I Wonder . . .

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I woke up at 5.30am this morning with two thoughts in my head:


No I don't look like this when I wake up at 5.30am. Picture only for illustrative purposes. Heh.

I really need to pee, but am I bothered to get up?

I wonder what happened to my Dutch penpal?

Yes, totally random. What, you don’t wake up thinking of people you haven’t thought about in 20 years?

Oh, just me. Ahem.

Anyway, I couldn’t get back to sleep (also, I really had to pee) and started thinking about a few people. And yes, I did think about Googling them or doing a search on Facebook (admit it, you do that too). Alas, I can’t remember their last names. Oopsie daisy.

So I’m wondering about…..

My Dutch penpal. I can’t remember exactly how we ‘met’ as this was the age before the Internet. I don’t remember either who wrote who first. I do remember we were both 14; she sent me pictures and I thought how awesome, black and white photos!; Β she had fat, curly handwriting, had a really interesting and different life from me; and that wow, I have a friend in the Netherlands!!

We wrote each other back and forth, probably averaging a letter a month. I don’t know how long we kept it up, but I had a rather large stash of her letters with the very pretty stamps on the envelopes, her fat, curly handwriting filling up most of the space.

Sadly, I don’t remember when we stopped writing each other or why.

So I wonder about her. This Dutch girl, Gwen, who briefly touched my life. Where are you now? Are you married with children? Are you flying high in the corporate world? Are you on Facebook? Hey maybe you have a blog???

My university housemate. Yes, we call them ‘housemates’, since we did not share rooms, just a house, in my final year of university, in the years 1997 to 1998. Caroline was Irish, with bouncy black curls, an ever ready smile, an infectious laugh and the loveliest accent. She was vegetarian, wore bellbottom jeans with flair, and had a Word Processor (remember those things?). She also inadvertently introduced me to Massive Attack, a band I would never have had the opportunity to appreciate, if Caroline hadn’t deleted her entire assignment off her Word Processor by accident, then had to give me her ticket to watch some “really cool band” called Massive Attack live, so she could redo her work (poor thing).

We also did fun stuff like grocery shop, clubbing, hang out in each other’s rooms and discuss boyfriends. I remember calling her from London after graduation as I had grand plans to visit her in Ireland. I don’t remember much of the conversation – just the first 2 minutes where we just giggled and laughed for no reason other than we were happy to hear from each other.

I miss you, Caroline.

My co-worker at the Chinese restaurant. I worked part-time as a waitress in England when I was in my second and final years at university. There was a nice young man there called Michael who worked as a waiter. He was probably around 30, good looking, newly married and drove a Citroen (funny, the details you remember). He was also kind, friendly and smart. I often wondered why he was waiting tables when he was clearly cut out for so much more, but I never dared ask.

He was also the person who told me, “You’re pretty now at 21, but wait til you turn 30. You’ll come into your own, be comfortable with who you are, and you’ll be a stunner.”

This man single handedly made me look forward to turning 30, and since then, I have had no fear of growing older.

Michael, I hope you have moved onto better things, and gone on to be the man you’re meant to be.

Do you ever wonder about the people who touched your life in some way but you can’t find them on Facebook, damnit?

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Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • April 19, 2012 Julie

    You are so beautiful. And slightly dorky. πŸ˜‰

    I had a BFF in 7th grade when I lived in New York. We wrote letters for awhile after I moved back to Texas but lost touch. I found her on FB a couple of years ago, and it was cool but weird.

    I also have ex boyfriends on FB. I KNOW RIGHT?! But it’s cool.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thank you Julie. I am VERY dorky πŸ™‚

      It’s awesome that you found your friend! And exes, yes, I have a few of those on FB too. Ahem.

  • April 19, 2012 tracy

    30 years from now when I’m in the nursing home I’ll be like “do you remember that sweet and gorgeous girl named Alison who had that amazing blog?”

    And then I’ll call you on my phone that is embedded in my head and be like “Whassup girlfriend” and then you’ll be like OMG I’ll beam right over and change your diaper.

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  • April 19, 2012 Elaine

    There’s a guy I dated in college right before I met Tim that I am SO curious about, just to know what he ended up doing. He was studying to be a doctor, so I wonder… Can’t find him on the ole FB.

