Birthday Guest: Afraid of 30

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Welcome to my birthday week! I turned 35 on August 17. I do not normally care about birthdays, but turning 35 seems like a big deal to me. Hence, my gift to myself is to get other people to write my blog for me. I know, brilliant right? All this week, I will have four lovely friends who will be writing about birthdays. Please show then some love! I’ll be back next week, older and hopefully, wiser.

xoxo, Alison

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Jessica of My Time as Mom was one of my first bloggy friends. She was also my first Guest Star and probably my first Twitter friend (@mytimeasmom). She’s not just a blogger, she’s a Twitter Queen and a WordPress extraordinaire. If you have any questions about WordPress, blogging or social media in general, she’s the go to girl. If you don’t already follow her blog, do! Need a friend on Twitter? Jessica’s your lady. Want to like a Facebook page? Go to hers! (and mine, obviously) 

Thanks Jessica, for filling in for me. xo

Next year, I turn 30.

For some of you this is no big deal, age is just a number right?

But for me, I’m slightly freaking out about this event.

Why?

Two reasons mainly.

First, my body is changing and not in the good way.

All my life I have been able to eat what I want, when I want, no exercising, and I never gained weight (exception of course is when I was pregnant).

Now that I’m creeping on 30 this lifestyle choice is no longer working.

I can feel the muffin top creeping over and my once distant thighs are starting to move closer together.

My clothing is tight in areas that it is not supposed to be and I do not want to replace my wardrobe with bigger sizes.

Moving beyond the body issues with growing older, I’m also worried about my future.

I worked from the age of 14ish until I was 27 but now I’ve been a stay at home mom for over 2 years.

I’m happy staying home with my kids right now and am grateful that I’ve been granted the ability to do so but it’s possible that one day in my future I’ll have to go back to work.

I’m worried that I am falling behind in the workforce and that reentry will be near impossible.

Who is going to want to hire a 30+, out of work for years, married mom? Especially in these tough economic times.

Anyway, those are my fears about turning the magical age of 30.

Maybe someone can get me a machine that stops time right before my actual birthday so I can stay 29 forever.

So tell me, if you are over 30 did you have fears about this birthday? And if you are under 30 how do you feel about this event in the future?

Please tell me I’m not the only one freaked out about getting older.

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Thank you Jessica, for sharing your unfounded fear of turning 30. I did and I’m still awesomesauce! 

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  • August 18, 2011 Julie

    Thirty isn’t scary. Thirty is a breeze. Forty terrifies the crap out of me though.

    Thirty is like buying a pair of jeans that fit just right in all the important places. It’s surprising how comfortable you are.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I don’t even want to think about 40 yet. And I like comfy jeans that fit just right.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Jamie

    I will turn 33 this December and I loved turning 30… well I turned 30 in Vegas so I hear that I loved turning 30. When I got back to the real world it was old news and my kids could have cared less. So we moved on and here we are. So my advice, plan something BIG and GONE for it. All my family sans kids was with me and it was the greatest way to celebrate!

    And a little bling doesn’t hurt either!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I like the idea of a big celebration somewhere else. Maybe I can get my husband to plan it. 😉
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Dana K

    My 29th birthday sucked. My mom even forgot to call. However, I loved turning 30! I may have looked better in my early twenties, but I’ve been a lot more confident in my early thirties.

    As for being out of work for extended periods of time? I can’t help you. I’ve always worked non-profit jobs without benefits, for next to no pay. Also, I’d work for free if I could do something I love. Most of the jobs I enjoy won’t care how many years I’ve been out of work.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      My last job was non-profit and they cared a lot about past work experience. Hopefully I can get my own thing going and not have to worry about going back to work for anyone else.
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  • August 18, 2011 Carri

    I swore that 30 was going to be the best year ever. Instead? I got pregnant and barfed my way into the next year, birthed a monster, then fought PPD. So… yeah.
    But they way I see it is, You can’t change it, so embrace it. The age. Not the weight. 😉
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      That’s what my life was like at age 21. Thought it was going to be great, got pregnant and had a kid. Oh well.

