Rocking This Motherhood Gig

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I joke frequently about how I ‘rock this motherhood gig, yo’.

In truth, I, like many mothers out there, am frequently plagued by doubt.

The questions I ask myself often are:

Am I doing the best by my child?

Is it okay that I let him eat French fries for lunch once a week?

Am I harming him long-term by allowing him to play games on the iPad?

Is he spoiled because he will never want for anything?

Will we do him justice by our choice of lifestyle and future schools?

Am I insane to have another child when some days, I feel like I can barely cope with one?

What am I doing?

Am I going to screw my children up?

I’m not writing this to get reassurances that yes, I am a good mom, I am not screwing him up, I can definitely handle two kids, I will be alright.

Deep down, I know I am the best mother I can be right now, while learning to be even more attuned to my kids’ needs, the boys will grow up normal and secure, and I will not go insane from parenting two children.

But.

Some nights, I go to bed in tears, thinking my boy will hate me because he went to bed crying, because Mama yelled at him for his bedtime delaying tactics.

Some days, I sit here writing this blog, telling happy stories of the times my son and I have, while feeling guilty that we don’t have enough of those times.

Sometimes, I dream that I’ve left my toddler by himself in a busy airport lounge while I went to the bathroom, and lost him when I emerged (yes, I’ve really had that dream, or rather, nightmare).

Guilt, guilt, guilt.

In 5 weeks, we will be a family of four, I will be a mother of two, my son will be a big brother to one.

I cannot afford to sit around wallowing, feeling sorry for myself , being hammered by senseless guilt, and doubting that I will do a good job.

So this is my pledge, to myself, to my boys.

Who’s with me?

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In other news, my awesome friend and sister by another mister, Kimberly of Mama’s Monologues has a HUGE announcement today – she’s launching her new design business, and yes, she designs blogs too. Go check her out!

 

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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • April 2, 2012 Robbie

    what a great pledge!

    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Robbie!

  • April 2, 2012 Kimberly

    I so get this. Some days are hard and they go to bed upset, making it worse for us. But you are so right. We are doing the best we can, right now, and we will make it through. Instead of wallowing, we need to enjoy the smiles. It will be okay.

    And also? I cannot thank you enough for supporting my launch! You are awesome! xo
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Yes it will be okay (repeat to self over and over).

      And you’re welcome! Good luck, I know you will rock the design biz!

  • April 2, 2012 Galit Breen

    Yes, yes, and more yes to ALL of this.

    LOVE!
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thank you sweet friend!!

  • April 2, 2012 Brittany

    I am rocking this pledge with you! You are an awesome mom and friend. This message is so important because we all sometimes feel like we just aren’t doing it right or doing enough. We are and we are trying every day to be our best!
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Yay, thank you Brittany! And yes, we are doing our best every day.

  • April 2, 2012 Nicole

    I adore this pledge and I adore you for putting it out there in such a real and authentic way. I felt like you were speaking from my head. Well said! And I pinned you to my “Lover of Words” board for a reminder when I need it. You rock!
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks for the Pin, Nicole! I’m glad you can relate, I think all of us mothers feel that way at some point or other. We need reminders that we ARE doing a good job. This pledge is my way of reminding myself.

  • April 2, 2012 Kerstin

    Great post – I am sure you’ll be just fine! And I take the pledge with you, totally get where you’re coming from (I may have invented feeling guilty).
    I think you’re winning if you’re thinking about it, because that means you care.
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Kerstin! And you, stop feeling guilty! πŸ™‚

  • April 2, 2012 Robin

    So awesome.

    I’m not quite there right now, but I’ll pledge with you when things are better.
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      You’ll get there, my friend. xo

  • April 2, 2012 Ann

    What a great pledge! I think that you wonder if you’re doing right by him – is a big indicator that you are.
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Ann! For your support, as always.

  • April 2, 2012 Greta

    Love this, Alison. Of course you know you’re rocking it, and will continue to. But it’s also good to see a vulnerable side….it makes us all feel more normal. πŸ™‚

    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Greta!

  • April 2, 2012 Elaine

    THIS. is what we need. More cheering each other on and knowing that WE CAN be good, even great, mothers despite the down times.

    I’m pledging it too, sister!

    Thank you for this!

    xo
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for pledging with me! And you rock this motherhood gig, Elaine.

