I Am A Ruiner

posted in: Husband, Life, The Spill 97 comments

….. of laptops, that is.

Yes, I have managed to kill the beautiful MacBook Air I was given to use AFTER my old Dell died a watery death earlier this year.

Yes, I spilled a drink all over it (and posted a picture of it on Instagr.am, with rice all over the keyboard) and now it won’t turn on.

Yes, ALL of my baby’s pictures are on it and no, I did not think to back them up or had the opportunity to upload them in my ThisLife account.

Yes, I am an idiot.

And yes, my husband found another laptop for me from his stash at the office and it works. It’s no MacBook Air, the battery is crap and needs to be on charger at all times, it takes forever to boot up, but it works.

When I sent him a text in the middle of the afternoon to inform him that I had ruined yet another laptop, his immediate response was to tell me to put it in rice (I had).

His next response was to tell me to take photographs of it as “this  makes a good blog post.”

Yes, when you’re married to a blogger, that’s how you think, naturally.

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. -Maya Angelou

Thank you Husband, for not making me feel like an idiot. For not making me feel bad about my carelessness. For hustling up a laptop for me as soon as you could because you know how lost I feel without one.

You could easily have given me a gentle lecture on not putting drinks next to computers and other electronic products, but you did not.

You could have made me feel guilty for nearly losing all our baby’s pictures (priceless) and I would have agreed with you, but you did not.

Instead, you hugged me and told me it’s okay, we can retrieve those pictures. Instead, you went to the office and got me a working computer. Instead, you encouraged me to write a blog post about it.

Merci, my dear man. Merci.

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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • July 5, 2012 mumsgather

    That’s awfully sweet of your man. 🙂
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    • July 5, 2012 Alison

      Yes it is!

  • July 5, 2012 Julie

    You know, you don’t write of him often so it is lovely to see a glimpse of your husband. I am do glad that he is so sweet to you and that he takes your blogging so seriously! 😉

    • July 5, 2012 Alison

      He takes my blogging more seriously than I do. The man has big plans for MWT (though what they may be, I don’t know, hah!) 🙂

    • July 5, 2012 Life As Wife

      Agree with Julie – love hearing you talk about your husband!

      You should keep him! Haha
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      • July 6, 2012 Alison

        I plan to!

  • July 5, 2012 Victoria KP

    He’s a keeper! I drowned our very first digital camera (remember way back when people still used film and digital cameras were REALLY expensive?). Yup, I have a cursed touch with electronics!
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    • July 5, 2012 Alison

      Oh yikes! I’m usually really good with stuff like that. Up until recently. Oops.

  • July 5, 2012 Barbara

    Oh, I’m sorry about the MacBook. Your husband sounds like a great guy!
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    • July 5, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, and he is!

  • July 5, 2012 Kerstin

    Oh damn. Too bad about the laptop, but your husband is right – don’t beat yourself up about it! The most important thing is that you can retrieve the pictures, right?
    I’m glad he was so supportive, way to go husband!
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    • July 5, 2012 Alison

      The pictures are most important, so no matter what, we have to get them!

  • July 5, 2012 Sarah

    Ooh that is so crappy! But yay for husbands and their stashes of extra laptops 🙂 Confession–I am a ruiner of phones. Mine usually meet a watery death too. It’s embarassing how many go in the toilet, literally. Truly, your husband sounds so sweet and he knows you so well. Of course you’d turn this situation into a fab blog post 🙂

    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      I’ve been pretty lucky (or careful?) with phones. Though when the toddler was a baby, he threw my phone on the ground and broke the screen. So there’s that. 🙂

  • So sweet! I love that you turned this bad event into a loving moment. Sometimes we don’t stop to see the good. His reaction was good!
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      I give full credit to my husband for turning this around 🙂

  • July 5, 2012 Mark

    I’m afraid I would have made you feel guilty for losing those photos. Only because that sounds like something that I would do. But you’re lucky, Fred wouldn’t have been so kind to you had you been married to him. I would have heard about it for years.
    I’m still hoping that you can same how save that photos. You’re killing me here!
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      I hope so too! The husband assures me they can definitely retrieve it, as the hard drive should be safe. Wish me luck!

  • July 5, 2012 Jessica

    That is terrible, but what a great guy that you have and I love that you see it rather than taking it for granted.

    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Jessica. I could never take him for granted – he doesn’t let me, hah!

  • July 5, 2012 Katie

    in the five years that I have been blogging, I have had 3 laptops. I just use them right to death.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      I’ve only been blogging over a year and this is my THIRD ONE. Eeek.