    And man, I like Micheal. I want to be his friend on FB too! πŸ˜‰
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Would Tim mind knowing you’re seeking out an ex? πŸ™‚

      Yes I really wish I could find Michael. His very common name DOES NOT HELP! Also, I cannot for the life of me remember his last name. ARGH.

  • April 19, 2012 Carri

    I have two good friends from high school who haven’t been heard from in over ten years. Evan and Adam. I think about them a lot.

    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Do your other high school friends know where they are?

  • April 19, 2012 Laura

    I got on Facebook when I was in my second year of university, so I am connected to most people from that time of my life. Every once in a while I wonder what people from high school are up to, but normally they are high school people who I was never really friends with to begin with, and we usually have mutual friends so I am able to do some Facebook stalking :). I think my biggest curiosities have to do with my ex-boyfriends. πŸ™‚
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    • April 19, 2012 Laura

      Also, I was totally up at 5am last night myself and was unable to sleep. And now that it is bedtime again, despite how exhausted I am, I cannot sleep. What is with this?!
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      • April 19, 2012 Alison

        Oh my god, why are we torturing ourselves NOW?

    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Hee, publicly admitted Facebook stalking!! πŸ™‚ I have a few exes on my FB friend list. Ahem.

      • April 19, 2012 Laura

        πŸ™‚ I do too. But not all are there. What is weird is that my SISTER has more of my exes on FB than I do!
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        • April 19, 2012 Alison

          Yes, that IS weird!

  • April 19, 2012 christine

    Oh how I can relate to this. I totally wake up thinking of random people and wondering what they’re up to. And yes, I’ve googled. (Shhh…)
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Oh it’s good to not be alone in this!

  • April 19, 2012 Rach (DonutsMama)

    I do wonder about a lot of people. And like you, I can’t always remember their names. It’s nice that you remember these people and how they affected you. I’m sure they’re wondering about you too. And Michael? How sweet was that? We could all use a Michael!

    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Yes, Michael was a sweetheart. He looked out for me, like a big brother. I so wish I could find him! I wonder if he even remembers me πŸ™‚

  • April 19, 2012 Julia

    This is so sweet. And yes, random memories will remind me of people and my mind wanders to thoughts of them. I wonder. I hope they are well. And I remind myself to be thankful for the impact they had on my life, because I am one of those sappy people who really believes everyone comes into our lives for a reason.
    Love this post.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Oh I so wish them well. Part of my urge to find them is to assure myself that they ARE well and thriving and happy.

  • April 19, 2012 jackie

    Yes, there are two people I wonder about. I know they’re on Facebook, but I don’t dare send a friend request because it’s been over 10 years since we’ve spoken. I’m also hesitant because I’ve run into them a few times, and it’s always just a hi and bye thing. That sucks because they were really close friends but we grew apart after high school.

    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Oh it does suck when you’ve grown apart. πŸ™

  • April 19, 2012 Lizbeth

    That is so weird—I was out visiting my sister who is doing some work in Oregon, I sooo don’t live anywhere near Oregon. We went for a weekend trip to visit the coast and while we were on a random beach I hear a familiar voice call out to me. Turns out it was an old boyfriend from ages (ages, ages, ages) ago.

    Totally random, I never looked for him on Facebook and by his wife’s reaction we won’t be FB friends any time soon!!!
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Wow, that IS amazing! At least you don’t have to wonder about him πŸ™‚

  • April 19, 2012 Leah

    I love it! My mom made sure I had a few penpals when I was growing up. I remember I had one in Russia and maybe France. The best pen pal I ever had, I’m still in touch with and she even flew from San Francisco to Virginia for my wedding. She is Canadian and we wrote letters (yes, real letters) chatting about ballet lessons, General Hospital and boys! We got to meet for the first time at age 24 in San Diego (I lived there, she was there for business) and she fly to my wedding 6 years later. What a great experience and yes, I do wake up with random thoughts of people I once knew. πŸ™‚

    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      That’s amazing and awesome that you remained friends with a penpal!!

  • April 19, 2012 jlweinberg/jen

    A, I think about people from my past all the time. I can’t forget people! The other day I was thinking about the little girl I was friends with in Pennsylvania, the one I spent an afternoon chopping my bangs off with. And her long gorgeous hair–CHOP. Anyhow, I think about her and lots of others. Wouldn’t it be interesting if you make some connections via this blog post?
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      It would be totally interesting! But it’s such a big, big, BIG world out there – the chances are tiny that we’ll find one another. Especially when I cannot remember their last names!!

