Kisses

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Waking up smiling doesn’t happen everyday. On this day, you did not smile. You offered me a sleepy scowl instead and clung to me like a koala bear. I shift your weight to accommodate the growing bump that is your little brother. My left hip shoots pain, I wince.

I sit down, with you still hanging onto my hip, head buried into my neck, your sleepiness/ grumpiness rubbing off on me. Trying to contain my irritability, I ask if you want your milk.

You hit me square on the face. I react quickly, with hurt, grabbing your hand and saying a notch too loudly, “NO! You do NOT hit Mama!” and you wail. You bury your face in my neck again, sobbing, your tears drenching my skin. The familiar guilt creeps into my gut. I question why I can’t be more patient and understanding. You are two, I am 35, I should know better!

We sit there a minute, me, festering in my guilt, you, crying in misery at your awful mother.

Then, you lift your head, open your eyes, rub them dry and you smile. You smile your megawatt smile and you push yourself upright. Β And you touch my cheek and kiss me on the lips, in that drooly, sloppy way a toddler kisses. As always, when you share your kisses, I can’t help but smile. I smile, and you kiss me again. And again. And we double up in laughter. I hold you close and whisper into your hair, “I love you, I love you.”

 

Alison
Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, Alison traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison's writing has been featured on Mamalode, On Parenting at The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, and DrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists in the anthology, My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. In 2012, she founded Little Love Media, a social media consultancy specializing in blog book tours, and because she doesn’t sleep, is an editor at BonBon Break, an online magazine. Alison lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with her husband and four children (two boys and boy/ girl twins).
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  • March 13, 2012 Laura

    Don’t feel guilty about the “No!”. In fact, I read that and thought “Go you!”. There is something in my voice that can NEVER convey to my son that he has done something wrong. Any time I try to be harsh to make a point, he laughs. Daddy, on the other hand, can certainly drive home a point with his tone. But I can’t. So, I’m proud of you for being able to parent well here! πŸ™‚

    Also – what a LOVELY moment captured!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Oh those moments are so hard. It’s hard to be feel proud in that very moment, but you’re right, I should be for doing the right thing. It doesn’t always work though. And same here, his Dad is the one who can actually make his point better, all the time.

      And thank you πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Kimberly

    You definitely should not feel guilty for saying no. He understands right and wrong. And when he does something unacceptable he needs to be responsible for it…I know it’s hard…my parents always said that it was harder on them than it was on me and they were right.
    We all have that guilt for yelling but this was an appropriate moment.
    You’re a wonderful mama.
    Xoxo
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Kim. I don’t feel like awesome Mama sometimes. But I love how children are so forgiving – definitely a lesson there.

  • March 13, 2012 Tammi

    I agree no reason to feel guilty and you handled it in the right way. This is so well written and paints the picture of how hard parenting can be some days!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Tammi!

  • March 13, 2012 Robbie

    I am such a sucker for the cheek touch!! This makes me wish I blogged thru my pregnancies and when myc hildren were younger.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      It’s partly why I started this blog – to document the kids. Moments like these are so fleeting.

  • March 13, 2012 Kim Pugliano

    When Noah became school aged and gave me a hard time in the car on the way there I would be so frustrating walking him to 1st grade and just want to scowl at the rest of my day and then he would reach up and grab my hand and I’d be like, WAIT. It’s OVER? Just like THAT? We’re happy and best friends again? I had to develop the ability to get over it FAST. NOW, I’m smiles and happiness and he isn’t ready to come around.

    Great post.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      They sure forgive and forget easily! Until they become tweens/ teenagers.

  • March 13, 2012 tara // pohlkotte press

    oh, I had my own instance of this just tonight. A raised voice. streaming hot tears dripping on my shoulder. sigh. but then, like with the sun, all is brightened again. But those moments…they feel heavy.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Yes, yes, heavy is the word. Sigh.

  • March 13, 2012 Maureen

    Oh so beautifully written, Alison. It is always harder on us the moms to say NO or to do the discipline parts…I can relate but he will grow up knowing what’s right and wrong because his Mama taught him well πŸ™‚
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Oh Maureen. I hope so. πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Leah

    I love love love this post! Isn’t it amazing…”the familiar guilt creeps into my gut”…it’s so true! I am raising two boys (ages 2 and 3) and I’m often inflicted with an elbow to my cheek or a heel to my stomach; and then I shout out “stop” or “why would you”. No matter what you do as a mom-there is guilt.

