One On One

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The baby and I have been spending a lot of one-on-one time together.

The toddler has been staying with his grandparents for over a week now (that’s a blog post on its own – suffice to say, he is there on his own accord and they love having him there).

I feel a little guilty for having it so easy. Like it should be hard. Like I should be juggling two kids.

But it is what it is. As long as both children are healthy and happy right?

So this is what one-on-one time has been like with the small one (who hasn’t enjoyed this level of attention since he was born).

3 month old baby

There has been play.


Teething baby

There was some finger chomping.


Baby teething

And, more chomping.


Baby rolling

There was a lot of rolling from back to front.


Mother with baby

There were a lot of Β just hanging out, taking pictures.


Brothers toddler and baby

And we did go hang out with the big boy.

A lot of one-on-one. For that, I am grateful.

All photos were taken with my phone, from my feed (are you following me there?), hence linking up with Julie and Greta for #IPPP!

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • August 29, 2012 Julie

    He seems like such a peaceful, laid back guy. Lucky you! πŸ™‚
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      He is pretty laid back. Except when he’s tired, then Mr Cranky Pants makes an appearance. πŸ™‚

  • August 29, 2012 Raquel

    He is soooo adorable!!! Enjoy this special time together. I used to love having one-on-one time with my youngest daughter as it didn’t happen a lot. When she got a little older I realized how important it was for her too as she had my full attention and didn’t have to compete with her older sister.
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Raquel. I am enjoying this time, I know it’s hard to come by and we don’t know when the opportunity will come again, so we’re soaking it all up!

  • August 29, 2012 Greta

    The CHEEKS! The LEGS! One on one time is fabulous, great for everybody involved, and absolutely nothing to feel weird about. Just be prepared for the grandma detox when big brother comes home! πŸ˜‰
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      Oh, the detox. I don’t even want to think about that. πŸ™‚

  • August 29, 2012 Lucy

    God, he’s gorgeous. Lucky you.
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      Why, thank you. (I am SO lucky)

  • August 29, 2012 Sarah

    what a cutie. chuck the guilt. enjoy! I love that one on one time πŸ™‚
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      I do chuck it – most of the time πŸ™‚

  • August 29, 2012 Sandra

    I think you should just feed the kid or else I’ll call CFS on you or whatever the Malaysian equivalent is…OR you could send him to me while the big boy are at the folks, so you can have some much needed “You” time, and I can chomp on those cute little itty bitty baby toes….oh goodness Alison, I swear, everytime I come here, I get off the computer and beg my husband for another baby! Unfortunately, my husband is usually asleep on the couch, and thus unavailable for coitus…TMI? Well, it’s not like I said vagina, right.
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      Hah! It’s never TMI between friends! Here, you can have him for a day. Just make sure you send him back with intact toes.

  • August 29, 2012 Maureen

    Scrumplet is super cute and he’s getting so big already. Don’t feel guilty, enjoy it πŸ˜€
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      He is getting big, sigh. We are totally enjoying it!

  • August 29, 2012 Courtney Kirkland

    how awesome that you’ve had that one on one bonding time with your little. I know he’s loving it and I’m sure it’s fantastic to have that going on since you haven’t had that so far. πŸ™‚ Enjoy it!
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      It is fantastic, and I do love it. Who knows when we can get this time again, so we’re totally loving it!

  • August 29, 2012 Kimberly

    Oh my god, those legs!! So cute!

    Enjoy the one on one time, though I know it’s hard right now.
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      I love his legs. I’m obsessed with his legs.

      I am enjoying it. I know it’s a rare gift, so I’m focusing on that right now.

  • August 29, 2012 Purnima

    The pics are beautiful! Have fun while it lasts. I fondly remember the infanthood of my son. Babies are just so chicky chummy chingy cute πŸ™‚
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      Yes, yes they are!!

  • August 29, 2012 Cynthia Meents

    He’s getting so big! I blinked and missed something. It’s wonderful that you’re getting a little one-on-one. The big boy will be back soon enough. Brother time is pretty special too.
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    • August 30, 2012 Alison

      He’s getting big right in front of my eyes, I still can’t believe it. πŸ™‚ Oh yes, brother time is definitely special, I need to make sure they get that more.

  • August 29, 2012 Stasha

    Nothing wrong with having this as a special treat.for all o you. Hurray for one on one!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Hurray indeed!!