  • July 5, 2012 vanita

    oh wow. i feel you girl. i cracked hubby’s new ipod screen. blah. im so damn clumsy. is your mac still under warranty? apple can extract your files for you. if not, you can buy an external drive enclosure, take the hard drive out of the mac, put it in the disclosure, plug the enclosure into a working mac, do not let it format the drive! and retrieve your files. they’re not gone. you can get them. let me know if you need instructions and i’ll find them for you, but only attempt if having a pro do it is not possible.
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    • July 5, 2012 vanita

      p.s. my hubby isn’t a blogger but he’s pretty cool like your hubby. doesn’t freak and reminds me to write about it. lol.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      It’s no longer under warranty, we’ll just have to pay to get the data extracted. Sigh.

      Also, my husband isn’t a blogger either, but I think he enjoys having one as a wife!

  • July 5, 2012 Leslie

    Can we get your husband to talk to mine? I would be excoriated if I spilled drinks on my keyboard (mostly because the husband is a total computer hardware nerd). Here’s hoping you get another computer soon!
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      My husband is a tech junkie too! So he understands accidents (or in my case, spillages) happen. I have another laptop – back to using a Dell. I miss my Mac, sigh.

  • July 5, 2012 Alma

    a moment of silence for your Mac ….
    now a moment to tell you that your husband is awesome!
    Personally I cannot imagine blogging without a cup of coffee or a bowl of something sweet. I am clumsy and only a matter of time for me to be writing this post.
    At least my Mac is still under warranty … after that all is shot to hell.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for the moment of silence. And I did!

      Do be careful with the drinks, I beg you!

  • July 5, 2012 Heather C

    Oh no!!!!!!! I’m sorry you lost all of your pictures, that is truly heartbreaking. RIP macbook air. Hope your awesome hub finds you a new one.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      It’s not totally lost. I just have to get the laptop to an Apple service centre to extract the hard disk. Wish me luck!

  • July 6, 2012 Susi

    That’s just too sweet for words. Hope you get all the pictures off your computer. I can’t count the times I have heard… “you should blog about this!” 🙂
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      I hope so too! And me too 🙂

  • July 6, 2012 Jessica

    Oh, that sucks. But, I have similar luck with technology. Your husband is awesome. My husband would have both laughed and had a panic attack. lol.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Yes, he is awesome. Fortunately!

  • July 6, 2012 Co-Pilot Mom

    Sorry about your computer. I am very clumsy, but I am fortunate that spills usually wind up on floors, furniture, or – most likely of all – me. Hope you can retrieve your photos without hassle.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      I’m a klutz. Sigh.

  • July 6, 2012 Galit Breen

    So sorry about your laptop, so happy about your guy – he’s a keeper! <3
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes he is!

  • July 6, 2012 Phase Three of Life

    This is me with phones. I cannot tell you how many poor, defenseless phones I have destroyed.

    Also, your hubby is such a gem. 🙂

    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Sorry about your phones! And yes he is.

  • July 6, 2012 Heather

    I’m so sorry to hear this! I hope it dries out and works again soon.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      We’re giving it another day!

  • July 6, 2012 Jess

    RIP MacBook Air.

    Your husband deserves a brownie.

    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      He would love that, he’s a huge brownie fan.

  • Now that, that right there, is true love. Swoon. RIP MacBook Air. Ellen
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Hee! And thank you.

  • July 6, 2012 Christine

    Oh no!! RIP MacBook Air
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Le sigh.

  • July 6, 2012 Charlotte


    What a guy. This just melts my heart 🙂 (And as a blogger, I happen to love that he supports you so much in this way. KEEPER!)
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      He’s very enthusiastic about my blogging 🙂

  • July 6, 2012 Kimberly

    RIP sweet Mac.

    That photo makes me cry for you.

    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Oh it makes me cry too. Which is why I’m totally blocking this whole thing out.

  • July 6, 2012 Alexandra

    Life with gratitude.

    An attitude of gratitude.

    You, sweet lady, are a wonderful wife and mother.

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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, my friend. Thank you. xo

  • July 6, 2012 francerants

    Hey Alison – Just catching up! Hope you and kiddies are well.

    Maybe you should start using a sippy cup around your laptop………

    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Yes we are well!

      I should maybe just not drink around my electronics 🙂

  • July 6, 2012 Laura

    Yay for your hubby! What a great man! Obviously you feel crappy enough losing your beloved laptop and pictures. I am so sorry it doesn’t work! Maybe you can get someone to open it up and take out the hard drive and see if they can save your pictures? I’m not really sure how it works, but it wouldn’t hurt to find out.
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    • July 6, 2012 Alison

      Yes, we’re going to take it to a service centre to extract the data – all is not lost! At least, that’s what my husband kindly tells me.

