To My Son

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This week at Just.Be.Enough., we are writing letters to our future self or child.

My son is 21 1/2 months old now and I just know that before I can say, “Bananas for everyone!”, he will be taller than me; he will be a teenager, then an adult; he will date and get married; he will have children and grandchildren….wait, I’m getting ahead of myself.

Let’s just start at 18 and go from there, shall we?

Dear 18 year old Monkey,

When you read this, I hope that you will be the young man your father and I will be proud of .

We hope that…

You are kind.

You are strong.

You are independent.

You are generous of spirit.

You are smart.

You are happy.

You are inquisitive.

You are patient.

You are hardworking.

You are tough.

Mama also hopes that you start your adult life with a strong sense of self.

That you know who you want to be.

That you are humble and know that others can teach you much.

That you still love to learn, and know that learning is a lifelong process.

That you remain determined and will try and try again, if you fail.

That if you fail, you know it’s not a reflection of weakness.

That if you have weaknesses, you know that only makes you human.

That when you succeed, you know that sharing it with others makes it much sweeter.

That you are always open-minded and accepting of others and their differences.

That you never give up – on yourself or those around you.

That you are reliable and always keep your promises.

That you are loving – of yourself and others.

I know you will make me proud.

Mama loves you.


Your ever loving Mama.

PS: I hope that you won’t be mad at me for entering you into the Mommy Shorts Evil Baby Glare Off contest. I don’t think you’re evil at all, but you certainly knew how to pull a glare! I also know you won’t be mad at me for using your letter as a way to ask my readers to vote for you! (He is the fourth child, Zayn versus Mikey, vote here now! Voting ends midnight EST)


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  • October 10, 2011 Elena

    I so love that glare!! And what a beautiful letter. It is crazy to think of how soon that day will come when he is 18. xo
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Elena – I just know 18 will come before I know it, which is why I’m loving and cherishing all his toddler-ness!

  • October 10, 2011 LatteJunkie

    Your Monkey sounds a lot like mine… Great letter!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you!

  • October 10, 2011 Ann

    What a lovely letter to your son. Our children are now grown, married and providing us with grandchildren. They are – happily – well adjusted, happy people. For that, I am forever grateful!

    The glare is adorable!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Ann! It must be such joy to behold your children now, happy and well-adjusted.

  • October 10, 2011 Galit Breen

    Lovely, heart warming.

    Makes me itch to write my own version- and to go squeeze my sweeties!

    Alison, I adore that you’ve let more of your warmer posts loose- they’re lovely!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Galit – I would love to see your letters to your children, I just know you’ll do a beautiful job!

      I’m glad you like my warmer posts, I’m starting to enjoy writing them more.

  • October 10, 2011 Elaine

    He’ll totally forgive you. For that and more. 😉

    Love your words.
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Elaine – I sure hope so 🙂

  • October 10, 2011 angela

    He and Dylan are so close in age 🙂 18 seems so far away, yet I know I’ll blink, and they’ll be there.

    This is lovely, and I have no doubt he will be all those things and more, because you are his guide, and you have such a gorgeous spirit.

    And off to vote 🙂

    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Angela. I wish we lived close enough for Dylan and Monkey to play together, sigh.

      I do hope I will not fail him 🙂

  • October 10, 2011 Runnermom-jen

    What a precious letter…

    and what an evil glare! 😉
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Jen! I think he copped the glare from me 😉

  • October 10, 2011 Kimberly

    So sweet. I know he will be all of those things because he has a wonderful Mama to teach him.
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Kim! I hope he will be too, and that I don’t fail him.

  • October 10, 2011 Robin

    Knowing you, I can’t imagine him not being all those things.

    Also, totally cute glare. I’ll vote for him!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you for your vote of confidence, Robin!

  • October 10, 2011 Kimberly

    This is so beautiful. He’s coming from a wonderful family that exudes all that and then some…he’s learning from beautiful parents (a.k.a you)
    And yes he’ll forgive you 😉
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Kimberly, that’s so sweet of you!

