Things I’ll Miss And Things I Won’t

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This Listicle is inspired by the late Nora Ephron, who wrote a list of things she’ll miss and things she won’t, in her final book.

Writing this made me a little sad, but it also made me appreciate what I do have and the time I still have, to love and do all the things I will miss.

Starting off with….

Things I Won’t Miss






Stupid Facebook updates


Living in the city


Noisy toys


Sound of sirens





Things I Will Miss

My sons

My husband





Trashy reality TV

Really good TV shows like Downton Abbey and Dexter



The smell of freshly baked bread

Hot showers





Grocery shopping




Writing lists

What will you miss and what won’t you miss?

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • July 9, 2012 angela

    I love your photo collage. And for some reason, this post makes me really nostalgic and weepy πŸ™‚
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      It made me a little weepy writing it! Because writing it down makes my mortality so much more real, y’know? (not that I was ever deluded enough to think I’ll live forever)

  • July 9, 2012 Lance

    we have similar interests

    I think there’s music whereever you go or whatever you believe in.

    If you’ve hurt people or been horrible, you get to listen to Nickelback and Ke$ha.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Haha! I HATE Nickelback.

  • July 9, 2012 Ado

    Oh I love your list. You could’ve written mine for me! I love the adorable photo collage. (-:
    PS: Are you veggie?
    PSPS: Would you *really* miss living in the city? I picture you living (in Oz, of course…) at least in proximity to a city. Can’t picture you out in cow pokeville, with no access to shoe stores, somehow….
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you my friend!
      No, I’m not vegetarian now, but I was for 2 years from the age of 21. I don’t eat much meat now and realize I could give it up (though I won’t because I like options).
      I won’t miss KL for sure. When we move to Australia, we want to be a little away from the city centre, but close enough to shops and stuff. A little compromise πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Galit Breen

    Ohmyheart, I love this listicle topic! {Hat tip Stasha!}.

    I’m tempted to post more than once this week just so I can do it, too! Gasp.

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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      You absolutely must because I want to read your list!!

  • July 9, 2012 Delilah

    Your lists are perfect πŸ™‚ I will absolutely not miss stupid facebook updates. And so funny that grocery shopping made my other list.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Hah! I do like grocery shopping – only when it’s quiet though!

  • July 9, 2012 Stasha

    I heart this so very, very much. I would miss reading your lists for sure. And IG. And hot showers. In fact I miss those already πŸ™‚
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Hot showers you mean? Soon, my friend, soon. When it’s cold again. πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Brandy

    I love your list — I had no idea that anyone still ironed. I don’t even think I own an iron – if it can’t be wrinkle free by spending 10 minutes in the dryer, I don’t own it πŸ™‚ I’d miss writing lists too!

    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Alas, we have to iron. Sigh.

  • July 9, 2012 Erin

    I love your photo collage!
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Erin!

  • July 9, 2012 Bridget

    Aren’t all Facebook updates stupid? Or is it just mine?
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Not just yours!

  • July 9, 2012 Jessica

    I just decided Im not going to die. Ill just live forever, because obviously Im going to miss Instagram far to much.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Yes, that’d work too!

  • July 9, 2012 Susi

    I’ll miss Instagram, too… and sunshine. I really need to get working on my list. Love the collage.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      It was fun to write. But also, nostalgic. And made me a little teary. πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Tonya

    Cupcakes. Perfect!

    Coming up with my lists had me a little sad too. Great exercise.

    Writing was a good one too. I wish I had included that as well in my What I will miss list.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      You can always add it in πŸ™‚

      And this was a great exercise – makes me realize I need to spend more time focusing on things I will miss rather than things I won’t.

  • July 9, 2012 Christine

    I love your list! I pretty much would have many of the same on both of my lists. Is it odd that I don’t even notice the sound of sirens anymore? Maybe I’ve been living in NYC for too long.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      I remember hearing the sirens when I was in NYC and I thought to myself – this is so NYC!

  • July 9, 2012 Terri Sonoda

    Hi Alison. You hit on so many things I would miss, too, but I didn’t list. Flowers, tea, reality TV.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Hi Terri! Sigh, flowers. I love flowers.

  • Love, love, love, your photo collage!

    When are you moving to Australia??
    P.S. – Your hatred of Facebook makes me giggle.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      The plan is to move to Australia in the next 3-5 years A while yet!

      My relationship with Facebook veers between love and hate, hee.

  • July 9, 2012 ellie

    Having just watched 1.5 hours of Bravo, I get the reality TV thing. But I would never miss grocery shopping. I have to tomorrow, and it just puts me in a funk. But, like running, I will feel a great sense of accomplish when I’ve done it. It’s good to have it done…

    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      I just enjoy looking at fresh produce – is that weird?

  • July 9, 2012 AnnMarie

    I love this and now I want to do a post this week of the same. I love the pictures! I would totally miss Trashy reality TV and not miss stupid FB updates.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      You should do a list too!