      I will embrace 30 as I do with all other changes but I will never embrace the weight. Now I just need to do something about it.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Koala Bear Writer

    I confess I haven’t hit 30 yet, but it does seem old to me (despite the fact that my husband is already well past it). I thought 25 was a very nice age; nice even number, not too young and not too old. Then the birthdays kept coming… hmmm… I’ve already noticed that I can’t eat whatever I want (it’s showing up on my tummy, where pregnancy weight never stayed past baby’s birth) and I’m not concerned about going back to work but about developing a career as a freelance writer (and hopefully novelist someday) so that I can stay at home with my girls.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      25 was a good age. I miss being able to eat whatever I wanted but I guess all good things must come to an end.
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  • August 18, 2011 amanda austin

    Here is some straight talk with your good pal Amanda. 30 is no big deal. I feel like I’ve been taken so much more seriously in my 30s. Sure, I’m a little paunchier…but I feel like people respect you more in your 30s. At least that’s my view. You will do fine!!!!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I like your take on being respected more. That’s a plus to the age.
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  • August 18, 2011 Lindsey

    You old BAG!!!
    I’m just kidding. I’m scared to turn 30 too. And 40 is like, millenia from now.
    I feel a lot smarter than I did when I was 20 though, and I’m excited to enter a new stage of life that doesn’t involve student loans and being a preggosaurus. If 30 has that I could probably get used to it.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Ha! Just wait, what comes around goes around.

      I am happy to be done with being pregnant and I would love for student loans to disappear one day.
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  • August 18, 2011 Roxanne

    I turn 28 this year and I’ve never freaked out about getting older. IN FACT! My friend & I celebrated our 30th birthdays when we turned 25 – because of rounding! It was all in good fun. We went to a roller rink. Awesome.

    And if you ever need a workout or running buddy, I’m not that far. Some of us don’t have to wait until 30 for our thighs to touch & muffintops to spill over. 🙁

    Happy birthday to Alison again!

    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      That’s hilarious you celebrated 30 at 25.

      I might take you up on the workout buddy one day if I can get someone to take care of the kids. That’s my biggest struggle right now with working out.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Rach (DonutsMama)

    I was nervous about it, but really? I truly feel like this is the best time. I just feel so much more comfortable in this skin than I ever did in my 20s.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      That is good to hear Rach. Thanks!
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  • August 18, 2011 Jennie

    Oh, gosh. Getting older sucks. I’m turning 29 this year and it FREAKS me out that I’m getting closer to 30. I can’t even imagine how that will feel to be 30. I share the same fears! 🙂

    Oh, and I’ve had my enormous muffintop ever since I had my second child.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      My second kid definitely did not help the muffin top issue.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Kate

    I’m pumped about turning 30, though I wonder how I will handle 40. I think for me turning 30 just sounds like a killer excuse to have one hell of a party! And I expect diamonds on my 30th, even though Todd told you he’s giving me a party at Chuck-E cheese–ha! He’ll regret it if he does!

    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      If Todd really takes you to Chuck-E-Cheese for your birthday I hope he records your reaction. And I bet he will regret it. His follow up present better be some diamond earrings if he does.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Leighann

    My friend!
    1. Loving that picture of you and your gorgeous girlies!
    2. I don’t care how much you eat, you’ll always be HAWT!! Holla!
    3. I can’t believe you aren’t 30 yet! You are so wise! I’m already 30, turning the dreaded 31 this year. I hated turning 30 and still haven’t accepted it. When people ask me my name I automatically say 27. In my head I really forget that I’m not that age.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Thank you!

      I can never remember my age when people ask so my daughter always answers for them and she never forgets.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 mg

    Firstly, Happy Birthday Alison. Wow! So many young mamas here. I turned 45 this year and I don’t even remember how it was like turning 30! The funny thing is the older I get, the younger I feel. My body is 45 but my mind and heart is stuck somewhere in the early 30s!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      It’s good to hear that you feel younger the older you get. I hope I’m the same way.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Thank you!! You’re only as old or young, as you think you are 🙂

  • August 18, 2011 jackie

    I didn’t care much about turning 30, I was actually pretty happy about it. But now that I’m 34, I’m freaked out about getting older. I have noticed a huge change in my body this past year. Like you said, I can’t eat as much as I used to, and my clothes, they seem to be getting tighter and tighter every day.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      If only we could always eat what we want with no change to how our clothes fit.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Carolyn

    My birthday is on the 18th. I’m in the same boat–but still 1 MORE YEAR till we turn 30! If you find the secret, please share. You and me are too much alike!
    ~Carolyn
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I don’t know if there is a solution to this problem other than embracing the age.
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  • August 18, 2011 Mrs. Weber

