Of Lists and Not Making Them

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I saw a list this week of the Top 35 Most Pinteresting Mom Bloggers.

A few months ago, there was a list on Top 100 Most Influential Mom Bloggers on Twitter. Or something like that.

Then there’s the annual Babble’s Top 100 Mom Blogs.

And Circle Of Moms Top Something Something Blogs.

Parents magazine have Top Something Something Lists too.

And recently, on Facebook, I stumbled on a group who call themselves “Malaysia’s Hottest Bloggers”.

I am on none of these lists.

4 month old baby

Just recently, I wrote about how I won’t let numbers and statistics bother me. I refuse to fall into the comparison trap because it’s just too depressing and demotivating. I reminded myself of why I blog. Not for numbers, for my kids and for myself.

Then I saw the latest Top Something list and I felt…… left out.

Why do I never make the cut for these lists? Why am I not Pinteresting? Why am I not a ‘Hot Blogger’?

Why am I not asked to put a badge on my page and get people to go away from my blog to someone else’s site, driving my traffic their way, just to vote for me so I can be Top Something Blog?

4 month old baby

Oh wait.

I don’t blog to be on a list.

I don’t blog to get traffic to someone else’s site.

I don’t blog to get people to “Look at me! Look at me!”

4 month old baby boy

I don’t blog to be validated by I-don’t-know-what-criteria-these-sites-use-to-decide-who’s-in-the-top.

I do want people to read my words. I don’t mind putting them out there to be read on different sites.

I’d never say no to well-respected sites if they asked me to contribute something.

At least, with these situations, I know it’s based on merit. It’s based on the strength of my writing. It’s based on something tangible.

So, no, I’m not bitter.

Now, excuse me while I go think up a list that I can put myself on.

* These pictures of Scrumplet have nothing to do with this post. I just wanted to show him off.

Have you ever been on a Top Something list? If so, how did you feel? If not, how do you feel about it?

I know I say stuff like I don’t care about numbers etc, but I do want Google to love my blog. Because Google is the shiz, people. Which is why I’ve signed up for After Bedtime Blog‘s Google Luv Course, starting September 24. If you want in on how to make Google love your blog, sign up now by clicking on the badge on my sidebar, under I Recommend. You can save $60 if you sign up now. Just click on the badge and type in this code SAVE60BUCKS at checkout. Join me in the class! I promise not to be a teacher’s pet.

Alison
Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • September 20, 2012 Keely

    I was once in the top 5 parenting blogs of The Bloggies. I was so excited, except for the next year when I didn’t make the list AT ALL and hated myself (and everyone else) after that. Lists are the worst. Especially if you eventually make them, because then you hafta scramble to stay on them.

    I should totally be a motivational speaker.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      You’re on MY list, so there’s that. xo

  • September 20, 2012 Leigh Ann

    Oh, lists. I scoffed at the Babble top 100 list for a while, but when I finally went back and looked through it, I found a lot of interesting and inspiring work. And that’s what lists should do — help us find new and engaging content. And you know, SOME of those lists are just a list of the list maker’s favorite people, and shouldn’t be categorized as the “best.”

    *fist bump*
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Some lists do have some awesome people on them, absolutely no doubt about that. But you’re right, sometimes it’s all up the list maker (who are these list makers anyway?).

      *fist bump back*

  • September 20, 2012 Greta

    You should totally be on the Pinterest list. Most of the time, I don’t care about the lists either. I feel the same way about my blog that you do about yours (like, exactly). I want to be on people’s personal list though….like top five blogs I never want to miss, or top five people I keep up with on Instagram. Those are the kinds of lists I want to be on….the ones your friends put you on automatically (out of truth or loyalty. Whatever).
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Pinterest list of “I Will Make You Drool and Salivate’ list, you mean? 🙂 Yes! I like that, the personal lists of friends. I wouldn’t mind at all being on those lists.

