Letter to My Son: Part Deux

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Back in October, I wrote a letter to my son, in which I listed my hopes for him when he’s 18.

Then, my pregnancy was still in its early stages (8 weeks!) and now, I’m 36 weeks large (I know, you’re saying, what? Where did the time go? My answer: your time went to me because it feels like it’s been a long haul!).

It’s time to add to that letter, hence, part deux (my attempt at being fancy).

2 year old toddler

This is how you looked at 2 years old. May that sparkle in your eyes never fade.

Dear Monkey,

When you turn 18, you will probably leave home.

To explore the world, to find yourself, to get an education (as your mother, I have to say that), to learn to navigate this big, bad world.

Know that when you do, your Mama will be all at once happy for you, sad for herself, and will probably call you at least once a day (maybe twice).

But also know that your Mama is proud of you.

Because I know, I just do, that you will do well, that you will do Papa and I proud, that your little brother will look up to you always, and want to be just like his big brother.

Do you know why?

Because even at age 2 (yes, just 2!), you taught ME a few things.

You taught me to slow down. To really stop, and be present. When we walk together, you don’t rush. You walk. You look around. You stop to look at something that interests you. You pause. You pause in that moment, and you take in that moment fully. As adults, we seem to have forgotten how to do that.

You taught me to laugh. I don’t know when life dealt me such a blow that I go around most days, not even feeling very smiley. But since you came into my life, my dear boy, you’ve made me laugh. You find joy in the little things. In achieving something new, in doing well at something not-so-new, in just looking at the faces of the people you love. I’ve found my laugh again.

You taught me to forgive. You don’t hold grudges. You may be angry at us for making you do something you really don’t want to (like sleep – I know, you’re horrified, sleeping is so awesome! Now you know.), but in minutes, you turn that frown upside down. You come to us, hug us, smile at us and tell us in your own toddler way that it’s okay. Forgiveness is a gift, and you’ve given me that.

So yes, my dear firstborn, I know that when you fly the coop, leave the nest, do all those grown up things we’ve hopefully prepared you well for, know that you’re doing us proud. That you’re setting a fine example for your little brother.

Love,

Your Mama

P/S* I hope you’ve also mastered the art of cooking, cleaning up after yourself, laundry and vacuuming. Because your Mama can’t do that for you forever!

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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • April 9, 2012 tracy

    LOVE – and yes make sure he can cook and do his own laundry. I suggest starting to teach this NOW as the young ones are easier to train. (I’m still trying to train a 42 year old because OMHELL his mom did not).
    xoxo
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    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      I’m lucky he likes ‘cleaning’, I plan to cultivate that! Are there toddler sized vacuums out there that actually work? (tell me there are)

      His future wife will so love me, right?

  • April 9, 2012 Anna

    this is so sweet.
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    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Anna.

  • April 9, 2012 Life As Wife

    Let’s hope that the next 16 years go by slowly and joyfully!

    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      I’m sure there will be parts of the next 16 years I wish would go by just a little bit quicker πŸ™‚

  • April 9, 2012 Jessica

    It’s amazing what these little ones can teach us.

    But seriously, they can start cleaning up and doing their own laundry anytime.
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    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      Let’s get past potty training first. πŸ™‚

  • April 9, 2012 Christine

    I’m teaching my son to do his (and his sister’s) laundry this summer! He is NOT going to be happy about it.
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    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      He’ll thank you later πŸ˜‰

  • April 9, 2012 Stasha

    Meh, that’s what the significant others are for πŸ™‚
    This boys, they teach us true importance, don’t they? You are about to be twice as wise…
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    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      Twice as wise, I like that, yes!

  • April 9, 2012 Kimberly

    I am still in awe at how much these little guys can teach us. They’re amazing.

    This was beautiful. He is one lucky little boy!
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    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you #twin! They are amazing, we are so lucky.

  • April 9, 2012 nikky44

    THANK YOU SO MUCH ALISON!!!
    You opened my eyes to the real value of time with my children! You made me realized how important it was for me to slow down and walk at their rhythm instead of pushing them to follow me. Thank you !!!

    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      Nikky, I’m so glad you can relate to the post and take away something from it. Thank you for your sweet comment.

  • April 9, 2012 Erin

    How sweet! I have to admit, I’m tearing up . . . I just don’t want to imagine my babies old enough to leave me (although,mine claim they’re not leaving until they are 59). I love how you told your son what he has taught you. My children, too, have taught me to slow down and enjoy the simple moments.
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    • April 9, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Erin! I know it’s a long way away for me for when my boys WILL leave home, but it’s still something that I know will break my heart. So am enjoying all the little moments now!