    Aw, girl – I feel ya. I’m only 27, but I am also scared of 30, but def not as scared as I am to eventually return to the workforce. You’re so talented with all this blogging and social media stuff, maybe you should create your own company? That way you can work from home and it doesn’t feel as much like work because it’s something you love 🙂 Make it your goal…before 30!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      My husband and I already own 1 company but he does most of the work for it. My plan is to start some kind of side business or something with social media but it’s a tough market because there are many people trying to make money through social media and Reno isn’t a real hot spot. But I’m going to try. Thank you for the encouragement.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Elena

    You’ll make 30 awesome. Not to worry – you totally get used to it. I actually didn’t freak out that much about 30. I think the reason was because I found out I was PG w/ Lanagan right before 30 and we’d been trying for a long time, so it kind of overshadowed it in a way. I’m actually freaking out about 35 next May.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Maybe we should have a joint birthday celebration me for 30 and you for 35. Complete with cowboy hats and line dancing.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Let me assure you – 35 IS AWESOME. Put the freak out away!

  • August 18, 2011 Kim

    Jessica, I completely understand your thoughts about being a SAHM but also our future for when we wish to be back in the work field. This post really helped me to look at it a bit differently and reassured me; maybe it will help you 🙂

    http://www.motherscenter.org/blog/2011/08/the-unique-qualifications-of-motherhood/
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Thanks for sharing the link. I will take a look at it.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Jessica

    Thank you Alison for having me guest post today.

    I’m making brownies right now to celebrate your birthday.
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    • August 18, 2011 Kimberly

      I hope you plan on sharing those brownies with the rest of us. It’s the least you can do about making feel awful about being 30. 😉
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      • August 18, 2011 Jessica

        I’ve got plenty of edge pieces over here for you. I only like the middle.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Thank YOU for posting for me today. Save me some brownies and not the edge pieces!

  • August 18, 2011 Angie

    I think it’s pretty common to have the fears that you do going into 30. I know for me, my career-or lack there of- was a big one. That said, 30 isn’t really that old these days. Some people aren’t even getting married or starting a family until 30 nowadays.
    I promise it’s not bad, in fact, I find myself more confident now than I ever was.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I hear of many people starting families past the age of 30.

      I’ve heard a lot of people say they are more confident in their 30s so that is making me feel better. Thank you!
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

      • August 19, 2011 Alison

        I got married at 31 and had Monkey at 33. Safe to say, I wouldn’t have been a great wife or mother if I’d done it sooner. I was a brat!

  • August 18, 2011 Stephanie

    When I turned 30 6+ years ago, my (then fiance, now) husband asked me what I wanted to do to celebrate. I told him I wanted to throw a kegger, so a kegger we threw. It was the most awesome birthday ever!! There’s no sense in fretting about the inevitable, so enjoy the life that you have and embrace it all!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I don’t normally have birthday celebrations but I’m thinking for 30 I will need one.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Wise words!

  • August 18, 2011 angela

    I was pregnant with Abbey on my 30th birthday, so it wasn’t scary for me, but I think I’m going to have a really hard time with 40.

    I think that you are doing a great job staying current and have a future doing some sort of social media/communications work, plus I saw you want to get into blog design. Don’t worry too much about aging yourself out of the job market 🙂

    I can’t help you with the thigh issue, though. Mine are close friends, unfortunately.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I am trying to stay current with social media and I can see a lot of potential with it but it is a tough market (at least in my opinion). I’m excited to start learning blog design. I love working on sites.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

  • August 18, 2011 Kimberly

    I hit 30 in May. I thought I was going to be all upset about it, but honestly, when it came it didn’t bother me. What bothers me more is the fact that my body is changing!

    In all seriousness, it’s a pretty fun time! And you will make 30 completely Assy, I’m sure of it! 😉
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I do my best to make everything Assy!
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  • August 18, 2011 Stephanie

    30 didn’t bother me at all. But 35 is around the corner and it is freaking me out for some reason. I don’t think you need to worry about re-entering the workforce. You are building yourself a good background in social media which will be a very good asset for you.

    As far as your 30th goes, throw a huge party and have fun!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      You should throw a big party for yourself for 35 and have fun too.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Stephanie, 35 IS FREAKING AWESOME.