    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      We just can’t escape the guilt, can we? Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

  • March 13, 2012 Paulette

    You smile, I smile…

    I can’t believe I just quoted that lyric. but it’s true. We smile when they smile.

    Anyways, no feeling guilty. 2 is tough age. Not made easier by being pregnant. Hang in there!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      It certainly is a tough age. For us moms πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Kimberly

    I hate those moments of guilt, but these kids always seem to forget it with their smiles and laughter.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      They so easily forgive and forget – a lesson in there for us Moms I reckon.

  • March 13, 2012 kulasa

    thinking of many moments with my son too in the past….I love most the kiss on my cheeks that seem to never stop…beautifully written…
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you. I can never get sick of his toddler kisses.

  • March 13, 2012 Emily

    What a sweet moment! I love those sleepy, slobbery kisses! Don’t feel guilty about scolding him though. After all, you wouldn’t be doing him any favors if you *didn’t* teach him lessons about hitting.

    This was beautifully written!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      That is true, children need discipline. The guilt is hard to dispel though πŸ™‚ (and thank you!)

  • March 13, 2012 Katie E

    I hate those guilty mom moments. I think we as moms always worry that these little things will impact them forever, but they move on quickly. And it’s wonderful how toddler smiles and giggles can make everything better.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      They are so forgiving, aren’t they?

  • March 13, 2012 Blond Duck

    It may be hard, but it’s better for him long term.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Yes, yes it is.

  • March 13, 2012 dumb mom

    You felt guilty because you love him. Which is why you disciplined him too! And, he will love you for it in the long run too! Plus, that stuff is always more bothersome to us than it is to them. And, I’m excited to see you are officially joining the ranks of Dude Mom Life! Welcome to the party mama!
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Amanda! Go Dude Moms!

      And yes, it does bother me more than it does him. He forgives so easily. Which in a strange, exacerbates my guilt. It’s like a never ending circle of feeling bad!

  • March 13, 2012 Leighann

    So sweet Alison!
    I am guilty of reacting too quickly to my daughter and then I feel terrible for it.
    I’m so thankful that they are forgiving.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank goodness for that!

  • March 13, 2012 JDaniel4's Mom

    I think you had a totally human reaction to being hit. I love that you showed me forgiveness by joining him in laughter.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Children are so forgiving. And it’s hard to resist toddler smiles and kisses!

  • March 13, 2012 heidi

    Don’t feel bad about the ‘no’. And don’t be hard on yourself. We mothers are notorious for this.
    I love the sweetness of that moment, of mother and son. And all that love.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      I tell myself it’s necessary, these ‘nos’. But it’s still hard. And I do love those moments. So much.

  • March 13, 2012 Kristen

    What a sweet way to end a lesson learned. You were right to parent and you were right to accept an apology through the only way a toddler truly knows how…with smiles and sweet kisses.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Let’s hope his apologies are always so sweet πŸ™‚

  • Parenting is hard, very hard. But ‘making alright again’ with your children and giving the ‘all-is-forgiven-hug’, there is nothing like it. Nothing.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      You’re absolutely right!

  • March 13, 2012 Beej

    I think the immediate recovery after the “No!” shows just how good a job you are doing. Discipline sucks. It’s hard, and it is sometimes heartbreaking, and almost never fun. But the “make up” is always so good! Yay you.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks Beej!

  • March 13, 2012 Erica

    Thanks for this. There are days when I feel like I’m the only one who’s kid whacks her in the face for having the audacity to try to change her diaper. And honestly, I feel guilty if I correct her, and guilty if I ignore the behaviour. So.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      We’re not alone, Erica!

  • March 13, 2012 Trish

    As always, a moment captured flawlessly. Sloppy toddler kisses. πŸ™‚ And I agree with your other commenters: a stern “no” is as important a tool in motherhood as boo-boo kisses and graham crackers.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Trish. I love those sloppy toddler kisses.

  • March 13, 2012 Heather

    Oh this melted me. I love it. Thank you.
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      Heather, thank you for the opportunity to just write. And thank you for your comment, it truly means a lot.