  • September 20, 2012 Robin

    Yep, I’ve been on them. Here’s what I think:

    -It’s nice recognition but it’s not why I write.
    -Different lists mean different things, of course. Some of them don’t mean that much to me frankly.
    -I will never again ask people to vote for me for something. I don’t like doing it and those lists are all about driving traffic to their site. Not interested.
    -The big lists seem to always feature the same well-known bloggers. Yes, a lot of them are great. But that shows me it’s more about presence and reputation than a true search for good blogs.

    And, I will say to you what I’ve said before: I’d kill for your engagement and number of comments. Yes, you worked for it, but it’s a true measure of your value and the community you’ve built, and no list can top that. Ever.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      You’re so awesome. You’re on my “They Are Awesome” list.

      Also – OMG, the baby will be here soon, yes??

      • September 20, 2012 Laura

        I agree with everything Robin said. Especially the part about you, Alison.
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      • September 20, 2012 Robin

        Oh goodie. Do you have a badge for that list so I can post it on my blog? 😉

        And yes, soon. 3 weeks, give or take. Eep!

  • September 20, 2012 Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms

    I know right? I’m such a joiner that I want to be on the lists, but then I’m like, meh, it takes away from writing time (and who am I kidding, playing on Pinterest). We actually started the Top Mommy Blog form about 4 months ago and didn’t finish it because we needed to resize our photo. Well, the photo has been resized for some time now and we still haven’t finished the application.

    But I guess what I’m saying is that I know how you feel. I care, yet I’m also paradoxically ambivalent. I too felt a little twinge over the Most Pinteresting Blogger.

    So why don’t we start our own list? Bloggers Who Most Love Cheezits. You’d better make the badge because you see how that goes for me.

    BTW, those are the MOST scrumptious baby pictures ever! Ellen
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  • September 20, 2012 Jenni Ho-Huan

    What’s it with us humans and lists? Do gibbons, seals and flying things make lists? At heart it reduces us to compete, measure and dance to someone’s drumbeat!
    BUT, i am human and wow will i be happy to be on some top list!
    Contradictions within the human bosom.
    So, i dont think we’ve seen the end of it yet. Al, have you thought up a list? How about the TOP TEN BLOGGERS WHO DIDNT MAKE SOME LIST! We’re both on it already. CONGRATS!!

    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Haha, thank you for the laugh, Jenni. That sounds like a list I’d definitely make. 🙂

  • September 20, 2012 Christine

    I’m glad that you blog because I love reading your words. I agree with Robin – you’ve built an incredible community here and a wonderful place that your boys will always have. That’s worth much more than a list. PS Scrumplet is so adorable! Seriously, those pictures slay me.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Christine, thank you for your kind words. I love all you people who read my words, I do!

      (I took the photos with my sister’s DSLR, I love it!)

  • September 20, 2012 Tracie

    So what you are saying is that you are #1-#10 on the “My Scrumptious Kid Is Super Cute” list?

    Lists are rough. I’ve never been on one. I’m okay with that (except for those times when I’m not).
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Hee! Yes, I am! Eh, lists schmlists (that cannot be pronounced at all).

  • September 20, 2012 Alma

    It may not be the same but you are on my list … on my blog right there right where it says “blogs I love”. I know it is not the same. It is nice to have recognition from a list but I would rather have a comment from you and vise versa.
    I blog for the same reasons as you do.
    Lets not forget why we are here and we will never lose sight of where we are going.
    I will say it again … I love your blog.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      I love your comments, Alma. Always. And thank you. I’m feeling all warm and fuzzy!

  • September 20, 2012 Laura

    Truth? I got on the first list I was a part of because I nominated myself. Yup. Then, from that list, I was discovered by someone looking to make another list.

    Being added to the second list was a little more validating than the one I nominated myself for.

    For me, it is about sharing my words. From the moment I started writing, I wanted to write for people to read. I used to submit all my personal writing as extra assignments in school. My private diaries were always eventually read to a best friend. So, for me, these lists are to hopefully help more people read me, and maybe a few will like what they read. (which is why I was so bummed when my blog was linked wrong on one of these.)