  • August 18, 2011 Jessica

    Oh gosh, Im such a YOUNGIN. Im only 23, so as of right now turning 30 seems like such a long way off. Although I do think by the time Im 30, Ill feel so much older it wont matter. I already feel older than 23. Happy Birthday Alison!

    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Enjoy your 20s. My favorite time so far was around 25.
      Jessica recently wrote…Afraid of 30My Profile

    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Jessica, you so very young one!!!

  • August 18, 2011 Mama Track

    Don’t worry–30 is really no different than 29. Or 31 or 32 or–well, you get my drift. It’s ok. You’ll enjoy it. And there are some advantages too–like soon you can get your AARP membership. Kidding!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      What age do I get to start carrying around a handkerchief?
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  • August 18, 2011 My Inner Chick

    Dear, Jessica,
    YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL.
    My advice: Enjoy It! You Are still a kid 🙂 xxxx
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  • August 18, 2011 Grumpy Grateful Mom

    I turned 35 this year. That’s been a little tough, only because I feel I am inching too close to 40! I love that picture of you and your girls. You definitely don’t seem to have one, but I think muffin tops are adorable. Embrace it! 🙂 Happy birthday Alison!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Enjoy the rest of your 30s.

      And I think this is the first time anyone has said that muffin tops are adorable.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Thank you!!!

  • August 18, 2011 Galit Breen

    Jess- I love reading your softer, more vulnerable side!

    We all have these fears that you so eloquently expressed. Let’s be in it together, shall we?

    & Alison- yet another fabulous guester! 🙂
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Yes, lets do this together.

      Sometimes my softer side comes out to play. Keeps things interesting.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Galit, I sure know how to pick ’em!

  • August 18, 2011 Ann

    Hi Jessica! Turning 30 wasn’t a big deal to me. For some reason – turning 21 was the milestone birthday for me. I knew I was no longer a kid. I had served 3 years in the United States Marines, I was married for 2 years and getting ready to move cross-country.

    After that – every birthday was gravy! I agree with Kim – you are lovely and beauty truly is inside…. and Alison knows true beauty – so you’re got it, girlfriend!

    Alison – from Disney, may I para-phrase Alice in Wonderland? “A Very Merry Un Birthday To YOU!”….35 +1!
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Wow! You did a lot before you were 21. Impressive. Thank you for your kind words.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Haha, thanks Ann!

  • August 18, 2011 mom2kiddos

    Gosh you’re so young. Hitting 30 wasn’t scary at all for me. Then again, I didn’t have my kids yet and there weren’t muffin tops and stretch marks to deal with. Turning 40 would be scary for me. You’ll do great, and I think that most men find women in their 30s very desirable.
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I had my first child at 21 and my second at 27. No plans for more, I’m glad to be done with that stage of life. Hopefully I can start working out to get rid of the muffin top.
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  • August 18, 2011 Sarcasm Goddess

    OMG I am soooo freaked out about turning 30. I know people say that age is just a number, but 30 is a scary one. Oh, and my thighs, they’ve never NOT touched, so at least that won’t be something new to get used to when the big three oh comes. Maybe they’ll just meld together to make one enormous thigh! Sounds like a horror movie!

    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I don’t like watching horror movies but if that does happen to you I’ll still be your friend.
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  • August 18, 2011 Christi

    My 30th was so long ago and can’t even remember my reaction! I think I was probably hoping my 30s would be better than my 20s. As I get closer and closer to the big 40, I can honestly say that my 30s have been the best decade so far!

    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I’m glad to hear that 30s have been the best for you. That makes me happy.
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  • August 18, 2011 By Word of Mouth Musings

    My Dad told us he was 29 forevah! My brother took years to figure it out 😉
    And as for getting back to the workplace.
    What hiring workplace?
    You will be kicking *ss with your own media company by then!

    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      I hope I’ll be successful with my own company. That’s my dream.
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  • August 18, 2011 Stasha

    Yes and yes. I used to feel so good about my body and my career and now both are non exsistant and hard to revive. The one great thing about moms though is their confidence. After you influence a human being as much as we do our children, sky is the limit. And muffin tops are forgivable. Otherwise I would like the man who doesn’t like them give birth…
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    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      Moms do seem to have a lot of confidence in life. Great outlook. Thank you Stasha.
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  • August 18, 2011 Amy

    I didn’t have a problem turning 30 (I’m now 32), but my whole metabolism changing? Really pissed me off. For some reason 35 seems a lot scarier to me…or 40! Eeek!

