The Second Time

posted in: Scrumplet, Second Child, Second Pregnancy 138 comments

I’ve written a lot about how this second pregnancy, this new child who will soon be in our lives, is scaring the crap out of me.

I talked about how I worry that Monkey won’t like his little brother. I’ve ranted on about OhMyGod how am I going to look after TWO little people. I’ve expressed my fear of labor.

Don’t get me wrong. I love, love, love this baby. He has been planned and wanted and loved for so long. I cannot wait to hold him in my arms. I cannot wait for my son to be an older brother. I want to say proudly that I’m a mother of two.

So as I pondered how I can get over the trepidation, the anxiety and the crippling self-doubt, I remind myself that I’ve done this before.

I survived a rather traumatizing, out-of-my-hands labor.

I successfully breastfed my son for 18 months.

We managed to transition him to his own bed and room at the same time.

Monkey is healthy, happy and thriving.

So I got this. I can do this.

I have a very good (but flexible) birth plan (give birth, period).

I have an excellent obstetrician whose years of experience is more than my years of living on this earth, who has prepared extensively for the possibility of complications (severe postpartum bleeding due to a lax uterus and a very large baby the first time round – sorry, TMI).

I have a husband who’s had 2+ years of fatherhood under his belt, who I know will support me, who will have my back and who will stand in for me when my toddler needs a parent’s attention.

I have family support close at hand (hi Sis and mother-in-law!).

I know how to breastfeed (let’s hope Scrumplet does too).

I know how to change diapers, wipe a bum, bathe a delicate newborn and just the right way to swaddle him tight (the first time round, I was clueless).

I know I can cope with less sleep.

I know now that my house will not be spotless and that’d be okay.

I know I can definitely squeeze in a hot shower and change into clean clothes every day.

I have come to realize that accepting help is not a weakness, and is in fact, very smart.

I know I have this blog and you, my friends, who I’ve come to know and love, and you’re rooting for me.

So yeah, I’ve got this.

I got this

My “I got this!” look. Picture taken in 2007. When I was still skinny.

Any last-minute words of advice? Anyone want to fly to Malaysia and hold the baby while I go pee?

In other news, Jessica of Four Plus An Angel (a superb, inspirational mother and writer) is raising money for a wonderful cause, March of Dimes, an organization that has been fighting for healthy pregnancies, healthy babies and happy families since 1938. Jessica needs 250 comments for her postΒ to win $250 from Moments In Frames, and this money will go to March of Dimes. Could you take a minute to head to Jessica’s and leave a comment for her? It would mean so much. Thank you for your kind hearts.

AND, a few good friends of mine, namely The Momalog, The Good Life and yeah write are hosting a virtual baby shower for lil’ ol me from April 25 – 26! Each are hosting linkys with different baby themes, so come back here on the 25th to check out what they’re doing and head to their place for all the information. It promises to be fun!! I just love my friends.

Baby shower

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

Latest posts by Alison (see all)

Comments on this entry are closed.

  • April 23, 2012 Lance

    Oh hellz yes you got this. Go Alison Go.

    I like coming here and reading your words.
    Lance recently wrote…Another One About A GirlMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Lance. I truly appreciate your comment. Especially since I mentioned uterus and breastfeeding. Ahem.

  • April 23, 2012 -dweej

    Oooooh, pick me to come to Malaysia! That would be f-u-nnnnnnnnnnnnn for all of us πŸ˜€
    -dweej recently wrote…Scientific 31 Week Photo ComparisonMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I’ll pick everyone if I could!!

  • April 23, 2012 Greta

    You’ve ABSOLUTELY got this. And you’ve always got us, in the middle of the night, if you need us. πŸ™‚
    Greta recently wrote…Shedding the Weight.My Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank goodness for friends around the world!! Thank you Greta.

  • April 23, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    you totally got this…
    and if you can actually get that shower everyday you’re doing better than every single mother I know
    Not a Perfect Mom recently wrote…Oh Ryan Gosling….You Always Know What To SayMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Oh that’s my life goal – a shower a day!!

  • April 23, 2012 Natalie

    You so got this girl! I can’t wait to meet (virtually) your new arrival!

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I can’t wait to meet yours!