      And your friend with chopped hair – go find her!

  • April 19, 2012 AnnMarie

    It’s funny that I happened upon this post. Love your blog so not so much happened as looked for. My mind always plays the game: Remember so and so and the impact he/she had on my life. There was my 2nd grade “boyfriend” who I was convinced I was going to marry. There was the boy that finally asked me out after flirting for a year only for me to have to turn him down because it was two days after Leo and I decided not to see other people. My college roommates that at one time we were close enough for me to stand up in their weddings but haven’t talked in 20 years.

    What a sweetheart Michael was!
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      I’m finding myself thinking more and more of people I’ve not seen/ heard from for a long time. I wonder if it’s the pregnancy hormones?

      And yes, Michael was a dear.

  • April 19, 2012 Emily

    Yes! I have people I wonder about all the time! Usually though, like you said, I cannot remember their last names and sometimes how they spelled their first. There was one from my past, elementary school…my very best, soul mate type friend, you know the kind when you’re young and awkward but you can catch frogs and share secrets with unabashed? He was my best friend. Well I found him years ago and he’s my husband now πŸ™‚

    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Aw, that’s incredibly sweet!! I love happy endings πŸ™‚

  • April 19, 2012 Kimberly

    I often think about those people who used to be a part of my life. I admit to even looking them up on Facebook (yes, exes too). It’s weird. The thoughts of them will hit me at the most random times too.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Exes are the most fun to stalk. Er, I mean, look up.

  • April 19, 2012 RoryBore

    I love this about you!
    I don’t feel so alone.
    thanks πŸ™‚

    I would love to see my university housemates again. best times ever.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Yes! I had great memories with Caroline and our other housemate, Suzanne. Whom I wonder about too. πŸ™‚

  • April 19, 2012 Tonya

    What a great post.

    I do have several old friends/colleagues/exes that I can’t find on Facebook and I wonder about them from time to time. I have gone as far as Googling them to no avail.

    I thought EVERYONE was on Facebook.

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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Right???? How can they NOT be on Facebook???

  • April 19, 2012 Stasha

    I planned an early night but now feel an overwhelming need to find my first three husbands on FB. Just kidding. I will go to bed. Lovely post Alison and what a smashing guy this Michael sounds.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Haha, silly goose. Michael was lovely.

  • There are SO MANY people like that that I wonder about often. I run into the same problem. Either I can’t remember their last name, or it’s a woman who likely has changed her name. I have tried searching for several of them. A few, I have found. But most I am still left wondering about.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      So far, I’ve found many 20% of the people I wonder about. These 3? I. Cannot. Find. Them. Argh.

  • April 19, 2012 Mirjam

    I do that all the time.
    I like what your coworker at the restaurant said. Such a wonderful thing to say to a young woman!
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Right? And he totally was not hitting on me. He was so sincere.

  • April 19, 2012 Erin

    I often wonder about people from my past too! It’s so hard not to. Especially since some people you spend so much time interacting with. It’s like they become a part of you. They defiantly effect the way you think and the things you do at the time and maybe for the rest of your life. I love reconnecting on Facebook. It’s so nice to get a friend request from someone you haven’t seen or thought of in a while.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      It is nice!! I wish one or all of these 3 people wake up one morning, think of me and look me up πŸ™‚

  • There are many people I wonder about, but the one I most often wonder about is a summer romance of mine: he was french, handsome and a marine (*swoon*). Why? For the very simple reason that he was the first man that I really fell in love with.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Aw sweet! Have you ever tried looking him up?

  • April 19, 2012 angela

    There are definitely people I think about that aren’t on Facebook! It’s crazy how there are people I would LOVE to be in touch with that I’m not, and then others I never thought I’d stay in touch with that I am. Life is funny, sometimes.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Life IS funny! After I wrote this post, I went on Facebook and started looking. And found someone I’d not thought about for a while, and was so happy to see her on FB. AND I’ve sent her a friend request. Eek!

  • April 19, 2012 Kir

    yes, I think of LOTS of people and wonder where they are and what they are doing now. I have tried to find at least 2 of them (old old friends and one penpal too!!) but I can’t. They are hiding in the world πŸ™‚

    Loved this post and that first picture of you is adorable. ADORABLE!!!