  • July 7, 2012 Kimberly

    Oh he is wonderful.
    My husband would tear into me for doing something like that. Yes, Shawn would.
    All isn’t lost as far as your pictures are concerned. Can you bring it into a computer tech guy? I’m sure that they can pull them off of the hard drive?? Hopefully?
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    • July 7, 2012 Alison

      That’s the plan! Now it’s just a matter of nagging the Husband into taking it into the service centre ASAP.

  • July 7, 2012 Jessica

    I felt really sick when you mentioned that it was your new Macbook. But when I read the part about the baby pictures I was literally nauseated. True fact. And yes, holy moly your husband rocks. I have a feeling he knew you were doing plenty of self-flagellation and didn’t need any assistance in that department. *SO* relieved you can retrieve the pictures (and relieved for me that you have something else workable so you can keep posting).
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    • July 7, 2012 Alison

      I was near tears when I realized I could have potentially lost ALL of my kids photos, when he told me we can get the stuff out. Relief.

  • July 7, 2012 Kir

    oh poor laptop…but you, you don’t RUIN anything!!!!! NOTHING.
    accidents? Pfft, they happen to the best of us, and you are.

    and that husband, much like my own, is a keeper. Mine is always saying, “are you going to ‘use” that for the blog??” I love it too…so glad you got hugs AND a laptop. 🙂

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    • July 7, 2012 Alison

      We are so lucky, aren’t we?

  • July 7, 2012 AnnMarie

    Oh, Alison! I did the same thing to my new Dell about seven months after I started blogging. I lost everything on it, recovered some of it. I was using my husband’s when I spilled yet another but luckily didn’t harm it. I am a ruiner of things too. My heart feels your pain, my friend.

    And your hubby…I think I love him a little.
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    • July 7, 2012 AnnMarie

      That was supposed to say: lost almost everything on it.
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    • July 7, 2012 Alison

      Oh hello fellow ruiner! So glad you recovered some stuff. I’m holding out on getting all my photos out. Wish me luck.

  • July 7, 2012 Stasha

    He is a good man. Sorry about your loss my friend. Sippy cups from now on? ( they are not just for kids you know 😉

    • July 7, 2012 Alison

      I actually have a ton of sippy cups here, which I may use!

  • July 7, 2012 Kiddothings

    okay, I don’t get the rice thing. That man of yours is a keeper. My hubby would’ve lectured me till kingdom come.
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    • July 7, 2012 Alison

      The rice helps to draw out the moisture. It has to be uncooked rice of course 🙂

  • July 7, 2012 Erin

    Oh no poor MacBook Air  Such a good hubby you have to be so supportive! I dumped a Coke on my keyboard 2 times in college. Thankgoodness it was just the keyboard and not the whole darn thing!
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    • July 7, 2012 Alison

      I spilled the drink on the Mac keyboard and it’s shot! Sigh.

  • July 8, 2012 Robin

    Awesome. Both the photo and his reaction.
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    • July 8, 2012 Alison

      I know!! Also? The MacBook lives. It turned on and it works!

  • July 8, 2012 Natalie

    Awww that is sweet…he’s a real keeper!
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  • July 8, 2012 My Inner Chick

    —He’s a KEEPER 🙂

    That’s the kind of dude I like! XX
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    • July 8, 2012 Alison

      He is absolutely a keeper. xo

  • July 8, 2012 tracy

    RIP dear Mac. I am so so sorry.:((( xoxo
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    • July 8, 2012 Alison

      It came back to life. Could I be happier? I think not.

  • July 9, 2012 Sue


    So sorry, darlin.

    And that groom of yours is the bomb.
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  • July 9, 2012 Tonya

    Having an understanding partner is the best. 🙂
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    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      It is too!

  • July 9, 2012 Arnebya

    I have yet to ruin laptop or phone but I can imagine just how lost you’d feel without either. I’m glad you have that support. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to get online (or what you’re using), as long as you show up, right?

    • July 9, 2012 Alison

      Hah yes! You’ll be pleased to hear that I’m now using said MacBook. Yes, it turned on!

  • July 10, 2012 Leighann

    Did he fix it!!?
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    • July 10, 2012 Alison

      It fixed itself!

  • July 11, 2012 Bruna

    Ouch. You have a good man by your side, Alison 🙂 ♥
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      I so do!

  • July 11, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    because I am a ruiner of things also, my husband got a 3 year no matter what the hell the wife or children do to the Mac they will replace it warranty…
    I’m so sorry for your loss
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    • July 11, 2012 Alison

      Thank you. You’ll be happy to know the Mac has been resurrected!

  • July 13, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Yikes! Join the club!! Your husband sounds wonderful. I think mine would have been all…”WTF?!”
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    • July 13, 2012 Alison

      He was being kind 🙂

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