Guest Star: Tonya of Letters For Lucas

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There are times in blogging when you come across a blog that makes you think, I like her, I really like her, because I can relate to her story. The first time I read Tonya of Letters for Lucas‘ blog in April 2011, I nodded and commiserated along with her about dealing with a toddler’s tantrums and feeling discouraged.  My heart ached for her when she wrote about dealing with the devastating loss of her parents. I laughed when I watched her funny vlog about her favorite outfit.

Tonya, you’re a beautiful mom and person, talented writer and a supportive, wonderful friend to all of us. Welcome to my corner of the world, and I’m so glad to have met you. Take it away!

1. When and why did you start blogging?
I started Letters For Lucas on August 27, 2009. Lucas was 2 ½ months old and my primary objective was to keep family and friends updated on his life. In addition to being a documentation of his childhood, I was desperate to find a way to maintain my sanity! So far it’s working on both accounts. The more I write and share, the more connected I feel to my role as “mommy”.

2. What do you love most about blogging?
I am constantly surprised by how generous and supportive the blogging community is. I have never met a lot of my readers in real life and yet they make me feel better than some of my real life friends do. I love that!

I also enjoy keeping the dialogue going so I respond to each and every comment and I’m on Twitter a lot!

3. Who is your favorite blogger ever?
That’s hard… I read 30 or so blogs on a consistent basis. My favorites are Sherri (Old Tweener), Poppy (Funny or Snot), Jessica (Four Plus an Angel), Coreen (The Adventures of Captain Fussypants & Little Miss), Jessica (My Time As Mom), Kirsten (The Kir Corner), Galit (These Little Waves), Nichole (In These Small Moments), please stop me anytime…

My favorite blogs are the ones that make me feel something; good or bad.

There are so many amazing writers out there!

4. Is there a post you regret publishing?
Nope, not a one!

There are some that I wish I could have written better, but none that I regret publishing.

5. What do you love most about being a Mom?

I am so lucky.

Lucas is such a neat kid. He’s smart, funny and so curious about everything. I could not love him more.

I love experiencing all of the firsts.

Lucas has his entire life ahead of him and I play such a HUGE role in the person he’ll be some day. He needs everything from me right now and that won’t always be the case.

I love being his mom; watching his face light up when he sees me, witnessing his character develop, the moment when he “gets” something and hearing him use “please” and “thank you” is such a thrill. All of it’s wonderful.

6. What’s your favorite time of the day?
Naptime and bedtime!

Just kidding…. I really love those moments when Lucas and I are truly connecting and he’s happy. When he’s happy, I’m happy!

7. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
My husband and I met in Cabo San Lucas in April 2003, so I’d love to go back there someday.

Also, I want to show Lucas the Eiffel Tower. Paris is one of the most magical places I have ever been and for me, that tower (and the wine) is a big reason why.

8. What could you eat every single day?
A cupcake.

9. Favorite season and why.
I like Summer… I love warm (not HOT) weather, beach-y activities and bar-be-ques.

10. One word to describe you.
Sensitive. I have a hard exterior, but I’m really all mush on the inside.

11. You have a weekly series ‘Letters for You’ featuring guest bloggers. If there were 3 people you could write a letter to, who would it be and why?
If I could be guaranteed a response? My parents. They’ve been gone for five years in October and there is so much I’d like to say to them; thank you being the most important.

If it would be read and taken to heart? Myself at 20. I don’t regret anything per se, but I could have really used some words of wisdom back then, especially knowing what I know now.

If it were possible? The world. I’d ask it to be kind to my boy. He’ll work hard and is not above struggling, but I’d just ask that everyone who comes in contact with him, be as kind to him as I know he’ll be in return.

12. Tell us – any New Year resolutions?
Drink more water! I’m not kidding. Hydration is SO underrated and I am lacking!

I’d also like to put the phone down at night and pick up more books! Before Lucas, I used to read a book a week. In 2011, I didn’t even read a book a month.

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Thanks so much for having me here today, Alison! You are one of the most supportive bloggers I know and this is an awesome series.

Thank you, Tonya, for being here today, the honor is mine. Do follow Tonya’s blog, Letters for Lucas, follow her on Twitter and Pinterest and like her on Facebook!

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  • January 24, 2012 Tonya

    Thank you for having me here today and for your very kind introduction. I love this series and I am proud to be a part of it, Alison!
    Tonya recently wrote…Channeling My Inner Teeny BopperMy Profile

    • January 24, 2012 Alison

      Thank you for being here today!

  • January 24, 2012 Ann

    Hi there Tonya! So nice to meet you! The letters that you want to write are absolutely lovely….
    Ann recently wrote…Chicken, Black Beans and Rice with Apple SalsaMy Profile

    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Nice to meet you too!