  • April 9, 2012 Jessica

    This is such a sweet post! You’ve captured the beauty of this time of two-ness wonderfully. I, too, am amazed by my toddler’s ability to stay in the moment and willingness to forgive. I’ve become, I realize in seeing her, a kind of hardened person, or harder than I should be given that this life is so sweet. She’s and my other littlest one are teaching me that life is still very new, still very beautiful. It’s still worthy of my smiles and expectation and joy.

    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Life is totally still worthy of smiles, expectation and joy.

  • April 9, 2012 Natalie

    Awwww what a great letter…I’m sure some girl will thank you too one day when he’s able to cook and do his own laundry! He’s going to be great man one day!
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Yes he will. And yes, she will. πŸ™‚

  • April 9, 2012 Stacey

    Love this. Little ones are so good at teaching those important lessons, aren’t they? Especially the one about forgiveness…mine get to teach me that one more often than I wish they needed to! πŸ™‚
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Yes, mine too! πŸ™‚

  • April 9, 2012 Julia

    So, so sweet. It’s amazing how much these little ones teach us. I think that’s what make being a parent so amazing.
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Julia. Parenting is hard, but so rewarding.

  • April 10, 2012 Katie

    I love letters to kids. I love to write them, I love to read them…they are why I think blogging is just so awesome. They are our words RIGHT NOW for our children to have forever years from now.

    This is simply beautiful.
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Yes it is! And I love your letters to your boys, Katie.

  • April 10, 2012 Susi

    Beautiful. He will treasure this always. And I do hope that he will know how to do some of the minor chores himself… I look at my boy in despair and hope, hope, hope that some of the things I’m teaching him will stick. He’s a huge slob.
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Oh I really hope so! I’ve taught him to clean up after himself and for a 2 year old, he’s doing well!

  • April 10, 2012 Leslie

    So sweet and so true!
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Leslie.

  • April 10, 2012 Natalie

    What a lovely letter. He’s a lucky boy. And you’re a lucky Mama.
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      We are truly blessed.

  • April 10, 2012 Julie

    I love well-written letters to our children on blogs. It makes me feel like not only do I know these great moms and dads, but I get to peek inside the relationship they have with their kids and be reminded about how fast everything is going to go, and how I need to pay attention to every moment.
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Julie, that is such an awesome thing to say.

  • April 10, 2012 Mirjam

    18..Can you even imagine that?! So big!
    Lovely letter, Alison.

    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      No, no I can’t!

  • April 10, 2012 Mayor Gia

    Awww, how sweet! He’s going to treasure that one day!
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    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      I sure hope so πŸ™‚

  • What a lovely idea. I recently read an article about how the relationship between mother and son is so powerful, and this letter speaks to that deep relationship. Very sweet, Erin

    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Erin (any link to that article?).

  • April 10, 2012 Lauren

    Aww so sweet πŸ™‚

    • April 10, 2012 Alison

      Yes, even despite all my bitching about him πŸ™‚ He’s my sunshine.

  • April 10, 2012 Kimberly

    Shhh…don’t talk about future….I want my boy to stay this way for a wee bit longer.
    I think that I’d bawl my eyes out writing a future letter.
    PS. Your 35 wk 3 day photo is so adorable.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I admit, I teared up writing this.
      And thank you πŸ™‚

  • April 10, 2012 kim

    I love thinking about what our kids can teach us and you’re so right about finding your laugh. Good luck in your final weeks of pregnancy! !,

    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Kim! Finding my laugh again is a true gift.

  • April 10, 2012 Shiftless Mommie

    “You taught me to slow down. To really stop, and be present.”

    This is so true. I had no idea, before I had kids, that they would actually give us time. I just assumed they would consume it (and, yeah, they do, I’m not in denial). Even though I sometimes feel like I have no time, looking back I only see how much my kids taught me to value time.

    Really nice post. I got a little misty.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I love how you put it – that they give us time, rather than take it up. Yes, that. And thank you.

  • April 10, 2012 Jade

    Bootiful. Boys are just the best (girls are too of course). I’m really feeling at that cliched sensation at the moment that they’re growing up too fast. I want to snap-freeze them with their big shining eyes and bumbling feet. This is a nice idea (the letter, not the snap-freezing).
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Hee, big shining eyes and bumbling feet – yes that, exactly.

  • April 10, 2012 Mama and the City

    Holy molly, time flew fast! Very soon we should all meet little monkey #2? You still look petite for being that close.

    p.s. I hope your little monkey does learn all those household tasks that come with independence.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Time does fly and I can’t wait to meet Scrumplet and introduce him to everyone!