  • October 10, 2011 Stasha

    Lovely letter. I am sure he will win and not mind it one bit!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Stasha! I’m not sure about him winning, I’m not a pageant mom so I’m not going to beg for votes, except for this one shout out 😉

  • October 10, 2011 Catheryn

    Such a beautiful, honest and lovely letter to your little one. I am sure he will love reading this when he is older 🙂
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Catheryn!

  • October 10, 2011 Jessica

    This is so exactly right that now I’m not sure what I’m going to write in my own letter, which I wasn’t planning on writing until tomorrow. Sheesh! Well said as always, Alison.
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Haha, thanks Jessica! Perhaps this will inspire you somewhat?

  • October 10, 2011 Kiddothings

    That’s a wonderful letter you wrote. All of which I would also hope for my kids.

    Will head over to vote for you!

    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Germaine. Your kids have a wonderful mother, I know they’ll make you proud.

      Thank you for the vote!

  • October 10, 2011 Mirjam

    What beautiful things to wish for your child.
    The part about failing is precious!
    Teaching that to your child is so important, it will make them strong, confident and not afraid to be themselves.

    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Mirjam. My father taught me that it’s better to try and fail, than fail to try. It’s my mantra. 🙂

  • October 10, 2011 Andrea

    This is beautiful! I hope he gets a chance to read it when he’s 18!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      That is the hope with this blog 🙂 Thank you Andrea.

  • October 10, 2011 Barbara

    What a lovely letter! He definitely gets my vote!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Aw, thank you Barbara!

  • October 10, 2011 Kir

    I voted!!!!!!!

    And this letter to him was perfect, to remind him that through his whole life he has a cheerleader in you…a mom that believes in and supports him, that loves him in the good and bad times. Frame it and hang it for him, remind him that you love him today and every day of his future. Wow!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Kir (for the vote too!). That’s what I hope he’ll see, that I’m not just his mother, but his biggest supporter and cheerleader. That’s a good idea, printing this out and framing it 🙂

  • October 10, 2011 Darlene

    Alison – I love this! I recently wrote a Message to My Daughter and have been meaning to address my son as well.
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Darlene! Would love to read your post to your daughter – so I’ll hop over now!

  • October 10, 2011 JDaniel4's Mom

    What an amazing letter! The last section really focuses on challenges and how to meet them! Wonderful!
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you, I do want him to pick up those lessons as he grows older 🙂

  • You know…I’ll bet that Monkey will be everything you wish for him and more. He’s got a great start in life 🙂
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Aw, thank you Kimberly, I do hope so!

  • October 10, 2011 Erica M

    I know he’ll be all those things and more because you’re his mother. What a great list. I can’t believe I’m here in time to be in the top 50 comments! Have fun in the evil baby glare-off. That thing cracks me up.
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    • October 10, 2011 Alison

      Thank you for your vote of confidence! And for the well wishes for the contest. I’m not really gonna go all pageant mom as promised, the best evil baby shall win!

  • October 10, 2011 Shell

    What a sweet letter.

    My boys are growing so fast. I hope they grow up to be confident and loving young men.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Shell! I think your boys are set for life, they have you as Mom!

  • October 10, 2011 Missy

    What a wonderful, inspiring letter. And I LOVE that glare-off contest!

    I think I misread the directions because I wrote mine to one of my children in her current age, but with the intention to give it to her when she’s older. Posting it Wednesday.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Missy! I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to approach the prompt at all, look forward to reading it!

  • October 10, 2011 Deb

    LOVE this! It will be so special for your son to read this when his is an adult.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Deb! I look forward to when he does read this.

  • October 10, 2011 Kelley

    This was great! My favorite part was where you asked him to never give up on others, too. That is so important!
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Kelley!

  • October 10, 2011 Ado

    What a beautiful letter from a mom. He will love that when he grows up. Not so sure about the evil baby glare contest but isn’t entering your baby in contests one of the perks of being their mother? I voted.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Ado! The contest is so not me, I just did it for fun and to support Mommy Shorts 🙂 Thanks for voting!