  • April 23, 2012 Jennifer Worrell

    My second is now 14 months. I still can’t believe how much easier number 2 is than number 1. When number 2 took his first drag off my boob he nearly choked from all the milk! There was just SO MUCH! Number 2 is a much stronger personality than Number 1, but I’m so much more mellow so his meltdowns don’t pack the punch that they would have with Number 1. We all slept better with Number 2, as well. It’ll be GREAT!
    Jennifer Worrell recently wrote…Goldilocks Adds Three Cents to 50 Shades of Gray CommentaryMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      It’s so assuring to know that #2 is easier than #1 – well, I hope so in my case. At least, it should feel like that since I already know what to expect and what to do. At least, that’s my rationale!

  • April 23, 2012 tracy

    Oh you for sure got this. And YES I would love to come to Malaysia and hold that sweet babe.
    tracy recently wrote…Teaching Your Kids The Fine Art of StalkingMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I’ll be waiting for you, Tracy. Bring the girls!

  • April 23, 2012 Rach (DonutsMama)

    Yes, you’ve got this. Remember that, esp when you’re super tired and have been pooped on. Remember that it will pass and will get easier and easier. We will be here cheering you on and encouraging you when you need it. You did it once and can do it again and Monkey can even help out some. You’ll do great.
    Rach (DonutsMama) recently wrote…Life’s Lessons: The Tired, Whiny EditionMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I completely forgot I’d get pooped on. Peed on yes, boys have really good aim πŸ™‚ And thank you for your encouragement, Rach. I’ll probably be on Twitter calling out for help at all hours!

  • April 23, 2012 Jessica

    Your list is excellent, Alison. You DO, in fact, have everything thought out and this is a great summary of why this is going to be a wonderful experience in so many ways. The learning curve with the second baby is SO MUCH SMALLER. Sending you love and lots of ~~good labor~~ vibes from the other side of the world. You are going to be absolutely terrific.
    Jessica recently wrote…More signs of spring around the farm…My Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Jessica, I truly appreciate your support!!

  • April 23, 2012 Christine

    You totally have this for all the reasons that you list and more. You know what to expect and it’s not the scary unknown. You will be great, no doubt.
    Christine recently wrote…FitfluentialMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      That’s the key thing, that it’s not the scary unknown any more!

  • April 23, 2012 vanita

    Girl I’ve got two toddlers that are one year apart and two teens that are 14 months apart and I can definitely tell u after reading this post, you’ve got this! Better than I did for 4 pregnancies. I’ve got one piece of advise. Never ever be embarrassed to ask for help. Motherhood is hard whether you’ve got four kids or one. Asking for help and getting it will do wonders for ur sanity! Hugs girl. (P.s. I’ve found that labor each time took less time then the kid before. That’s gotta be something to look forward to)
    vanita recently wrote…Why Darren’s Blogging Method Doesn’t Work For MeMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I’m so hoping labor will be quicker and easier this time, yes!

      And thank you for the advice – I was very hesitant to ask for help the first time round, and for the first month, was really messed up because of that. So this time, I’ve already asked for help. Because I know I need it.

  • April 23, 2012 AnnMarie

    I would love to come to Malaysia to help! You really are ahead of the gmae and I am so happy I joined in time to meet your little guy! Can’t wait!

    P.S. That first birth sounds a little scary. And the birth plan made me laugh.
    AnnMarie recently wrote…Shades of GreyMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I’m so glad you’re here too AnnMarie!!

  • April 23, 2012 Kimberly

    You know I would come to Malaysia in a heartbeat to help you. Just make sure there are cupcakes. πŸ™‚

    You’ve got this. You’re going to do amazing and we are all here to support you.
    Kimberly recently wrote…I Am So Much More Than ThatMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      You know when I’m around, there’ll always be cupcakes around! And ice cream. And cookies.

      Thank you for your support, twin, I know I can always count on you. xo

  • April 23, 2012 Alexandra

    It’s going to be sooo good b/c you got us, and the way big brother is going to love little brother will absolutely leave you a puddle.

    GOOD DAYS AHEAD.. The sweetest.

    And, now, I’m going to cry, because I’m remembering how very, very happy I was when I had a house of little bitty boys.


    Warn me next time, won’t you? About needing a tissue, and not just one but a box??

    Alexandra recently wrote…The Most Handsome Man in MilwaukeeMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I’ve got the tissues out for you, my sweet friend!!

      Oh I just love the idea of itty bitty boys in my house. I told my husband over the weekend that I want him to make sure he takes lots of pictures of me and the boys. Because I never want to forget.