  • April 11, 2012 Robbie

    What a sweet, sweet letter. Time whizzes by and things like these help you hold on to and remember the moments.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I just wanted to capture his ‘two-ness’, you know?

  • April 11, 2012 jamie

    This is such a beautiful letter. You are a visionary mum, Alison πŸ™‚
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Jamie.

  • April 11, 2012 Just Jennifer

    WHY are you doing this to yourself, Alison?? Why on earth would you want to think about the day your little boy leaves home? Ack!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Haha, I know, right? I’m preparing myself. πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 angela

    I can’t wait to meet Scrumplet! And this is so sweet and heartfelt; I loved reading about the things you’ve learned from him, and I know one day he will love reading about them, too.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I hope so. This is his baby book. Sort of. πŸ™‚

      (I can’t wait to meet Scrumplet too! Why does pregnancy have to be 9 months?)

  • April 11, 2012 Kristen

    I have always loved to laugh but I love how easily the laughter comes with my girls. It can be as easy as a look on their faces.
    Btw, if Monkey doesn’t know how to cook by the time he is 18, he can always fall back on his favorite snack from when he was two…plain crackers πŸ˜‰

    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Haha, I hope he will at least learn to make something a little more substantial than water crackers. πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 Ado

    You know I can’t wait to see him bawl when he’s 18 and reads this. He’s lucky to have you for his mama. (-: And so is numero dos.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      He’ll probably be embarrassed πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 WilyGuy

    That is sweet. With my eldest turning 18 in a month, I would love to have done this back then. They get old pretty quickly.

    WG
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Ack, 18 already? Yes, they do grow up (and we grow old) fast!

  • This is so sweet!! Whenever I try to write letters to mine, I end up in tears. I’m ready to cry reading yours πŸ™‚ So amazing what we learn from our kids.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Oh believe me, I totally teared up writing this πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 Trish in AZ

    Oh, sniff! This is lovely. Truly lovely.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Aw thanks Trish.

  • April 11, 2012 Susie Newday

    Time flies indeed.

    As far as your PS:
    P/S* I hope you’ve also mastered the art of cooking, cleaning up after yourself, laundry and vacuuming. Because your Mama can’t do that for you forever!

    I keep saying that I keep teaching my kids to cook and clean so my son and daughter in laws will like me lol.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Why yes, that’s part of my agenda too πŸ˜‰

  • April 11, 2012 hollow tree ventures

    Cute ending! And isn’t it so true about the laughter – I rarely go a day without my kids making me laugh (though not always on purpose)!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank goodness for kids, or it’d make for a very glum day!

  • April 11, 2012 Lisa Nolan

    Love the idea of writing a letter (now) to your child at 18! I wonder what I would say to my special little guy?! Lots to think about! (And thanks for reading and commenting on Shoulders to the Trees!)
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I have a series of letters planned too πŸ™‚

      (And you’re welcome!)

  • April 11, 2012 Kir

    B That is one beautiful letter my friend. Do you worry like I do about how well off our boys will be when they leave. I want to do things for them (and my quirks LOL mean they must be done a certain way) but I want the boys to know how to fold clothes, cook something more than Ramen noodles and to be able to clean a bathroom (esp their own!!!) . I THINK of this alot hee hee.

    Love that picture of Monkey, what a handsome little boy!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Oh I think of it a lot too! I believe that they will do things our way – they won’t know any other, hee hee!

  • April 11, 2012 Kim Pugliano

    Oh I miss those days. I say this with seriousness, my letters to my son are on a top-secret blog and they are NOT NICE. Then I come back to real-life where I like him again.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Haha! I wanna know where this top secret blog is!

  • April 11, 2012 tara pohlkotte

    yes. how these children grow us. all that we want to store up into them before our main-influence is over. I love this.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I love that you said that they grow us. Yes, yes they do. Thank you Tara.

  • April 11, 2012 jlweinberg/jen

    Ah, I love this sweet, sweet letter. It is pretty amazing how much we are taught as parents. I can’t wait to hear about Monkey’s adventures with his new baby. (38 weeks!)
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I can’t wait to tell you all more stories about my two boys! (MY TWO BOYS! I can’t believe that will be more new normal so soon)

  • April 11, 2012 Tricia

    So very sweet! Makes me want to write more letters to my little girl πŸ™‚
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      You absolutely should!