    • August 18, 2011 Jessica

      If only we could age without our body changing.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      35 is not scary, trust me. 2 days in and it’s rockin’!

  • August 18, 2011 Jenny

    Is it too bad for me to say I’m still 29 years old but celebrated my 2nd anniversary of my 29th birthday this year? 😉
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      Ha! I like that idea. Maybe I will forever be 29.
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  • August 18, 2011 Kimberly

    Believe me…it’s bark is worse than its bite. I turned 30 last year and I was devastated. Truthfully, 30 isn’t all that bad…well aside from me going bananas for a better part of this year but that’s not related to age.
    Also, I used to be able to eat whatever and it does hang on to my thighs for dear life. Sigh. I don’t think that ever gets better though.
    Also Activia and Benefibre have become my best friends.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I hope 30 is as good as everyone says it is. The thigh thing, I don’t know if that will ever be easy to accept.
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  • August 18, 2011 Jessica

    No, you’re not the only one freaking out. I turn 30 in a few years, and I’m only kind of looking forward to the event. My attitude towards the whole thing has improved since becoming a mom and meeting and befriending so many older moms who’ve explained the good the comes with older age. We’ll do fine, I think.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I like that thinking. Thank you!
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  • August 18, 2011 Natalie

    I know 30 does feel like a scary number…but I think we work ourselves up about it when it isn’t a big deal. I turn 30 this year as well so maybe we can get through it together lol!
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  • August 18, 2011 Kristin

    Honestly, 30 didn’t bother me. For some reason 27 freaked me out, and I didn’t handle 36 (my most recent b-day) well. But 30? Meh…

    While I completely understand and empathize with the changing body issues (dealing with that myself right now), I think you’re selling yourself short in re-entering the workforce. With your knowledge of Wordpress and social media, I would think you’d have no problem finding a job in some sort of marketing capacity. Blogging can be a resume-builder, after all!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I’m really hoping that my social media skills will help me in the future to either start something myself or work for a company that needs a social media pro.
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  • August 18, 2011 KLZ

    But you’ve been in school – that keeps you up with the work force.

    No worries…you’re sailing smoothly.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      School did keep me fresh, good point.
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  • August 18, 2011 Mad Woman behind the Blog

    First of all, Happy Birthday Alison!
    Jessica, I was 29 for YEARS! It was my favorite age, where I finally felt control of my life, my body, my future. I even had a book that I read a dozen times from age 28 to …. called “Facing 30.” Its on Amazon. I highly recommend it.
    As I am almost exactly one decade older than you, let me share something with you: start making the changes in behavior now before it gets to be too hard. Add a little exercise, eat a few less calories and start looking for freelance work.
    When I was looking to hire a temporary replacement for my maternity leave, I didn’t consider ANY candidate under 40. I was looking for a woman with life experience, who can handle herself and quite frankly, not one who, if she stayed on, may have to leave for her own maternity leave. So don’t be so concerned about the work situation, as long as you keep your mind active (as you are quite evidently doing with your social media presence) you should be able to find acceptable work.

    Sorry for writing a post.

    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I am going to check that book out. Thank you!

      I know I need to start adding some exercise into my daily routine but it’s been hard to find time. I know that’s an excuse that can be easily overcome with a little effort.

      Interesting to hear about you looking for someone over the age of 40. That seems so opposite to what I normally hear people are looking for. I am hoping that my social media knowledge will help me land a job or start something myself when the time is right.

      Thank you!
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Thanks Amy! And I love posts within posts.

  • August 18, 2011 Kir

    Hi Sweets, oh how I remember 30!!!!