  • April 23, 2012 Karin

    Of course you got this. I would never doubt it, because you’ve done it before, you know it. It’s going to be a piece of cake compared to the first one, you’ll see. πŸ™‚
    Karin recently wrote…The β€˜best’ month in ParadiseMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I sure hope so, Karin!

  • April 23, 2012 LT

    Love your birth plan! Have fun at the baby shower:-). Will check back on 4/25. Take care.
    LT recently wrote…Random H’sMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Would love to have you join us for the baby shower!!

  • April 23, 2012 Jadzia


    1. Don’t feel bad if you don’t make it to the shower some days.

    2. No baby ever died from being put down for a few minutes while you attend to his/her big brother. (Actually, that’s advice for your baby. Well, in all truth it’s advice for MY baby, who does not agree at all.)

    Good luck!
    Jadzia recently wrote…Mommy’s Pteromerhanophobia Outweighs Her Desire to Encourage the Kids: A Scene From the Dinner TableMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for the advice, Jackie!! The shower thing – it’s my daily goal. Meeting it would make me feel like I can do this. I know, it’s silly, but I feel that it would help me push through the day if only I was clean (is my OCD pushing through here?)

      And I agree with #2!

  • April 23, 2012 Lady Jennie

    I would! I would come hold that precious little bundle for you. And of COURSE you got this! Women are strong! You never know just how strong until you give birth.

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I would love to have you here, holding the baby πŸ™‚ And you’re right, we’re definitely strong!

  • April 23, 2012 Mirjam

    First of all: you are still skinny.

    I am pretty sure you got this! But still here’s the peptalk:
    The child will come out anyway, how ever you feel about it. And when the moment is there, you’ll do great.
    I was scared out of my mind when I had to do it a third time, I was seriously panicking. When it was time to deliver: I just did.
    Monkey will adore his brother! There will be adjusting, there will be jealousy every now and then, but he will love his brother.
    Tip: Buy a baby doll for him, practice dressing, feeding and bathing the baby and tell him about his brother. With my first one, we left a gift in the crib telling our son, that the gift was for him from his baby sister. He adored her for giving him something he really wanted. And never once did he asked me how the baby was able to buy that for him, lol!
    Long story short: Yeah, you got this! You will be awesome. xoxo
    Mirjam recently wrote…By the riverMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I don’t know if we’re too late for the baby doll, but we’re definitely getting him a gift from the baby!!

      Thank you for the pep talk, Mirjam!

  • April 23, 2012 Erin

    Sounds like you do have this! Despite how many children you have there are always fears of the unknown. I think it just comes with the ‘mom’ territory. I remember thinking ‘Oh my gosh we should have waited’ shortly after having #2. It was just a new routine that we needed to get in. Eventually, things clicked and we all got in our groove. Not sure why, but for whatever reason things were so much easier going from 2 to 3 than they were going from 1 to 2. Good luck to you and your family. Babies are so exciting!
    Erin recently wrote…I went on a date with this guy I knowMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Erin! I think it’s a matter of finding your rhythm and getting used to the ‘new normal’. I know I’ve got this! *gulp*

  • April 23, 2012 thedoseofreality

    You will be BLOWN AWAY by how much you got this. The second time around is so amazing in so many different ways than the first time. You will find yourself soaking it all in a way that I don’t we can when we are first time mothers. Congratulations on getting so close to being there! πŸ™‚
    thedoseofreality recently wrote…Time Stand StillMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I love that perspective – that I can enjoy this process more than the first time because I’m not so scared shitless πŸ™‚ Thank you!

  • April 23, 2012 January

    You do!!! And you will be so much more relaxed this time around – I know I was. And you’re so right – asking for help is key. Can’t wait to ‘meet’ your little scrumplet. So exciting!
    January recently wrote…A Temporary Moment of PanicMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I’m looking forward to this because I know I’ll be more relaxed and that I’m not hesitant to ask for help anymore. Thanks January!

  • My nΒ°2 was easier than nΒ°1. Not just labour-wise (just 6 hours and hello baby) or because she had and easier personality (she doesn’t she is just as fierce as her elder sister) but because I was ‘used’ to taking care of a baby. Everything was not new and scary anymore, so in a way I got to enjoy my youngest more than the eldest, just because I wasn’t so freaked out about everything.
    You’ll do very well!
    Tinne from Tantrums and Tomatoes recently wrote…Nutella-banana croque Monsieur, its like having Daniel Craig and Hugh Jackman giving you backrubsMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Tinne, that is a great perspective – being able to enjoy this baby in a way I wasn’t quite able to the first time. I’m looking forward to that!

