So Far

In 8 weeks or so, I will be the mother of two.

<pause for a deep breath>

I haven’t written here much about this pregnancy, nor shared any ultrasounds or belly pictures (you’ll have to like my Facebook page for my weekly belly updates!). I haven’t been obsessively recording my weekly weight gain or belly circumference (what, didn’t you the first time round?), or talking and singing to my unborn child.

It’s pretty hard to write down weight gain when you have bleeding, all-day nausea and fatigue in the first trimester.

It’s also pretty difficult to stay calm and zen when you don’t gain weight for 10 weeks in the second trimester.

It’s incredibly difficult to focus when you’ve been too busy fighting off monthly colds and coughs, two bouts of the stomach bug; looking after a toddler who was challenging us with sleep regression, being picky with food, clinginess; nursing him through the same coughs, colds and stomach bug I had, and growing up way too fast with his expanding vocabulary, talkativeness, increasing physical abilities; and of course, just general motherhood mayhem.

It’s been a helluva 7 months ….. and I wouldn’t change a thing (except for wishing we didn’t get the stomach bugs – those were nasty).

This pregnancy has been hard.



It’s been nerve wrecking.

Filled with doubt as to whether I could do this, be responsible for TWO human beings.

I refuse to complain though. Because I know I’m truly blessed to be able to have another baby, when so many are struggling.

As it’s also been joyful.


There is nothing quite like hearing the baby’s heartbeat on the ultrasound.

Or to see that blob on the screen move, and the doctor tell me that the baby is growing “just fine”.

I will never get sick of feeling him move, kick and stretch as he grows week by week.

And it’s nothing short of amazing, to see your baby’s face, thanks to 3D technology.

The baby who looks remarkably like his big brother when he was a baby.

Each day that goes by is a day closer to meeting my little boy.

I’m scared.

I also can’t wait.

First pictures of Scrumplet will probably be on my Facebook page, as I’m pretty sure I won’t have time to blog. So like my page now! Or in May. Whenever. No pressure. πŸ™‚

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).

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  • March 12, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    you’ll be fantastic! 2 kids is easy peasy…one for each hand…
    but sorry about the not fantastic pregnancy…almost done babe, hang in there…not that you have a choice…
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Hanging on in there, Holly!! I’m in awe of you moms with 4 kids πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    You have been through a LOT these past 7 months. I hope these next 8 weeks fly by for you.
    Also? You’ll rock as a mom with two kids πŸ™‚
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      I sure hope so Jen!! On both counts πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 Susi

    Good thing I already like your FB page. Love seeing the weekly belly shots. Can’t wait to see baby pics… I adore looking at baby pics. Hope the rest of your pregnancy is a little calmer and more relaxing!!! And I’m sure you’ll do just fine with two, somehow or other it all falls into place. πŸ™‚
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Susi! I’ve been feeling good for 3 weeks so let’s hope that remains the same for the next few weeks. As for 2 kids, I think I’ll be okay. I think. πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 Melanie

    You’ll be great with 2. It will be scary at first, but then you’ll find your routine and it will work.

    Wishing you a smooth eight weeks!
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      I sure hope so Melanie, my sanity depends on it πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 Robin

    I was just thinking about you today and wondering how this pregnancy has been. You seem to fly along, so I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had some rough stuff. But sort of glad you’re normal too. πŸ˜‰

    I have absolutely no doubt that you will be an amazing mom of two. Not that you won’t have challenges, just that you’ll be able to handle them. With help if you need it. xo
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      I’m totally normal! πŸ™‚ I love and don’t love being pregnant, if you know what I mean. And thank you, I think I should be able to do this. With help. Definitely with help.

  • March 12, 2012 RoryBore

    funny that I also found the 2nd pregnancy more difficult than the #3. and with #3 I was on bed rest..with 2 already underfoot, and actually hospitalized for 5 1/2 weeks! But with our 2nd, we decided to renovate our house. because nausea with good clean air is for wimps…I had to add drywall dust and stucco raining down on me daily. duh.
    but it had to be done – it was worth it in the end, but holy crap…. no wonder I didn’t mind the best rest next time around! LOL
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      We moved house in my first trimester! Why do we do this to ourselves?

  • March 12, 2012 Kimberly

    I’ll like yours if you like mine πŸ™‚
    I love you anyways.
    Every pregnancy is different…duh you know…and every woman wants to share it in different ways.
    Me? I was that woman who loved every single minute of it. I took pictures…the whole shebang. Mostly because I was afraid my back wouldn’t be able to handle another one…now it’s my mind…meh.
    Love you xoxo you’re going to do just fine. I know you will.
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks sweetie. I know I will be okay. Because I have you lot rallying around me. Love you too.