      I try to write my blog so that my son may one day know me better… the good, bad and ugly.
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Not a Perfect Mom

    I love number 6! haha!
    And though I’m more of a lurker over at Tonya’s than a regular commenter (damn laziness), I adore her page and was glad to see her here!
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    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Hi! Thanks for following me here.

      A for #6… truth!
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Life As Wife

    Love your response to the three letters. Always great to learn more about bloggers I enjoy reading!
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    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks! I love meeting new bloggers too. I am so happy to be here today. 🙂
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Poppy

    I love your answer about regretting publishing posts. I look back at some of my posts and cringe. Not so much content, but ugh…proofreading is my friend.

    Hopefully my head will fit through the door now that I’m listed as a favorite. You’re on my list too!
    Poppy recently wrote…The Mystery of the Mayo SandwichMy Profile

    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks, Poppy! I never miss your posts. You truly are one of my favorites. xo
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Armand

    As a husband, it’s nice to read and know about how moms are going through in her family. This interview makes me realized how important the role of being a mom, and at the same time a working wife.
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    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Being a stay-at-home mom is the hardest job I have ever had. And yes, also the most rewarding, but I’d be lying if I said there were days I didn’t miss my old life.

      I appreciate you reading.
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 julie gardner

    Tonya,

    I love your honesty, here and at your own site. And I have to tell you I was moved by Nichole’s post in which she talked about certain blog friends (you were one of them) needing to write truthfully, even if not every reader wants to hear what they have to say.

    As someone who worries too much sometimes about “audience,” I want to thank you for being authentic, for sharing the highs and lows of your heart.

    Also, if Lucas isn’t interested in the Eiffel Tower, I’ve never been to Paris…

    Just so you know. 😉
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    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Thank you for your kind words, Julie. I could be guarded and mysterious but that is just not me. I have to write from the heart and I realize that now.

      The more vulnerable someone’s writing is the more I want to read it, so I’m sticking to that philosophy with my own words.

      I love that post of Nichole’s too.

      I’m up for a trip to France any time!
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Kimberly

    I am definitely a summer girl too! Give me a beach and a BBQ and I’m set!
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    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      I wouldn’t call myself an outdoorsy girl, but I love me some sun!

      Thanks for following me over here today. 🙂

      Although, something tells me you read Alison every day anyway.
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Bonnie Way

    I’ve also wished I could write a letter to my younger self… 🙂 And I should made a resolution to drink more water. I’m always dehydrated. Thanks for this fun interview!
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    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Why is it SO hard to drink more water? Seriously, I want to know?!

      What would you tell your younger self if you could? I have a list a mile long starting with don’t EVER get bangs! Ever. 🙂
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Galit Breen

    Absolutely love seeing two of my faves together today!

    {Thank you so much for the mention, Tonya. The feeling is so very mutual.}

    And oh my heart, your #11 made me teary. Le sigh – it is perfect!

    xo
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    • January 24, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks for visiting me here! Isn’t this the best series?

      I had a hard time with question #11, but the impossible seemed like the way to go.
      Tonya recently wrote…Guilty PleasuresMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 tracy

    Oh I love Tonya. Also I love cupcakes. Coincidence? I think not. xo
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks, lovely. I’ll share a cupcake with you any day.
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Jessica

    Great interview, ladies! I enjoy reading both of your blogs so it was nice seeing you two link up here! Oh, and staying hydrated (more) is a goal of mine this year, too.
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks, Jessica.

      I am finding it SO hard to drink water. I’m just not that thirsty, plus, who has time for 90 trips to the bathroom? Geez.
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Kimberly

    A cupcake everyday?
    I think I love you.
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  • January 24, 2012 angela

    Hi Tonya! As always I love reading your words. This part made me tear up a little:

    If it were possible? The world. I’d ask it to be kind to my boy. He’ll work hard and is not above struggling, but I’d just ask that everyone who comes in contact with him, be as kind to him as I know he’ll be in return.

    because it is so, so true. My heart hurts when I think about the hurts I know they will encounter.

    And now I want a cupcake 🙂

    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      I know… it makes my heart ache too. He’s in a protective bubble right now, but not for long.