  • April 23, 2012 Tara

    The way that it came naturally with your first- will come naturally with your second.

    My daughter turned 2- five days after my son was born. It’s difficult- not gonna lie girlfriend! You will manage. People wouldnt have 3, 4 ,5 kids (god bless their souls) if they didnt make it through!

    Tara recently wrote…Mothering is not all rainbows and butterfliesMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Tara! I’m less terrified this time. Though a little scared, yes πŸ™‚

  • April 23, 2012 JDaniel4's Mom

    I love the idea of a baby doll.
    JDaniel4’s Mom recently wrote…Earth Day Meal for Muffin Tin MondayMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      It’s a lovely idea, I don’t know if I have time to do that now, sigh.

  • April 23, 2012 Mama Hear Me Roar

    You definitely got this, Alison. I love reading your blog and know that your humour, strength and mommy-love will carry you through. The second time round was so amaaaaazing for me, I had the third! πŸ˜‰ And now yearning for a fourth!
    Mama Hear Me Roar recently wrote…Breaking groundMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Mama J. For the record, I think you’re amazing, managing 3. And now wanting a 4th πŸ™‚

  • April 23, 2012 Laura

    You’ve TOTALLY got this! πŸ™‚

    I felt WAY more fear and trepidation the first time around. Since being a mother though, I have learned that motherhood completely defies understanding. It doesn’t SEEM like we should be able to do this. But we do. And usually, we do it pretty well. And so, because of this, I am convinced that I will be able to do this motherhood thing with two too, even though right now, it doesn’t make a lick of sense how it could be possible. πŸ™‚
    Laura recently wrote…Anti-GravityMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I know EXACTLY what you mean, Laura!!!

  • April 23, 2012 Shell

    You will be just fine! It’s a transition for sure, but you can handle it!
    Shell recently wrote…Bested by a Three Year OldMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Shell – I have great support right here!

  • April 23, 2012 molly

    Of course you can do this!

    Believe me, if I can do it . . . anyone can πŸ™‚
    molly recently wrote…Happy Early Mother’s Day + giveawayMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Hee, thanks Molly!

  • April 23, 2012 Ado

    I hear you.
    There’s probably nothing I can say to assuage your fears.
    You will get through it to the other side and be FABULOUS. Promise!
    Ado recently wrote…15 BooksMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you dear friend!!

  • April 23, 2012 Jessica

    Accepting help is never a weakness.

    Of course you got this.
    Jessica recently wrote…“Two Pinkies Up” Tea PartyMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I love your confidence in me, Assy Lady!

  • April 23, 2012 Liz

    Just keep remembering the name of your blog: Mama Wants This! It’s going to be so great, and the adjustment will be much easier than you think. πŸ™‚
    Liz recently wrote…Back to the Regular With A Splash of OuchMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Liz, for the reminder πŸ™‚ And yes, this will be fab, I can’t wait to meet my baby boy!

  • April 23, 2012 Kristen

    I’ve always understood the saying, “It takes a village.” but after being knocked on my bum with this vertigo, I really get it. Take all of the help offered to you and don’t forget that it is okay to ask for it too. There are lots of people that love you and want this transition to go smoothly for you, your husband, monkey & scrumplet. With a heart as big as yours, I am sure you will pull all off this off with a lot of wonderful memories and some great blog fodder too!! xo
    Kristen recently wrote…I Want Off Of This Ride…NOW!!My Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Kristen! I absolutely have all the people I need around me (thank goodness). And who doesn’t love potential blog fodder? πŸ™‚

  • April 23, 2012 Sandra

    My biggest concern for you is that you find the time to blog anymore with a wee one to drool over. Can you afford a nanny?…see how I’m always looking out for you? πŸ™‚
    And PS: Yeah. YOu totally got this. I’m not the least bit worried about you.
    Sandra recently wrote…The Language of WomenMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Hahaha, thanks for the laugh, Sandra! πŸ™‚ Blogging is my sanity saver, I’ll find time, promise!!