  • August 29, 2012 ilene

    You are both so beautiful! And I”m glad you had that alone time. It’s hard to allow ourselves to feel like we deserve to have it “easy” with just one kid – right? But I love the alone time with my youngest – who is now almost five, and she’s still my “baby.” πŸ™‚
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I know, it’s hard! I hardly feel like I deserve the one on one time. But have it I do, so enjoy it I shall.

  • August 29, 2012 Co-Pilot Mom

    Great pics! He looks so thoughtful as he is chomping.

    Enjoy your one on one time.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Hee! Thoughtful is right.

  • August 29, 2012 Katie E

    So much cuteness! I don’t get one on one time with any of the kids very often, but it always seems so special when it happens – glad you’re enjoying yours! And yes, healthy and happy is the key!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      It is totally special!

  • August 29, 2012 Ashley {

    I am swooning over these pictures! How amazing to get to have that time. I am looking forward to a bit of that on the three days my older two will both be in school- just me and baby for a few hours. It’s a luxury you don’t always get after the first baby, and it sounds like both kids are having the best times!! xo
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      It is a luxury, and I know it won’t last, so I’m really loving it (with a smidgen of guilt still).

  • August 29, 2012 molly

    How wonderful that you’re getting some special time with your littlest guy. When you have two kids those days are few and far between!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      They are, and I’m loving it!

  • August 29, 2012 Julia

    Enjoy this time just the two of you and his big brother will have such wonderful memories of this time with his grandparents.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Yes, I have to remember to look at this from the toddler’s point of view – precious time with his grandparents.

  • August 29, 2012 angela

    One on one time is awesome! I’m glad you and the babe are having it πŸ™‚ (Abbey would stay with her grandparents for weeks if she had the option.)
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      And Monkey has the option – the luxury of two homes, as his grandmother puts it. πŸ™‚

  • August 29, 2012 MamaCassie

    One on one time is super great and needed! I’m glad your in laws live so close and are able to watch one grandson at a time so they can have one on one time too πŸ™‚ Great pics!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Oh it is super, and it is needed!

  • August 29, 2012 Barbara

    He is so adorable! I think they love having that one on one time!

    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      We do, and the grandparents love the one on one with the toddler too.

  • August 29, 2012 Ducky

    Super adorable! He just looks like he smells so wonderful…heh…I like that little baby smell πŸ˜€ The luxury of snapping millions of photos is a grand one.

    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes, he does, he’s scrumptious!

  • August 29, 2012 Christine

    You’re smart to take the help from the in-laws. Help helps. I’m curious about the toddler…is this his version of running away??? Looking forward to that post.
    Your little guy is flat out delicious. Enjoy.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Help helps indeed! Haha yes, running away indeed. He goes there every day anyway. One day, he decided that he wanted to stay. Or so stay he has. (rethinking that blog post, so this answer will have to do)

  • August 29, 2012 Jame

    H eis adorable and getting big! Love the chubby baby legs. I miss those on my 6 year old!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I’ll miss those baby legs when he’s bigger. Sigh.

  • August 29, 2012 KalleyC

    So very cute! Glad you’ve been enjoying the 1 on 1 time with the little one. That’s one of my concerns when this little guy comes out, I won’t be able to give him as much attention. But like all moms, we’ll make it work.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Yes, we do make it work. I’m very, very fortunate.

  • August 29, 2012 Jackie

    Oh my… those cute chubby legs! Makes me just want to squish them! LOL!

    I love being able to have one on one time with my kids. I just wish that I could do it a lot more often!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I squished them on your behalf!

  • August 30, 2012 Alexandra

    Oh those dimples and ridges and juiciness of the thighs!

    How I relate!

    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Sigh, baby thighs.

  • August 30, 2012 Janice

    He is such a cutie. And what a blessing to be able to spend a whole week with him! And teething and rolling over already? How time flies, doesn’t it?
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Yes, it is a blessing! I know, right, teething and rolling over. He’s developing much quicker than his big brother did too.

  • August 30, 2012 Kristen

    I just did the one on one thing over the past two weeks before school started. I kept one of my daughters for around 36 hours to myself while my parents had the other one and then we switched the next week. It gave us some time to talk, shop for back to school clothes and not have them bickering and my parents really enjoyed it too.
    Don’t feel guilty. Enjoy the alone time when you can get it with either of your boys! πŸ™‚
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      What a great idea! I’m sure your girls loved the one on one time with you too!