  • April 11, 2012 Michelle Longo

    Very sweet letter. That boy will know he is loved!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Oh I think he does πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 Delilah

    Oh that was so sweet. I can’t even think of my kids growing up and moving away. And I agree, train him now. So much easier when they’re young.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      I think about it more than I should, I know. It’s like I’m mentally preparing myself now so it won’t be such a shock to the system πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 Ann

    What a sweet, sweet note! The post-script is perfect!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Ann! I want him to cook as well as, well, you. πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 Janice

    Beautiful. Your son is sure a lucky little boy.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Janice. I’m lucky to be his mother πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Awwww. So sweet, Alison!
    I had to laugh at the cooking/cleaning/laundry/vacuuming part πŸ˜‰
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Hehe, thanks Jen!

  • April 11, 2012 Anna

    I love that you are doing these letters to your son, this is an awesome idea and this post is so beautiful. Toddlers can teach us a lot, the ability to be present and how forgiving and loving they are, amazing. I think I need to write letters to my boys now – Awesome post!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Anna! I plan to write a series of these letters to both my boys. It helps me capture the now, before I forget them all.

  • April 11, 2012 Bridget

    Sweetness. I love that you talk to him about all he taught you. It’s true and something too many of us don’t think of often.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Parenting is a two way process, teach and be taught πŸ™‚

  • April 11, 2012 Inspiration to Dream

    They grow up so quickly. You have such a lovely way of describing the need to be present when they’re little. I think I was so busy that I missed so much of that when mine were little.
    One has left home and I have two more to go, all boys. I dread the day they’re all gone but also delight in them as mature young men venturing into the big wide world and that they still say I love you mum and give me a hug.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Aw, they still say I love you mum? That’s so sweet!

  • April 11, 2012 Erin Threlfall

    So sweet! I have kept a journal for my son since the day I learned I was preggo. It is such a lovely keepsake for them! Keep us posted as you get closer to baby 2!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Just under 4 weeks to go before #2!!

  • April 12, 2012 deborah l quinn

    lovely! our sons at 18 will be…MEN. I find that so strange because they will be so emphatically not us. They’ll be shaving (cheeks not legs), and have deep voices, and not want to go shoe shopping. Strange. And wonderful, too, I guess. Wow. this post made me sigh…
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Yes it is strange isn’t it? They’re like a different creature. Wait, they are! I think the day he starts shaving, I will bawl.

  • April 12, 2012 Susan

    oh, you made me teary. to be present, that is totally my theme for today. i love the closeness and love you have for your sweet monkey – thanks for sharing!
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Susan!! Being present is the most valuable thing we can give them, and the hardest. I have to tell myself that every single day.

  • April 12, 2012 Jamie

    It’s hard to imagine them all big and grown up. sigh.

    • I was thinking about how the Little Dude also doesn’t hold grudges. He may get reprimanded or issued a Time Out (or 3), but a minute later he is his smiley happy self again. That’s all his mother.

      Great post, Alison.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Sigh yes, yes it is.

  • April 12, 2012 AnnMarie

    Today is my oldest son’s birthday and this post brought a tear to my eye as I think of him one day leaving this nest (he’s 14). Beautifully written and made me laugh as well as cry (perfect combo). I love the line, “I don’t know when life dealt me such a blow that I don’t walk around very smiley.” So real.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you AnnMarie, and happy birthday to your son! Oh my, 14?? Time does fly doesn’t it?

  • April 12, 2012 Lady Jennie

    When I read about the sleep part, I was like ooooh yeah! One day we won’t hear tiny voices piping up at 7 am, we’ll be banging on their door at 11 to get up.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Yes, exactly!! My brother was like that, he loves sleeping πŸ™‚

  • April 12, 2012 Galit Breen

    I love ever last teeny tiny word of this.

    (Did I mention that I love this?)

    xo
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      And I love you! xo

  • April 12, 2012 Youngman Brown

    I am 26 and still have not mastered the art of cooking. I have mastered the art of laundry, vacuuming and cleaning up after myself.. although I partake in these activities very sparingly.

    With a great mother like you, I am sure that he is going to grow up just fine πŸ™‚
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      It’s assuring to know that young men will eventually learn to do all that. And thank you πŸ™‚

  • April 12, 2012 Stephanie

    Such a lovely post. Your little one’s eyes see right into my soul! He’s gorgeous!

    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Stephanie, he does have amazing eyes πŸ™‚

  • April 12, 2012 Beth Zimmerman

    Awww … this is super sweet! πŸ™‚

    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Beth!

  • April 12, 2012 heidi

    Taking in those moments fully – they do such a good job of that, don’t they? It’s something I’m always working on. Being present and engaged.
    What a beautiful letter to your son.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Heidi. I have to work on being present and engaged at all times – there are so many distractions πŸ™‚

  • So sweet Alison, how much little Monkey will love these when he is older. They do teach us so much and all the things you list are lessons I too feel I have learned from my minis. Secondly, I can’t believe you are 36 weeks! You look fantastic and so exciting your other little bug is almost here:) I hope you print these out and put them in his baby book so that one day he will look back and get the warm fuzzies we all feel when reading your beautiful words.
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    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Shannon! Yes, 36 weeks, NEARLY THERE!!