  • April 23, 2012 Jessica

    You’ve totally got this. You will be an amazing mom to two and? I could not love you more for your message regarding my blog. The people visiting because you asked them to has me all choked up. Thank you. xoxoxo
    Jessica recently wrote…Comment for a CauseMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      You’re so welcome! I’m glad some people went over to comment, people are so awesome. I hope you win!! xo

  • April 23, 2012 Ann

    You will do GREAT! You’re an amazing woman, Alison and Scrumplet is one lucky baby!
    Ann recently wrote…The Carnivore’s CasseroleMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Ann, for your support, as always!

  • April 23, 2012 Elena

    You definitely got this! You’re going to be a great mom of 2. Yes – I’m in to come to Malaysia and hold this new little man. I’d love it!

    What a fun link-up. I’ll have to check it out!
    Elena recently wrote…Adventure BoysMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      I’m waiting for you, Elena. I promise, no scary birds here πŸ™‚ And do join in the link up!

  • April 24, 2012 Charlotte

    You can TOTALLY do this, momma. You got this. Don’t worry. You’ve done an excellent job with baby #1, there’s no reason to think you can’t handle it the second go-round. YAY, YOU! You are going to be an awesome mom of another little peanut soon! Over-the-moon excited for you. XOXO
    Charlotte recently wrote…The Ah RingMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Charlotte sweetie!!!

  • April 24, 2012 Julie

    You’re gonna make this birth your bitch.
    Julie recently wrote…Monday Meals: Peanut Butter Sandwich CookiesMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes, fo’ shizzle.

  • April 24, 2012 My Inner Chick

    Ooo, Yeah, Mama,
    You. Have. It.
    & you will Rock it. <3

    love you honesty!!!!
    My Inner Chick recently wrote…Inside The RainMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Kim. And my honesty is in part, inspired by yours πŸ™‚

  • April 24, 2012 Jessica

    You do have this! You will rock being a mom of two! I just know it! πŸ™‚
    Jessica recently wrote…Success is a placeMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      You are my hero, Jessica, managing two πŸ™‚

  • April 24, 2012 Nikky44

    You will do GREAT! Much LOVE!!!!
    Nikky44 recently wrote…ViVa La MusicaMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Nikky!

  • April 24, 2012 The Mommy Therapy

    I think the second time is a much more relaxed experience (the third actually has enjoyable moments) since you know more about what you are doing. You totally have this, it will be chaotic and huge, but in an understandable and not scary way. Having help nearby and not being afraid to ask for and enjoy the assistance is HUGE! Good luck!
    The Mommy Therapy recently wrote…I Assume Most People Cry At Church For These Reasons…Or NotMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, and you’re absolutely right!!

  • April 24, 2012 Katie E

    You’ll do awesome! It’s all so much easier the second time, I think. None of the first time nerves at least. Not as much, oh-my-god-what-do-I-do-with-this-tiny-person freaking out. So exciting that you’re so close!
    Katie E recently wrote…Monday Listicles: 10 Authors Whose Work I Will (Almost) Always ReadMy Profile

    • April 24, 2012 Alison

      I’m more worried about how the toddler will react than how I’m going to look after the baby πŸ™‚

  • April 24, 2012 Leah aka FFPMaMMa

    Been there…haven’t done that though. I’ve just had all the thoughts and fears without the pregnancy. I kind of had to go there when I was contemplating the “lets go for it and see what happens” choice. And just like you, yes, have all the fears and then I think…wait, I turned out to be a much better mom than I thought I would. However, humbly I think it is more of my daughter being far better than I thought she would. Oh well. You’ve got this. And I can relate to the postpartum part as well! Fainting was so not fun, oh and the fact I couldn’t pee. Go figure.
    Leah aka FFPMaMMa recently wrote…Healing while SufferingMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Hah! Not being able to pee is new πŸ™‚ I am going to be positive about this experience – I know that armed with knowledge, I’m going to be able to enjoy this baby better.

  • April 24, 2012 Andrea

    I am sure you are going to rock it, absolutely! But yes, if you need the virtual support you have one heck-of-a community out here ready to lend an ear, a shoulder, etc. whenever we can! And if only i could get out there. I’d love to help hold that baby. :>
    Andrea recently wrote…Motherhood makes me tired.My Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I’m so glad for this community, Andrea, thank you!