  • August 30, 2012 Mirjam

    You are so blessed! Don’t ever feel guilty about that. Being able to enjoy alone time and to have help around the corner is wonderful. Every mother should have that.
    I just can’t get enough of those baby pictures!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I am blessed, yes! It’s hard not to feel guilty, but I’m still enjoying the time I have with the baby. After aLl, he IS scrumptious.

  • August 30, 2012 Jessica

    Don’t feel guilty! Enjoy it! You’re really blessed!

    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I am enjoying it, definitely!

  • August 30, 2012 karen

    must be awesome for you to get to spend that one on one time with him, great bonding ahead. And toddler will get his own alone time with grandparents, which he probably needs too.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Yes, that’s a great way to look at it – the toddler gets one on one time too with his grandparents.

  • August 30, 2012 AnnMarie

    Take the easy when you can get it because we all know, it’s not always easy. I love the pics! He is so flipping cute.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I love that – take the easy. Yes, I will!

  • August 30, 2012 Jessica

    It’s always nice to have one on one time with the kids. Mine don’t get enough of that.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      It is really nice. Hope you get more of that soon!

  • August 30, 2012 Jamie

    Those pictures brought back all those finger chomping days. So very sweet.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I love these early baby days. Truly.

  • August 30, 2012 adrienne

    He’s so cute!! What fabulous grandparents!!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Yes they are pretty fabulous!

  • August 30, 2012 Katie

    I think it’s ok for you to get that time with just him. I felt guilty sending Eddie to daycare everyday for 12 weeks after Charlie was born because it felt so easy…but you know what? It was absolutely a great choice. I am so thankful for all that one-on-one time with him.

    Soak it up and enjoy it, girl! He’s scrumptious! πŸ™‚
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      So glad you made that choice and that you know that it was the right one. Which is why we’re letting this happen (let the toddler stay with his grandparents as long as he likes). Because I know I may not have this time again.

  • August 30, 2012 Vanita

    gosh girl. along with all the fun games together, rolling around together, hanging out together, please tell me y’all took many many naps together. cause i sure as heck would!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Haha! Yes, we did. I nap with him for an hour once a day at least. It’s so needed!

  • August 30, 2012 Rach (DonutsMama)

    Oh I can’t wait to hear why Monkey ran away to his grandparents’ house, lol! But glad you’re enjoying some good time with the little one. And those legs! So nummy!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Haha! He didn’t run away so much as he just decided to stay on one day. And he’s still there. πŸ™‚

  • August 30, 2012 Sue

    Enjoy it all. 100 per cent guilt-free.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      100% guilt-free may be a little ambitious, but I’m certainly trying πŸ™‚

  • August 30, 2012 Susi

    Such sweet photos. I love one on one time with each of my kids. My boy got so much of it since he was the first born and it seems that the other two never have that but they all get their own time with mom and dad. Little One gets lots of it again since the two older ones are back in school!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Back to school positive side- one on one time with the littlest!

  • August 30, 2012 Tonya

    One on one time is the best, I am so glad you have that. Enjoy it. I know he is too. Both of them. πŸ™‚
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Yes, I know, it’s good for the boys too!

  • August 30, 2012 Maggie S.

    Sounds like a pleasant time.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      It is, indeed.

  • August 30, 2012 tracy

    So sweet. I want him for just one day okay??
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      You can have him for the weekend!

  • August 30, 2012 thedoseofreality

    Oh my goodness, that picture of his thighs!! I can’t even stand it! I think there is something really magical about getting one-on-one time with your younger child, since it is actually pretty rare. Soak it all up! πŸ™‚
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Yes, it’s totally magical, I’m loving it (and his thighs!).

  • August 30, 2012 Alexis Tande

    Thanks for commenting on my guest post today at Scary Mommy! Love YOUR blog too! There is NOTHING better than one on one time. Every moment is so special and I don’t take it for granted at all!
    xx, Alexis

    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Alexis, for coming by!

  • August 30, 2012 Lily From It's A Dome Life

    I love these pictures. I t’s nice to have one on one time once in a while, isn’t it?
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      It’s awesome!