  • July 9, 2012 Jessica

    *sniff, sniff* I’ll miss my babies and my husband too! And dancing. *wiping eyes* I will not miss stupid Facebook updates or laundering anything.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      I don’t hate laundering so much as putting said laundry away…..

  • July 9, 2012 Robbie

    There should be some kind of penalty for idiotic status updates.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      I know!! And I wish.

  • July 9, 2012 jamie

    Alison, thank you for this post. It makes me realise (especially on a Monday morning) that we spend most of our time on the things ‘we won’t miss’! I will spend more quality time with the things ‘I will miss’ so as to change the list to ‘things I treasure’ πŸ˜‰

    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      That’s a lovely perspective Jamie. πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Mark

    Besides the beautiful butterflies we have here at the new house, we have tons of mosquitoes. HUGE BIG-ASS MOSQUITOES. Three weeks here and I’m already down two pints of blood!
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Oh I feel for you. I do. Bloody mosquitoes!

  • July 9, 2012 Barbara

    Great list. I definitely won’t miss Facebook, at all. I love your photo collage.
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Barbara. I have a love/ hate relationship with Facebook. Can’t live with it, can’t live without it.

  • July 9, 2012 BonnyBard

    Our lists are eerily similar… except for meat, I’d definitely miss meat!
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      I’ll go have a look at yours now!

  • July 9, 2012 Ann

    Family is definitely number one in my “will miss” list. And gelato… Traditional Italian gelato!

    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      Mmmm gelato, I like. πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Blond Duck

    I hate Facebook and twitter…social media is an evil necessity. And I won’t miss traffic, screaming children in the grocery store and my dad rolling his eyes every time I try to talk to him.

    I will miss Ben, my Babies and dancing…and apple pie with a rich crumb top.
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      Oooh, apple pie!

  • July 9, 2012 dumbmom

    Bacon. I’d totally miss bacon.
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      Hee! I’m surprised I haven’t seen bacon on more ‘will miss’ lists πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Asianmommy

    Haha! I love that you snuck in writing lists. πŸ™‚
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      Well, of course! πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 thedoseofreality

    So interesting, as I just finished one of these lists last night for another site. Great minds thanks to that really great mind Nora Ephron! πŸ˜‰
    Love yours! πŸ™‚
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      I think there’ll be a lot of these lists floating around for the next couple of weeks πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Martine

    Lists like this make me weepy, too!
    If I were to make a list, family would be tops.
    And I hate mosquitos; my son had dengue fever last year, and I blame them entirely for it. We almost lost him, but thank God he survived.
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      I dread dengue! This part of the world is so notorious for it and my toddler is such a mozzie magnet. Sigh.

  • July 9, 2012 Natalie

    I can’t stand traffic or ironing my friend! And of course you would miss those sweet precious boys of yours πŸ™‚
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      Great minds!

  • July 9, 2012 Jen {at} take2mommy

    If I did this listicle (wishing now that I did), my top 3 things I’d miss would be identical to yours. And I’m laughing that beans are on your won’t-miss list!
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      You can absolutely still do the list!

      I HATE beans. πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Ducky

    Traffic and skeeters are DEFINITELY on the Will NOT miss list. Although I think I will have to add reality tv. I just can’t get into it. That could be because real life has been drama filled enough to last me a life time times ten πŸ˜€
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Hah! Fair enough πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 kim

    I love trashy reality TV too! great list.

  • July 9, 2012 Rorybore

    great idea with the photo collage!

    ironing? I don’t think I even own one – ha.

    Downton Abbey <3
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      I loathe ironing. Clearly I need to a) buy all wrinkle-free clothes b) change my dryer or c) care less about wrinkles on clothes. πŸ™‚

  • July 9, 2012 Leslie

    Both great lists! Now you have me wanting to get some fresh bread!
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Go get some fresh bread! Yum.

  • July 10, 2012 Kristin

    Weird – I’m planning a post about my own mortality in the near future, too. What’s going on with us?
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Is it age? *gasp*

  • July 10, 2012 Kristen

    I had to smile at Instagram being included on your list. I can’t believe how happy that app makes me. I don’t have any other apps that I would miss. Heck, I would carry around my phone if all it was was an instagram machine. πŸ˜‰
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      I love more than I knew I would. I mean, when I first downloaded it, I didn’t use it for 2 weeks!

  • July 10, 2012 Jaime

    Your list made me tear up a little bit. It makes my mortality and the mortality of the people I love around me seem so much closer! I’m not ready to miss any of those things:)
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      I know! It’s like a reality check, y’know?

  • July 10, 2012 julie gardner

    I hope they show re-runs of Dexter and Downton Abbey in heaven.

    Or wherever it is we end up.

    (If we’re there, it will be good. That I know.)
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison


      If I end up where you go, I know it’d be good.