      Cupcakes are good. 🙂
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Maureen

    Great interview as usual. Love the no-regret post answer 😀 I need to visit your blog more, Tonya!
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  • January 24, 2012 Missy

    Tonya – you are so right about hydration! Great interview. Good luck with the books! I set a goal for 2012 and haven’t opened ONE yet! Oops.
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      I miss reading so much and just don’t make enough time for it! Hoping to change that this year. We’ll see…
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Paula

    Great interview. I don’t know, bedtime is a pretty good time of day! But, I like the sitting around the table during homework time, or dinnertime, just talking – about anything with my boys. As they get older, I know those days are numbered…
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Yeah, who am I kidding nap time and bedtime are pretty great. Especially on nights like tonight when it’s almost 10:00 and Lucas is STILL awake. Agh!
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 By Word of Mouth Musings

    The love for your little boy in wanting the world to be kind to him …
    But the one resonating over all??
    Writing a letter to your Mom and Dad. How I wish you could …
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Me too. So very much!

      Thank you for visiting me here today, Nicole.
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 24, 2012 Kir

    HI!!!
    I would love to share (wait a minute: can I have my own) that cupcake with you every single day.
    Plus I loved how you talked about being the influence in Lucas’ life. I think of that quite a bit lately…that I am the way they will see the world and the experiences inside it. That the people they will be are the people I help them become..it’s a truly awesome responsibility. I loved that answer.
    and of course I adore you and all the things that make you the wonderful, amazing woman you are.

    I also resolved to read more books….I love the blogs and each one of you but my mind and heart and soul really miss the words and getting lost in a story. I’m with you sweetie pie…more BOOKs this year. (and Cupcakes too!)
    xoxo
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Your comments really are like cupcakes.

      Thank is all.

      And, thank you.

      xoxo
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 25, 2012 Cookie's Mom

    Tonya, it’s nice to see you featured here and nice to learn a little more about you! I really identified with the letter you would like to write to your parents. I lost mine too before I could thank them.
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      It is my single regret in life. Truly. I hope wherever they are they can feel my gratitude.
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 25, 2012 Charlotte

    Thanks so much for featuring her Tonya here today. I look forward to reading some of the posts you linked to here and getting to know her a bit better. She seems like a wonderful, beautiful young lady. XOXO

    PS: I have a thing for Paris, too 🙂
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      So nice to meet you too.

      Paris is just so magical, isn’t it? It makes my heart flutter.
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 25, 2012 Devan

    oh your resolution is one I MUST follow & also — would love to one day read Lucas’s words on your blog.
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      I wonder what he’d share? Gulp.

      Thanks for visiting me here today, Devan
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  • January 25, 2012 Natalie

    Love cupcakes. I could eat several a day. Great to see you here, Tonya!
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks, Natalie.

      Cupcakes makes the world a happier place and who couldn’t use more happy?
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 25, 2012 Jamie

    loved loved loved learning more about you Tonya!!
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks, Jamie. I appreciate you visiting me here today!
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 25, 2012 Rach (DonutsMama)

    That’s funny that you said you need to drink more water! I’m so bad about that. And I miss reading books too. I spend waaaay too much time on my computer.
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      The water thing has proven to be a lot more difficult than I thought and so has the book thing. I’ll keep you posted.
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 25, 2012 Carri

    Mmmmmm…. cupcake…..

    Isn’t Cabo the most awesome place ever? I love it there.
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      I want to go back so bad!! Hopefully this year my husband and I can sneak away for a long weekend. Fingers, toes, arms, legs, and eyes all crossed!
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  • January 25, 2012 Sherri

    Oh, Tonya is one of my favorite blogs to read AND a favorite in-real-life friend! What a sweet mention, my dear…and can’t wait to share a cupcake with you one day soon.
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  • January 25, 2012 Robin

    Two of my fave people in one post! Love it.

    And wow, these answers are beautiful. The one about the letters took my breath away.

    Love you both.
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    • January 25, 2012 Tonya

      Thanks, Robin.

      This is a great series and I had fun with the questions.

      Even though I won’t get a response, I should write those letters anyway.

      Thanks for visiting me here today.
      xoxo
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 26, 2012 Nichole

    I am so incredibly fortunate to you as my friend, Tonya.

    You brighten my world and keep me afloat when I need it.

    And your one word that you chose to describe yourself is absolutely perfect. I would also add “enlightened.”

    Thank you for mentioning me here, my sweet friend. Sending you hugs and love. xoxo
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  • January 26, 2012 Jessica

    I’m late commenting but I love Tonya and I’m glad to see her here. I would share cupcakes, red wine, and listen to DMB with her any day.
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    • January 26, 2012 Tonya

      The feeling is mutual! Thanks for visiting me here. xoxo
      Tonya recently wrote…Dancing In My HeartMy Profile

  • January 27, 2012 Lady Jennie

    This is a great interview. I want to go and read what happened to your parents, since it sounds like it was a double blow – both at the same time.

    Naptime is my favorite.

    And yay Eiffel Tower!

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