaction than wonder about who came when and from where and how often – blech! And thank you :)

  • September 5, 2012 angela

    I will be so sad if Feedburner is gone. Like Shell said, it’s also about re-building my network of blogs I love to read. I’d rather not go through that again :(

    Your boys make me smile!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yeah that’s a total PITA but I won’t worry about it unless I have to. I’ll just ask people to check in on me once in a while :)

      (they make me smile too!)

  • September 5, 2012 Co-Pilot Mom

    Thank you for sharing this, Alison. Like Ilene said above, I am new blogger so I am wanting to grow without getting too tied up with the numbers. Numbers can be discouraging. I am just trying focus on learning all I can while writing – and spending time with my priorities.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      It’s a balance you definitely need to strike, and sometimes you lean more towards caring about the numbers than the people in your life. It’s happened to me especially the first 6 months when I first started. I actually burnt out from the effort I felt I had to put into blogging just to increase my numbers. It was too much. Now, I just want to write.

  • September 5, 2012 Kristen

    I went to Bloggy Boot Camp when I had only been blogging for about 8 months. When I heard people talking about their followers and other stats, I actually at one point had to leave the conference room. I cried. I felt like I didn’t belong there. Then I went back in and a lot of people asked me where I had gone. People actually missed me being in the room. That is when I decided to ignore the numbers. I don’t look at a single one anymore. I write what I want and when I want. My stats with my family count way more than what they do on the computer. I’m glad it was my blogging friends that reminded me of that.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I like that – your stats with your family. Yes, exactly that. And of course people missed you – you’re awesome!

  • September 5, 2012 Mothering From Scratch

    {Melinda} So hard not to worry about the numbers when you’re trying to make a living (in part) off your blog. Don’t know how to do that and not feel the joy being drained from this whole blogging thing. Boundaries, limits, I guess (not obsessively checking stats every 5 minutes!) and leaving the rest — what I can’t control — up to God! :)
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I guess it’s a different ball game when you’re blogging to make a living. I don’t know how that’d work for me, which is why I decided not to worry about monetizing this blog. I just know it’d take all the joy out of it. Good luck with striking a balance!

  • September 5, 2012 KalleyC

    It reeks that they keep changing things. Just wish they would leave some things alone. I haven’t been on feed burner since (hmm, I don’t even know), so I don’t even know if I have followers.

    You’re right though, the numbers doesn’t change how a person writes or how credible they are. The only thing that matters is the people who you’re writing for.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Google likes to be sneaky and does stuff quietly sometimes. Which is annoying. And I refuse to partake in all the silliness of followers etc. I just wanna write and that’s what I’m gonna do.

  • September 5, 2012 Jaime

    Sometimes I get so caught up in the page hits and views and all the rigamarole thatI forget that my blog is for me. It journals my life right now. It’s mostly about my family, my daughter but about how I feel. If other people don’t always get that, it is ok.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Because the stats are there, it’s hard to not want to check in once in a while. But yes, pulling back and remembering why we blog is so important.

  • September 5, 2012 Maggie S.

    I know exactly what you mean. I changed blogs. GFC went away. I keep losing whole crowds.

    But that’s simply not the bottom line.

    I just figured out the feedburner widget, so of course, this rumor would begin.

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yeah I moved platforms, GFC went away, changed blogs, had to start over with Facebook – it’s all too much and too stressful. I’m just gonna write!

  • September 6, 2012 Keely

    It’s gotta be in the atmosphere. You do it for all the right reasons, but having the acknowledgement of the community wouldn’t hurt either, right? I, too, am CRAZY SICK AND TIRED of numbers and followers and playing the compare game.

    You, sister, are right on the money. (And doing oh-so-well, if your devoted legion of readers/commenters is any indication- myself included. ;)
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I love comments! But I don’t want to keep count/ keep score/ compare anymore. It’s just too stressful and life is too short. And thank you. You guys are the best.

  • September 6, 2012 Kristin

    I go through phases where I do care about my subscriber count/engaging my followers/ etc., and then I go through phases where I just don’t give a damn. It ebbs and flows, like all things in life.

    P.S. WHY would Feedburner go away? That’s just stupid.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Blogging is all about the ebb and flow, yes?

      Also, I don’t know. Google likes to do some stupid shit and who knows why?

  • September 6, 2012 Natalie

    You preach it sista!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Oh you know I do and will continue to do so. :)

  • September 6, 2012 Alexandra

    Write for the right reasons.

    Always that.

    I love you, A.

    (it’s the community, a place for our words, putting down in this eternal space that which makes my life…a priceless gift. We are all so the internet exists. Otherwise, there’d be another pile of notebooks on my closet floor)
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I love you too, my friend. xo

      And yes, yes and yes.