  • March 12, 2012 Greta

    Watching your oldest become GIGANTIC that second your newest is born is unreal. You’ll love it so much, even when it’s hard. Or at least, when you look back after you’ve gotten a little sleep. πŸ™‚ I’m sorry this pregnancy has been so hard. It’s almost over!

    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Yes it is! The final few weeks always seem to go by so slowly, doesn’t it?

  • March 12, 2012 Tonya

    Hope the next eight weeks and beyond go swimmingly!

    Can’t wait to see picture and read all about your new addition.

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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Tonya! (for liking my FB page too)

  • March 12, 2012 Kimberly

    You sure have had a rough few months! I can’t believe you are so close to the end of it now. Where has the time gone??

    You’re going to be an amazing mother to 2. It will be different, and hectic, but so worth it.
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      I did and thank you for bearing with me for the past half year πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 Life As Wife

    I’m thinking of you and the scrumplet! Keep on keeping on!!
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Sam!

  • March 12, 2012 angela

    Two arms, two kids…it’s that easy πŸ™‚ (and some days it is just that easy!)

    I can’t wait to see him!
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      I hope it’s as easy as you say πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 Jessica

    You will do great as a mom of two.
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      I hope so!

  • March 12, 2012 nikky44

    That is so beautiful because you reminded me of my three pregnancies. None of them was an easy one, and I had so many problems, I got angry, upset, sad, but now I thank God everyday because I made it and my three children are fine. You can make it too . Much love <3
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Nikky!

  • March 12, 2012 JDaniel4's Mom

    Your way of looking at the miracle that babies are is wonderful.
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Deirdre!

  • Love your positive outlook, as always πŸ™‚

    And for the record, I have no doubt at all that you will be a fabulous mother to two…because you get what’s important!
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks Kimberly, for your vote of confidence!

  • March 12, 2012 Elizabeth

    I can totally relate! During my second pregnancy I was sick the entire time and it made it so hard to emotionally and physically prepare for our second baby girl.
    But eventually she arrived…and even though I hadn’t organized as much I wanted…or had gotten to nest like I wanted, I was overjoyed when the doctor placed her in my arms. And somehow our new little family of four just worked! As I’m sure yours will too! =) Hope the remainder of your pregnancy is filled with less sickness and complication!
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Elizabeth! It has been tough, but knowing the baby is well and growing brings me great comfort.

      I haven’t done any organization at all. Ahem.

  • March 12, 2012 Lola

    You are going to be an amazing mommy of two boys. Then you need to start cracking on number three so we can be in the “Three Boys Club” together. It’s very exclusive, but I have your members jacket waiting.
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      Hah! Thanks Lola, keep that jacket handy. Though I might be two and through, but who knows?

  • March 12, 2012 Mark

    Before you know it, you’ll be yelling telling them to stop wrestling inside the house.
    When’s the due date?
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      I know I will definitely be yelling, “Boys, stop it!” before I know it.

      I’m due May 9!!

  • March 12, 2012 Mirjam

    You are absolutely amazing. Really. My first pregnancy was terrible, my second third horrible. (Yes, I know, why do it three times?!)
    Anyway, I still complain about my pregnancy’s! As soon as someone says the word, I sit up straight and start another round of complaints.
    You haven’t complained, not
    Sending you hugs and chocolate. Hang in there!
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    • March 12, 2012 Alison

      This post is sorta my little complaint. And I rant privately to my sister πŸ™‚ But I am so grateful to be blessed with this child, how could I possibly complain of temporary, minor aches and pains, coughs and colds, when so many simply just want to get pregnant? I spend my time counting my blessings instead. And eating chocolate πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 francerants

    Oh honey, I am sorry it has been a tough go the second time around. Sometimes it just works out that way.

    Those little babies sure know how to reek havoc on a momma.

    8 weeks away, it will go by in a flash. Enjoy as much as you can, while you can.

    xoxo – France
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      I’ve not been sick for 3 weeks so that’s a win!!! I can take the aches and pains πŸ™‚

  • March 12, 2012 Ado

    I didn’t know you had the bleeding in the 1st tri and were worried about so many pregnancy-related things my friend. 8 weeks to go! I wish I could say something that might help you to not worry so much about transitioning from being the mother of 1 to 2, but I can’t so I won’t! I hope you have plenty of love around you and plenty of people to help you out by taking Monkey off to the park at the last minute when you and #2 suddenly need P&Q and a rest. Do you have a bunch of eager family members near where you live?
    PS: Totally off-topic but my husband is flirting with the idea of taking an assignment in Shanghai (I know, don’t even get me started…) but the good part of it is if we do go I could probably zip over to see you! And Fi will probably be old enough to babysit! (-:
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      I totally have my in laws to help out, for which I’m grateful, so I know I’ll be okay.