  • August 30, 2012 julie gardner

    Do not EVER feel guilty about a stretch of time (minutes, hours, days, weeks) that runs smoothly.

    Believe me, over the course of raising two children there will be plenty of HARD.
    There just will.

    So take these sweet moments and soak them up.
    Promise me.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      You are my wise hero so I’m taking your advice. I am soaking. them. up.

  • August 30, 2012 Leslie

    How sweet! I love my one-on-one time with the littlest one; but have to admit that the toddler hasn’t gotten much one-on-one lately either. Such a tough balance! Congrats on getting the extra bonding time with scrumplet!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      It totally is a tough balance. I’m lucky I have my fab in laws!

  • August 30, 2012 My Inner Chick

    I miss my babies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Xxxx Beautiful.

    Savor your time together. ALWAYS.
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I will!! And thank you. xo

  • August 31, 2012 hilljean

    Those times with the second baby are so precious. I felt like I appreciated them more than the first time around because they were so few. It’s nice that your son will hang out with the grandparents like that. Cherish the time and don’t feel guilty–not one bit!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I definitely am enjoying second baby moments more than the first. I’m loving every moment!

  • August 31, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    One-on-one time is awesome!!! Love your happy pictures…and he is getting so big *sigh*
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      He is. *sigh*

  • August 31, 2012 Lady Jennie

    Don’t be guilty – take advantage of every opportunity!
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    • August 31, 2012 Alison

      I do know this – but I can’t help it. I’m trying though!

  • September 1, 2012 Natalie

    His looks have already changed so much!
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    • September 1, 2012 Alison

      I know! I love watching him grow up right in front of my eyes.

  • September 1, 2012 Tricia

    So sweet! Always feels like it should be hard but enjoy the easy and the special time. I hope soon I’ll be able to do the same πŸ™‚
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    • September 1, 2012 Alison

      I wish the same for you πŸ™‚

  • September 1, 2012 Elena

    What a sweetheart! Glad you’re getting some alone time with the baby. I’m sure the grandparents are enjoying having Monkey around and it’s a special time for you with that adorable babes!
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    • September 1, 2012 Alison

      It is pretty awesome!

  • September 3, 2012 Eli

    Do you ever feel guilty for finding a 20 in your coat pocket from last year?

    Then you should never feel guilty for finding a little quiet time with one of the kidlets.

    It’s like the performance bonus we get as parents.

    Enjoy it.
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    • September 3, 2012 Alison

      That’s a good way to look at it!

  • September 3, 2012 Laura

    I look forward to hearing the story of why your toddler is at his grandparents’ house. But WHAT a blessing that must be! To everyone! Big boy gets dedicated time with his grandparents, where I’m sure they are spoiling him, and baby gets dedicated time with you – which is hard to come by when you are juggling two kids.

    I can tell from the pics you both are having a beautiful time together!

    • September 3, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes they ARE spoiling the toddler! The story is just this – he gets spoiled there. He gets 100% attention from TWO people. To him, it’s probably a no-brainer. I will just consider it a gift from him. πŸ™‚

  • September 3, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    it’s so nice having alone time with only one….
    there are times when either my boys are gone or Eric stays home with a couple and I take a couple and I swear, I’m practically skipping! It’s so much easier without all of them, and whoever I have can talk my ear off without being interrupted…..everyone enjoys it!
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    • September 3, 2012 Alison

      Oh it IS nice. I do miss him of course, but I’m a much nicer person when I’m not stressed. I don’t know how you do it with FOUR!

  • September 4, 2012 Robin

    What a great opportunity! Looks like good times with the babe.
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    • September 4, 2012 Alison

      Yes, we are loving it!

  • September 4, 2012 Elaine A.

    Oh my gosh he is so CUTE, I want to squeeze him!!! In a gentle-ish way of course…. glad you 2 got some great quality time together!!
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    • September 4, 2012 Alison

      I squeeze him hard because this baby is solid πŸ™‚ And we are having a grand time!

  • September 5, 2012 Amanda

    Totally understand the guilt – Lilah is in daycare full time at the moment while I adjust to life with the newborn. But I think instead of feeling guilty, we should take what we can get and enjoy our baby time because it is so fleeting.
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  • September 7, 2012 Galit Breen

    One on one time is…a gift. Enjoy!
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    • September 8, 2012 Alison

      We did! And now things are back to normal and to two!

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