    You? You deserve to be on a list. So many lists. I would have nominated you right along side of me if you were Canadian! 🙂 But truthfully, you have people reading you. And I bet your readership will grow whether you’re on a list or no list.

    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      I think you deserve to be on the RD list, totally! I was bummed for you with the wrong link (aside from not getting traffic you deserve, it went to someone else, that’s what upset me!).

      Aw, thank you! I don’t really care to be on a list. Most of the time, I really don’t. I know the way to people’s hearts is being authentic, and that’s what I try to be. And to be kind. Lists don’t allow me to show that.

  • September 20, 2012 Vanita

    hey if it’s any consolation, which it probably isn’t, but your blog is in my list of MUST READS. Ok, it’s not alist. it’s a folder on my bookmarks bar where i keep all my fav blogs (nothing like my ereader where i just add people) and i MUST ceck these blogs in the AM for new posts in the event that Imissed a tweet or something. i really hope you get my typos cause i’m worn out sistah and just can’t backspace and retype at the moment. my point is you’re on my list of Favs. Because you’re just awesome and always makes me smile.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      I feel the love, typos and all. And it’s mutual! xo

  • September 20, 2012 Kimberly

    I think some list shave the potential to open us up to new, wonderful bloggers, but the ones with all of the voting? Can’t stand them. I was emailed not too long ago about making a list and my first thought? That’s great, but I really didn’t care. I write for me, for my kids, for my family. I’ll never change that. For anything.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      I cannot stand the voting ones too! We’re on the same page, absolutely.

  • September 20, 2012 Andrea

    I started my blog on Wordpress a year ago and kept thinking that ‘anyday now’ I would be ‘freshly pressed’ – and started wondering wny I never was (especially when I saw the ones that were)… but I’m over it now (well, mostly 🙂 ) I think it’s all political (lol) Your baby is soo cute.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      I’ve been on Wordpress for over a year and have never been freshly pressed either – I don’t even have any idea how to do that! And thank you.

  • September 20, 2012 Amanda Jillian

    I’ve signed myself up for the Circle of Moms blog lists twice, I didn’t make the top 25 either time but I did notice a lot more traffic to the blog. But this time around I realized it was more my actual networking that drew the traffic in. I was impressed by how far I went this time since I wasn’t all “vote for me”. But I think you inspired me to make some lists of my own. =]
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      It’s all about the networking in blogging, with or without lists! 🙂

  • September 20, 2012 The Laotian Commotion

    Yes! I wrote a post on my one-year blogging anniversary including the Type of blogs that are “popular” and how my niche will never get me on such a list.

    I’d prefer to have an engaging conversation with people who choose to enjoy my content rather than just have a bajillion subscribed followers. Can there be a List for “Most Random Conversation Starters via Blog Posts?”
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      You can start that list! And happy first anniversary!

  • September 20, 2012 Kristi

    I agree with Amanda. I don’t want to be on lists and have my blog be able to make lists. I want to make someone’s lists to introduce others to my blog, to my writing and to the others that read my blog and network. I get excited when someone new finds me. If that comes from a list I’m on, that’s ok by me. Because that’s the result from being on a list gives me. Yup. I’m sticking to that.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      And you’ve got it right, Kristi!

  • September 20, 2012 Kimberly

    Well you can be on my Coolest people I’ve never met but would more than likely maul them if I did meet them and then they’d get really creeped out and then they would put a restraining order on me list.
    I’ll even make a button with a creepy dude with a strong mustache 🙂
    I’m on PPD lists and it makes me very very proud. However, like you, numbers and statistics aren’t my thing. If my readers acknowledge me in comments, that makes me feel good.
    You’re a beautiful writer friend.
    That’s all that should matter in this world of blogging.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      I’d never put a restraining order on you! It’d be more likely the other way round!
      I like the sound of that button, make one!
      PPD lists are different. They are a resource for moms battling it. They are not frivolous like other lists. So I’m proud of you for being on those lists, because you’re on them based on the strength of your honesty and writing.
      And thank you. xo

  • September 20, 2012 tracy

    For those of us who have never been on a list – do you think we should just start our own club/list. Seriously. How about if I make us each a button that says something like “Top 50 List-less Bloggers!” – Oh wait, that sounds weird.