      And Shanghai, woohoo!!

  • March 12, 2012 Lady Jennie

    I rejoice with you – truly. I can’t wait to “meet” the little guy. πŸ™‚ Share all you want. It is such a miracle, even the second, the third, the fourth time around.

    Lots of love.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Jennie. Truly. Especially after what you’ve been through, your generous spirit shines here. So, thank you.

  • March 13, 2012 Theresa

    Man, I remember feeling this way. I lost 15 pounds in my first trimester with my second one. There is something about REALLY knowing what us growing inside you that ups the ante a little. I was terrified.
    Hope these last few weeks are boring and uneventful…
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Oh, me too!!

  • March 13, 2012 ML

    I’m so excited for you. There is truly nothing like seeing your first child embrace your second!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      I can’t wait!

  • March 13, 2012 Katie E

    It’s all so exciting! I found my second and third pregnancies to be much harder physically, mostly because I still had to take care of the other kids, rather than sitting around taking care of my pregnant self and sleeping. I can’t believe you’re down to the last few weeks now – it will be here before you know it. And you can do it – seriously, I swear that being a mother of two is easier than being a mother of one, especially when they’re close enough in age to be able to play together once you get past the first year.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Yes, I do think it’s because I don’t really have time to look after myself, that this feels harder. The first year of #2’s life will be challenging I’m sure, but I kinda know what to do now. πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Natalie

    I can’t wait to meet your baby boy #2 too! I’m just as scared of you…but you are right nothing like hearing that heartbeat or feeling the baby kick!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      You’ll do great, Natalie!

  • March 13, 2012 Kelley

    It is a nerve-wracking time, but so beautiful, too. I loved, loved the feeling of my sweet baby in my “tummy”. I wish you the best!!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much Kelley!

  • March 13, 2012 Jessica

    You’re almost there! I’m so excited to “meet” Scrumplet, too! Trust me when I say that you’ll panic at first, but things will get easy and you’ll love your new life more than your old one! Trust me when I say that you can and will do this, beautifully.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for the reassurance, Jessica. It’s really helpful, and I mean it. πŸ™‚

  • I totally understand the mixed bag of emotions. A rough pregnancy really takes you for a ride, and it’s so frustrating….but the payout is, of course, worth it in the end. =)

    So excited for you!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Liz! Reading your hilarious posts every week has helped this pregnancy move along quicker. And I totally mean it.

  • March 13, 2012 christine

    I hope the rest of your pregnancy is a breeze. Two was an adjustment for me, but well, WELL worth it. You’ll be great!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      So worth it, I know. I can’t wait!

  • March 13, 2012 Suniverse

    Sorry you’ve had so much unfun to deal with, but how exciting that soon you’ll have two little ones!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Unfun – I like that word!!! I know, TWO. Ack!

  • March 13, 2012 julie gardner

    Why do people say women are pregnant for nine months anyway? In my book, 40 weeks is TEN FREAKING MONTHS.

    So I’m wishing you well on your last eight weeks…

    I distinctly remember feeling a small piece of relief when my OB said that at 32 weeks, the baby would most likely be just fine if born early.

    Not that we’d want it to come; but that I’d already done enough “baking” for a good outcome to be likely.

    So take deep breaths. Sleep when you can. And eat whatever damn food your body is craving.

    You’ll get there. Soon enough…
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      I am absolutely eating what I want. It’s awesome.

      And yes, it is 10 FREAKING MONTHS.

      I’m sort of done baking this child. Sort of. I will rely on your writing, Julie, to get me through these next 8 weeks.

      No pressure. πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Susan

    It is scary Alison but you will do great!
    I didn’t realize you were so ill in the first trimester. That is rough. Glad to hear that passed…it didn’t for me but thankfully diclectin is available here and really helped with that.
    Soon! So exciting.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Ill was my default condition the first 6 1/2 months of this pregnancy. But I was just so grateful to BE pregnant, I didn’t feel that I could complain.

      And yes, soon!!!

  • March 13, 2012 Jackie

    Those feelings before baby 2 come are so overwhelming. All those questions, those fears, seem to take over the conscious. However, when he’s here you’ll forget all that. It will just work.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      I sure hope so Jackie. πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Twisted Domestic Goddess

    I remember going from one to two kids I WAS TERRIFIED!!! I pormise you though it all works out. It will be easier as soon as you find a rythm that works for you and those beautiful babies.