  • September 6, 2012 Alexandra

    ,,all so LUCKY.

    we are all so LUCKY.

    xo
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  • September 6, 2012 Susi

    I think most of us can relate to that and know exactly what you mean. It is what it is and people either come and read or they won’t… that won’t stop me from blogging either. And I will continue to follow you and read your lovely words!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much Susi!

  • September 6, 2012 hilljean

    I hadn’t heard that feedburner would go away :( Suck! I don’t know why they’re making it more difficult for people to follow and read blogs. When GFC died for wordpress I know I lost track of some of the blogs I followed. Maybe I lapsed in getting on and subscribing through other ways, but I still feel bad about it.

    You are right. It’s not really about the numbers–but it is a nuisance to loose touch with a community that has become so precious to us all!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes, that is the part I hate too. Having to resubscribe to my beloved blogs some other way. Sigh.

  • September 6, 2012 Jessica

    I will *always* read you! And I sympathize (with jealousy) because I’ve been blogging for three years now and my growth rate is sooooooo slow. But you are right – you are really doing it for you. And them. (and maybe me). xo
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thank you Jessica! Don’t you ever worry about the numbers, I think your blog is fab.

  • September 6, 2012 My Inner Chick

    Looove Vanita. She Rocksss.

    Xx
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      She absolutely does!

  • September 6, 2012 Katie E

    Sometimes I wish all those stats just didn’t exist, so there wouldn’t even be the option to think about them! I started my blog to capture memories of my kids that they could enjoy in the future. And to share today’s memories with family since we’re spread out all over the place. So why am I constantly looking at stats that don’t change a thing? Such a great post. And you do have the right priorities. And I liked you on facebook long ago :)
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Katie, both for your comment and your Facebook like. Much appreciated! And exactly, we have to remember WHY we blog and who we blog for, or we’ll get lost.

  • September 6, 2012 Sandra

    Well you’re a better and more prioritized woman than I am. I tell myself it’s not about the numbers, and yet I sink when I see that a post has utterly bombed…and its usually the ones that I think are going to be hugely successful. Maybe I need to have another baby and write about my pregnancy and then just post oodles of pictures of my adorable baby with the big eyes and the squeezable cheeks…cough….cough…need a surrogate….cough…cough…
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Dude, you have THOUSANDS of followers so believe me when I tell you that you have nothing to worry about. Are you talking about my baby? Hehe.

  • September 6, 2012 thedoseofreality

    Your reasons for blogging are the reasons that so many people love to read you. You are authentic and real and it shows in your writing.
    I won’t lie, though, if Feedburner goes away I will probably cry. Because, like you, the thought of starting over is UGH.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thank you Ashley. It makes my heart happy to know that people love my writing and can relate. It’s like the frosting on my cupcake.

  • September 6, 2012 Michelle

    I try to keep focused on my family, too, and not too caught up on the numbers….it’s not easy!
    Michelle
    http://normalchaosforamultitaskmom.blogspot.com/2012/09/adventure-wednesdays.html
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      It’s a hard balance – I have to keep reminding myself of what matters!

  • I have dyscalculia so statistics and numbers mean nothing to me. Never thought I would see the advantage of that…
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Haha! You’re awesome so keep writing, my friend.

  • September 6, 2012 Blond Duck

    That’s been my problem all along…I hate the technicality of all the blogging social crap! Why can’t we just be friends?
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes, exactly!

  • September 6, 2012 AnnMarie

    I have been blogging for only a year and a half and I admit that the numbers still affect me. I didn’t start out knowing any of it and then as I grew, so did my love for connecting with other bloggers. I can’t wait until I get to the point where I check my stats out of curiousity and not validation. It does make my day when someone comments (I always love seeing you over on mine:) ) but you’re right. I didn’t start out writing for others so I need to remember that when I see the numbers dwindling. I cried when Google Friend didn’t transfer over. I know my followers are still there but I miss seeing them.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I understand the need to check on stats. I’m not saying I don’t, but I don’t care anymore what they are or what they mean or figure out how I’m going to increase them. It’s just not worth the stress.

  • September 7, 2012 MommaKiss

    I don’t even really know where my “numbers” are and I think I like it that way.

    You’ll write what you want to, what you’re wishing for, right? At least I hope so…
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Hah, yes exactly that!

  • September 7, 2012 Asianmommy

    I totally get it. I used to check my numbers every day–now, it doesn’t matter so much to me anymore.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      And so it shouldn’t.

  • September 7, 2012 karen

    I’m just really happy to have a voice and feel connected to other moms just like me. that’s all that really matters.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      It’s awesome, this community isn’t it?