  • April 24, 2012 Amy

    You’ve totally got this! TOTALLY! I know *exactly* how you are feeling {this post = what was going on in my head at 38 weeks preggo with our #2}, but I promise you, you’ve totally got this covered. And Scrumplet is SO LUCKY to be arriving into such loving arms!

    I know everyone is saying it, but it’s really true: it’s easier with the second. You will ROCK this! πŸ™‚ So excited for you!! And I can’t wait to hear about this virtual baby shower, such a fun idea! πŸ™‚
    Amy recently wrote…Brain overdriveMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I love hearing over and over how #2 is going to be easier πŸ™‚ And yay for the baby shower, it’s gonna be fun!! Just a few more hours with more information.

  • Being a mommy the second time around is SO wonderful. You have two yummy little kiddos to hug and squeeze!! Every birth is different, and every baby is different (duh), so you’re in for a treat!

    Thinking of you, lady! πŸ™‚
    Sharon {Grumpy, Sleepy, and Bashful} recently wrote…Boy’s Costume Review … I’m Batman!My Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Sharon!

  • April 24, 2012 Audrey

    I was seriously starting to feel like I was the only one scared to do labor again, bring home another baby, worry about the big brother aspect, oh and generally just be a mom to two! You got this! And I get to see yours and worry about mine for a few more weeks after you. You’ll do great!
    Audrey recently wrote…I hate being pregnantMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I think those are perfectly normal feelings. Don’t you worry about a thing, it’d be great!

  • April 24, 2012 Mrs. Weber

    Holy crap, you are superwoman. You totally got this! {For the record, I am pooping myself lately too…The same things are starting to hit me!} Always a new learning experience with a new baby, but at least we know how to do the big things…

    And can’t wait for your virtual shower – sounds like a blast!
    Mrs. Weber recently wrote…9 Skills I Need to Master MotherhoodMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Yes, we’ve got the big things covered! You’ll do great, don’t you worry about a thing. Plus, I will be posting about it, so you’ll have some takeaways from my experience πŸ™‚

  • April 24, 2012 runnermom-jen

    You’ve totally got this! I would love to hop on a plane and hold that baby while you pee πŸ˜‰

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Hee hee! Thanks Jen,

  • April 24, 2012 Katie


    And you can lean on me if you need to…I am doing the baby boy #2 thing right this minute. And you know what? I got this too.

    It’s amazing what kicks in…what your brain and heart just plain remember to do. Only BETTER this time.

    ::roundhouse kick::
    Katie recently wrote…invisible labelsMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I absolutely love that I have someone to lean on – thank goodness!!

      (love the roundhouse kick hehe)

  • April 24, 2012 Leslie

    You’ve definitely got this! (and you and I are on the same page with birth plans!)
    Leslie recently wrote…Thinking Outside the Backyard BoxMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      The less complicated a birth plan, the better, yes? πŸ™‚

  • April 24, 2012 Galit Breen

    No advice, girlfriend.

    You’ve got this. You just do.


    (But lemon cupcakes? Bake a few extra to have on hand.)
    Galit Breen recently wrote…Walking WishesMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Thank you dear friend. And who doesn’t need lemon cupcakes on hand?

  • April 24, 2012 jamie

    Go Alison! You can do it! πŸ˜‰ I’m in Penang. Which part of Malaysia are you at? When are you due?
    jamie recently wrote…Gift Of Time To Children From Rumah Kebajikan Seri CahayaMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      In KL and due any time now!

      • April 25, 2012 jamie

        OMG! so excited for you. will connect with you via email and send you a gift for your little one.

  • April 24, 2012 Missy Olive

    Congratulations! So now I’m all curious. Is Malaysia your home? or are you living there temporarily?

    Again, I hope the labor and delivery goes well!

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I live in Malaysia, and I’m Malaysian πŸ™‚ And thank you!

  • April 24, 2012 MommaKiss

    yes, you do “got this” – but those fears are normal friend.

    p.s. you ever read the poem I’ve posted re: “loving two” ?

    I recently shared it w/ kslutier – tear fest, but so true.
    MommaKiss recently wrote…A request for help – just a commentMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I haven’t, but I most certainly will now, thank you!

  • April 24, 2012 Marge

    Oh I remember feeling all those same feelings when we were expecting BB#2… it is normal and YA, YOU GOT THIS!

    Visiting from SITS, make it a great day!
    Marge recently wrote…How Your Career Defines You, Or Does It?My Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Marge, and for visiting!