  • April 2, 2012 Alexandra

    Having each other makes all the difference in the world, doesn’t it???

    xo
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Oh absolutely. xo

  • April 2, 2012 Jessica

    This mothering thing is hard sometimes, yo. But we do the best we can.
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      We totally do. You rock it, Jess.

  • April 2, 2012 Cassie

    I’m taking the pledge with you! There’s nothing better than being a mom! Just listening to myself and thousand of mom’s say that, makes me feel powerful. “Be all that you can be…as a mommy” πŸ™‚
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Cassie! Moms ARE powerful and awesome πŸ™‚

  • April 2, 2012 Mark

    So, is this only for women?
    Have a great day!
    m.
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Mark, change motherhood to parenthood and you’ll pledge?

      It’s for both mothers and fathers πŸ™‚

  • April 2, 2012 Maggie S.

    You are obviously doing just that. And one day he will be big, and that emotion will not cause you to second guess anymore…because you’ll have been doing this awhile (but it will seem like minutes).
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      I’m hoping that by writing this and believing in the pledge, I’ll not second guess myself anymore πŸ™‚

  • April 2, 2012 Barbara

    An amazing pledge! I love it. And you do rock this motherhood thing.
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Barbara! You do too!

  • April 2, 2012 Blond Duck

    Kudos to you!
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    • April 2, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Blond Duck!

  • April 2, 2012 Bonnie Ferrell

    I know exactly how you feel!

    visiting from Sits…
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thanks for dropping by Bonnie!

  • April 2, 2012 Maureen

    Awesome pledge, Alison! You’re gonna be that rockin’ mama with two healthy, happy, smart, and handsome boys! The picture is perfection too.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Maureen!

  • April 2, 2012 JDaniel4's Mom

    What a wonderful pledge! I love it!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, I’m glad you do!

  • April 2, 2012 Mirjam

    Beautiful pledge.
    I’m guessing that there isn’t a mom out there that can’t relate to this. I think it’s part of doing our best and wanting the best for or children.
    Beautiful post, Alison!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Mirjam! Yes, we just want to do our best, and it’s different for every mother, every child.

  • Oh, you so know how to speak to my heart! Raising kids is tough because there are no “do overs” — but the truth is, kids are resilient and if raised with pure love (which I have no doubt yours ARE), they flourish because of (and sometimes in spite of) our choices for their lives.

    You are a beautiful, thoughtful mama. Your babies are blessed to have you!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes, children are remarkably resilient. And thank you!

  • April 2, 2012 Natalie

    What a great post…I know we all feel like this…it’s part of being of mom…we have doubts. All we can do is our best…we’re all getting through this one baby step at a time!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Yes, one step at a time, for sure!

  • April 2, 2012 Stacey

    Taking the pledge with you! Those last few weeks before going from 1-2 are stressful and emotional. I know you’re not looking to hear it, but you are doing great. (ps- bedtime delay tactics drive me INSANE too!)
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Stacey, I hope I’ll get through the last few weeks as stress-free as possible!

  • April 2, 2012 Kristin

    I know you must be feeling anxious as you head into the homestretch with this second pregnancy. But you’ll adjust to your “newer normal,” just like you adjusted to your “new normal” two years ago.

    And you will rock it.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      That’s a good way of looking at it – as a new normal. Thanks Kristin!

  • April 2, 2012 Christie

    Great pledge. I marvel at the fact that before having kids I thought that as long as I made it through the first few months of sleeplessness I would be fine. But it’s always something, isn’t it? You trade the daily challenges and doubts of a newborn for the more influential challenges of young children. I don’t think that the doubts, worries, fears, etc. will ever go away. Fortunately, they are offset by smiles, hugs, “I Love Yous” and the knowledge that we made it out of our own childhood ok, right? πŸ™‚
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Yes, you’re right! If it’s not this, it’s that. I refuse to feel guilty anymore – whether it’s self-inflicted or imposed on us by the media/ society/ busybodies!

  • April 2, 2012 Kir

    yes, this is exactly the way we all feel as moms, “are we always doing the BEST we can?” this beautiful pledge is a wonderful way to say YES WE ARE and when I’m feeling like I’m not, I have “SISTERS” to talk to and lean on until I feel like I am.