  • September 7, 2012 Lu

    Loved this post! I feel so similar. My kids are 24, 23, & 17…I wish I had started blogging when they were young. My 17 yr. old has been recovering from oral surgery and while I sit with him I’ve had time to really check out the blog community. Amazing! Love it!

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Lu! Hope your son is recovering well from his surgery.

  • September 7, 2012 Tonya

    I NEVER check my stats and write just to write for my sanity and to log my life and connect with people that want to connect. It is SO easy to get all caught up in this blogging thing, but it’s important to keep it all in perspective too. I think you (and I) do that very well. :)
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes, we most certainly do :)

  • September 7, 2012 Adrienne

    Amen, girl! It’s so easy to loose sight of what are passion really is behind all this blog madness. Thanks for the reminder that matters!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for reading!

  • September 7, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Numbers, schmumbers…who cares, right? I will always come and visit and read your blog because you are awesome. :)
    xo
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Likewise, my friend. Likewise. :)

  • September 7, 2012 Galit Breen

    Keep straight to the heart, friend. It’s truly the best place to be.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      You’re an amazing example of straight to the heart. xo

  • September 7, 2012 Barbara

    I stopped caring months ago and I felt like such a weight was lifted off my shoulders. People that love your blog and your writing will always come back!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      You’re absolutely right!

  • September 7, 2012 MamaCassie

    Being still fairly new to blogging and understanding the ins and outs…I find myself paying lots of attention to numbers. Page views, comments, ReTweets… But it all boils down to the real deal. Like you said, your blog is a place you write so when your boys are grown, they can look back and read how they were like as kids and how hard you put your all into being the best parent you could for them. It’s good to refocus :)
    MamaCassie recently wrote…One Good Thing – Picking Up Old HobbiesMy Profile

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I was really into the numbers game when I started blogging too – it’s almost inevitable. But you go through various stages with blogging. I’ve just come to the stage where I don’t care about the numbers. It’s so freeing!

  • September 7, 2012 Nina

    Ugh–if they take away feedburner I WILL be stressed as just spent the past month getting people to resubscribe after moving to the new blog. I would honestly be embarrassed to ask friends and family to enter their email address anywhere else again. It just feels too “look at me! look at me!” and I already sort of feel that way having a blog at all.

    I’m with everyone else here and YOU. Sometimes I care about the numbers, sometimes I don’t check for a week.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes, I know the whole “look at me!” syndrome. I hate doing that. So I won’t. Even if Feedburner goes away. I haven’t figured out what I’ll do yet, but I figure that people who want to read me, will find a way to check in :)

  • September 8, 2012 misszippy

    Found you through Christine and Live, Love, Surf. what a fantastic post! We all need perspective on this whole blogging thing and sounds to me like you’ve got it. Well done.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much for coming by!

  • September 8, 2012 Ms. V

    Great post and an even better perspective. Thank you.

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank YOU. :)

  • September 8, 2012 Purnima

    Oh, there was a time, when I clicked ‘Site stats’ every single hour. Now I am just beyond that. I am not sure if they improved or not, they should have. But it was a phase and I just grew tired after a while. If there is content, if there is love, if it is meant to be, people connect.
    And a wonderful post!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      You’re absolutely right – content + love = connections.

  • September 8, 2012 Lady Jennie

    I hadn’t heard that. I’m not even sure if all that many people follow me through feedburner and what the difference between that and RSS feed is.

    I get sick of it all too.
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      RSS is basically your blog feed. Feedburner is a tool for you to keep track of stats – who subscribes, how many etc.

      So losing that means you may lose subscribers. Or not. The thing is, you won’t know. So for people who care about numbers, it’s stressful. And I refuse to be stressed so I don’t care! :)

  • September 8, 2012 Angie Nelson

    It’s hard not to obsess and compare, but eventually you get back to the place where your passion is the priority – writing and sharing. I keep an eye on things, but I don’t focus too much on numbers. Rather I look at growth. As long as things are moving in the right direction – up and not down – I’m happy.
    Angie Nelson recently wrote…How to Start a Home Business: 5 Steps to Home Business SuccessMy Profile

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      I like your perspective, Angie. Growth and moving in the right direction. Thank you!

  • September 8, 2012 Mel at According To Mags

    Great reminder to take it easy on ourselves. Like you said, my blog is a gift to my kids. Our memories of them and our family stories that they can share with their kids. Thanks for writing this!

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thanks for reading, Mel!