    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Yes, hiding!! In this too-huge world, booo πŸ™

      And thank you. I was in a goofy mood that day hehe.

  • April 19, 2012 Natalie

    I think being pregnant makes our brain think of crazy things…I was thinking this morning about being in the top ten in high school and graduating 2nd in my senior class…I was trying to remember who all was in the top ten LOL. Why in the world was I thinking about this? I probably would have gotten up and looked at a yearbook had the yearbooks not been in sleeping Nolan’s closet πŸ™‚
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Haha, yeah pregnancy does crazy things to us! Have you had vivid strange dreams? I have, night after night after night…..

  • April 19, 2012 Jessica

    WOW Alison, I love this post, too (does it get old hearing that from me all the time?). I may have to link it and write about the people I wonder about from the past…And also totally please friend me on FB – I will send you a message with my full name.

    Random; but I had a huge flashback with the word processor portion of this piece. I also had a friend with a processor, but I’m the one who had to retype my excellent paper and miss something fun. It still gives me pangs. Stupid word processors.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      I never get tired of people telling me they love my posts πŸ™‚ And yes, let’s be FB FRIENDS!!! I would love to read about people you wonder about, write it!

      OMG yes, word processors. I never owned one, but my housemate used to complain about hers all the time!!

  • April 19, 2012 Kristin

    I wake up in the morning thinking about the most random things. And usually with a lot of unwritten blog posts running through my head. Morning is when I tend to do my best creative thinking. If only I had the time then to actually sit down and put pen to paper (or fingers to keys). ::Sigh::

    But I do think about long-lost people from my life on occasion. Usually a couple of ex-boyfriends who still aren’t on FB (it’s so frustrating when you can’t stalk your exes).

    But mostly I wonder what happened to Tim. He was a guy – not really a “friend,” but not a boyfriend either. He was six years older than me, which doesn’t seem so old now, but was MUCH older when I was 16 and he was 21, which were our respective ages when we kissed on my parents’ couch while watching SNL one night (Susan Lucci was hosting, I remember). To think – he could be on Dateline’s “To Catch a predator” with Chris Hansen for that now.

    He was a counselor at the summer camp I attended and ended up becoming a close family friend. But he always had a lot of girl drama, which caused a lot of angst for me because I had such a teenage girl crush on him. Then I grew up and sort of got sick of his drama and we had a huge falling out when I was 25, during which he told me I was “ice cold,” and I’ve never spoken to him again.

    I heard a few years ago through a mutual friend that he’d gotten married and had two kids. I tried to e-mail him using the address our acquaintance gave me, but never heard anything back. So, I still wonder whatever happened to Tim.

    P.S. I like your palm trees. πŸ™‚
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Oh Tim, tell Kristin how you are already!!!!

      Those trees look like they’re growing out the back of my head, right?

  • April 19, 2012 Lance

    I was writing last night and decided to take a break. Did I have a late night snack or go snuggle with my wife or catch a latenight sportscenter. No. I cleaned up my twitter and facebook friends/followers list. so I share your online dorkiness.

    There were several people I used to talk to a year or so ago, before I changed my blog into the writer’s den it is now. I wondered about them but stopped short of online stalking. then again, I was tired.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      I haven’t diligently online stalked. Though I confess after writing this post, I spent 15 minutes on Facebook trying to find them. To no avail. NOW, I’m tired πŸ™‚

  • April 19, 2012 Amber

    Thanks for this post. It makes me feel more normal and less “stalker-y” when I start to furiously google/facebook search when someone pops into my mind.

    Usually it is someone from my school days. But I’ll admit, there has been an ex or two in there. Total curiosity about how their lives turned out.
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    • April 19, 2012 Alison

      Exes are the most intriguing, aren’t they? πŸ™‚

  • April 19, 2012 molly

    Oh, I always wake up thinking crazy random thoughts. Probably because of my crazy random dreams! Yesterday I woke up thinking about leggings and how many I actually have. See? I’m crazy.
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Haha!! That’s hilarious. Did you go check to see how many?