  • July 10, 2012 Kir

    you will never have to miss Cupcakes as long as I am around, I’ll even come find you in the afterlife, so we can share one or two..or a dozen.

    your list is beautiful, just like you. xoxo
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thank you sweet friend. xo

  • July 10, 2012 Just Jennifer

    I too listed paperwork and flowers. You’re the second person I’ve seen so far mention Downtown Abbey. Thinking this is a show I need to check out.
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Oh you NEED to, it’s the awesomest show ever!

  • July 10, 2012 Jessica

    Your photo collage is gorgeous. And the things you’ll miss are the same as s what I’ll miss. Oh, this all makes me sad! πŸ™
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      It made me sad too! Reality check much?

  • July 10, 2012 Deb

    I have got to watch Downtown Abbey-so many people talk about it. And I want you to tell me how I can enjoy grocery shopping enough to miss that. πŸ˜‰ What is your secret?
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      You must! Downton Abbey is the BEST show ever!

      The secret to loving grocery shopping – go when it’s quiet πŸ™‚

  • July 10, 2012 Emma

    MMMMMMM!!!! I think my ass just grew at the thought of the smell of fresh baked bread!!!!

    Love your photo collage of your family, so precious!!!
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Emma!

  • July 10, 2012 Jessica

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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      I know martinis will be on your will miss list.

  • July 10, 2012 Kimberly

    Oh I will not miss the dumb Facebook status updates either!

    Writing things like this make me sad. It makes it so much more real, ya know?
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      It does. It’s like a reality check, sigh.

  • July 10, 2012 Katie

    I would miss little whispers in the dark. The sound of footsteps trying to be quiet. and the sound of my baby sucking his pipey in his sleep.

    this is a beautifully sad list topic this week!

    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Aw, sweet things you’ll miss!

      And yes, beautifully sad is the right description. Total reality check.

  • July 10, 2012 Jackie

    What a fabulous list, and how smart of you to add that photo of the cupcake. Suddenly, I want one!
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Jackie! Well, you’re pregnant so I don’t blame ya πŸ™‚

  • July 10, 2012 My Inner Chick

    ~~~Cupcakes, Chocolate, Babies, Hubby…

    Yes, these are the important things! Xx
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Very much so!

  • July 10, 2012 Courtney Kirkland

    What a fun idea! I may have to borrow this idea for later on and create a list of my own. I get it could make you sad a bit, but things like this always make me appreciate things all the more. πŸ™‚
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Do the list, would love to read it!

  • July 10, 2012 Michele

    I may have to check out Dexter!
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      You gotta!

  • July 10, 2012 Blond Duck

    Pie. I’d miss pie.
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Pie is lovely!

  • my kids smiles, the smell of the earth after a good rain, chocolate,… the list goes on and on. Better keep alive.
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Hah! Yes, staying alive is top of my daily to do list.

  • July 10, 2012 JDaniel4's Mom

    What a wonderful list! I love Downton Abbey too.
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Best show ever, right?

  • July 10, 2012 Eva Gallant

    I’ll miss my family, chocolate, pizza, and writing; won’t miss political ads on tv, telemarketers, and aching joints! I just stopped by from SITS to say hello; hope you have time to do the same.
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Thanks for stopping by, Eve and of course I’ll return the visit!

  • July 11, 2012 Jackie

    I’m with you on the humidity! I can’t stand it…. I think that’s what makes summers here so unbearable at times!
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      It’s humid here EVERY DAY!

  • July 11, 2012 Shell

    I love that you put trashy tv on your list of things you’ll miss!
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      It’s like a car wreck – I shouldn’t look but I can’t help myself πŸ™‚

  • July 11, 2012 Sandra

    Funny how yours is the 2nd “listicles” that wouldn’t miss stupid Facebook updates…what’s up with that? It’s the stupid Facebook updates that allow us to then blog about how we hate stupid Facebook updates…see how I just did a glass half-full thing there πŸ™‚
    And things you would miss, well, let’s just say, I am now craving chocolate and fresh baked bread. Oh, and I’d love to squeeze those sweet babies of yours!

    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      You’re totally half-full glass! Also, with nearly 4000 friends, I don’t blame ya – that’s A LOT of blog fodder!

      Come to Malaysia – the babies are waiting for Aunty Sandra to squeeze their cheeks.

  • July 11, 2012 Kelley

    I love your list and I really loved Nora Ephron’s, too. It brought tears to my eyes, also. You can see so much into a person by their list, you know? Thanks for sharing!
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Yes, you absolutely can! I guess you can see I like desserts a little too much, right? πŸ™‚

  • July 11, 2012 Kimberly

    GAh…stupid facebook statuses make me stabby.
    I don’t care that you just woke up and ate breakfast.
    I also don’t care that after breakfast you went grocery shopping.
    Shut up already.
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Some people seem to think Facebook is a journal. Gah.

      But, we can make fun of them!

  • July 11, 2012 Audrey

    I would really miss cupcakes, the smell of cupcakes, oh and baking bread
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      I love baking bread!

  • July 15, 2012 Robin

    Awesome lists. I think I’m with you on pretty much all of that.
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