  • September 8, 2012 Kim at Mama Mzungu

    yes! Obsessing over our stats does kind of ruin the integrity of blogging. I hate it. But then again, I also wonder how I can get more readers and then look at sites like yours and wonder how you’ve built such a terrific following. (though I think I know in your case – you are one of the most supportive bloggers out there, have an elegant site, thoughtful posts and are engaged in a lot of bloggy community link-ups and stuff…). The thing is, as much as my blog is, like yours, for family and posterity, I don’t LOVE it when I work really hard on a post and no one reads it. I MUCH prefer for my posts to start a conversation. As an expat living in a foreign culture, that’s a big part of why I blog – to connect! Anyway, thanks for this post and for your own wonderful presence in the blogging community!!

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Kim, I think you’re absolutely on the right track with your writing – you DO start conversations and I love how your posts always make me think. That’s a sign of good writing. That’s what matters, not the numbers.

      I work hard in blogging – the community involvement, supporting others, linkups, because I genuinely enjoy the connections. I don’t do it to get follows or return visits or comments, though those are always nice.

      Thank you for reading!

  • September 8, 2012 Mama Pants

    I feel the exact same way. My blog is a gift to my kids too. It still blows my mind that people read it lol. I’m so glad you have decided to let go of the stress around numbers. It’s so freeing! Now you can just write with stress. I find when I don’t push myself, I do my best stuff.

    Love your blog. :)
    Mama Pants recently wrote…He’s Fast! I’m Not!My Profile

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes! I write best when I just… write. Those are always the posts that resonate and the ones I love. And thank you!

  • September 8, 2012 Louise Ducote

    Great post, and I love all the wisdom in the comments — a bonus!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Right? People are so wise, love it.

  • September 8, 2012 Leigh Powell Hines

    What a great post, Alison. Looking at numbers are stressful. I try not to do it, too. Thanks for sharing. I really need to write your memories captured down on my calendar, and participate.
    Leigh Powell Hines recently wrote…Savor Summer A Little Longer with a Southern Tomato PieMy Profile

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes, we’d love to have you participate! The next Memories Captured is September 10-14, next week!

  • September 8, 2012 Ellie Augustin

    OH YES I feel the same way. And think just like you I blog for my kids because time speeds by way to quickly. I write and if someone can relate and enjoy then that’s just a bonus! Happy Sharefeast!
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    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes, exactly! Thanks for coming by, Ellie.

  • September 8, 2012 Ginny Marie

    Oh, wow, this is the first time I’ve heard that rumor! Maybe it will stay just a rumor. (But with Google, you never know!) I think most of us are in blogging for all the right reasons, though, and losing Feedburner won’t stop us from blogging!

    Happy SITS Sat. Sharefest! :D
    Ginny Marie recently wrote…Kindergarten MemoriesMy Profile

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes, hopefully it’d just be a rumor. Feedburner or lack thereof definitely won’t stop us from blogging, that’s for sure.

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • September 8, 2012 Jennifer Prestholdt

    Great perspective! I have often thought about the value of blog-as-memory-keeper. Wish the blogging community had been around when my oldest was born. Thanks for this great reminder about priorities.

    • September 9, 2012 Alison

      Thanks for reading, Jennifer!

  • September 10, 2012 Mom Photographer

    there was a time in my blogging that I was so overwhelmed by stats and “getting or not getting” comments that I couldn’t stand it anymore and I had stopped blogging for about 4 months.
    Now I don’t care. I care about my readers and I love getting comments, of course! But on the other hand I want have a pleasure in blogging not stress :)

    • September 12, 2012 Alison

      Oh my, you actually stopped blogging because of the numbers? See, that’s what I fear. Which is why I don’t care and don’t want to care anymore. This is too fun to give up.

  • September 10, 2012 deborah quinn

    I *just* learned how to install feedburner, dang it. but on the other hand, i think only my mother and a friend of hers have signed up, so it’s easy enough to remind them of where to find me! I’ve been falling into the trap of deep sighs, as I look at so-and-so with her scores of comments, or such-and-so with a new post almost every day…Your blog hits right into the center of things (as usual with your writing); I’m needing to think more clearly about why I’m in this blogging world anyway…I mean, besides companionship, laughter, support, and … er… friends. Hmm. Guess I’ve just answered my own question.
    Does this mean I’m not getting rich from blogging any time soon?
    Dang it, all over again : )
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    • September 12, 2012 Alison

      Deborah, you won’t have to worry about anything – you have readers and friends that matter, and that should be all! :) WHO gets rich from blogging? (aside from the very few obvious ones who wrote books. And made TV shows, ahem)

  • September 12, 2012 Ruth

    Thanks for this post. I’ve been thinking about this issue lately and I just have to be honest with myself that the numbers game is just not my cup of tea. I like so many of the comments that others have shared here, I wish there’s a like button!
    Ruth recently wrote…Live. Simply.My Profile

    • September 12, 2012 Alison

      The comments are even better than my post :) And yes, the numbers game/ comparison trap is just too stressful. Let’s just write! :)

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