  • April 19, 2012 Jessica

    This is going to sound bad but the only person from my past I really think about is this one girl I used to work with who was my friend and I mostly think about her because she my very expensive cd collection that contains a lot of rare cds. Yes, I want them back.
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Haha! I was just thinking about this friend the other day – who borrowed an Anthony Bourdain book, which was signed by Anthony Bourdain. And I never got it back. Hmph.

  • April 20, 2012 Christine

    Wow. Now I am totally thinking about my french penpal. I think her name was Valerie. My son wrote to a young girl in Kenya this year. I wonder if that will continue.
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      You must encourage him to continue! Did you try looking Valerie up? Or are you like me, forgetting her last name making her practically impossible to find?

  • April 20, 2012 julie gardner

    You mentioned girlfriends from the past, which I’ve done.

    But I’ve also looked up pretty much all my old boyfriends (shhhh).

    Too bad none of them are on Facebook. Maybe they’re afraid I’ll find them??! Ha!
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Hah!! Yes, they probably did not want you to know how much their lives sucked post-Julie. πŸ˜‰

  • April 20, 2012 Jessica

    Yes, yes I do wonder! I have found quite a few old friends through Facebook, but there are many others whose names I can’t exactly remember that I wonder about often. And I wonder if they think of me, too.
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      I bet they are!

  • April 20, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    I think about things/people like this too. It’s funny what impacts we have on other people’s lives.
    This was a really sweet post, Alison πŸ™‚
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Jen. xo

  • April 20, 2012 Elizabeth

    I do the same thing…think of random people from the past at random times!
    But Girl, 5:30 a.m.?! You need to stop that and get all the sleep you can before that baby gets here! =)
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Oh I want to sleep as much as possible! But the ol’ bladder is out of control, I wake up once or twice just to go to the bathroom. Sigh.

  • April 20, 2012 Christie

    OMG! I wonder about this stuff all of the time. I have a friend who claims that she never wonders what old boyfriends or old friends are up to and I just don’t get it. I’m way too curious.

    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Your friend? She lies. πŸ™‚

  • April 20, 2012 Lady Jennie

    These sound like such cool people! I have a few like that, mostly in other countries that I think about sometimes.
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Oh I imagine you must have met so many people in your adventures!!

  • April 20, 2012 Carolyn

    I often have a “where are they now” scenario in my head.
    And it was funny to see the term housemates, we used it too.
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Right? It makes sense to say ‘housemates’ when we share a house, as opposed to ‘roommates’!

  • April 20, 2012 Galit Breen

    Oh how I love this, Alison!

    Those pieces to our puzzles.

    (I bet they’re wondering about you, too!)

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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      I love the way you described it – pieces of our puzzle! Indeed it is. I do wonder if they wonder about me πŸ™‚

  • April 20, 2012 Janice

    Hey I sometimes wonder about people too, but like you, I have that problem of forgetting their last names… heh. And housemates? Really? I’ve never really heard of that. Is that maybe just in England? I had a roommate in my dorm in College. She was Korean. I wonder what happened to her?
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      We say housemates in Malaysia too – so many England and all its colonies πŸ™‚

      Did you try stalking, er, I mean searching for the Korean girl?

  • April 20, 2012 My Inner Chick

    –I like how you think, Mama A.
    I think about stuff like that sometimes…and I have found some of those people on Facebook, acually.

    Did you ever get up to Pee? Don’t you wish hubs could do it for ya?

    I LOVE the preg. photo of you on your page.

    You. Make. Pregnant. Look. Sexy!!! <3 Xx
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      I did get up to pee AND had a long hot shower (such a luxury!). And thank you, pregnancy IS sexy πŸ˜‰

      It’s fabulous that you did find people on Facebook!

  • April 20, 2012 Ann

    What a great post! I often think of a lovely girl I knew in New Mexico. We moved at the same time – me to the Philippines and her to Alabama. We wrote each other for about a year – in 10 year old writing that changed every week. I always wondered….
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Did you ever try looking her up?

  • April 20, 2012 @sherib0bbins

    Funny, just this afternoon I was thinking of contacting someone who I grew very close to in the early 2000’s and haven’t spoken to in a few years. These people come into our lives at just the right moment for one reason or another.

    I love the way that works.

    πŸ™‚ Great post
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Yes, they do!! I really want to find Caroline and Michael. Sigh.