  • March 13, 2012 Susan

    Awww, loved this.
    And my Ava has a really good left as well. What is up with that??
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    • March 13, 2012 Alison

      These kids come armed, I tell you πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Greta

    Man, those hits from such little hands have power, don’t they? (So do grumpy moods) But thankfully, it can all change so fast, with a few smiles and slobbery kisses. πŸ™‚
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      These kids have us around their little fingers, don’t they?

  • March 13, 2012 Elaine

    You saw my post. I have moments with G like this pretty much every day… πŸ˜‰ hugs mama!!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      It doesn’t ever get easier, does it?

  • March 13, 2012 MommaKiss

    nothing more intense than when the kid does the “hold cheek and kiss” move.

    I will forever treasure every single one.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      They sure know the right moves to make with us, darn kids! πŸ™‚

  • March 13, 2012 Shell

    Oh, those moments are so hard!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      And they don’t get easier, do they?

  • March 13, 2012 Michelle G

    oh my! My two year old terror (darling angel) lol has decided to occasionally give me what we call a “movie star kiss” they melt my heart. and of course he can get away with anything then πŸ™‚
    it’s hard being a toddler.
    heck, it’s hard being a mama some days! πŸ™‚
    i personally pray my kids remember the kisses more and the “no” less πŸ˜‰ we shall see…..

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      I sure hope they remember the good stuff over the bad. Though they need to remember the lessons in the bad stuff.

      Ah it’s hard either way!

  • March 14, 2012 Natalie

    Awww such a sweet boy…and yes sometimes it’s hard to remember we’re the adults. It is just natural to have reactions some times.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      I’m too quick to anger – need to fix that!

  • March 14, 2012 Andi Brown

    We just had one of those mornings. I think the guilt that always seems to raise it’s ugly head is what makes being a mom the toughest job around. I think the kisses not the angry words are what will be remembered.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      I sure hope so Andi. I really do.

  • March 14, 2012 Ado

    Good God this was a great description of how mothering a toddler is such a psychological (and psychologically contagious…) land mine. Isn’t it awful how their moods rub off on us, esp. when we are usually moody enough to begin with??
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      It’s a mindf*ck sometimes, to put it mildly. I try really hard to be patient, and cheerful, hoping MY mood rubs off on him. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Ah well. The joy of parenting!

  • March 14, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    we all have mommy guilt, but swatting mama’s not cool, don’t feel badly, even though he woke up on the wrong side of the crib
    and when Brooke is cranky, man oh man does it rub off on me!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      I’ll send wine. πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 Jamie

    I agree with most comments that you shouldn’t feel guilty for saying no but it is SO much easier said than done. (((H))) Big Hug from the smiley dictionary!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Jamie!!! (and many smiley faces for you here) πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 Delilah

    You struck right at my heart with this one. I’ve had far too many of those moments with my kids lately. Mom guilt is a powerful force.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      It so is. I need to learn how to live with it better.

  • March 14, 2012 Mamamzungu

    Oh, I love this post. It describes so many of the interactions I’ve had with my son – the emotional rollercoaster irritation to punishment to crying to forgiving and loving. Beautiful post!

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thank you so much! I love when readers tell me they can relate- it makes me feel so much less alone.

  • March 14, 2012 Stacey

    The pure bliss of experiencing a sloppy toddler kiss is, for me, one of the top 5 joys of living. And a make up smooch? Don’t get me started! πŸ™‚ Great post!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Stacey!! I’m very blessed that my son is so forgiving and affectionate πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 Jessica

    Oh, please don’t beat yourself up! I think for me, when going through similar things, it’s the whole getting frustrated part that leaves me feeling guilty. It’s the whole getting frustrated part that makes me apologize to my toddler for my behavior. Remember, however, that you’re doing a great job, that you are a great mom because you care and are trying to do and be your best!

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thanks Jessica. Yes, it’s the frustration. Which I wish I had a better handle on. I’m hoping that when he gets more and more verbal, our communication will be better, and we can avoid such situations.

      Oh who am I kidding. There’ll just be a whole new set of challenges!