    I’m so excited for you and your family!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you!! Making it work is my mission. πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Leslie

    Boy do I hear you on second pregnancies being more difficult! Here’s hoping that everything goes well for the next 8 weeks!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Leslie!

  • March 13, 2012 My Inner Chick

    –I am exited for you Mama A.

    You are an incredible mother.

    Blessings coming your way right this moment ))))) X
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for the love and blessings, Kim!

  • March 13, 2012 Missy

    I can’t believe how close it’s getting. Sorry it hasn’t been super easy for you. not much longer now.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Yes, it’s close. Ack!

  • March 13, 2012 Laura

    I have been thinking about writing something like this for a few days now myself. As the pregnancy nears the end, it is certainly getting harder again. Sleep is nearly impossible. My stretched skin has reached its breaking point and is literally cracking and burning despite having been stretched with one pregnancy already. And yet I KNOW how many people would give so much to be in this position – to be sitting in bed typing on a laptop while seeing their belly wiggle and dance in front of them. The joy and the blessing of this pregnancy doesn’t mean it isn’t hard. It doesn’t mean that the thought of parenting two isn’t scary. It doesn’t mean that all of what you and I are feeling isn’t valid.

    Don’t feel guilty. Motherhood – pregnancy is hard. It is allowed to be. It is what gives us stories to share and reasons to connect!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Laura. You articulated my feelings exactly. I love being able to share this experience with soon-to-moms-of-two like you!

  • March 13, 2012 Leighann

    I am right here nervous with you!
    (although i’m not the one carrying the baby or having to take care of both children when you go home)
    I have these concerns too when we think about having another… will I be able to take care of TWO children? My toddler is already a handful!!
    I think you are going to do just great Alison! You are a fantastic mother and have so much love to give!

    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      I hear going from one to two, is easier than none to one!! So I’m holding onto that as my truth. And thank you!

  • I had the exact same feelings when I was pregnant with nΒ°2, joy combined with ‘SHIIIIIIIIIT, there is goin to be two of them’. Just breathe and stock up on white wine… You can do this

    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Chocolate is my vice so I’m totally stocking up on that! (and thank you!)

  • March 13, 2012 Lauren

    Totally understand the jitters! I didn’t keep track on the second too, but doesn’t mean the love and anticipation is less. I can’t stress how wonderful it is watching your two lil ones together. Don’t worry you’ll be fine after the first few months working out your childcare ‘system’. I’m here to help πŸ˜€

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      And help I will seek. Yours especially since you’re 10 minutes away πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 Ann

    Hugs to you – I can imagine your apprehension – but you’re an amazing woman. I’m sorry you’ve had such a difficult pregnancy….I hope you’re feeling better in the 3rd trimester!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Ann! I am feeling much better. More aches and pains, but easier to deal with than coughs and colds πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 Kir

    Oh you poor thing. I thought just throwing up for 35 weeks earned me a “pregnancy badge of honor” but I didn’t have a toddler at home and a blog to deal with (I mean I did…have a blog, but I let someone else write it…I sat in bed and puked πŸ˜‰

    so I have to say, as always, you amaze me…and inspire me and make me feel LAZY because look at all you’re doing and you still manange to be magical and really pretty.

    I can’t wait to see you as a mom for the 2nd time, it will be a great honor for me to see you in those first days since we didn’t see it with Monkey.

    and if you need me..or just someone to listen or write your blog…well you know where I am. xoxoxo

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Throwing up for 35 weeks DO earn you a pregnancy badge of honor! I can’t even imagine!

      Oh I get things done with help, I’m no superwoman πŸ™‚ Magical and pretty – hee!

      And thank you for the offer – I might just take you up on that! xo

  • March 14, 2012 Natalie

    My second (well, really, third) pregnancy was so much harder than my first. It was scary and exhausting and intense.

    Good luck in the home stretch!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Natalie!

  • March 14, 2012 Christine

    I remember feeling similarly with my second pregnancy. Much harder on me than the first. I was ready to be done by week 20. I basically ran around doing errands all over NYC on a hot, humid August day trying to will the baby out.

    Two kids is a little nerve wracking at first but it actually wasn’t as bad as I anticipated or everyone talked about. Plus, my boys LOVE each other (in between clobbering each other on the head) which makes it all worthwhile. I hope that the last couple of weeks pass by fast and smoothly!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Oh me too! And I expect a lot of head clobbering to happen too πŸ™‚

  • March 17, 2012 Jamie

    I think 1 to 2 is hard bc you have no idea how in the green earth it’s going to work. But it will work and your heart knows that… just have to tell your head to shhhhhhh
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    • March 17, 2012 Alison

      Yeah I told my head to shut up! πŸ™‚

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