    You know what, for me, 25 and 35 were more DRAMATIC, but I understand. Here’s the thing, at 30, I wasn’t married, I was “dating”, I had JUST FINISHED college and it wasn’t horrible, 30 felt like things were going to change for me and wow, in my 30’s they did, my whole life bloomed and exploded. Yes, i gained weight and became a mom and started forgetting things, but my 30’s…were GOOD, I found myself.

    and my 40’s so far have been REALLY good too. Don’t worry, gorgeous girl, 30 is going to be amazing for you.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      Thank you Kir. Sounds like your life took a major change for the better in your 30s. I love hearing that.
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  • August 18, 2011 Theresa

    You could do what I did when I turned 30. I got really really really really drunk (sort of by mistake) and I didn’t remember most of the party. So, technically I am still 29 since I don’t remember turning 30.
    Great plan, eh?
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      Ha! Love this plan. You are a genius.
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  • August 18, 2011 Sandra

    Embrace it Jessica! You know what’s even better than 30? 40! I’m serious! With age comes confidence and the desire to keep on keeping on! You are brilliant, sassy, fun, and very clever. You are only beginning. Lots of people will hire you, especially with the skills you have quickly and very smartly acquired in this blogging medium. I see only terrific opportunities in your future!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      Thank you Sandra. That makes me feel so much better about my birthday next year.
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  • August 18, 2011 Elizabeth

    Well, I am 30 years old and 1 month. I honestly must say that I was not stressing about the big birthday. Sometimes I sit and think “Wow, I’m 30” but for the most part I am in a great place in my life.

    Now, the whole Body thing.. It is like clock work! I am struggling to keep in my “20’s” clothes. No matter how hard i work out or how many calories I cut…. Humpohf… something has got to give!

    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I don’t want to let go of my 20s clothes because they are so expensive. Must start making changes so they last awhile longer.
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  • August 18, 2011 Nicole

    I loved turning 30. I had a problem turning 32 for some reason. But, I will say this – life begins at 35!

    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      How strange that 32 was harder than 30. At 35 has been good for you.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      Hell yes!

  • August 18, 2011 Aleta

    When you turn 30…. and someone asks your age… just tell them “I’m 25 with 5 years of experience.” 🙂
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  • August 18, 2011 adriana silva

    im turning 30 too…muffin top is a way of life.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      Maybe we should start a “ban the muffin top campaign”.
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  • August 18, 2011 Bruna

    Turning 30 was nothing, girlfriend. Wait till you’re about to turn 40. That’s a milestone you don’t want to hit. For me, my 30’s rocked! Things started to change in the health department once I approached 40.

    The way I see it, you still look amazing. You’re still 11 years younger than me. And the way you’re going in the bloguniverse and Twitter world, people are going to be paying you big bucks one day!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      Thank you Bruna! I’m not ready to think about 40 yet. I’m going to enjoy my last 5 months of being 29 and then I’ll embrace my 30s.
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  • August 18, 2011 Carly

    I turn thirty in about 2 months and I am completely dreading it! I totally relate to everything said! 🙂

    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I turn 30 in 5 months. We can celebrate together and hopefully that will make it easier. 🙂
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  • August 19, 2011 Erica

    OK, so, I take back the bday wishes I sent you on your blog…heh heh heh and I will say that I welcomed my 30’s. I was SO excited because all I would hear is that 20’s are a bunch of bs (which they kinda are) and that your 30’s you have it figured out. Psh. Well, let me tell you, since turning 30, I have had another child and I have been to hell and back in every aspect of my life. I don’t regret it though because guess what? People were right, you do start figuring it out…and it makes more sense than it ever would for my 20-something self. So welcome it! Embrace it! You’ll be just fine!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      All of the comments on this post has really helped me to start embracing my 30s (when I reach them next year) instead of being scared. Thank you!
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  • August 19, 2011 julie gardner

    Seriously? I’m 42. And even though reading all these comments makes me want to run for some menopause medication or something, the 40’s has been my favorite decade so far.

    I am comfortable in my own skin, financially stable, my kids are independent enough to be left alone without a babysitter…

    And my body has not fallen apart. Promise.

    Embrace your age, Jess.
    You are healthy, accomplished and loved.

    What more could you ask for?
    (Oh, I forgot. You made a list of gifts, right? ;-))
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I am looking forward to the day when my kids can be left alone. I will love that. I’m glad to hear that your body hasn’t fallen apart. I hope mine doesn’t either.

      And I did make a list of gifts, perhaps I’ll post that when it’s closer to my birthday.
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    • August 19, 2011 Alison

      I love that you love your age and where you are. I hope to feel the same when I get to my 40’s, which is not far.

  • August 19, 2011 Angela

    I’m looking forward to turning 30 next year. I cannot wait to get out of these indisive twenties. I feel much more confident entering my thirtes so I feel I am as ready as I can be.