  • March 14, 2012 Julia

    You are a wonderful mommy. Everybody with a toddler has been here. Thank you for such a honest post about the realities of being a Mommy to a toddler.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Julia. Honesty rules!

  • March 14, 2012 Julia

    Oh yes. My son is two and I’m 32 and he’s my first. And I have been so surprised by what they are capable of a and how badly I can react too. Ha! Whew!

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      We’re perfectly normal, Julia. πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 julie gardner

    Sometimes “No” is as important as “I love you.”

    Even when you say it twice…

    XO
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      When I grow up, I want to be you. xo

  • March 14, 2012 Jessica

    So very sweet Alison, love those sloppy baby kisses!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Oh I do love them so. Makes me so happy to think I have a few more years of sloppy baby kisses, yay!

  • March 14, 2012 Lenore Diane

    This is super sweet, Alison. I remember the days of babies and toddlers. Precious moments and grumpy moments, but special regardless of the moment. Your reaction was right on the money, but Mommy-guilt is strong. *sigh*
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      So very strong. Does it ever go away?

  • March 14, 2012 Jessica

    Toddlers. They know how to pull our strings in good and bad ways.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      They absolutely do.

  • March 14, 2012 Ann

    That was SO beautifully written! I felt like I was sitting there on the couch with you. HUGS to you both!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      That was such a beautiful comment, Ann. Thank you! xo

  • March 14, 2012 jlweinberg/jen

    What a sweet recovery! Your son knows that even when he’s done wrong that he is still loved. You are doing such a great job! Discipline is hard but you handled it so well.

    XO
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for the assurance! I’m finding discipline to be the hardest part of parenting. So far.

  • March 14, 2012 My Inner Chick

    Mama A,
    Beautifully & Magically Written.

    Xxx

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Coming from you, that is a magical comment. Thank you Kim.

  • March 14, 2012 Kir

    Oh Alison, that was so beautiful, that was every single mom in that instant of “OMG” and “I love you, I love you”

    the way you wrote it could have been any of us and yet in your hands, from your heart it was stunning.

    xo

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      How do you do that? Warm someone’s day with your words?

      Thank you, Kir. Truly. xo

  • So truly touching, this story is, Alison!

    And, we’ve all had mornings like this. Sometimes it seems the mornings turn into afternoons, and then slip into evenings. But, fortunately, we are programmed to love our children no matter what. The smallest smile can undo days of frustrations.

    LOVE your writing!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Sharon, thank you. Your comment just made my week. To have someone tell me they can relate and that they love my writing, amazing. Again, thank you.

  • March 14, 2012 Sarah Reinhart

    Oh, have I done this! Yelling and tears one minute, laughter the next. Followed up with an I Love You. It’s a bit nuts, right? Those no’s are necessary at times though, so good for you! I’ve definitely been in your shoes a time or two or five hundred.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Parenting is a crazy business, isn’t it?

  • March 14, 2012 Kate F. (

    Wonderful story Alison. Just wonderful. Been there myself a million times, but can listen to that story 2 million more!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Kate!

  • March 14, 2012 Runnermom-jen

    Aw, I soooo get this. Sometimes I react too quickly, and later the guilt sets in. Glad it turned around for you and ended on a happy note.
    xo
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Most days, it ends well. πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 Missy

    It can be hard! I’m trying not to feel guilty about speaking sharply to my kids anymore – especially when they hurt me. But I get it – emphasis on “trying” in that sentence. πŸ™‚
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Like my dad said, it’s better to try and fail, than fail to try. πŸ™‚

  • March 14, 2012 Natalie

    I know this feeling so well. I wish I could say we were past those days. We are. And we aren’t. He is and he’s not. I am and I’m not.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Yes, that exactly.

  • March 14, 2012 Mama and the City

    Awww it made me sad too.

    Sometimes I feel lucky of how patient I’ve become as a mother. I wasn’t before, so I’m surprise I am now with a merely 18 mo.

    I can’t imagine how it would be like while also pregnant. Hormones, hormones.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      It’s hard to parent a toddler. It’s much harder when pregnant! BUT, these making up moments? Make up for it all.

  • March 14, 2012 nikky44

    OMG!!! That made me cry!! So sweet and so beautiful!!!!
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Aw, thanks Nikky.