  • April 20, 2012 Leigh Ann

    I usually wonder if they’re dead. I mean who in our generation isn’t on Facebook?
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Hah! That’s morbid! I’m pretty sure they’re on Facebook, but I cannot for the life of me, remember their last names. Which makes it very, very difficult. Sigh.

  • April 20, 2012 Kimberly

    On our honeymoon we met 3 couples. Every night at the same time “Mai Tai Time” at the bar (they served free Mai Tai for an hour and well we are alcoholics apparently) we’d all pull up in the same spot. We started talking and ending up going for dinner after we were obliterated.
    We kept up with one couple but we lost track of the others.
    So we (and the other couple) have been trying to hunt the rest of them down.
    We actually have planned to go back to Hawaii for our ten year anniversaries πŸ˜‰

    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      That would be awesome!! Where were they all from?

  • April 20, 2012 Jamie

    All the time and usually when a song comes on that reminds me of them. it’s fun to get lost in a memory with them!
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      It is!!

  • April 20, 2012 Natalie

    Yep. All the time. If only they’d get on Facebook, right?
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      They probably are – my stalker skills are just not up to par especially when I don’t remember their last names!

  • Yes! Like little “thoughtlets” (yes,I do make up words) that float through my head.

    What a great idea for a post!
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      I love that word, thoughtlets!!!

  • April 20, 2012 Sandra's Easy Cooking

    Great post…and now you got me thinking about my penpals, and people that I haven’t think about for years and years…facebook here I come!:))
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      Go forth and stalk! πŸ™‚

  • April 20, 2012 Ben

    All the time. There was a friend of mine – one of my closest friends in High School, who went through a rough patch figuring out his own identity and has entirely disappeared. Nobody knows where he is, we’ve all tried to find him. I’ll always wonder.
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    • April 20, 2012 Alison

      It’s hard isn’t it, just not knowing. Sigh.

  • April 20, 2012 Katie

    This is such a great post! And now you have ME wondering!

    Whatever happened to that guy I dated in high school who is not on fb(I mean WHO is NOT on fb?)

    Whatever happened to the dudes I lived with in college and why do I never talk to them anymore?

    And whatever happened to the guy that was ALWAYS throwing HUGE house parties in college that ALWAYS let me know about them because he figured he would have a good turn out if I knew about it? (is that a compliment on my networking skills or an insult that I am a blabber mouth? hmmmm.)
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    • April 21, 2012 Alison

      Hah! Did you go and stalk people after reading this?

      Yes, WHO IS NOT ON FB? The people we can’t find obviously. Gah.

      And it’s a compliment. It’s your networking skills clearly.

  • April 21, 2012 Mrs. Weber

    First, I love that photo of you – gorgeous!

    Second, I wonder about people all the time. There’s one guy I played with when I was little. We reconnected about 6 years ago and he was in the military and headed to Iraq. I haven’t heard from him since. Tried Facebooking him and Google stalking to no avail. I think about him every so often and say a little prayer he returned safely.

    Great post to spawn some thinking πŸ™‚
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    • April 21, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Lauren!! That’s an old photo, pre-children days πŸ™‚

      I’m sorry you lost track of your friend – I hope he’s safe too.

  • April 21, 2012 Kelley

    I think about people in my past a lot, especially when I hear a certain song on the radio. I love that you can find a lot of people on Facebook. Great post!
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    • April 21, 2012 Alison

      You can, definitely! It’s just a shame I can’t find these 3 people.

  • April 21, 2012 Nikky44

    I never had a pen pal, but it feels so nice now to have online friends from all over the world!
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    • April 21, 2012 Alison

      It is truly nice πŸ™‚

  • April 21, 2012 Adrienne

    Yes! I wonder about people all the time! I just typed this ridiculously long comment about a guy I knew through an old job. But, somehow I deleted it and I’m too ADD to type it all over again. But, the bottom line? I do think about people all the time. I have tried to FB some of them, but to no success. Great post!

    As always, you’re adorable! I could never pull off this short hair. I wish I could.
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    • April 21, 2012 Alison

      What would we do if we couldn’t Facebook stalk people, right??

      And thank you, short hair suits me much better πŸ™‚

  • April 21, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    I have no idea what a word processor is…like a typewriter?
    I’m so serious…
    and I recently FB stalked some old sorority sisters…ha!
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    • April 21, 2012 Alison

      Hah! I think I just showed my age. A Word Processor is like a pre-computer computer. No one uses it now. Ever.