    Love you.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      List-less! *snort*

      Love you too. Fellow List-Less.

      • September 20, 2012 tracy

        Yeah, it was a weird idea because who would come up with their own list and button just to put themselves on it. Maybe that’s why I’m List-less.
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        • September 20, 2012 Alison

          I believe we’re too cool for any lists. Or too hot.

  • September 20, 2012 thedoseofreality

    I am in the Top 25 Mommy/Parenting (I can’t remember) Blogs on Skinny Scoop. And obviously, it has led to many chances to tell my life story to Oprah. Oh wait, I mean it has led to my children listening to me better. Nope, hmmm, not that either, huh?
    Love this post. I think we all feel a twinge when we see a list that does not contain our names, but then we realize that if we based on worth on “Top Whatever” we would still be in high school.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Yes! Exactly! The twinge doesn’t last though. Instead, I just turn it into a blog post. 🙂

  • September 20, 2012 sarah

    I agree with what Robin @farewellstranger said. You’ve got so much going on here with the community you’ve created. I’ve bee blogging for almost 5 yrs, seriously blogging for just maybe 2, and I’ve never made a list. I go back and forth with caring and not. It’s always nice to be recognized in some way–especially since I consider my blog my art form. But like robin said! Holy moly! The comments you get! The connections you’ve made. Your space has a lot going for it. I love coming here 🙂
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      I love YOUR space. So much. You have such a way of telling stories. And your photos? Mind blown. And I do love my little community here. You guys rock so hard.

  • September 20, 2012 KalleyC

    I remember seeing all those lists, and saying to myself how I wish I was on them–or at least one of them. But then I saw I had to hound people to vote for me after each post just to make a dent on the list. It wasn’t for me (that and I’m too lazy for all that harassing).

    I love this blog and I love the community here, to me that’s all that matters!
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much Kalley! (and yes, ditto on the voting thing, gah)

  • September 20, 2012 Alexandra

    ACK!

    My comment disappeared!!

    Here to tell you there are TWO tremendous posts you must read today that speak to these issues:

    One is the honest that to make these lists YOU MUST POUND THAT PAVEMENT> Via OurSimpleLives http://t.co/PAPmliWZ

    Next is Katherine Stone’s piece on babble, how not making lists DOES NOT MEAN we are not influential, or are failures: http://t.co/KmI0e20D

    A lot of things look rosey on the outside, but there’s a truth to them: time has to come from somewhere to make these things, and right now: you are in the season of motherhood. You never get the chance to do that again.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      You are so wise, my friend!

      (I magicked your comment back out! My spam control just doesn’t like links in comments, heh).

  • September 20, 2012 Mothering From Scratch

    {Melinda} Love this post … also loved the one you wrote previously on this subject. I know I could have a lot more blog followers, etc. etc. etc. if I was willing to devote every waking moment to my blog. Not willing to do it. You know why? Because I have a couple kiddos (like the adorable one you pictured numerous times — I can absolutely see why. What a cutie). My kids are 15 and 12 now, but they still need me. To be there. Not behind the screen of a computer constantly. Thanks for sharing this perspective.
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    • September 20, 2012 Alison

      Melinda, yes, exactly! Priorities, right?

  • September 20, 2012 Robbie

    As one who still considers herself a newbie (with a year in my blogging belt) I initially looked at the lists as “”ooooh cool some fantastic new bloggers to read.” I was a bit disillusioned as some were fantastic and some were “meh…i don’t get why they are popular” I also started seeing many of the same blogs on all the lists. If there’s one thing about me it’s that I am hype averse so those lists actually have the opposite effect of me. The only lists I’ll ever make: Bloggers who will never make a list, bloggers who spread awareness of sock monkeys and Oscar Mayer Weinermobiles.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      I like your lists! (also yes, I wonder too about some of these blogs who make it into some lists)

  • September 20, 2012 misssrobin

    Your photos are adorable! And we all love recognition; don’t feel bad about it. It might not be the driving factor, but it is still nice. Best wishes that you find your list someday.