  • March 14, 2012 sara

    Isn’t it funny how even when the kiddos do something they shouldn’t, and we are just trying to teach them right, we as parents still feel so guilty. You’re a great mama, glad it all ended in smiles and hugs! πŸ™‚

    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      This parenting guilt just never goes away, does it? And thank you!

  • True confessions. I never knew what anger, frustration, and guilt were until I became a mother. I found the baby/toddler years trying (and of course filled with joy, blah, blah, blah (:) But I have these great people to hang with now. Thank goodness that for every moment of grumpiness/raised voice, there are truly triple the moments of beauty and smiles. Ellen
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      Ellen, thank you. It’s good to know that this motherhood gig won’t always be about frustrations and grumpy children!

  • March 14, 2012 Jade

    Why do these moments we regret always happen first thing in the morning or last thing at night too? Way to start/end the day bogged down in guilt πŸ˜‰
    This is a sweet little post. Lovely denouement.
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    • March 14, 2012 Alison

      I know, right?????? (and thank you!)

  • March 14, 2012 stephanie

    Sweet post, Alison. What if you didn’t say no when he hit you? The guilt would only come later. Your son is a lucky boy.
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Stephanie, that’s a good way to look at it!

  • March 15, 2012 Janice

    How neat that we both posted about honest parenting this week! This is a very beautiful post. All of us have our irritability, it doesn’t matter how old we are. You are a beautiful, wonderful mother!
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      It’s good to know we’re not alone, right?

  • March 15, 2012 Susan

    oh, how i have been there (and as recently as yesterday)! it’s amazing how fast that guilt wells up and then can just as quickly disperse with that little “i love you!”
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      Oh, motherhood…… πŸ™‚

  • March 15, 2012 Charlotte

    Awwww, momma. Some days are just going to be incredibly difficult… And then moments like this happen and you can let go a bit and indulge in a bit of laughter with your son. There’s nothing wrong with that, and don’t lay on the guilt so thick or you’ll miss them. No one is perfect but you are doing a phenomenal job. XOXO

    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Charlotte. I’m very lucky to have those moments.

  • March 15, 2012 Jackie

    I’d love to say it gets easier, but three has been more demanding for me! Ugh!
    I tell my girls all the time that they’re lucky they’re cute, because those moments- hitting, screaming, biting, etc… make my blood boil!
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      Yes, fortunately they’re CUTE!!

  • March 15, 2012 Michelle Longo

    I don’t think there’s anything that can melt a mama’s heart like a kiss from her babe.

    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      And you’ll be right!

  • March 15, 2012 Katie

    How sweet and how quickly they can go from meltdown to melting your heart.
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      I love that – meltdown to melting.

  • March 15, 2012 Tonya

    Megawatt smiles are the best, hitting is not. You did the right thing, mama!
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Tonya, it’s good to know that I didn’t go wrong there.

  • March 15, 2012 Meg O'Keefe

    Ahhh! I love those moments (although my sloppy kisses and smiles come from our 9 month old)…don’t you just want to freeze time in those moments?
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      The kisses, yes, the hitting, notsomuch πŸ™‚

  • March 15, 2012 Meg O'Keefe

    Ahhh yes….the hitting not so much bit it did lead to sweet kisses and laughter!

  • March 15, 2012 Galit Breen

    Stunning, relatable.

    (Beautifully written.)
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    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      Thank you, Galit. Coming from you, that is high praise. xo

  • March 15, 2012 Anna

    This is so beautifully written. What mother has not had this moments and many more like it? Mommy guilt is the worst but we are human too and it hurts when we are hit or even just buttons pushed. Kisses cure all, your son sounds very sweet. Great post!

    • March 15, 2012 Alison

      Thank you Anna. My boy is sweet!

  • The Little Dude has a new thing when we do or say something he doesn’t like and it’s usually “pushing Dada” to go along with an actual push if I’m sitting near him. Not sure where it came from, but it’s definitely getting tired quickly.
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    • March 16, 2012 Alison

      I do wonder sometimes where they learn to do the things they do – for example, the hitting. We don’t hit so – is it a natural thing? Sigh.

  • March 31, 2012 Robin

    I missed this one but I love it oh so much.
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    • March 31, 2012 Alison

      Oh thank you Robin!

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