    But I totally understand the points about your body and entering the workforce. People will want what you have to offer and I know you are doing a lot of social media work which will work in your favor no matter the industry you land in.

    Cheers to entering your 30s next year!!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      You have a great attitude about turning 30. I love it.

      I’m really hoping my social media experience will help me reenter the workforce when the time is right or I will be able to start my own thing.
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  • August 19, 2011 Runnermom-jen

    Oh, Jessica. I had the same fears about turning 30, but now that I am almost 36, I am more comfortable with myself than ever before! 30 is the new 20! Except I’d never want to be 20 again 😉 Thanks for sharing your fears with us, I think you’re awesome!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      Thank you Jen! I’m glad to hear that you got over your fears of 30s and that it’s going great for you. I hope the same thing for myself.
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  • August 19, 2011 Elaine

    I think with your internet savvy you could still work from home and be just fine no matter what age you are. That means A LOT to companies these days. I think your work with Eli Social, etc. will bode well for you no matter when you decide to re-enter the workforce.

    And as far as actually aging, like my Daddy always says, “it’s better than the alternative”. 30 is pretty awesome and maybe it was no big deal to me because at the time I only had one child and I still felt young. Now 40 might be a different story…. ;P
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I would love to be able to work from home forever. I’m not a fan of getting dressed up for work.

      I had both my kids in my 20s and I’m exhausted. Thankfully I’m not having anymore so maybe I can start getting some rest now that they are getting older.
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  • August 19, 2011 Barbara

    I turned 30 last year and turn 31 next month (OUCH!). It was so much harder mentally than physically. My body started changing at 26 so I was already prepared for that 😉 No more chocolate ice cream for dinner.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I still keep thinking I can have brownies for breakfast but it’s not going well for me. Time to cut those out I think. 🙁
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  • August 19, 2011 Gina

    Ummm- yeah….. not to freak you out more- but now that I really look at it, 30 was the turning point for me. I used to be able to eat MOUNTAINS of ice cream- not a pound I would gain. I was ALWAYS a good 10 pounds under weight – Even after 3 kids. Used to be that I would cut out this or that & the pounds would fall off with very little effort. NOW… totally different. The +2 lbs here and there have added up over the years. I am now 20 lbs heavier than I was a year after my youngest was born. It’s sickening. I just pulled out some old clothes I had packed away & they were so tiny that I have passed them down to my 10 YEAR OLD!!!!! I am completely disgusted with myself (even though I am still in the “normal” range for BMI)I can’t believe I let myself get this way. I am more motivated than ever now to get a handle on it- before I pass that “normal” range. I want to be that stick again.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I know what you mean. I’m headed down the wrong path. Time to get track with eating right and exercise. Must do things differently as we grow older.
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  • August 19, 2011 Eve

    I hear you on the body changes. I’m 28 and still trying to lose some of the weight I gained in my pregnancy. Ugh! I’m not afraid of turning 30 though, I plan to have a blowout party and drink like I’m 21. We’re gonna party like it’s 1982 baby!

    I wouldn’t worry too much about the job thing, because technically you’re still working. I used to work in HR for a bit, so I can tell you that it’s a good idea to include your blog on your resume as well as the work you do at Eli Rose. You are a smart woman and you’ll get back into the workforce with no problem. I’m sure of it!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I was born in 82 also so I’ll join you for that birthday bash. We can drink all night long! (and hopefully sleep all the whole next week).

      Including my blog and Eli Rose stuff on my resume is a good idea. I have it in my LinkedIn profile already.

      Thank you!
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  • August 19, 2011 Teresa

    I blogged about this last month when I turned 30. It was hard. I too, have body changes and I feel weird about hitting that number. I think I’m going to turn 30 again next year again…
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  • August 19, 2011 Robin

    Yes, I was freaked out about turning 30. I woke up WAY early the morning of my 30th birthday having an absolute panic attack that I hadn’t had kids yet.

    Yeah, yeah. Stop laughing.

    I didn’t actually have a baby for over 3 years after that, and we all know how that turned out. So there – one less thing for you to worry about.

    As others have said, my 30s have been so much better than my 20s ever were, and I can’t imagine going back. And I enjoyed my 20s! I used to freak out about turning 40, but even that doesn’t worry me anymore.

    I do relate to the body stuff though. Yeah, it does change. I’m just working on being healthy and trying to accept it.