      Did you friend request those sorority sisters?

  • April 21, 2012 Leslie

    Truly random thoughts…but so interesting too! I often think about the girl that was my best friend at the ages of 4 and 5. She sent me a few letters later after I moved to the East Coast, but I have no idea what happened to her since then.
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    • April 21, 2012 Alison

      You should go look her up!

  • April 22, 2012 Ameena

    I just read your comment about the sarcasm and eye rolls on Lady Jennie’s site and I had to come by. I absolutely excel at those same things! Love it.

    I visited Malaysia last year and I loved it too! So beautiful…the golden triangle will always hold a special place in my heart. πŸ™‚

    • April 22, 2012 Alison

      Ameena, you couldn’t have chosen a better place to shop than the Golden Triangle πŸ™‚ I hope you made it to some of the islands around here!

      Thanks for coming by!

  • April 22, 2012 Sarah

    HI! Stopping in from the SITS girls Saturday Sharefest. YES I often wonder about past friends etc. I have found some on Facebook but never have the guts to friend them…weird huh?sp
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    • April 22, 2012 Alison

      I have found some people on Facebook I have not tried to friend request either! Mostly I’m unsure they even remember me πŸ™‚ Thanks for stopping by Sarah!

  • April 22, 2012 Jill

    Aww, you’ve made me remember a penal I had…I think she lived in Germany…what was her name??? She actually came and visited with me in Canada. I think we got along better on paper. I also used to correspond with a girl in Africa. I’d send her pens & pencils, etc, and she’d send me drawings. Great memories, thanks!
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  • April 22, 2012 Ashley

    This was such a great post! I love trying to find people I’ve lost touch with. Facebook is such a wonderful tool for stalking. (In the nice way that bloggers understand…just in case you’re reading this, Big Brother.) I always end up giving myself a heart attack, though, in that split second when you think you’ve accidentally hit “add friend” when you really just want to see what his new wife looks like. Ahhhh…livin’ on the edge. haha
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    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      Haha!! I’m very careful about hitting buttons on FB πŸ™‚ Thanks for coming by, Ashley!

  • April 22, 2012 thedoseofreality

    What a great post idea. I may totally steal it and do it at some point on my own blog (will link to you for full credit, of course!). I think we all do this from time to time, so it was interesting to read about your people! πŸ™‚ Stopping by SITS.
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    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I would love to read your post on people you wonder about! Thanks for stopping by!

  • April 22, 2012 Kathy V.

    I often wonder what happened to people I haven’t heard from in a long time — friends from childhood whose last names I don’t remember, a Russian girl my family hosted one summer … people who, for whatever reason, I can’t track down even in this age of social media. Thanks for making me think of all that — I may have to do some Facebook hunting now! Found you on SITS and I’m glad I did!
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    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I hope you have better luck than me hunting, er, I mean looking for these people! πŸ™‚ Thanks for stopping by Kathy.

  • April 23, 2012 Alex

    Well now you’ve made me think about my penpal from Egypt that I met during my first trip to Disney at age 10/11. And what stinks I can’t even remember her name!

    I think often about random people from the past that I’d love to see what they’re up to but can’t find them on FB. Like the boy I was in love with in 3rd grade who’s favorite color was purple & like mac & cheese. But sadly I can’t find him on FB. Don’t these people know FB is a mandatory thing?!

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I know, who ISN’T on Facebook, right??

  • April 23, 2012 AimeeWrites

    This is a lovely post! I wonder about those people from my past quite regularly. Robin, from elementary school…Yuki, a Japanese penpal met through a penpal service…where are they? You may have inspired a new post for me – thank you!
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    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      You’re welcome πŸ™‚ Hope you manage to seek out those long lost friends!

  • April 23, 2012 Mama Hear Me Roar

    You make me want to spend a couple of hours on facebook now! I do wonder about some old friends I haven’t found yet on facebook, but I spend so little time there now these days. 3 little ones, housework and part-time work swamping me! I don’t know how you fantastic mommmy-bloggers do it! Tips, please!
    Mama Hear Me Roar recently wrote…A non-stop dayMy Profile

    • April 23, 2012 Alison

      I don’t know how YOU do it all!!! Facebook stalking only takes a few minutes, I promise πŸ™‚

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