  • April 12, 2012 stripeyhorse

    aww, lovely, lovely post. πŸ™‚

    • April 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you πŸ™‚

  • April 12, 2012 Christine

    I cannot believe how much my kids have taught me…Thanks for the reminder! Beautifully written.

  • April 12, 2012 Tracy

    Love this – it’s such a wonderful idea to write letters to your son. I think everyone should do it!
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    • April 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Tracy!!

  • April 13, 2012 Ali

    Love this. Especially the first one about slowing down. I am always in a rush and it drives me CRAZY when Will stops every 2 seconds to look at everything we pass. I am going to try and think differently about that now and stop and look with him so thanks. x
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    • April 13, 2012 Alison

      Ali, you’re welcome. I love when my writing impacts someone in a good way. Enjoy the slowed down moments.

  • April 13, 2012 Lisha

    My firstborn went back to college today after his spring break.

    The day he left, I had the realization that my real job with him had not been to prepare him for the playground or middle school, but for that day. So that when he left my nest for his own life he’d be prepared.

    Good job, mama!
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    • April 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Lisha!!

  • April 13, 2012 Ali

    I started writing letters to my kids before they were born, and continue every year on their birthdays. It is such a wonderful way to capture memories and reflect on being a mom.
    Here is the link to my post about it.
    http://daughterinlawdiaries.com/2012/04/02/love-letters/

    • April 13, 2012 Alison

      So far, I’ve written letters to my toddler on his birthday (he’s only 2), and these 2 letters for when he’s 18. I also plan to write letters to my 2nd born πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing, Ali.

  • April 13, 2012 XLMIC

    Gosh, it really is all a blur and a flash and a blaze of glory punctuated by memories both big and small. Your kids are so lucky to have such a fantastic and expressive mom πŸ™‚
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    • April 13, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks sweetie, that’s such a a beautiful thing to say.

  • April 13, 2012 Kimberly S. (Sperk*)

    Awesomeness to see such health, grace and love. Not sure how we will be archiving and storing letters when he is 18, but I sure do hope he gets a copy that he can keep forever….and give to his children….and so on….xo
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    • April 13, 2012 Alison

      I’m keeping these letters in my hard drive (for now)! And thank you.

  • April 14, 2012 ColleenwithMurals&More

    This is wonderful. As a mother of 3 grown(ish) boys/men and a grandmother to another one, this is fabulous. I wish I’d done the same.

    Dropping by from SITS Sharefest. Happy Saturday!

    • April 14, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Colleen! And thanks for stopping by, happy weekend to you!

  • April 14, 2012 Mich

    What a beautiful letter. Thanks for sharing. I hope you continue to write these letters to him. I think they will mean a lot to him as he gets older. And *hopefully* you’ve inspired me to do the same thing for my 3 kiddoes!

    Visiting from SITS Saturday Sharefest. Glad I did!
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    • April 15, 2012 Alison

      Thanks for reading, Mich! I do plan to continue this series of letters, it’s as much for me as it is for him. And do write letters to your kids, they will treasure them!

  • April 15, 2012 Catheryn

    Your letter spells so much love, overflowing!
    And your Monkey No.1 will cry buckets when he read this at 18.
    I have a diary (hardcopy, old school real diary) that I write so that ISabelle gets to read it when she grows up. Call me silly, sometimes I cry when I read of things I write myself. > <
    Cant wait to see pictures of your 2 boys (together) soon!! Take care!!

    • April 15, 2012 Alison

      I think it’s incredibly sweet of you to write to Isabelle, she will surely treasure your words!

  • April 15, 2012 Tonya

    Your P.S. is the best, but the rest is heartfelt, tender and so sweet, it is everything that we mothers wish for our children and I hope are learning form them too.

    Forgiveness is a good one. I hadn’t thought about that until now. There can be no grudges in parenthood.

    Beautiful.
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    • April 15, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Tonya. Forgiveness is the hardest thing for us mothers, the guilt is always overwhelming. And thank you.

  • April 16, 2012 Robin

    Your letters are so great. Always give me things to think about.
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    • April 16, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, dear friend.

  • This was the sweetest thing!! I should be doing this for my kids! I love this idea. Thanks for sharing that letter with everyone.
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    • April 18, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Holly! Glad you liked it.

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