    I will GLADLY rock this pledge with you. xoxo
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      I knew you would absolutely rock this with me. xo

  • April 2, 2012 Jessica

    I love your pledge! I think I’ll print it and hang it on my fridge. You’ll do fine with two, seriously! You’ll rock it! πŸ™‚

    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Yay, knowing that my words are on someone else’s fridge would rock my world!

  • April 2, 2012 Delilah

    And cue the tears. Great pledge Alison. I struggle daily with whether I’m doing the best I can for my kids, if I’m spending too much time documenting their childhood on the computer and not enough time actually experiencing it with them. Sigh. Those moments of mommy doubt are hard to swallow. I love your pledge. I might have to adopt it for myself.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Do adopt it!! We are all doing our best. Better to use that guilt energy on building more memories with our kids, right?

  • April 2, 2012 Missy

    I can’t believe you are 5 weeks away from your due date! So close now. And everything will work out fine. Soon, you won’t be able to imagine life without two.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      I know, it’s so close! And thank you, I already can’t imagine life without two πŸ™‚

  • April 2, 2012 Suniverse

    I think we as mothers are way too hard on ourselves. It’s not easy to give it up, but I like your pledge.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      I’m so glad you do, Sunny. xo

  • April 2, 2012 Twisted Domestic Goddess

    Love this post and yes I’m with ya.Let’s rock this motherhood gig!

    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Yay, let’s rock this!

  • April 2, 2012 Tara

    We all do the same thing!
    I always say- if your questioning yourself, then your doing the right thing.

    Really start worrying when your not worrying anymore!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Tara, you’re right!

  • April 2, 2012 January

    I have dreams about forgetting and losing my kids ALL the time! They are the WORST. Lovely pledge. Put a lump in my throat. 2 boys Alison…brotherhood is so special. You will love it. (And feel a little crazy too – boys have an insane amount of energy when doubled!)
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      I’m glad you like the pledge, January. And yes, I look forward to the brotherhood of my boys. And sorta dreading the never ending running around/ screaming πŸ™‚

  • April 3, 2012 Tonya

    Amazing pledge, Allison and I have absolutely no doubt that you Will Rock This! Much love to you. xo
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Tonya, fellow rocking mom! Much love to you too xo

  • April 3, 2012 Bonnie Way

    THANK YOU! We all have days like that. So thanks for helping me feel like I’m not a bad mommy because I worry about the same things. And thanks for the pledge. It’s beautiful.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      You’re definitely not a bad mom at all. And thank you, I’m glad you like the pledge.

  • April 3, 2012 Sarcasm Goddess

    That is a fantastic pledge! Your boys are blessed to have you. You know I don’t have kiddos, but I can kinda relate to your questions in the teensie tiniest little bitty way. I babysat my friend’s 2 yr old daughter for a few hours on Friday night and let her watch t.v. for an hour. I was all, “I am a terrible babysitter! I am rotting her brain.” Her mom said it was okay but I felt terrible!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Haha, a little TV won’t fry her brain! My son probably watches more TV than the experts deem healthy. But whatever, he learned his numbers, animals and alphabets from watching Baby Einstein. And that you babysat a 2 year old so her parents could go out?? Dude, you rock.

  • April 3, 2012 Phase Three of Life

    Well, that got me all choked up. I know exactly what you mean. And I have a feeling that I’ll need this reminder when we decide to have our second kiddo. You’re totally gonna rock it!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thank you! I hope I do!

  • April 3, 2012 Jessica

    Love it, Alison. You are, indeed, going to continue to rock with two boys.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Jessica!

  • April 3, 2012 Julia

    Beautiful. I absolutely support this pledge.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      I’m so glad you do, Julia!

  • April 3, 2012 Elizabeth

    Oh, sooo can relate to the feelings of doubt at times. I find myself thinking, “This is NOT a job I want to screw up!”
    Absolutely love your pledge and I too want to totally “rock this motherhood gig, yo”! =)

    Peace out, Homefry!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Hee, homefry!

      Thank you for rocking this with me, Elizabeth!

  • April 3, 2012 Kimberly

    Love. Love. Love.
    Rock this gig Mama.
    All we have to be is good enough..not perfect…just good enough.
    xoox
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Yes, exactly. We are good enough. xo

  • April 3, 2012 Christine

    Love Love Love this Alison! You’ve captured all the questions and worries and insecurities. But, you are so right, we WILL rock this because as mothers, we are all standing by each other. I too will take this pledge with you. And, you will be great. One step at a time.
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Pledge Sister!! I’m so glad you can relate, Christine.