    Stopping by from SITS. Have a great day.
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  • September 20, 2012 karen

    I’m here to network, meet other moms and share my stories about motherhood. I am just hapy making friends and finding others like me. I do want to build my fan base, but I am not going to spend too much time blogging away from my son.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Exactly, it’s about priorities!

  • September 21, 2012 My Inner Chick

    Guess What, Mama A?

    YOU. Are. On. MY. LIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xx
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      And you, on mine. xo

  • September 21, 2012 Melissa

    First, I LOVE these pics. Adorable! Second, I know exactly what you mean. I’d always wanted to make a list. Now I just use them to find new and interesting blogs.

    Btw, found you on SITS. Looks like you have a great community of readers who leave lots of comments. THAT’S the validation I like. Comments make me feel all warm and fuzzy and let me know I’m not just “talking to the walls.”
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Melissa! I do have a lovely group of people who read me (and I sometimes wonder why and how I got so lucky). I don’t need to be on a list! And I really don’t want to be on THOSE lists.

      Thanks for coming by!

  • September 21, 2012 Jessica

    I was once nominated for a list but I really didn’t care for the self promoting that went along with it so I didn’t do it. Hasn’t happened since then, thank goodness.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Those kind of lists are the worse – vote for me, vote for me! Blech.

  • September 21, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Hahaha!!! Let’s make our own list of something or other to be on.
    Your scrumplet is perfect.

    P.S. You’re on MY top ten list 🙂
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, he is pretty awesome.

      And thank you, no other list I’d rather be on. 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 molly

    I say I don’t care but that really isn’t the truth. I know it’s not a list but I was a BlogHer Voice of the Year in 2011 and that’s the best blog honor I’ve ever received. But I loved it because it had to do with my writing and not how popular I was.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Molly, VOTY is exactly the kind of thing that I wouldn’t mind getting – it’s based on merit and writing. That is awesome, good for you!

  • September 21, 2012 Courtney Kirkland

    Yep. Lists are the worst. The Babble List is always the one that gets me. Because the “Top 100” bloggers? Most of them…I don’t even like. Most of their sties are solely about reviewing products or shouting out to big companies. There’s no depth. No REAL words. No stories that tug at the heart strings (for most of them…there are a few that deserve to be there). You’d be on my list, mama! 🙂
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks Courtney! I feel the same way about Babble’s list. Le sigh.

  • September 21, 2012 Elaine A.

    I feel that way about some of those lists sometimes too, I’ll be honest. But I know my blog is not that “BIG” so I understand why I am not on them.

    I was floored when I was on a list back in 2009, I think? Nielsen Power Moms or something… it was so not expected and just kind weird. ha! But I was somewhat honored, mostly because of who I was included on the list with… 🙂
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Oh I totally get why I’m not on those lists either. Which is okay, because I don’t live for them. Also, I really dislike the popularity ones, and the vote for me vote for me ones. And the on you were on in 2009 sounds way more credible than some 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 Kyla

    You are so right. I have been peddling myself today to make the Top 25 Mommy Blogs. Now, I feel a tad silly. But, I do really want to make the Top 25!

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Haha! Good luck 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    those lists make me crazy….most of the time you have to beg people for votes…
    I was nominated for one of them, I mentioned it in a post, put the button on my site and that was it…
    I lost
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      You win in my book 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 Rach (DonutsMama)

    Someone once told me about blogging awards and lists that anyone can put something together and call it authentic. The more I see those lists, sometimes the more I think it’s all about who you know, not how well you write or anything. But that’s ok. We all like to be on lists sometimes, but I don’t think we should make it a goal. I”m never going to be on a list. But that’s ok. I’m on my family’s list! 😉

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      You’re exactly right!