    I bet you’ll find that your 30s are fabulous!
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I am definitely done having kids (thank goodness).

      I think focusing on being healthy is a good idea and I need to do that more.

      I hope my 30s are fabulous too! Thank you.
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  • August 19, 2011 Sherri

    Well, as my name implies I am already OLD, but I am staring at 50 in a few short years and I totally get what you are feeling.

    I think I keep looking ahead and trying to remember that I won’t even be the exact same way I was in college or in my 20’s, but the journey getting here has been spectacular.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      You are not OLD at all.

      None of us will ever be as we were in our younger years and that is okay. I know with each year that has passed for me I have become wiser. Hopefully that trend continues as I work my way into 30s.
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  • August 19, 2011 Anne

    I wouldn’t be worried about no one wanting to hire you because of your age – you’re young! – or not working – look at all the amazing things you’re doing with social media! You’d be a real asset to lots of places. I’ve had a lot more birthdays than you. For me, they’ve started to get a little easier. Kind of like I’ve come to a place of acceptance that this is how life goes. I remember being traumatized by 29. By the time I got to 30 it didn’t seem so bad.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I have done pretty good with social media so far and I hope I can continue and turn it into some type of career for me.

      Thank you!
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  • August 19, 2011 Tasha

    I remember how we always used to be the young ones. Since we started having kids at 19, all of our friends with kids the same age were always older. We would hear ALL. The. Time. “Oh, you guys are such babies.”

    It used to annoy me. And then I stopped hearing it sometime after I turned 30. And then I kinda missed it. And then It seemed like everyone was younger than us. And now, with my littles, people who have kids their age are younger. I asked my husband, “How did this happen? Remember when WE were the young ones?”

    I’m 36. And a half. I will say, that I have enjoyed my 30’s a ton more. There is a certain perspective you gain and insight into yourself and others that you never experience in your 20’s. And, I am in the best shape of my life, post kids, which has everything to do with perspective. It has become less about being skinny and more about being healthy and fit.

    And now I will end my novel. 🙂
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I had my kids in my 20s much earlier than many people I know so I’m looking forward to the fact that in my 30s I won’t be taking care of really little ones and I’ll hopefully have some more time for me and taking care of myself.
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  • August 19, 2011 Hopes

    30 is great!! I’m five years away from 40 though and that makes me want to pee my pants a little!!
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  • August 19, 2011 Christine

    Totally relate to the fear of being out of the workforce and attempting re-entry. That is major for me. But it isn’t tied to my age as much as my situation.
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I hope your fear doesn’t become a reality for you.
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  • August 19, 2011 Bridget

    I didn’t mind 30. It was liberating, being out of my 20’s. Of course, not that 40 is right around the corner I am completely creeped out.

  • August 19, 2011 cam

    You young whipper snapper! Thirty is no big deal! You’ll have no problem re-entering the workforce – you never really stopped working. All of your social media skills will be put to great use at many companies. It’s all in how you write your resume, my dear. 😉
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    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I will have to get on my resume writing then so that in the far off future it’s ready to go. I’m not going back to work anytime soon.
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  • August 19, 2011 Elena

    I am sure turining 40 is more challenging.

    • August 19, 2011 Jessica

      I don’t want to think about that yet.
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  • August 20, 2011 Optimistic Mom

    Oh I love 30!! It is refreshing. Life is good! I feel better than in my 20s. 🙂
    Don’t worry, nothing to be afraid of….well, I did get a couple of gray hairs recently. But hey, color will fix that if necessary. lol
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    • August 20, 2011 Jessica

      I’ve been coloring my hair for the last 7 years and I’m not about to stop anytime soon.
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  • August 21, 2011 Mommyfriend

    I love my 30’s, really and truly. I’m finally at the point where I feel I’ve earned my striped professionally and I’m taken seriously. I used to care so much about what other people thought and as I’m aging I don’t give a crap anymore. I’m turning 35 next week and believe the best is yet to come! Don’t fear 30, embrace it!
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  • September 1, 2011 Tonya

    I was way more freaked out about turning 39 than 30, if that helps at all.

    You’re right about everything here. Your body changes, it’s harder to lose weight, get hired, and gray hairs start to pop up. It’s unfair, but it’s life. My 30th year was actually pretty awesome and so have my 30’s. Happy early birthday! If I can do it, so can you. 🙂
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