  • April 3, 2012 Rorybore

    fantastic. love it. What a great support and encouragement to all mothers you are!

    now, gotta go check out Kimberley’s new design too!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks so much!

      And Kim rocks!

  • April 3, 2012 By Word of Mouth Musings

    5 weeks – that’s it?
    Where did the time go?
    Easy for me to say right? πŸ˜‰
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Hee! It’s been a long, long 35 weeks, Nicole! πŸ™‚

  • April 3, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Oh my goodness…were you in my head these past few days? I’ve been doubting myself. a LOT! “guilt, guilt, guilt”…it never goes away.
    I love this idea of yours.
    xo
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Jen!! Don’t doubt yourself, you’re a great mom.

  • April 3, 2012 jlweinberg/jen

    I am so with you. And I totally love your pledge. XO
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      I’m so glad you are and I’m so glad you do. πŸ™‚

  • April 3, 2012 Rach (DonutsMama)

    You will do great, and you’ll do it just one day at a time. When I get overwhelmed, I have to remember that I just have to make it through today–I refuse to worry about tomorrow or next week. Easier said than done, I know, but it’s the only way to save sanity!
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Yes, one day at a time, one step at a time.

  • April 3, 2012 grace

    I’m with ya!

    (As a Mama of two boys…I SO RELATE!!!)
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    • April 3, 2012 Alison

      Awesome, Grace!

  • April 3, 2012 jacqui

    I love your pledge! And I think you’ll be an awesome mother of two and Monkey will be a great big brother!
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Thank you in your unending faith in me Jacqui!

  • April 3, 2012 My Inner Chick

    Mama A,
    ~~~not only do you rock the mom gig,
    but you encourage and inspire other mamas to be better and true to themselves.

    That’s what I truly love about you.

    Xx
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Kim, your words are always like a warm hug to me, thank you so much. Much love. xo

  • April 3, 2012 Jade

    Is he spoiled because he will never want for anything?

    THIS!!! Actually, this is starting to prove to be a problem for my kids, the eldest in particular (aged 5). There’s a certain unattractive expectation starting to peek through. I know it’s our fault, not his, but I’m going to nip that shit in the bud! πŸ˜‰ Also nearly everyone here in Hong Kong has a domestic helper and while we insist our kids treat ours like pretty much a member of the family, lots of their friends come from houses where the kids are allowed to make the helper pick up their toys and carry their schoolbag.

    In that sense, although I have experienced all too often the things you mention in your post, I too am rocking it πŸ˜‰

    GO YOU! YOU WILL OWN THIS TWO-KID GIG! πŸ™‚
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Jade, I totally understand the helper side of things because almost everyone in Malaysia has one (or two in some cases), and I’ve witnessed children treating them truly like the help (which they are, but some respect and understanding is required).

      I think it’s great that you have awareness about this issue of kids expecting too much (hence spoiled) and acting entitled – that you know, you will address it. Your kids will be okay!

  • April 4, 2012 Kelley

    You said so well what we all feel! I love, love your pledge.
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Kelley!

  • April 4, 2012 Elena

    I love, love, LOVE this post, Alison! I truly am the Queen of Self Doubt – if that ever were a title. We’re at that stage in the parenting game where essentially we call all the shots – big and little decisions – what food to serve, what games they can play, etc. I constantly wonder if I’m doing the right thing. Honestly, you could’ve taken this post right out of my head. You are going to rock this family of 4 gig – because you understand that you have all those things listed on that picture going for you. πŸ™‚
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Elena! I think you’re doing an amazing job, your boys are awesome. You so rock this motherhood gig.

  • April 4, 2012 Starle

    Aww, you’ll be fine. That was a really sweet post. I love your pledge!
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Starle!

  • April 4, 2012 5ohwifey

    I think ALL us mamas feel this way. Love your pledge. Thanks for stopping by on my SITS day!
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Thank you! And thank you for visiting πŸ™‚

  • April 4, 2012 Lisa Nolan

    Having ups and downs is part of mommyhood, to be sure! Kudso for you for being honest about your feelings! It inspires me, too, in my (future) writing!

    I have a child with Down syndrome, he’s seven now, but along the way I suffered depression, anger, and came right to the edge of alcoholism (mommy’s little helper!). But I overcame those hurdles by being honest about them, first to myself, then others around me (close friends and my wonderful rock of a hubby!).