  • September 21, 2012 Maureen

    Those people who make the Top Something Something list needs to get their act together and include your awesome blog, Alison! Seriously, you’re on my Top Fantastic Blogger around the world and back 😀 I’ve been on a few list, it was fun at first but then I get tired of pimping my own blog asking for votes lol.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks Maureen! Lists asking for votes aren’t really real, are they? 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 susan

    I’m gonna state the obvious – You are #1 on the list of important people to Scrumplet. That’s enough for anyone!
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Susan, you’re absolutely right!

  • September 21, 2012 Carolyn

    Okay, I loved this post. Why? First the pictures! You had me smiling through the post. Second, the message.
    Thanks for that.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Yay the pictures worked! And thank you. 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 Natalie

    I know. It’s hard to see the validation. And wonder. But I just try to focus on the long-term. In 30 years, what will your words be worth? That’s why I write. For them. For me. And screw the validation.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Exactly. Screw that. 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 viviene

    Wah your baby is so cute!!

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Viviene.

  • September 21, 2012 Blond Duck

    I’ve never been on a list because I don’t quite fit in anywhere….
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      It’s wonderful to be unique!

  • Being a top blogger with swag bookdeals etc is no picknick either (not that I, little obscure Belgian Blogger speak from experience). Did you know that there is not one, but three troll-sites for the Pioneer Woman. THREE!
    And you can never post enough pictures of that scrumpet. I could eat him whole!
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Is it a sign that one has made it when one has troll sites? 🙂

      I’ll give Scrumps a kiss from you 🙂

  • September 21, 2012 Barbara

    I’ll make a list of bloggers I love and put you right on top! Btw, I can’t get over how adorable your little one is.
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    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Aw thanks Barbara, you’re so sweet!

  • September 21, 2012 Mirjam

    You are on my list. You are one of the people that inspired me once I started blogging.
    When I first discovered the gigantic blogger community, I was in awe of you. Seriously I was like a groupie.
    I still have your first comment and first tweet back from you.. (Totally embarrassing to admit but, oh well.)
    There are those that make the list and there are those that are the heart of the community.

    Read it? Okay delete it now.. 😉
    Mirjam recently wrote…Picnic in the parkMy Profile

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      OMG you’re so sweet, I’m literally blushing!!
      I’m glad we found each other. Going to your blog makes me happy.

  • September 22, 2012 Charlotte

    Okay, I am loving the pictures of Scrumplet. SOOO cute!

    I feel this way too sometimes. Whenever there’s a list and I’m not included, I can’t help but feel left out and like, I just don’t matter in the blog world. But you know, they’re all so subjective and we can’t take them too seriously. You are loved by those who read your words and you make a HUGE dent in the blogosphere, regardless of whether or not your blog has a badge or is placed into some meaningless blog award category.

    Don’t ever stop doing what you love to do. Because your readers always love to hear your words. XOXO
    Charlotte recently wrote…laughter: a concerto in four awkward datesMy Profile

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Charlotte, thank you so much for your beautiful words, truly. xo

  • September 22, 2012 Leigh Powell Hines

    I love these posts because I so agree with you. I want my blog read. People join Facebook. Leave Facebook. My feelings get hurt. But, in the end, I’m learning that the people who really like my blog and what I do will follow, and it may only be so much.
    Leigh Powell Hines recently wrote…Frivolous Friday: Let’s Talk WineMy Profile

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Thanks for geting it Leigh. Yes, what you said!

  • September 22, 2012 Carli

    I have not read any of these lists. Soooo…. But I will happily make a list and put both of us on it. Now, I just need to think of a name. 🙂

    Coming by from SITS.
    Carli recently wrote…The Friday Five {Five Cool Things To Read, Do, And See This Week}My Profile

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      The Non-List Bloggers? 🙂

      Thanks for visiting!

  • September 22, 2012 Mama Pants

    Well just based on your comment love, I’d say you are on many people’s lists. Including mine. 🙂 But I am with you. I don’t blog for those things either. I blog for the love of it. All the rest has been icing.
    Mama Pants recently wrote…On Sisterhood and Blue EyelinerMy Profile

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Yes, indeed. Icing!

  • September 22, 2012 Andrea

    Lists smists…your kids are not going to care about what lists you were are weren’t on. What will be important to them is that you took the time to write down all the little happenings of their childhood. You’re a good mom.