  • April 24, 2012 Kristin

    In hindsight, I’ve often thought that infancy really wasn’t that difficult, save for the novelty of it all. If I had to go back and do it all over again, I’d be totally rocking the “I got this face.”

    Now the thought of doing infancy WITH a toddler? That scares me. But that’s the good thing about experience – you know what to expect. So, yeah… you’ve got this. πŸ™‚
    Kristin recently wrote…7 Ways to Enjoy the Beach With a ToddlerMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I know now for a fact that an infant is WAY easier than a toddler πŸ™‚ I’m more worried about the toddler than I am about the baby. You know, how he’ll react, how he’ll feel, how I’ll feel about spending less time with him, etc. But we’ll adjust, that I know.

  • April 25, 2012 julie gardner

    I am a big fan of your birth plan:
    Give birth.

    Yep. That covers it.
    julie gardner recently wrote…Today call me badMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      You can see I’ve put a lot of thought into that. πŸ™‚

  • April 25, 2012 Life As Wife

    Oh pick me, pick me! I’ll even cook for you in between baby snuggles!
    Life As Wife recently wrote…"We Don’t Hit!"My Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I’ll pick ALL of you if I could! But you have a one up with the offer to cook πŸ™‚

  • April 25, 2012 Elaine

    I wanna come to Malaysia!!!! I’ll play with the toddler AND hold the baby!

    I like how you already plan not to “sweat the small stuff”, as they say. That will help a lot!

    Getting so close! And yes, YOU totally got this!! πŸ˜€
    Elaine recently wrote…Mom!My Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Come, come! All are welcome!

  • April 25, 2012 Anna

    I think I was way more scared for my second child than I was for my first, I completely remember feeling this way as the days and weeks grew closer to my due date. It’s awesome you have such a good support system and wonderful husband that will be there for you 100% though. Although we can’t be there in person, you have a big audience here who will be cheering you on and demanding cute baby pictures of the new little one too πŸ™‚ And I’m still working on how to make time for a hot shower and clean clothes every day so you DO have things under control! haha πŸ™‚
    Anna recently wrote…Everything MattersMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Anna!! I sacrifice a little sleep just to get that hot shower and clean clothes into my day. It’s like my sanity saver!! πŸ™‚

  • April 25, 2012 Nina

    Everyone says this but it IS true. It is SO much easier the second time, even though this time you have an older one to take care of as well. I just had my fourth and thought it would do me in. I’ve survived! You will too in ways that will surprise you. Good luck and best of luck for a smooth delivery!
    Nina recently wrote…When the English Teacher’s Kid Hates BooksMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      FOUR! You’re my hero, Nina! And thank you.

  • April 25, 2012 Jodi

    I love the name Scrumplet!
    Jodi recently wrote…Do You Mind Your Mind?My Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Thank you! Inspired by Roald Dahl πŸ™‚

  • April 25, 2012 Carri

    Baby shower link up? How fun is that!
    Carri recently wrote…What Not To Do Before Robbing a BankMy Profile

  • April 25, 2012 Natalie

    So excited for you! It will be great. I promise.
    Natalie recently wrote…Dadlogs Volume II: The Great Chicken DropMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      I am clinging onto that promise πŸ™‚

  • April 25, 2012 Tonya

    You are going to be a wonderful mother to two, I just know it. I also know that all of your fears are very normal and rational. Just take a deep breath and each day as it comes and hold on tight. Wishing you all the very best, Alison!

    Tonya recently wrote…Laughter Is My Only Good AdviceMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Tonya! Love to you too. xo

  • April 25, 2012 bonnie ferrell

    You got this! Yes, their are challenges with 2 like who to tend to when they are both crying, and wondering how the newborn ended up on the ground when he was just in the bouncy seat and big brother is standing over him like “who done it?” The first couple of months were difficult, but now they laugh and play with one another. Seeing them with one another makes it all worth it!
    bonnie ferrell recently wrote…Wordless WednesdayMy Profile

    • April 25, 2012 Alison

      Hahaha, I’m sure that’s a common scenario πŸ™‚

I Write This Blog

Alison Profile PictureI'm Alison. Writer, a mother of four (two boys and boy/ girl twins), social media enthusiast and book lover. A believer in the power of chocolate and hugs. Chugging coffee as I type. Want to know more?

The Books I’m In (Buy Now!)

I Am On Google+

Oldies But Goodies