    Best of luck to you on #2! We are going to have a #2, but we are going the foster care route (I’m 49)! I feel like I could survive (almost) anything, now!

    Read also my memoir blog: Shoulders to the Trees http://shoulderstothetrees.blogspot.com/ Would love to hear your thoughts!
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Oh yes, motherhood is quite a journey, isn’t it? I think you’re doing a wonderful job there with your little man and it’s awesome that you’re fostering a child who needs a loving, happy home, which is what yours sound like.

      Read some of your memoir blog – very moving. Such brutal honesty.

  • April 4, 2012 Leslie

    Beautifully written. There is nothing else to say.
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Leslie!

  • April 4, 2012 Theresa

    I’m with you sista! Well said. Everyone’s kids go to bed crying sometimes, I sure did when I was a kid.
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      And we still do, don’t we?

  • April 4, 2012 Julie

    I’m glad that no one told me I would give birth to a giant cloud of guilt after I delivered my child and his placenta.

    NO REALLY. Why does no one tell you about that?

    Today, I accidentally shut my kid’s finger in the door and then fed him candy corn and chocolate milk until he collapsed into a sugar coma, because it was the only thing that would stop the accusatory stares.

    Great pledge. I do solemnly swear.
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    • April 4, 2012 Alison

      Hee, thanks for pledging with me Julie!

      And I know all about the guilt of ‘hurting’ your child (accidentally, of course) – I closed the door on Monkey’s fingers when he was 18 months old. Fortunately I didn’t slam it shut, he was more shocked than anything. Also, I might have clipped his fat baby thighs with the stupid car seat buckle when he was a baby, and left bruises. More than once. Accidents happen. I’m glad your little guy is okay. I just hope he doesn’t think chocolate milk is a daily thing now.

  • April 4, 2012 Justine

    I think Guilt comes with the gig. But there’s so much more that we can focus on too and it’s great that you are working to see past that with this awesome pledge.

    Yes, definitely count me in.

    Alison, five weeks will go by in a flash and I know you’re worried now but when you’re a family of four, you wouldn’t be able to imagine life any other way. I know that’s what happened for me.

    And you’ll rock that too.
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    • April 5, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much Justine, for your encouraging words. It’s just want I need.

  • April 4, 2012 Charlotte

    I love your pledge, mamma. And I know you’re not looking for affirmation here, but I’m going to give it to you anyway. I think you’ll be an excellent mom to one more and I can’t wait to follow along. To err is to be human, yes? We have to allow a few bumps along the road. But I think you’re rockin’ it.
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    • April 5, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Charlotte. I can face those bumps in the road now, that I know. xo

  • April 5, 2012 Lady Jennie

    Good pledge. I have had a lousy week mothering – the lack of patience is just unbelievable at times. I think if only “they” would obey we wouldn’t be having this problem. But I know I can do better than that.

    grrrr

    But I do know that I love them more than anyone else could.
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    • April 5, 2012 Alison

      Yes you do. And we’re all allowed a lousy week πŸ™‚

  • April 5, 2012 Laura

    These are all such understandable feelings. And I’ve totally been there feeling those things. And I will be there again. But you know what? I recently stopped working again to be at home full time with my son in preparation for this baby. And compared to everything else I know how to do, I mother the best. Going from an office position where I did my best work possible, but never really felt like it was ‘my calling’, to teaching my little boy about life each and every day was such a shocking change. Even though Cameron watches more tv the more pregnant I get, and even though some days we have hot dogs for lunch, I am proud to be the mother I am.
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    • April 5, 2012 Alison

      We are soul sisters πŸ™‚ Monkey does use the iPad now more than he did before, but you know what? I still give him all the time and energy I can. And I will continue to do so. You rock!

  • April 5, 2012 Natalie

    So lovely! Yep, sign me up!
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    • April 5, 2012 Alison

      Yay, Natalie!

  • April 5, 2012 MommaKiss

    I’m SO with you. I felt similar things when my second was days away from being born. Still do sometimes, but overall, every mistake we make, there is love. The love, they will never forget.
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    • April 5, 2012 Alison

      Thank goodness I have an abundance of love πŸ™‚

  • April 7, 2012 Nikky44

    Sounds great and perfect to me!!!
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