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Andrea, I agree that what matters is that I write stuff down for my kids, and it’s not about the lists.

  • September 23, 2012 Sue

    You are SO very Pinteresting as well as among the Top Something Something Moms for Something.

    In MY book.

    And don’t let any list make you feel differently. *mwah*
    Sue recently wrote…Tomy’s Chuggington Stack Track: Review and GiveawayMy Profile

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thank you sweetheart. *mwah right back atcha*

  • September 23, 2012 Recreate and Decorate

    As I scroll down to have my turn at commenting, I can’t help but add “why can’t I have as many comments like this”! LOL
    I am beginning to think there are too many home decor bloggers for me to even compete with, so I am just gonna do my own thing! But still secretly envy those that are making lots of money!! 🙂
    Recreate and Decorate recently wrote…When a love affair is overMy Profile

    • September 23, 2012 Alison

      Wanda, thanks to you, I’ve finally moved my comment box to the top, like I’ve been meaning to for weeks!

      Keep doing your thing, it’s YOU. 🙂

  • September 24, 2012 Natalie

    Oh my he is soooooo adorable! Love his little face!
    Natalie recently wrote…Fall is in the AirMy Profile

    • September 24, 2012 Alison

      He is pretty expressive!

  • September 24, 2012 The Squishy Monster

    imho, your kid takes the cake for cutest kid ever! =D I love your writing style, Alison =D
    The Squishy Monster recently wrote…Welcoming the WeekendMy Profile

    • September 24, 2012 Alison

      Thank you very much!

  • September 25, 2012 Jessica

    I’m not on any lists either. It doesn’t bother me because I mainly don’t pay attention. I blog to write and that’s enough for me. This is what I’ve learned and am learning. To continue blogging, I must do it on my own terms.

    • September 25, 2012 Alison

      You’re absolutely right, Jessica.

  • September 25, 2012 Nina

    Yup, I will never be noticed by those lists. Am totally okay with that to!!
    Nina recently wrote…The Value of a Good Book: Is the Reading Public Cheap?My Profile

    • September 25, 2012 Alison

      YOU don’t need to be on a list, you’re already awesome. 🙂

  • September 27, 2012 Tonya

    I love this on so many levels!! Especially the photos… they add so much. 🙂 I wasn’t on any of these lists either and I don’t care. As far as I’m concerned, we can be on our own list together.
    Tonya recently wrote…Dear BoboMy Profile

    • September 27, 2012 Alison

      Yay we are on the We Are Awesome And We Know It List 🙂

  • September 28, 2012 Lady Jennie

    I thought the pictures of Scrumplet were so you could show that you blog for them!

    And I think you should be on the Pinterest list at the very least.
    Lady Jennie recently wrote…A Guided Tour of BrusselsMy Profile

    • September 30, 2012 Alison

      Yes it is! And well, I’m not in that Pinterest list clique so…. (I don’t mind, really!)

  • September 30, 2012 Galit Breen

    You’re on my must read list. So there. xo
    Galit Breen recently wrote…A Tiffany Tween RoomMy Profile

    • September 30, 2012 Alison

      That’s what matters, really. xo

  • October 1, 2012 Ruth

    I love this post and the previous one, you spoke my heart. While I must be honest and say that I do hope to have more readers, but like what Alexandra and Melinda said, lots of time is needed to grow a blog and make it popular and I’m not about to be obsessed with blogging or get caught up with the numbers game. Being a good mom and wife is still my priority.

    And your blog is definitely on my must-read list!
    Ruth recently wrote…Toilet Training – A SurpriseMy Profile

  • October 2, 2012 Rachelle

    Visiting from Courtney Kirkland’s blog… lists make me sad. I used to obsess over top photography lists (and won a bit of recognition), but it’s hard to maintain momentum when life happens. Your little one is adorable!
    Rachelle recently wrote…Getting his (1st) Game OnMy Profile

    • October 2, 2012 Alison

      And life comes first, always! (thank you)

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