  • October 10, 2011 Elena

    What a beautiful letter to monkey. Honestly, for me, thinking about the future has to be the scariest part of parenting. I don’t know why that is – but I just want all of those things that you mentioned for them – to be happy, healthy, have a sense of self – then I start to worry am I doing all I can right now to help that to happen? Sorry, got kind of off topic there. 😉

    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Elena, I totally know what you’re saying, I’m the same! However, I try to worry less and enjoy the moments more – I think you’re doing a great job!

  • October 11, 2011 Ilana

    Monkey will be tough indeed! Check out that glare…

    Thanks for linking to the contest, friend.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Hehe! Thanks for including Monkey!

  • October 11, 2011 Jessica Hinton

    This is such a sweet post! And, I’m sure your son will one day look at this letter, knowing that he was loved.

    I also shared a letter to my daughters for the Just.Be.Enough prompt this week. Check it out when you get a chance.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Jessica! I did read your letter, it was beautiful 🙂

  • October 11, 2011 jacqui

    I’m sure he will make his parents very proud! And forgive you for entering him in the Evil Baby Glare Off. There are some scary looking little ones in that video!
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Jacqui, I sure hope so! Yes, there are some scary looking kids in there, Monkey has no chance 😉

  • October 11, 2011 Jessica

    I hope Monkey is all of these things and more when he is 18.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Me too! And beyond 18 also.

  • October 11, 2011 Just Jennifer

    Very nice letter, Alison. Don’t we all hope those things for our children?
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Jennifer!

  • October 11, 2011 Amanda Austin

    Yes! All such wonderful attributes for you to wish for him. I want those things for my son, but additionally, I want him to always.. ALWAYS…respect the women in his life. I want him to be polite even when he doesn’t feel like it or when people dont’ deserve politeness.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Yes, that’s very important, I need to remember that for him too.

  • October 11, 2011 Kristin

    So sweet and earnest and hopeful. I wrote a similar letter to my daughter last year on her 1st birthday. I’m going to run it again on my blog this year just before her 2nd birthday – not only because I love it, but also because it’s something that I continuously want to keep in mind as I raise her.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      I look forward to reading it!

  • October 11, 2011

    You are so right about how quickly the time flies. I cannot wrap my head around the fact that my oldest is 25 already! Enjoy every moment.

    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Wow, 25! I can’t imagine – yet 🙂

  • October 11, 2011 liz

    You wrote this tender, heartfelt piece…and then ended it with an apology for the baby glare off! SO funny!


    Good luck to Monkey!
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Hehe, thanks Liz!!

  • October 11, 2011 Leighann

    What a beautiful letter Alison.
    Good luck in the contest.
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thank you Leighann!

  • October 11, 2011 Hopes

    What a beautiful letter to your precious son. And judging by his glare, he will be kicking ass and taking names when he is 18! HA!!
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    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Hopes! And haha, I do hope he will be tough, even if it falls short of ass kicking 😉

  • October 11, 2011 April

    What a lovely letter! So sweet. 🙂 Although I don’t wanna think of my babies at 18!
    And what a charming little glare. 😉

    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thank you April! I know, it’s so…. scary, sad and exciting to think that one day they WILL be 18.

  • October 11, 2011 jodifur

    I remember this age well! Such a great letter!

    • October 11, 2011 Alison

      Thank you so much!

  • October 11, 2011 Jamie

    Such a great letter. I’ve written one to my children on their birthdays. Never thought about when I’ll actually give them to them though.
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    • October 12, 2011 Alison

      I wrote one to Monkey when he turned one as well – that was before I blogged…it’s somewhere on my hard drive….

  • October 12, 2011 Lady Jennie

    Oh shoot – I missed the voting. But I did see your vlog cuteness (did I already tell you that?)

    I like that you want your son to be humble and learn from others. I wish more parents wanted that for their kids. Too often parents teach their kids to be proud.
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    • October 12, 2011 Alison

      Humility is important in our family!

  • October 12, 2011 Julie

    Oh, 18 is so close and so far away, all at the same time.

    That’s a wonderful list of hopes for Monkey.
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    • October 12, 2011 Alison

      Yes, too close for my liking!

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